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Professional Affair Upsets Career
Dear John: I've been having an affair with "Jack," a married co-worker, for three years. We both knew it was wrong, but a relationship started, then cooled off out of guilt.
Jack has been nervous around me lately. Currently, we've both …Read more.
Woman Worries She Was an 'Easy Target'
Dear John: I've just ended an abusive marriage. After leaving my husband, I have started seeing a man who is about five years younger than me, and once again, I have gotten burned pretty badly.
I think he saw me as an easy target because of my …Read more.
Newlyweds Face Divorce
Dear John: Is the first year of marriage the easiest or the hardest? I am a 21-year-old man, and my wife is 19 years old. We're trying hard to make a marriage work, but I don't know if we'll survive beyond the first 12 months. What tips can you give …Read more.
BFF May Lose More Than Morals in Vegas
Dear John: I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding for a BFF. Before the big day, we'll all be going to Las Vegas. I have mixed feelings about this, because I know that the bride sees this as an opportunity for a "last fling." Her excuse is that she …Read more.
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Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, May 24Dear John: Maybe it's all the "Twilight" hoopla, but truly, I enjoy biting and being bitten. Thankfully, my current boyfriend shares my tastes. However, every time we get to fooling around and begin to just nibble on each other, I have this intense desire to bite far too hard. Thankfully, I have restraint and would never actually do that, but for the life of me I cannot figure out why I get these urges. Any ideas on this? — A Bella in the Making, in Portland, Ore. Dear Bella in the Making: Your restraint is admirable (especially when you consider she's not the one with a bloody appetite). You've been lucky to find a mate who shares this fetish. Only he can give you the permission to go as far as you desire. If he turns this request down, do yourself a favor: Channel this sensual instinct into an object that both of you might enjoy together. For example, shift the focus of your chomp from his shoulder to a nice fresh peach you keep on the nightstand. The skin you save might be you own, particularly if your indulging boyfriend chose to bite back. Dear John: Is it OK for me to ask a guy if he loves me? I want some base for the relationship I am in.
Dear Needs to Know: Asking your partner if he loves you in the early stages of a relationship is not a good move. Still, considering that you have been in a relationship for over a year now, and you have been intimate, it is appropriate for you to ask the "Do you love me?" question. Often men are reluctant to say, "I love you," because they feel that it might be taken as a commitment to a long-term relationship. You should approach him by saying: "I love you so much. I assume you love me because we have so much fun together. I would love to hear you say you love me, too. If you do, I understand it does not mean you want to get married. It just means that I'm very special to you." If you say it in this manner, I think you'll hear the words you have been waiting to hear.
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