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Dear John: My friend, "Jodi," recently ended a long-term relationship. Her boyfriend had no respect for her and often cheated on her. Needless to say, Jodi makes it a point to be checked out for STDs. She told me this in confidence, and …Read more.
Woman Ponders if She Should Pay
Dear John: I am going out with a lovely gentleman. He happily pays the bill whenever we go out. Sometimes I felt guilty because I'd like to share the expenses. Is it a good idea to bring the topic up? I feel it may ruin the attraction at this early …Read more.
Considering Infidelity
Dear John: I've been married for 18 years to a wonderful, loving, caring woman. Recently, I have been flirting more heavily with my best friend's wife. The two of us have decided that we want to involve ourselves in a sexual relationship, but all I …Read more.
Will She Ever Find Love Again?
Dear John: My husband and I separated after six years of marriage, and I'm wondering what ever motivated us to become a couple in the first place. He's a terrific guy, but we have virtually nothing in common. I thought opposites attract, but I guess …Read more.
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Lovelorn Single Laments LossDear John: I am a 28-year-old male. I've recently had a breakup with my girlfriend of seven years. This has been the most painful experience I've ever had. I deeply love and care for "Linda," but she is now currently dating someone else. I know inside she still loves me, but she says, "I have nothing left to give to us now." What I do not understand is how Linda can go from expressing how much she cared for me, then 48 hours later, decide that it is over. I want to reconcile our relationship at sometime in the future. She was not only my love, but my best friend as well. I feel as if I have lost everything. Friends say, "There are others out there!" But Linda was everything I could have wanted. When the phone rings, my body quivers and I become nervous. I am a stubborn man and do not want to lose what I feel is the best relationship I'll ever have. I have recognized my past mistakes, and I want to do whatever I can to make things right. But how do I make her see that? — Hoping to Set Things Right in Tampa, Fla. Dear Hoping: The reason you cannot understand why she made such a change so quickly is because, in reality, the decision wasn't as sudden as it seems. Linda has been planning this change for some time. She most probably feels that she gave and gave, without getting what she needed in return. Maybe she asked for it, and you never saw fit to accommodate her; maybe she never knew how to ask. The decade of your 20s should be the time to explore and accommodate both your needs and decide whether or not you wish to accommodate the needs of those whom attract you.
You're not the first lover to think that there will never be another love like the love you lost. But that is not true. In time, you'll find another soul mate who will to be your heart's desire — and you will be a wiser lover for the love you shared in the past. Dear John: My husband's a great guy, but at times he just has to be right. I wish I could break him of this habit. — Open to Suggestions in Medford, Ore. Dear Open: One of the tricks to a lasting relationship is to know what to disagree about and what to just let pass. Part of the make up of men is to behave on occasion with a high degree of certainty. If you know it's an issue of consequence, then by all means disagree. But if not, give him a pass. It's not about his wanting to be the two-ton gorilla in the room; he just needs to be able to beat his chest every now and then. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." Visit his website, http://www.marsvenus.com, for advice on dating, marriage, parenting, romance and workplace issues. Or e-mail him at comments@marsvenus.com. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2012 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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