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JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUSDear John: I am very desperate when it comes to men. I guess it shows because it scares them off. When I meet someone I could be interested in, I can't stop myself from jabbering like an idiot or becoming clinging. I'll call or e-mail or text him continually, or try to "bump into him" outside his work. I can't control this! Then of course he avoids me, which makes me double my efforts. What's happening here? — Too Much Too Soon in Houston. Dear Too Much Too Soon: I can say with absolutely no hesitation that stalking is certainly a relationship killer. Then again, admitting you've got a neediness problem is half the battle. The other half of the solution is to realize that it is never too late to start acting as if you have a lot to offer in a relationship. Here are some guidelines: Step One: Don't assume that each guy you meet is "Mr. Right." Instead, go out a lot in order to meet many potential dates. Step Two: If one guy catches your eye, don't be afraid to initiate some casual flirting, but let him do the pursuing. Step Three: If he doesn't follow up, don't angst over this. Instead, keep yourself in play by going out with other men. I love to use a baseball analogy here: Whether you're Babe Ruth, Sammy Sosa or Barry Bonds, you're always going to strike out more often than you hit home runs. The goal is to stay in the game. Dear John: My husband "Randy" can be lazy, if I let him.
I juggle many tasks with my job, a baby, the housework, and I am a student. Needless to say, I rarely sleep. I cry for no reason, I snap at him and at the baby, and I throw things because I can't take this any longer. What should I do? — HELP! in Bakersfield, Calif. Dear HELP: Have another heart-to-heart talk with Randy. This time, don't blame him for what he's not doing, but make it clear that you need his help now. Ask him to commit to a single chore each day — be that the garbage, the dishes, the laundry, whatever. If this doesn't work, ask him to devote his day off to helping you with your to-do list, and then divide it between both of you. If he stalls again or comes up with excuses, tell him you will hire someone to do this, even if it means selling the TV set to pay them. Then follow through. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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