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Lovelorn Single Laments Loss
Dear John: I am a 28-year-old male. I've recently had a breakup with my girlfriend of seven years. This has been the most painful experience I've ever had.
I deeply love and care for "Linda," but she is now currently dating someone else. I …Read more.
Boyfriend Moves in With Ex
Dear John: I am a college student who has been dating my boyfriend for three years, all of which have been long distance. I am graduating in the next few months and have accepted a job near him. We have plans to get married in the near future.
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Professional Affair Upsets Career
Dear John: I've been having an affair with "Jack," a married co-worker, for three years. We both knew it was wrong, but a relationship started, then cooled off out of guilt.
Jack has been nervous around me lately. Currently, we've both …Read more.
Woman Worries She Was an 'Easy Target'
Dear John: I've just ended an abusive marriage. After leaving my husband, I have started seeing a man who is about five years younger than me, and once again, I have gotten burned pretty badly.
I think he saw me as an easy target because of my …Read more.
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JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUSDear John: I am an eighth-grader who is doing a science project on gender differences as it pertains to personal space issues. In my experiment, I'll ask both boys and girls some questions while standing very close to them. Then I'll note the people that step back first. I believe that the boys will back away first. What's your guess? — Fun Project in Milwaukee Dear Fun Project: I'm willing to bet that you are right on with your hypothesis. Of course, the results of this experiment might have been different if the boys were 21, as opposed to 13. In that regard, I would have bet that they were willing to hold their ground — or even lean in a bit! Dear John: I have been divorced for over four years. During this time, our 22-year-old daughter says she's felt "torn between" us. That's because her father cries and begs her to "talk to me" and to "come home." My daughter would love to see us back together, but after 25 years of marriage, I had enough. I even had to get a restraining order against him a few years ago — when he drinks, he becomes violent. I've moved on with my life, and I'm dating someone I care for. I don't think I'll ever love anyone the way I loved my ex, but I'm 51 now and enjoy being free. The longer I'm out of my marriage, the more incredulous I feel that I ever allowed anyone to treat me so badly. So, why do I feel sorry for him and feel like I still worry about him? Is that love or guilt? Am I the only woman to experience this after divorce? — They Are Blaming Me in Fairfax, Va. Dear They Are Blaming Me: Even many years later, a divorce could bring up a variety of emotions.
Your life is coming to a new and exciting place. Although on one level your daughter may want you to go back to him because she feels sorry for him, her true goal is, and should be, your ultimate well-being. That said, as she recognizes your happiness, she will respect your decision to stay put. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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