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Jack has been nervous around me lately. Currently, we've both …Read more.
Woman Worries She Was an 'Easy Target'
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JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUSDear John: I am engaged to be married to a great guy, but I'm having a hard time trusting him. Two years ago "Donny" cheated on me, but he confessed and we worked it out. However, he's always on the Internet chatting with other girls, and he's joined two online dating services. I've confronted him with my feelings, but he says it was just for fun and he wouldn't contact anyone he met online. However, recently after returning from a business trip, I found three phone numbers for one girl among his things. I confronted him about this. At first, he claimed she is the girlfriend of a friend, then he admitted that she is an old friend that he knew long before he met me. He had accidentally bumped into her at the mall, but he didn't want to tell me because he knew I'd overreact. Granted, I probably would have, but that's because he's cheated before. I don't want to be naive and let myself be walked all over. What should I do? — Truth or Dare? in Colorado Springs, Colo. Dear Truth or Dare: This guy is a player. First of all, if he were serious about you, he wouldn't be chatting with other women on the Internet. As for his old friend, well, he would have won your trust if he had first mentioned the meeting. Now, he's given you every reason to suspect that he isn't coming clean about that, either. Trust is demonstrated in actions as well as words. This guy loses on both counts. Now it's time for you to lose him. Dear John: Help! My wife is having a midlife crisis. She denies it, and yet she is totally apathetic to our sex life.
Dear I'm Still Hot for Her: All of us approach the aging process in our own unique way. Many women over the age of 50 experience a diminishment of their sexual drive to the chagrin of their husbands. It has to do with a depletion of her hormones. And guess what? It happens to us men as well. Instead of reminding her of these changes, demonstrate your own appreciation of all she has to offer. Keep romance in the forefront. Encourage her to try new experiences with you, both in and outside of the bedroom. Plan outings and getaways that take you both out of familiar surroundings, so that you can once again get in touch with the things that make you happy, healthy and vibrant. I would also suggest that she look into natural hormone supplements. I talk about this in my latest book, "Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice." You can find out more about this book on my website at http://www.marsvenusliving.com. Physical closeness needs emotional intimacy in order to thrive. By nurturing her heart and mind as well as her body, you'll revive the passion you once shared. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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