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JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUSDear John: From what your other readers write, am I so unusual in that I am not threatened by my husband's (admittedly occasional) viewing of pornography? I have encouraged my husband to feel free to view porn at his leisure. I have to admit I didn't always feel this way, but once I realized that he always came to bed with me afterward, and that he had never even dreamed of seriously pursuing another woman, I "gave him my blessing" so to speak — not like he really needed my permission. The less of a big deal I made of it, the less he did, too. Because we are so open about what is arousing to him, I find that he makes a point of learning what is a turn-on for me. My husband wants nothing more than our sex life to be satisfying to both of us — and he frequently succeeds. Why are women so threatened by "looking without touching"? Please sign me — Look Don't Touch in Las Vegas Dear Look, Don't Touch: According to my mailbag, you're in the minority, but by no means totally alone. I agree with you that if most men are told they can't do something, their temptation increases.
And for a different angle on this issue: Dear John: About the wives whose husbands watch pornography: What about husbands who never touch you and just watch pornography? — A Third Point of View in Peoria, Ill. Dear Third Point of View: It may feel as if his viewing of pornography is somehow a substitute for a loving physical relationship. It is not. His interest in porn is not at the root of this problem. Ask your husband to join you in counseling. The hope is that through this process, you will together find the answers you need to resurrect your relationship. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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