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JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS
Dear John: Help! I am 41 years old and divorced. My potential date is 46 years old and he is also divorced. I hate, hate, hate first dates! What can I do to make it more enjoyable for the both of us? What should I talk about? What shouldn't I talk …Read more.
JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS
Dear John: From what your other readers write, am I so unusual in that I am not threatened by my husband's (admittedly occasional) viewing of pornography? I have encouraged my husband to feel free to view porn at his leisure. I have to admit I didn'…Read more.
JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS
Dear John: I have a 17-year-old daughter who will soon graduate from high school. She has been seeing this 21-year-old guy for six months. They broke up for a week, but now they are together again. He moved down state and she is living up with her …Read more.
JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS
Dear John: My husband, "Charles," and I are in our 30s. We've been married for six years and have three children. I'm a stay-at-home mom and Charles has a job that gives him a sense of accomplishment. Charles recently reconnected with Jane,…Read more.
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Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 18Dear John: Recently I met a great guy, "Paul." We share many of the same interests and are so comfortable with each other in every way. But one issue stands between us: Paul likes me to wear very short skirts or dresses and the highest of high heels or boots. I am an attractive 50-year-old woman and am rather proud of how slim I am, but I am beyond uncomfortable in this type of clothing. Paul purchased at least a dozen of these types of outfits for my birthday, and I could not hide my feelings. I told him I would wear them at home for him, but I could not go out in public in such revealing clothing. He says I look great and should show myself off. I feel I don't need to reveal so much of my flesh to the world! We are beginning to argue a lot over this. What do you think? — Modest in Marietta, Ga. Dear Modest: I think you should never feel compelled to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. That includes wearing clothes that offend you. That said, thank Paul for the gesture but hold firm to your position. Suggest that he return the items. You could go together to pick out other items that would make you happy to wear in public, or find lingerie that both of you may enjoy in the privacy of your bedroom. If he refuses to accept this compromise, I would suggest that you take a pass on Paul for a less controlling guy with more discriminating taste. Dear John: I recently started a relationship with my best guy pal. Dear Kissing and Telling: Sure, you can work this out — if both of you are willing to take criticism without being offended. If you prefer some tongue action, let him know. If you prefer that his mouth not resemble the Lincoln Tunnel, then say so. But remember, it's not what you say but how you say it, particularly in issues of romantic performance. For example, you might say, "Honey, I'd prefer to feel your tongue, like this …" then demonstrate. After you've given your opinion, be fair and ask for his. Half the fun of kissing is experimenting, so take your time to explore the possibilities. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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