Mars and Venus from Creators Syndicate

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus September 13 for 09/13/2009

Sun, 13 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: My husband is the type of person who loves to tease people, especially me. Some of the things he teases me about really hurt my feelings and make me feel unloved and insecure about our relationship. He teases me in a variety of ways about the following subjects: divorce, having "girlfriends," acting like he is single, and that I should "not think, you'll hurt the team, ...

Updated: Sun Sep 13, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, September 17 for 09/17/2009

Thu, 17 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Hi John: I am 31-year-old woman. I just broke up a six-year relationship with "Frank," but now I am wondering if it was the right thing to do. Frank is a good person, but he suffers from depression and a bad temper. He was never physically abusive but sometimes emotionally abusive (and always apologized afterward). Initially, I thought the breakup was the right thing to do, but after ...

Updated: Thu Sep 17, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, September 24 for 09/20/2009

Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: My husband and I have been married for almost two years. We are in our early 20s, and we made the decision to move in with his parents to save some money. Before we got married, he told me that we would move out on our own after one year, away from his parents. A few months ago, after a year had passed, he told me that we weren't moving out because he cannot leave his parents, especi ...

Updated: Sun Sep 20, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, September 24 for 09/24/2009

Thu, 24 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I have a group of friends who are all married with children. Each of us women recently discussed the issue of pornography and its effect on the men in our lives. We hate it and feel cheated, betrayed and unhappy, but when we talk to our men, they simply shrug it off, as all men do.

Can you please help us understand the married man's desire for pornography? Is it a form of chea ...

Updated: Thu Sep 24, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, September 27 for 09/27/2009

Sun, 27 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I have reconnected with my childhood sweetheart, "James." In my heart, I believe we are meant to be together. The problem is that James is an alcoholic. His drinking is affecting every area of his life — physically, mentally and spiritually.

He tells me he will seek help. Although I keep bringing up the issue, he continues to drink. I know that the obvious solu ...

Updated: Sun Sep 27, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 1 for 10/01/2009

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: My fiance and I have been together for over two years. Eight months after we first started dating, I told him how many men I had slept with in the past. I really thought that we could share anything at the time. Now it seems stupid, but I really did believe that!

As I was confessing, he didn't try to stop me, and it was many months before he began to talk about how much it bot ...

Updated: Thu Oct 01, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 4 for 10/04/2009

Sun, 04 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I'm involved with a man who may have a bad drinking problem, although he won't acknowledge it. "Carl" feels tremendous guilt from his father's battle with Alzheimer's and the distant relationship with his children from a broken marriage. He says he loves me and wants to marry me, but I always seem to be last on the list.

He doesn't call for several days at a time. Wh ...

Updated: Sun Oct 04, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 8 for 10/08/2009

Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I've been happily married (or so I thought) for 18 years. I recently discovered my very first love, "Janice," on the Internet. After all these years apart, we both have realized that we still love each other and desperately want to be back together. We are both married with children and don't want to hurt our spouses. I feel that if my marriage was as happy as I thought, I ...

Updated: Thu Oct 08, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 11 for 10/11/2009

Sun, 11 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: My husband of six years, "Henry," yells at me constantly until I am just overwhelmed by his anger. He calls me names and threatens to leave our son and me. Henry blames me for everything bad in his life, even things that happened before we met. After being forced to listen to his tirades for hours, I am unable to go to work because I can't stop crying. Other times, I have b ...

Updated: Sun Oct 11, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 15 for 10/15/2009

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I am divorced, and I have tried to keep an amicable relationship with my ex-husband, "Sam." I share joint custody of our children with him on alternate weeks. Since he has remarried, he consistently refuses to accommodate situations that benefit the children. For example, before I enrolled the children in soccer, I got Sam's commitment that he would take the kids to their p ...

Updated: Thu Oct 15, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 18 for 10/18/2009

Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: Recently I met a great guy, "Paul." We share many of the same interests and are so comfortable with each other in every way. But one issue stands between us: Paul likes me to wear very short skirts or dresses and the highest of high heels or boots.

I am an attractive 50-year-old woman and am rather proud of how slim I am, but I am beyond uncomfortable in this type of ...

Updated: Sun Oct 18, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 22 for 10/22/2009

Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: My therapist tells me that studies show absolutely no correlation between good marriage and good sex. This seems counterintuitive to me. I understand that it may not be the most important thing in a marriage, but is there evidence of good marriages with bad sex? — Say It Ain't So in Scottsdale, Ariz.

Dear Say It Ain't So: There are several components that make up a succe ...

Updated: Thu Oct 22, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 25 for 10/25/2009

Sun, 25 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I depend more on my girlfriend than I think I should. She does practically everything for me, and of course I appreciate it. It makes my life easier, so why not let her? While I do feel guilty about it, needless to say it bothers her, too. How do you think I can change this? — Lazy Dude in Lodi, Calif.

Dear Lazy Dude: Dependency is a hard thing to judge because it's subj ...

Updated: Sun Oct 25, 2009

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, October 29 for 10/29/2009

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: The past month or so I've been overly possessive. If my boyfriend talks to another woman, I feel as if he likes her and not me. I am heavy and have been exercising to lose some weight because it might improve how I feel. Help me gain some perspective on this! — Green-Eyed Lady in Calhoun, Ga.

Dear Green-Eyed Lady: Sure, being overweight may make you feel less attractive, ...

Updated: Thu Oct 29, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/01/2009

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0700

Dear John: I'm worried about "Fred," my husband. He's a workout fiend and a nonstop health nut. When I ask him why, he tells me that he's worried about getting old and looking old. John, my husband is only 35!

I'm 33, and while I don't like the idea of getting older, it doesn't send me to the gym five days a week and to the health food stores every other day. Is there anything ...

Updated: Sun Nov 01, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/05/2009

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0800

Dear John: About a week ago, my 7-year-old daughter had a nasty argument with her best friend. Now the friend has taken up with another girl, and my daughter is heartbroken. What's the best way for me to handle this situation? — Caring Mommy in Atlanta

Dear Caring Mommy: Few things are more upsetting to a mother than to see her child snubbed by another. Unfortunately, we cannot for ...

Updated: Thu Nov 05, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/08/2009

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0800

Dear John: My husband, "Charles," and I are in our 30s. We've been married for six years and have three children. I'm a stay-at-home mom and Charles has a job that gives him a sense of accomplishment. Charles recently reconnected with Jane, an old friend from high school. She lives in another state. Their reunion is coming up next year, and both can't wait to see each other. Jane is a ...

Updated: Sun Nov 08, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/12/2009

Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0800

Dear John: I have a 17-year-old daughter who will soon graduate from high school. She has been seeing this 21-year-old guy for six months. They broke up for a week, but now they are together again. He moved down state and she is living up with her aunt. When she is not with her boyfriend, she goes out with her friends, does different things, and is civil to us. However, when she is with him, sh ...

Updated: Thu Nov 12, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/15/2009

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0800

Dear John: From what your other readers write, am I so unusual in that I am not threatened by my husband's (admittedly occasional) viewing of pornography? I have encouraged my husband to feel free to view porn at his leisure. I have to admit I didn't always feel this way, but once I realized that he always came to bed with me afterward, and that he had never even dreamed of seriously pursuing a ...

Updated: Sun Nov 15, 2009

JOHN GRAY'S MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS for 11/19/2009

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0800

Dear John: Help! I am 41 years old and divorced. My potential date is 46 years old and he is also divorced. I hate, hate, hate first dates! What can I do to make it more enjoyable for the both of us? What should I talk about? What shouldn't I talk about? Help me, John! — First Date-itis in Savannah, Ga.

Dear First Date-itis: The first step to enjoying dating is to take a deep breat ...

Updated: Thu Nov 19, 2009