Ethnically Speaking by Larry Meeks

Dear Larry: I was watching the Super Bowl, and there was a commercial about a jealous black woman who got angry with her boyfriend because he smiled at another woman, who happened to be white. The black woman was holding a can of soda in her hand, and she threw it at her boyfriend. He ducked, and the can hit the white woman, knocking her out.

At work, everybody had an opinion. Some people, especially black women, felt it was playing to old stereotypes about black women. The black men, white men and other women didn't have a problem with the commercial.

Where do you come down on this otherwise funny commercial? — Lori

Dear Lori: I am on the side of the majority. I personally didn't have any problem with the commercial.

I agree that black women have a stereotype of being aggressive and domineering toward their partners. One could argue this commercial plays into that stereotype. I would say, "So what?" Who is to say women, regardless of race, should not be aggressive? I see nothing wrong with a woman who is aggressive, nor do I have a problem with a woman if she chooses to be reserved. It is her choice.

If there is a problem with black women's being labeled as aggressive, I would first point the finger at the many black writers, movie producers, comedians, actors and other notable blacks who have furthered this image. For the past 40 years, many have depicted black women as being brassy, forceful and domineering.

As a black man, I find their stereotype to be totally untrue.

As an aside, I think blacks limit their opportunities by being so sensitive to everything racial. This commercial gave employment opportunities to several minority actors. Next time, this company will think, "Why should we involve minorities when we risk being unfairly criticized?"

Dear Larry: I really enjoyed reading about your first experience eating chitlins. I, like most whites, thought all blacks loved eating that dish. I was surprised to find out you ate chitlins for the first time well into your adulthood. Your experience made me actually laugh out loud.

Thank you for such an enjoyable column. — Ruth

Dear Ruth: Thank you for the kind comments. But not everybody shared your opinion. Read on for other reactions.

From J.B.: Chitlins are nasty, and you made people think they tasted good. You don't know what you are talking about and should be ashamed of yourself.

From Ed: Who ever said hog guts are black food? I know plenty of non-minorities who love that stuff. I also know many blacks who would not come near them.

This is the same thing as saying watermelon is eaten only by blacks. In fact, I know several blacks who hate watermelon.

From Linda: I was disappointed to read you had told a lie to some fellow workers about eating chitlins. Why would you do that? I have had the highest respect for you but am now a little disillusioned.

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