Ethnically Speaking by Larry Meeks

Dear Larry: I am in a dilemma and don't know what to do. Even in these tough economic times, my wife and I have been blessed to make a great amount of money. The town we live in is very small, so everyone knows we are considered well-heeled.

We decided that because we have no children, it would be good to leave a legacy by making a difference in our community. We decided to help five families attain better lives. The greatest impact would be to help their children to succeed.

We bought school supplies, clothes and other necessities. Not long ago, we took all the families to an amusement park, and there was fun for all attendees. One little girl, about 7 years old, who never smiles burst into laughter on one of the rides. I later found out that was the first time she ever had been to an amusement park.

When she laughed, I realized why she never smiled. Most of her front teeth are terribly decayed. My wife and I were heartbroken to see such a small child with teeth in such bad shape.

My wife and I talked to the little one's parents, and we told them to take the child to the dentist and we will pay for her treatment. They responded they would rather we buy them some new furniture and a better car. I said their child's teeth are more important.

The parents now have refused to take the child to the dentist unless we concede to their requests.

Larry, we are appalled they could use their child's health as a bargaining chip to obtain material things. We have tried to talk them into taking the child to the dentist, but the more we press the more adamant they seem to be for us to buy them better furniture and a newer car.

As an aside, there is nothing wrong with their car except that it is an older model.

We are afraid bringing in other people to help resolve this situation may cause them to withdraw altogether.

This is new to us how parents could put their wants ahead of their children. Any suggestions would be helpful. — Roger and Mary

Dear Roger and Mary: May you be blessed for being such loving and generous people. This world could use more people with your spirit.

I am sad to say that there are many parents who put their desires before their children. I have heard parents say things such as, "I am entitled to my happiness." These are selfish parents. Children's needs come first, and if necessary, parents must wait for their happiness until the needs of their children are met.

I suggest that you contact the dentist and pay to have him examine all the children's teeth at school. Once the examination is completed, let the school take it from there. Let the school district know you will pay for the cost of treatment.

As an aside, if her teeth are as bad as you described, I am surprised the school has not said or done something about the situation already.

Notable Quote: "I kept looking for happiness, and then I realized: This is it. It's a moment, and it comes, and it goes, and it'll come back again. I yearn for things, but at the same time, I'm just peaceful." — Nicole Kidman

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