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What's Up with That?
Dear Margo: I really don't know what to do about my mother. It's as though she's made a career out of not listening to what I say ... or she's dedicated herself to doing the opposite. Right after I told her I was going on a diet and staying away …Read more.
Guess What: Not Everyone Is Kind
Dear Margo: My husband, our children and I recently moved to a new town. Through the children, really, I've met a group of women. They apparently are longtime friends, and one of them invited me to their Wednesday mothers group for lunch. I have to …Read more.
Good To Go
Dear Margo: My father recently got a diagnosis of stage-four liver cancer. He is adamant that he wishes to die at home. In addition to needing information about how this can be arranged, I have now started thinking about my own health and wishes. I …Read more.
To Be Drawn In or Not To Be
Dear Margo: I'm a ninth grader at a small private school. I recently found out that someone who used to go to my school and is now at another school is smoking and dealing pot. When I found this out, I wondered if anyone at my school was doing this, …Read more.
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When Nothing Can Be Done, Do Nothing.Dear Margo: I am writing about my 24-year-old daughter, "Florence," who's in a four-year relationship I find extremely upsetting. I have spoken with her about my feelings, but I know I am powerless to change her mind. I have been so upset that I feel it has affected my health. (I have been a cancer patient for over two years.) Florence is beautiful, talented and intelligent. She could have just about any man she desired. The man with whom she is considering marriage cannot find full-time work in his field so he works part time, eking out just enough money to support himself, rather than finding work in another field to enable him to support a family someday. He is grossly overweight, as is his mother, so this genetic tendency could be passed along to his children. And ... he is not of our religion, which I feel could add difficulties to a marital relationship. I fear that Florence will "wake up and smell the coffee" too late, after marriage and children, and live an unhappy life. Granted, one cannot choose the mate for one's child, but I need advice on how to stop worrying so I can feel happier and, hopefully, healthier. — Worried Sick Dear Wor: You know the words but not the music — something I think most of us experience at one time or another. You know Florence is going to do what she wants, you know you should disengage, but it's hard to watch what you view as a catastrophe and not make yourself heard. It is important for you to accept the fact that — for four years — beautiful, talented, intelligent Florence has been involved with a man you do not find promising, to put it mildly.
The Black Cat Is Optional Dear Margo: Hello. My oldest stepson is getting married in the spring. I have checked etiquette sites, but found nothing that indicates what the wicked stepmother of the groom should wear. HELP ME! — Shelly Dear Shel: Maybe a long black thing accessorized with a pointed black hat and a broom? I've actually never heard of anyone making a distinction between the stepmother of the bride or groom and the biological mother when it comes to wedding outfits. For your purposes, feel free to dress as though you were the mother of the groom. If you want to be a sport, you can check with the "other" mothers so you'll know their colors. I am guessing from the way you refer to yourself as the "wicked stepmother" that you, like I, have a warm relationship with the stepkids. Mine, in fact, call me "Wicky," an affectionate Britishism playing on the wicked stepmother theme. Have a lovely time at the wedding. — Margo, fashionably *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2009 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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