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What's Up with That?
Dear Margo: I really don't know what to do about my mother. It's as though she's made a career out of not listening to what I say ... or she's dedicated herself to doing the opposite. Right after I told her I was going on a diet and staying away …Read more.
Guess What: Not Everyone Is Kind
Dear Margo: My husband, our children and I recently moved to a new town. Through the children, really, I've met a group of women. They apparently are longtime friends, and one of them invited me to their Wednesday mothers group for lunch. I have to …Read more.
Good To Go
Dear Margo: My father recently got a diagnosis of stage-four liver cancer. He is adamant that he wishes to die at home. In addition to needing information about how this can be arranged, I have now started thinking about my own health and wishes. I …Read more.
To Be Drawn In or Not To Be
Dear Margo: I'm a ninth grader at a small private school. I recently found out that someone who used to go to my school and is now at another school is smoking and dealing pot. When I found this out, I wondered if anyone at my school was doing this, …Read more.
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When a Friend Has Oatmeal Cookies for BrainsDear Margo: My best friend of 20-plus years thinks she is in a relationship with a man who has a wife and four kids with different women. He has been in and out of jail the past two years for selling drugs, and I am concerned because she drops everything to wait for his phone calls and take him places where he's not allowed to drive because of parole restrictions. She has been seeing him on and off for four years, and he always hurts her. She still allows him to use her vehicle and take her money, and often buys his children clothes since he can't find a job due to his past convictions. She's told me she would like to have his child. He has already made it clear to everyone around her that he is using her ... and she is allowing it. I would like to tell her how I really feel about him, and that she's only setting herself up for more heartache, but she thinks they are soul mates. She is almost 30, and I can't understand why she is still so blind after all these years. — Louisa Dear Lou: If I hear of one more ne'er-do-well who is someone's "soul mate," I'm gonna barf. It has become such a trite word — especially applied to a drug dealer, married (!), who goes in and out of the slammer. My honest opinion is that you could tell your friend that this guy is a modern-day Jack the Ripper and it wouldn't make any difference. It's too bad she doesn't have any sense, not to mention judgment, but there you are. Some things, and some people, are irredeemably hopeless. — Margo, rationally You Are Doing It All Wrong, Lady Dear Margo: I've been married to my husband for 29 years. We married young, and our relationship has always been rocky.
Yesterday I stopped by (he recently injured his hand), but I was tired so I didn't stay long and didn't feel like having sex — which meant I got the nasty phone call on the way home accusing me of cheating on him. My friends think I am nuts, and I am starting to think they are right. I feel like I have gone above and beyond to prove he has misjudged me. I was hoping we could try to work out our problems, but I am getting sick and tired of constantly defending myself. What more can I do to prove my innocence? — Guilty Without a Trial Dear Guilt: You do not have to prove your innocence, my dear (which is impossible, anyway), so tell him to prove your guilt. Bruises on your thigh are not proof. Some people bruise very easily — and I am one of them. The fact that you are still having sex with him is not good. If I were you, I would man-up, to coin a phrase, and tell him you are going to a lawyer to get your house back. You have not been doing the right things so far with this head case of a husband, but it's never too late to start. — Margo, correctively *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2010 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS.COM
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