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When Dad/Gramps Just Ain't Interested
Dear Margo: By his choice, my father-in-law, "Herman," has had little to do with my wonderful family. He is a negative, toxic individual whom I don't trust given his manipulative and abusive behavior. When his wife finally moved out some …Read more.
When You Think You've Heard Everything ... You Haven't
Dear Margo: I have a doozy for you. My first cousin, "Lily," is a living, breathing waste of space. This girl had her first child at 15, her second at 17. Subsequently, she's had two more. When her first child was 4 months old, Lily's …Read more.
Beyond Tasteless, Not To Mention Tacky
Dear Margo: Can you give me some guidance regarding how to respond to a strange request? A friend we see occasionally got engaged six months ago. He's quite the social butterfly and has a ton of acquaintances. A couple of months ago, his fiancee …Read more.
Marrying a Guy in the Mormon Closet. Oy.
Dear Margo: My wife's 30-year-old daughter is quite immature emotionally and sexually. She has never had a boyfriend. Her father's family is Jewish, but she converted to Mormonism at 18. She has a close friend who is gay, also a Mormon, so he cannot …Read more.
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Looking for Greener GrassDear Margo: I'm in love with two men — married to one of them, "Jack." The other man, "Roger," I've known for years longer. Roger and I had a physical thing prior to my meeting Jack. At the time, I asked him to make it official and he turned me down. I've always had feelings for him, and they weren't resolved when I met and married Jack. I even told Jack about it. I love my husband, and I know he loves me, but in the last year and a half we've started drifting apart. (We were married in 2006.) I've suggested counseling a few times, but he says we don't have the money (no insurance) or the time. He says we can work it out on our own. We try, things are great for a few days, but then they slide back. I see Roger around a lot, and he has professed his love for me numerous times. Recently, I started an affair with him, and I don't know if he keeps coming into the picture because we were supposed to be together, or if it's to test the strength of my bond with Jack. I don't want to make a decision I'll regret, but I know I'll have to make a move one way or the other soon. Each man fulfills needs the other doesn't. I'm sure this is how polygamist sects get started. I have no idea what to do. — In a Predicament Dear In: Your "drift" certainly wasted no time in making an appearance, your marriage having taken place not quite three years ago. As for Roger, I don't think he "keeps coming into the picture" because of any karmic forces; nor do I think the love gods sent him to test the strength of your bond with your husband. As I understand the Book of Mormon (well, OK, what I know from watching "Big Love"), polygamy was not developed so that different spouses could make up the perfect person. When Looking Is Just Looking Dear Margo: Is looking at naughty videos on the Internet cheating? I recently caught my boyfriend viewing videos of women on a well-known user-posted video site. These were not pornographic, just scantily clad females performing stripteases, etc. I was very hurt and upset, but he promised he will not do this again, and I believe him. I forgave him and we're going on with our relationship, but I'm torn about the situation because I know that men are going to look at other women, even when they're in a relationship, and that it can be "just looking." The fact that he was actively searching for other women to view, however, bothers me still. Other than this incident, he's never given me any reason to doubt that he loves me. (And we have an incredibly good sex life.) — Distressed in Tennessee Dear Dis: You are right that (straight) men are going to look at other women. In a perfect world this happens when a man is out in public (and even then it's sometimes not appreciated), but the Internet has made it easy for men to look at other women when they sit down at their computers. I don't think your situation belongs on danger.com, however. As you say, the site was not pornographic; it was amateurs posting sexy videos, but nothing lewd. And ... your fella vowed he wouldn't do it anymore, plus there seems to be no sign of addiction. Give him a pass, stop stewing and continue with your incredibly good sex life. — Margo, attitudinally *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2009 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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