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What's Up with That?
Dear Margo: I really don't know what to do about my mother. It's as though she's made a career out of not listening to what I say ... or she's dedicated herself to doing the opposite. Right after I told her I was going on a diet and staying away …Read more.
Guess What: Not Everyone Is Kind
Dear Margo: My husband, our children and I recently moved to a new town. Through the children, really, I've met a group of women. They apparently are longtime friends, and one of them invited me to their Wednesday mothers group for lunch. I have to …Read more.
Good To Go
Dear Margo: My father recently got a diagnosis of stage-four liver cancer. He is adamant that he wishes to die at home. In addition to needing information about how this can be arranged, I have now started thinking about my own health and wishes. I …Read more.
To Be Drawn In or Not To Be
Dear Margo: I'm a ninth grader at a small private school. I recently found out that someone who used to go to my school and is now at another school is smoking and dealing pot. When I found this out, I wondered if anyone at my school was doing this, …Read more.
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If Only She Loved Deer and TroutDear Margo: I have been married to a very nice man for 10 years, but I am bored to death with this marriage. He doesn't like to do anything but hunt and fish. I like to go out and be social — dinner, movies, etc. He doesn't cheat on me or hit me; he waits on me and gave me a beautiful home. There is no love or passion between us, however. I have had health problems for the last three years, and they have left me feeling blah. I have no desire for relations of any sort, and I think he should find a woman who shares his interests, because he and I have none of the same interests. We watch TV in separate rooms, and I go out with my in-laws more than I go anywhere with him. I want to leave, but I can't seem to move toward the door because he is not a bad guy ... he just isn't the guy for me. What can I do? How do I get him to realize he is not happy, either? — Languishing in Maine Dear Lang: This is just a wild guess, but your husband may be happy and it may be only you who thinks the marriage is dead. It is kind of you to want to find him a companionable partner, but this seeming altruism may be to salve your conscience. I suspect you would like the marriage to end — though you do not want to be the one to end it. I would venture to guess that because of your ongoing health problems — for three years, yet — you are depressed. The underpinnings of the marriage, however, do not sound solid. It is nice that your husband doesn't cheat on you or hit you, but the absence of infidelity and violence doesn't add up to a functional union. Having different interests can be managed, but no love and no passion make things sound pretty bloodless to me ...
Where There's a Will, There's ... an Unhappy Relative Dear Margo: I lost my beautiful mother five years ago. Ever since my mom's passing, my aunt (her baby sister) claims that Mom left her something in her will. She has told other family members that my dad is keeping what she believes is her "rightful inheritance." She plans to contact my parents' attorney and feels that Dad has either hidden or rewritten the will. Of course, none of this is true. I have offered to show her all the legal documents, but she still persists in her ridiculous quest. Her actions have put a wedge between family members. My sisters and I have told her to do whatever she feels she needs to do. In your opinion, is this the best way to handle the situation? — Irritated Dear Ir: Yes, I think your position is exactly the right one. Interesting that your aunt's suspicions have dragged on for five years without her making a move. (There may even be a statute of limitations issue here.) Should she contact your parents' attorney, let him be the one to explain the documents and, with luck, set her straight. It is always surprising to me how some relatives can be dead certain (no pun intended) that the wishes of the deceased (benefiting them) have been tampered with. It is for this reason that wills are dated and require witnesses. — Margo, testamentarily *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2009 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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