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Dear Margo: This past year has been amazing for me. I successfully passed my first semester in college with a 4.0 while juggling friends and a job. I have a very goal-oriented boyfriend who is compassionate to boot! We have a lot in common and …Read more.
If It's Something Dire, You Will Know About It
Dear Margo: My husband is an only child in his late 30s. My father-in-law is terribly selfish. We live several states away, and because he's the only blood relative left, my spouse does his best to keep in touch with his father. It is rarely …Read more.
What's Up with That?
Dear Margo: I really don't know what to do about my mother. It's as though she's made a career out of not listening to what I say ... or she's dedicated herself to doing the opposite. Right after I told her I was going on a diet and staying away …Read more.
Guess What: Not Everyone Is Kind
Dear Margo: My husband, our children and I recently moved to a new town. Through the children, really, I've met a group of women. They apparently are longtime friends, and one of them invited me to their Wednesday mothers group for lunch. I have to …Read more.
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Here Comes the Bride ... and Yammering Little KidsDear Margo: My fiancee and I will be getting married in nine months, and we're starting to send out invitations. Over the past couple of years, many of our friends started having kids. (Two of the older ones will be flower girls.) Early on, we discussed the issue of kids at the wedding and agreed that we're totally fine if little Suzie or Johnny goes screaming down the aisle; it's more important to have friends and family there to celebrate with us. And we love our friends' kids. At the same time, we hope that if a child does throw a tantrum, the parent will take the child to the vestibule so as to not be a continual disruption. My question is: Would it be appropriate to include a card with the invitation saying, "Of course children are invited, but if little Suzie or Johnny throws a temper tantrum, please take him or her to the vestibule to calm down"? If you feel it would be appropriate, perhaps you could suggest a better way of wording it. — Eyes on the Important Things in Life Dear Eyes: I must say you're a sport not to mind if kids go screaming down the aisle at your wedding. I suspect that may, in fact, happen. As for the card you have in mind advising people what to do in case of a tantrum, let me just say this: I would find that very odd and suggest you not do it. Instead, cross your fingers that the parents of the howling Suzies and Johnnys have the sense to remove them. There could be quite a crush in the vestibule, but there you are. And while I have you, sending invitations out nine months in advance would be considered exceedingly early. Have a lovely ceremony. — Margo, permissively Annoying, But Harmless Dear Margo: I'm in a relationship with a man I love.
This is, without a doubt, the best and strongest relationship I've ever had, but I worry that being so sensitive will end up driving him crazy and away from me. While I suspect that your advice may be to go to counseling, I have a very basic "sickness plan" — rather than health insurance — that doesn't cover that type of "treatment." Is it possible to develop a thicker skin? Is there a mantra that I can repeat when my feelings are hurt? I should mention that I am able to recognize when I have overreacted. I also feel ashamed of my behavior when I remember how much he loves me. — Far Too Sensitive Dear Far: Good news — you don't need therapy! Since you understand the situation well, and because the romance sounds so promising, I would make this my mantra: "He likes to tease me, and he loves me." Then don't give it a thought. For what it's worth, my husband does the same thing, and I think it's goofy, but some people just like to tease. It will bother you less and less once you really understand that teasing is a part of some people's sense of humor. — Margo, tolerantly *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2010 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS.COM
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