RELEASE: SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 30, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: Our daughter, who is away at college, is suffering from depression. She is on medication and seeing a therapist at school. "Maya's" first semester was a nightmare, partly because her father refused to let her come home to visit, …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We have a wonderful marriage and two terrific children. The problem I am writing about involves my husband's brother. He is gay. "Rick" is a great person and a devoted uncle to our …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 16, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: I never have cheated on my wife and am absolutely certain that I never will. We have been married for five wonderful years, and our marriage is rock solid. Here's the problem: About a year ago, during a moment of passion, I …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 9, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: My sister is a dwarf and has been confined to a wheelchair for the past nine years. Since I was a small child, I have hated the ignorance with which she is treated. Even when she was able to walk, people would stare at her, step …Read more.more articles
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Dear Ann Landers: Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with kidney disease. My mother told me at the time that both my sister and my brother wanted to donate a kidney so that I might live. As the months of dialysis wore on, I decided to accept their generous offer. When I expressed my gratitude, they both told me they had no idea where I had gotten such an idea. It was then obvious that my mother had invented the story. My sister subsequently wrote me a letter saying my life was not that important to her. I had always been close to my sister. That letter destroyed the love I felt for her. I then cut off all communication. Two years later, I had a kidney transplant thanks to an anonymous donor.
I recently moved back to the area where I grew up. When I visited my mother, my sister showed up. There was zero conversation between us. I tried to forgive her and be friendly, but it was impossible. I then went for counseling, but that didn't help. Is it OK if I do not forgive her? I have searched my heart and believe I am justified. I need your opinion. — Still Hurting Up North
Dear Still Hurting: No, it is NOT OK. Forgive your sister — not for her sake, but for yours. When you treat her in a warm and loving way, with no mention of the past, she will remember that she made no effort to help you when your life was in danger — and that will be punishment enough.
Dear Ann Landers: My niece, "Eva," recently graduated from high school and sent out engraved invitations to her graduation party.
A few days ago, my boss told me he had received one of those rare engraved invitations. Eva barely knows my boss. Yesterday, I learned she also sent engraved invitations to her doctor and two friends of mine who are casual acquaintances. It became obvious that the people she invited have one thing in common: money. I'm disgusted and have decided not to attend the party. Am I right to be angry? — Boiling in Fresno
Dear Boiling: I say go to the party. If you don't, Eva will not care, but why miss out on what could be a very good time? You now know about her value $y$tem. Unless she changes her course, she's going to have a lonely life. Poor thing.
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