"CLASSIC" ANN LANDERS Dear Readers: Several readers have written to say it was easier to get off cocaine than to give up cigarettes. I recently came across these tips written by Linda Greenhow, coordinator of the nicotine addiction program at the St. Helena Health Center …Read more. "CLASSIC" ANN LANDERS Dear Ann Landers: Why don't YOU MYOB? A while back, you wrote a column on "Reconciliation Day" in which you urged your readers to "forgive and forget — let bygones be bygones." At 10:30 on the night that column appeared, we received a …Read more. "CLASSIC" ANN LANDERS Dear Ann Landers: Please tell your readers not to dump their mothers, fathers or other loved ones into just any old nursing home and assume they will be well cared for. Urge them to select a home that has been looked into carefully, one where they …Read more. "CLASSIC" ANN LANDERS Dear Ann Landers: I certainly can understand why some of the women who write to you need an unbiased party to help them avoid the land mines that show up in relationships AFTER they have become deeply involved. I was one of those women myself. My …Read more.more articles
RELEASE: SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 12, 2012
Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999.
Dear Ann Landers: Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with kidney disease. My mother told me at the time that both my sister and my brother wanted to donate a kidney so that I might live. As the months of dialysis wore on, I decided to accept their generous offer. When I expressed my gratitude, they both told me they had no idea where I had gotten such an idea. It was then obvious that my mother had invented the story. My sister subsequently wrote me a letter saying my life was not that important to her. I had always been close to my sister. That letter destroyed the love I felt for her. I then cut off all communication. Two years later, I had a kidney transplant thanks to an anonymous donor.
I recently moved back to the area where I grew up. When I visited my mother, my sister showed up. There was zero conversation between us. I tried to forgive her and be friendly, but it was impossible. I then went for counseling, but that didn't help. Is it OK if I do not forgive her? I have searched my heart and believe I am justified. I need your opinion. — Still Hurting Up North
Dear Still Hurting: No, it is NOT OK. Forgive your sister — not for her sake, but for yours. When you treat her in a warm and loving way, with no mention of the past, she will remember that she made no effort to help you when your life was in danger — and that will be punishment enough.
Dear Ann Landers: My niece, "Eva," recently graduated from high school and sent out engraved invitations to her graduation party.
A few days ago, my boss told me he had received one of those rare engraved invitations. Eva barely knows my boss. Yesterday, I learned she also sent engraved invitations to her doctor and two friends of mine who are casual acquaintances. It became obvious that the people she invited have one thing in common: money. I'm disgusted and have decided not to attend the party. Am I right to be angry? — Boiling in Fresno
Dear Boiling: I say go to the party. If you don't, Eva will not care, but why miss out on what could be a very good time? You now know about her value $y$tem. Unless she changes her course, she's going to have a lonely life. Poor thing.
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