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Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999.
Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I have a home on the lake where we go on weekends and vacations with our two children, their spouses and our four young grandchildren.
The problem is a 12-year-old girl who lives across the street. This child is …Read more.
Classic Ann Landers, November 15
Dear Ann Landers: Every time I see a letter in your column from someone questioning the remarriage of a widow or widower, I want to write. This time, an actual letter goes in the mail. My wonderful husband passed away 10 years ago. He lost his …Read more.
Classic Ann Landers, November 8
Dear Ann Landers: Three months ago, our 18-year-old daughter "Ramona" had her tongue pierced. My wife and I had warned Ramona that if she pierced her tongue, she would lose her rights to the family car. She apparently didn't care, because …Read more.
Classic Ann Landers, November 1
Dear Ann Landers: I am 60 and have just been diagnosed with cancer. My problem is my daughter, "Ingrid." She lives in another state and has my only four grandchildren. I went through a nasty divorce a few years back and spent 10 long years …Read more.
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Classic Ann Landers, September 6Dear Ann Landers: I hope you will settle this family dispute. It's getting out of hand. I am one of four daughters. Our mother is 87, confined to a wheelchair and living in a nursing home. One sister, "Judy," lives in the same city as our mother, and the rest of us live more than 500 miles away. Judy is married and has a teenage son and a full-time job. She sees Mom nearly every day, runs errands for her, handles her financial matters and deals with all her emergencies. Mom can be very difficult and demanding at times, and I appreciate everything Judy is doing for her. But lately, Judy has become completely unreasonable. She used to be fun and cheerful, but now she is wallowing in self-pity. I am tired of her complaining about how Mom has consumed her life and how we don't help enough. Judy expects one of us to visit every three months so she can have some time off and "renew herself," as she puts it. She says she wants our visits to coincide with the holidays so we can help her keep things "cheerful" for Mom. I explained to Judy that I have a family of my own and want to spend the holidays with them. Judy says they are welcome to come to her place for meals and festivities, but she doesn't have room to put them up. That means we would have to pay for a motel room, and our budget is very tight as it is. I cannot afford to bring my family there for Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I refuse to go without them. When I told Judy I am not coming for the holidays this year, she became angry and has been very cool to me ever since. Dear Family Trouble: I do not agree that Judy is "wallowing in self-pity." It sounds to me as if she is exhausted and now wants her three sisters to help her with the load where Mom is concerned. Your mother is 87 years old. How many more years do you think she has left? It won't kill you to bring your family to Mom's for Christmas or Thanksgiving. Think of the pleasure it would bring her. Money cannot buy it. I urge you to do this. If you don't, you will regret it down the road. Trust me. Dear Ann Landers: We have an 18-month-old child, who is a joy. When I married "Denise," we agreed to have two children. Well, having a kid is more work than I imagined, and the financial burden is huge. I now think one child is enough, but Denise wants another baby. Should I honor our original agreement or try to convince her that our daughter can grow up just fine as an only child? — San Antonio, Texas Dear San: As the mother of an only child who turned out just fine, I'm the wrong one to ask. I noticed, however, that my daughter had three. Forget to save some of your favorite Ann Landers columns? "Nuggets and Doozies" is the answer. Send a self-addressed, long, business-sized envelope and a check or money order for $5.25 (this includes postage and handling) to: Nuggets, c/o Ann Landers, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Suite 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. ANN LANDERS (R) COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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