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Classic Ann Landers, April 26

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Dear Ann Landers: I am 48, and my husband is 58. I love him to pieces, and he is a great guy, but his memory is a complete mess. "Phil" never remembers to finish anything. After he unlocks the front door, he forgets to take his keys out of the lock, and they are in full view of everyone who passes. He opens the garage door to work on his car and forgets to shut it when he comes back inside. Our neighbors have called late at night to tell us our garage door is up and ask whether everything is OK. When he is out in the yard, he leaves the gate wide open, and the dogs get out. We spend hours looking for them.

We recently stayed at a hotel out of town. Thank goodness I decided to get some ice from the hallway vending machine before bed. I discovered our hotel room key was still in the lock where Phil had left it. Who knows what could have happened to us?

When I point out these lapses to Phil, he becomes angry and tells me to stop criticizing him. I now check all the doors before going to bed or leaving the house. I never say anything to Phil, but he gets very upset when he catches me checking. I don't know how to feel safe without making him angry. Any suggestions? — Turned On But Not Off

Dear Turned On: Phil may be a great guy, but he is having too many "senior moments." If he hasn't seen his doctor lately, he's due for a checkup.

Don't worry about making him angry.

Meanwhile, keep checking everything, and if he resents it, so what? Your safety and his are of paramount importance. Play deaf, and keep on doing what needs to be done.

Dear Ann Landers: I live in Beijing and read your column on the Internet. You have helped me with my English, and now I hope you can help me with my problem.

My wife told me she wanted a divorce. This breaks my heart, but after trying unsuccessfully to salvage our marriage, I granted her request. I have asked her to return to me some special gifts that have sentimental meaning, including a fancy wristwatch and some letters. My wife said my behavior is stingy and stupid.

I do not care about the value of these items, but because they no longer mean anything to her, I would like to have them back. Am I wrong to ask? — Mr. X in Beijing

Dear Mr. X: The gifts and letters belong to your wife. While you are not "wrong" to ask her to return them, they are rightfully hers, and she is under no obligation to give them back.

Forget to save some of your favorite Ann Landers columns? "Nuggets and Doozies" is the answer. Send a self-addressed, long, business-sized envelope and a check or money order for $5.25 (this includes postage and handling) to: Nuggets, c/o Ann Landers, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Suite 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Okay! What is the problem? Just close everything that he lives open! You say you love him. He may have early alzheimes.
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Posted by: Ed Parker
Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:12 PM
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