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Dear Ann Landers: I have been married to a wonderful man for 15 years. He has two children from a previous marriage — a son, "Trent," and a daughter, "Elsie." My mother-in-law died five years ago. She stated in her will that her diamond engagement ring would go to Trent when he became engaged and that Elsie would get her beautiful cocktail ring.
The following Christmas, Elsie told me in confidence that she truly wanted the engagement ring instead of the cocktail ring. She gave me a sob story about Trent's being Grandma's favorite and how she always was left out. I fell for it and let her talk me into giving her the engagement ring, with the understanding that if Trent became engaged, she would give the ring back to him.
Six months ago, Trent met a lovely girl and proposed to her. When my husband told me to get Grandma's ring back, I panicked and bought a ring that has a stone of a similar size — only the stone is a zircon, not a diamond. I then called Elsie and told her to return the ring pronto. She refused. I have called her every day since, but she says the ring now belongs to HER.
Meanwhile, Trent's fiancee had the ring appraised and was informed that it is a fake. When she confronted me, I confessed. Feeling guilty, I purchased a genuine 1-carat diamond ring and gave it to Trent's fiancee, along with a fancy bouquet of flowers. I have called repeatedly to tell her how sorry I am, but she avoids me and has made clear that she no longer trusts me.
Dear Sorry: You did serious damage to your credibility, dear, and it's going to be a long time before you patch this one up — if ever. If you continue to be contrite and straight with Trent and his fiancee, they eventually may believe you are truly sorry and forgive you. I hope, for the sake of family unity, it happens soon.
Dear Ann Landers: I'm no expert on wedding etiquette, so I hope you can help me out. There is nobody else I can ask without putting myself on the spot and making myself look cheap.
A friend of mine got his girlfriend pregnant. The two of them decided to get married in a private ceremony and invited immediate family only. A few weeks later, I received a wedding announcement with a gift registry card inside.
I am really offended by this. He knocks up his girlfriend, invites no friends to the wedding, and expects us to send presents. Is this tacky, or am I wrong? — Just Wondering in the Rockies
Dear Just: Stop wondering. It is beyond tacky; it's gross. Ignore the "invoice."
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