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Classic Ann Landers, October 18

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Dear Ann Landers: I recently attended a wedding. Both the bride and groom had been married before and have children by their previous marriages, who were to participate in the wedding — a very nice touch. This was a formal affair, to be followed by a catered reception. The bride wore a gorgeous gown with a veil and long train. There were mounds of fresh flowers on the altar, and the elegantly dressed guests filed into the church and took their seats on the arms of the tuxedoed ushers.

The bride and groom entered and walked down the aisle. Instead of going to the altar, they seated themselves in the front row, which was most unusual. The minister then stood up and announced: "The couple will not be getting married today. Unfortunately, the groom's divorce is not yet final. Please enjoy the reception."

The reception went on with the father of the non-bride making a toast to the non-married couple. Everyone seemed in great spirits. The non-married non-newlyweds left immediately after the dinner for the non-honeymoon in Acapulco, Mexico.

I cannot believe any preacher in his right mind would go along with such a farce. I'm betting he didn't know until he arrived at the church, just like the rest of the guests, that the groom's divorce had not been finalized.

Ann, this didn't take place in some zany place like Hollywood. It was in Decatur, Ill., grass roots, Pride of the Prairie, Soybean Capital of the World.

If they have a real wedding in a few weeks, I'm NOT attending. — Still in Shock in Illinois

Dear Illinois: I'm sure the other guests were just as shocked as you were. I am also certain, as you surmised, that the minister did not know until he arrived at the church that the groom was not free to marry.

My guess is the couple waited until the very last minute, hoping the divorce would be finalized. When it didn't come through, they decided to have the celebration sans the wedding. For their sake, I hope that when the divorce DOES come through, they will not have another wedding.

Dear Ann Landers: For my mother's birthday, my wife sent her a beautiful piece of silver jewelry. According to family members who were present, my mother tossed the jewelry aside and said, "Why on earth would they buy me silver when they know I prefer gold?" I was stunned when I heard this. My sister says that at Mom's age, she's entitled to say whatever she wants and that we should not judge her. Is my sister right? What do you say, Ann? — No Name, No Place, No How

Dear No How: Unless your mother is senile, her comment was inexcusably rude, insensitive and ungracious.

When planning a wedding, who pays for what? Who stands where? "The Ann Landers Guide for Brides" has all the answers. Send a self-addressed, long, business-sized envelope and a check or money order for $3.75 (this includes postage and handling) to: Brides, c/o Ann Landers, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Suite 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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poor wedding planning if the wedding came before the divorce, since it was described as such an elaborate affair there would be little point in canceling the celebration that was already paid for... at least the minister didn't come out and say that they just didn't want to get married... more than likely when they are (were) actually able to marry, it would be in a small private ceremony since the big celebration has already been done

as for the birthday gift... while it was rude of the mother to complain about the gift, it was also rude and extremely insensitive of the family members who called to report on Mom's rudeness...
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Posted by: MMB
Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:51 PM
i just came on this site looking for something i am probably in the wrong place as uaual but, ann landers had a column a long time ago with a thing by an unknown author about special childern . it was rewritten 14 years ago just when my grandchild was born with down syn. it helped my daughter very much as she was just 19, i have since lost this paper . can anyone find it for me. it was very special to us. thank you for listining to me and i hope you can help. maxine
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Posted by: maxine barker
Fri Nov 20, 2009 8:22 AM
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