Depressed and Dependent: A Moral Quagmire Dear Annie: My father recently passed away. Dad was helping to support my 43-year-old brother, "Ben," who suffers from depression and is on disability. Ben doesn't work and spends a great deal of time in bed or buying liquor and lottery tickets. He'…Read more. Pickers, Blowers and Other People You Don't Want To Eat With Dear Annie: My husband and I meet up with a group of family and close friends every week for lunch. One couple in this group (a close family member and her spouse) constantly blow their noses during our get-togethers. They use cloth handkerchiefs, …Read more. The Last Monday in May Dear Readers: Memorial Day has become a three-day holiday of picnics and cookouts. But there is a reason for this commemoration, so please remember the servicemen and women who died serving their country. Consider visiting a veterans hospital or …Read more. Hating on Haters Dear Annie: I work in an office with 35 women, and it seems as though someone is always hating someone else. Right now, I am the target of two women. One of these women used to be my friend, and I have no idea why she isn't any longer. I once asked …Read more.more articles
Creepy Customer Won't Stop Flirting with Young Waitress
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I met the girl of my dreams at a restaurant that I frequent several times a week. I was eating lunch there long before she started serving, but the first day I saw her, I began sitting in her section.
The problem is, every time she comes by, my tongue gets frozen, my voice changes, the words don't come out right or I say something stupid. She isn't seeing the real me. A few months ago, I asked her out. She turned me down, saying she is too busy to date and, besides, she doesn't date customers. I was bummed out, but I still kept coming to the restaurant, and everything seemed OK.
Every day, I like her more. A couple of weeks ago, I couldn't resist bringing her flowers and a card expressing my feelings for her. She wouldn't accept the flowers and only reluctantly took the card. The next day, she told me I make her uncomfortable and should sit in someone else's section. I was totally crushed.
I don't know what to do. I haven't seen her for nearly two weeks, and I'm miserable. I want to respect her and will eat somewhere else for a few months so she has some space, but I don't want to give up. I'm a successful businessman, and I work hard to achieve what I want.
What is the best way to win her heart? Does age matter? I'm 38, and she is still in college. I am not only physically attracted to her. I really want to get to know everything about her. At the very least, I'd like to be friends. Is it possible? — Tom
Dear Tommy: Probably not. You have turned into that creepy older guy who hits on the waitress and won't take no for an answer. She has made it quite clear she is not interested, and any additional moves you make in her direction will only confirm her low opinion of you. She might even quit her job if you keep showing up and mooning over her.
Dear Annie: My husband and I share a computer. I recently came across the complete name and city of an individual with the caption, "activated his profile," as well as the message, "Sex is live. Come find your partner."
My husband says he has no idea how this profile popped up on his computer. The only other message in the profile section concerns an entry about my husband's brother having activated his own profile. I would really appreciate an answer. — Don't Know What To Believe
Dear Don't Know: We can't tell you whether your husband is lying. We can, however, say that it is possible this is some kind of spam, or that his brother set it up and your husband is completely innocent. In which case, his brother is an idiot. But keep your eyes open, just in case.
Dear Annie: As a retired strategic planner with the Michigan Department of Corrections who has studied pedophilia, you are certainly correct that "Protective Mother" should be alarmed about her paroled uncle showing affection toward her children.
I suggest the mother, in the presence of her relatives, tell her uncle that he is to keep away from her children at all times, saying, "We know that you haven't been able to control your emotions around children."
In addition, her uncle may be breaking his parole restrictions, because most pedophiles are not permitted to associate with young children or to be within a certain proximity of places where children congregate. — B.L.
Dear B.L.: We appreciate your expertise. Many thanks.
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