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What Happens in the Massage Parlor Doesn't Always Stay in the Massage Parlor Dear Annie: Several years ago, I went to a massage parlor and paid a woman for sex. This same woman recently got a job in the office where I work. There are only nine employees. This is an unbelievable coincidence. We get along pretty well as co-…Read more. Protect Your Assets Dear Annie: My stepson, "Louis," is 45 years old, has been unemployed for the past 10 years (he never gets along with his bosses or co-workers) and got busted for DUI, for which he underwent court-appointed treatment and had his license revoked for …Read more. Bisexuality Is Not a Trip to Disneyland Dear Annie: I am 27 and am engaged to my 26-year-old fiancee. However, she recently told me about her college days, which included a lot of sex with both men and women, sometimes in groups. She said she really enjoyed it, but it is in the past. I …Read more. Oh Yeah, He's Free ... Freeloading Dear Annie: My 26-year-old son graduated from college three years ago. He worked for his father for one year, worked on a marijuana farm for one year and has been living off of his savings for the past eight months. He hasn't been looking for a job. …Read more.
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04/17/2014 What Happens in the Massage Parlor Doesn't Always Stay in the Massage Parlor
Dear Annie: Several years ago, I went to a massage parlor and paid a woman for sex. This same woman recently got a job in the office where I work. There are only nine employees. This is an unbelievable coincidence. We get along pretty well as ...

04/16/2014 Protect Your Assets
Dear Annie: My stepson, "Louis," is 45 years old, has been unemployed for the past 10 years (he never gets along with his bosses or co-workers) and got busted for DUI, for which he underwent court-appointed treatment and had his license revoked for ...

04/15/2014 Bisexuality Is Not a Trip to Disneyland
Dear Annie: I am 27 and am engaged to my 26-year-old fiancee. However, she recently told me about her college days, which included a lot of sex with both men and women, sometimes in groups. She said she really enjoyed it, but it is in the past. <...

04/14/2014 Oh Yeah, He's Free ... Freeloading
Dear Annie: My 26-year-old son graduated from college three years ago. He worked for his father for one year, worked on a marijuana farm for one year and has been living off of his savings for the past eight months. He hasn't been looking for a job. ...

04/13/2014 This Ball and Chain Could Sink You
Dear Annie: I've been married for 20 years. My husband had a great job that allowed him to support me while I completed my education. Our financial situation diminished, but as long as we could share responsibilities, it was OK with me. When I ...

04/12/2014 Beyond AA
Dear Annie: I enjoy reading your column and agree with most of your advice, including your recommendations when it comes to handling alcohol addictions and binge drinking. I do not work in this field, but I've seen alternatives to AA that may ...

04/11/2014 Old Affair Still Has Power
Dear Annie: Four years ago, I caught my husband lying and cheating in an emotional affair (he says there was never any sex). He and this same woman had been cheating for 10 years. She is married with grown children. She never told her husband what she ...

04/10/2014 Hell-Bent on Helping Horace
Dear Annie: My husband and I live in Minnesota. His 78-year-old stepbrother lives by himself in Florida. "Horace" has a part-time job and goes to church regularly, but otherwise sticks to himself. He has only a nodding acquaintance with the neighbors. ...

04/09/2014 Gearing Up for Global Youth Service Day
Dear Annie: Did you know that an estimated 16 million youth participate in volunteer activities in the U.S. every year, and that by volunteering these young people will perform better in school? These amazing kids do everything from collecting gently ...

04/08/2014 Under the Boot of the Missus
Dear Annie: My mother is approaching 80, and after raising three of us, she is in declining health. My brother and sister live near Mom, but I couldn't handle big-city life, so after I married, we moved to my wife's hometown. I don't drive, so ...

04/07/2014 Parents Reject Son for Becoming Daughter
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my brother announced that he should have been born a female. He started counseling and three years ago legally changed his first name and began living as a woman. This devastated my parents and two of my siblings, and they ...

04/06/2014 One False Move and She's Out
Dear Annie: I am a recently divorced and remarried 46-year-old male. I was always very close to my sister, but these past few years, she only thinks of herself. My mother passed away a year ago, and my sister handled her memorial service. I ...

04/05/2014 Combat Parental Alienation with a Lawyer
Dear Annie: What has happened to the politeness, courtesy and respect that we instilled in our own children but somehow got lost down the tree? My grandson, who is 8, has talked back to his mother for as long as I can remember. She didn't ...

04/04/2014 Real Hubby Versus Work Hubby
Dear Annie: In the past four years, my wife has become friendly with a male co-worker. The two of them phone each other often and send an enormous number of text messages, often more than 100 a week. These calls and text messages are not work related. ...

04/03/2014 Boss Demands On-the-Job Selfies
Dear Annie: I'm 18 years old. I work two jobs to save money for college next year, one during the week and the other at a coffee shop on the weekends. Last week, my boss from the coffee shop sent an email to all employees saying that we are now ...

04/02/2014 No One Likes the Friendship Police
Dear Annie: My husband and I were great friends with my sister and her husband. When we separated, my ex continued to hang out with them because they liked to drink and do drugs together. After the divorce, they stopped seeing him. I just found ...

04/01/2014 How Sterile Are Your Dentist's Tools?
Dear Annie: As a registered nurse and a patient who has had many dental procedures, I cringe every time I get into a dentist's chair. The reason is the overhead light — the one that the hygienist or dentist can adjust and lower. The hygienists ...

03/31/2014 What To Do About All the Sex Talk at Granny's House
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two children, ages 11 and 8. They enjoy spending time with my mother-in-law. The problem is, my husband's nephew lives with Granny and brings girls home with him for sex. The latest girlfriend likes to brag about it ...

03/30/2014 Missing "It"
Dear Annie: I am a healthy 60-year-old woman, married for 20 years. My husband has some health problems. He's a little overweight and has diabetes and high blood pressure. He also suffers from erectile dysfunction. I don't know how to talk to ...

03/29/2014 Bedwetting, Begone!
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Bedwetter," who is afraid to move in with his girlfriend for fear she'll find out he still wets the bed. My oldest son had a problem with bedwetting and was unable to attend sleepovers because he didn't want ...

03/28/2014 High-Maintenance or Romantic Poser?
Dear Annie: I'm in my early 50s and have been married to "Ralph" for two years. At first, he was attentive and romantic, sending flowers and writing cards. We went on frequent weekend trips where we would focus only on each other. In the past ...

03/27/2014 Can't Live With Each Other, Can't Live Without Each Other
Dear Annie: My parents are both in their 80s and don't get around well anymore. Dad has a history of verbal (sometimes physical) abuse, and Mom has always put up with it. Recently, Mom has been cornering family members and telling them how crazy Dad ...

03/26/2014 Bringing Up Baby
Dear Annie: I am a young single mom. The father and I are not together. I am lonely at times without a man in my life, but I don't know how to approach men and have no idea how to bring up the fact that I have a son. I promised myself that I ...

03/25/2014 Poker-Faced Friends
Dear Annie: I have played in a local poker league for 10 years and have built solid friendships with these people. Three years ago, a new crew joined our crowd. At first, they were friendly, but in the past two years, one of them began having home ...

03/24/2014 The Ex Ultimatum
Dear Annie: Thirty-two years ago, my ex left me for another woman. He was verbally abusive and denigrated the children and me every chance he had. People did not realize what I went through during my marriage. I remarried 23 years ago, and the ...

03/23/2014 Let the Defrauder Bear the Burden
Dear Annie: Four years ago, my wife, "Joann," was the executor of her mother's will. Per instructions, she divided the estate equally with her three siblings. However, a few months later, the estate received an award of $200,000 for a lawsuit her ...

03/22/2014 My Name Is Gossip
Dear Annie: For the past 14 years, my family has not spoken to me. Worse, they have spread lies and brought lawsuits, none of which they have won. The gossip has been hurtful and damaging to my small immediate family. No one, of course, has ever asked ...

03/21/2014 Missing Intimacy After Menopause
Dear Annie: I'm 52 years old, and since my wife started menopause, we no longer have sex. It has become physically painful for her, and she has no desire whatsoever. I understand what is happening and am trying to be supportive and roll with the ...

03/20/2014 Baby Boundaries
Dear Annie: My husband and I are expecting our second child. When our first was born, my in-laws (who live out of town) visited shortly after the birth, and it was awful. They tried to separate me from our baby to have alone time with him. And instead ...

03/19/2014 Teen Friendship Blues
Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl whose best friend (I'll call her "Blue") has become very rude and even annoying. I can no longer make a comment about something without her answering nastily or adding logic to imaginary scenarios that aren't ...

03/18/2014 Surviving Hurricane Veronica
Dear Annie: My husband and I are seriously concerned about my 19-year-old sister-in-law, "Veronica." She came to stay with us a few months ago because she was having a hard time at my mother-in-law's house. We did not ask for any money. All we asked ...

03/17/2014 Can There Be Trust After Betrayal?
Dear Annie: After 35 years of marriage, my abusive husband asked for a divorce. I had stayed for the children's sake, but now know that was a mistake. Children grow up thinking abuse is normal. Since the divorce, I have fallen in love with "...

03/16/2014 Kicking Butts and Taking Names
Dear Annie: From a young age, I understood the harmful effects of smoking, because my grandfather died of lung cancer just months before I was born. He began smoking in his teens, which is when most adults who smoke started. Getting kids hooked ...

03/15/2014 A Dog's Point of View
Dear Annie: You printed an essay about a year ago regarding the loss of a pet from the pet's point of view. I'm sorry, but that's all I remember. I recall the way that poem made me feel. I hope you can help me dig it up. — A.S. Dear A.S.: ...

03/14/2014 Facebook to Facebook with Her Rapist
Dear Annie: Many years ago, I was raped. Back then, there weren't any rape counselors. I confided in my sister but never reported it. I learned to live through it. A few years later, I was stunned to see this same man at my nephew's college ...

03/13/2014 Climbing Out of Debt -- and Depression
Dear Annie: I am 60 years old and feel that I have accomplished next to nothing. The only worthwhile things are my husband, two children and a lovely granddaughter. They are the lights of my life. I was let go from a previous job for something ...

03/12/2014 Much Ado About 10-Year-Old Innuendo
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for more than 50 years and once had a very enjoyable and compatible sex life, even though my husband didn't want any children and refused to discuss it. After 27 years of wedded bliss, my husband ...

03/11/2014 Freeloading Father-In-Law
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 27 years, and I always had a good relationship with my father-in-law. When he divorced for the second time, we offered to let him live rent-free in the guesthouse behind our home. In the past ...

03/10/2014 Screen Those Kidneys
Dear Annie: I switched doctors six years ago — and my world fell apart. My new doctor insisted on all kinds of new tests, and I'm glad she did. Simple blood and urine tests let me know that there was a good possibility my kidneys weren't ...

03/09/2014 Flip a Coin
Dear Annie: We are facing an imminent, irreversible mistake with a family heirloom. My husband's elderly father is determined to sell a generations-old coin collection to a coin shop and then split the money between his three sons. My husband ...

03/08/2014 Former Friends Closing In
Dear Annie: My husband and I moved to Florida 30 years ago and raised our children here. Some friends recently retired and moved to our area. Florida is a large state, and we were surprised that both of these couples (who don't know each other) chose ...

03/07/2014 Worried Sick in the Wake of Addict's Disappearing Act
Dear Annie: My wife and I have lost contact with our son. He is a recovering addict. As far as we know, he has maintained a job and, I hope, has been able to stay clean. He has moved to a city about four hours away with his new girlfriend, and I am ...

03/06/2014 Marital Death by Mom Bomb
Dear Annie: I have been married to a special man for 23 years. The problem is, he has too close of a relationship with his mother. It doesn't allow the two of us to have any adult space. We didn't entirely get along under one roof because he ...

03/05/2014 Such a Thing as Too Many Naked Toddler Pics
Dear Annie: You printed a letter from "Concerned in Galesburg, Ill.," about photographing naked babies. I have a slightly different problem, but it's in a similar vein. I have a toddler grandson. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but our daughter-...

03/04/2014 Man's Weight Gain Wrecks Wife's Libido
Dear Annie: I'd give anything to be intimate with my wife, in any form. We've been married for 18 years. We have not made love in more than three. We also don't hold hands, hug, kiss or cuddle. We have pleasant conversations, and I would classify us ...

03/03/2014 Long Rejected by Family,Young Man Unlikely To Reach Out
Dear Annie: My sister complains that our mother (who can be narcissistic and self-centered) has never reached out to her son. "Mitch" is now 25, and Mom has never tried to get to know him. Mom sent my daughter (now 33) on trips to Europe and would ...

03/02/2014 Better Not To Climb This Branch of the Family Tree
Dear Annie: I recently decided to do a little digging into my past and started a family tree. While I was doing this, I came across information that my biological father had passed away some 10 years ago. Annie, I had no contact with my ...

03/01/2014 Porn Problems
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been happily married for eight years. This is a third marriage for both of us. A few months back, my wife found that I had been visiting Internet porn sites. She became very upset and said this was the same as ...

02/28/2014 Work From Home: Too Much Togetherness
Dear Annie: My husband and I are arguing about his desire to work from home. He has an office job that he can accomplish remotely, and by working at home, it saves him a 30-minute commute each way. Those are all great arguments. However, I don'...

02/27/2014 PG-13: Not My 14-Year-Old
Dear Annie: I'm livid. My 14-year-old daughter and her friends want to see a certain PG-13 movie on Saturday. But after I read the reviews, I will not allow her to go. Why does the film industry produce movies with words and scenes that are such filth?...

02/26/2014 Unrequited and Unhealthy
Dear Annie: I am a young man looking for a girlfriend. I have liked this young lady for seven years — since high school. Our relationship has been on the friend side, although I have shown her that I like her. Recently, she started to ...

02/25/2014 Disinvited and Suspicious
Dear Annie: My wife of nearly 30 years and I are having some difficulties. Recently, she asked whether I wanted to go to Rome for a business conference. She thought we could see the sights afterward. I said yes, as I'm recently retired and have plenty ...

02/24/2014 Cheap Dad, Sad Dad
Dear Annie: My son recently said something that embarrassed me and kept me awake most of the night. My wife and I were at his home for dinner, along with my daughter and several others. We were talking about TV, and my son mentioned a show ...

02/23/2014 Controlling Can Be Abusive
Dear Annie: When my husband and I married, we said vows that included "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health," until death. I am now 65, and my husband and I are both retired. We have money, but my husband does not want to give me any for ...

02/22/2014 Marital Stalemate
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for six years. He divorced his wife of 53 years because he fell in love with me and wanted the rest of his life to be happy. They had not shared a bedroom since the last of their kids was born. "...

02/21/2014 Adult Bedwetter Afraid To Take It to the Next Level
Dear Annie: My girlfriend of two years has just asked whether we should move in together. I am currently living with my parents, so we would be living at her place. I'm not sure how to respond to "Dayna's" request. I don't want her to think I ...

02/20/2014 Getting To the Root of Hair Removal
Dear Annie: One of our darling granddaughters started to pull out her eyelashes at around age 9. We expressed our concern to our son. Shortly after, we were told that our granddaughter was seeing a counselor to address this behavior. We were so ...

02/19/2014 Worried About Dad's Diet
Dear Annie: I have an amazing dad. He coaches my lacrosse team and is always up for a game in the yard. But I am growing very nervous about his health. Dad eats fast food every day at work and comes home to enjoy a home-cooked meal topped with ...

02/18/2014 Sexual Assailant Still Accepted
Dear Annie: My sister's husband sexually assaulted my 18-year-old daughter while she slept on their sofa. We kept this a secret for three years, and then it finally came out. When my sister heard, she decided to protect her children from the truth ...

02/17/2014 ROI Not the Only Consideration
Dear Annie: The past four years of my marriage have been difficult. My husband and I have made many poor financial decisions, and we also have intimacy issues. I'm an artist. When our kids were young, I chose to do freelance work so I could ...

02/16/2014 Lonely Mom Should Sleep Alone
Dear Annie: My grandsons are 5 and 9 and old enough to sleep alone. However, they sleep together in a queen-sized bed, and their mother regularly crawls in with them. She has been doing that since they were toddlers. The boys have told their ...

02/15/2014 Get Out Now and Don't Go Back
Dear Annie: I have been with my fiance for 14 years, and we have had our fair share of problems. Three months ago, I left, taking our kids with me. But I came back when he asked me to. I figured I owed it to the children to try to work things out. But ...

02/14/2014 If You Haven't Let Go, You Haven't Forgiven
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, along with our special good wishes to the veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our particular thanks to those readers who have taken the time to send valentines, visit the vets and ...

02/13/2014 Compassionate Enabling
Dear Annie: I have a 75-year-old friend who was brutally beaten by an intruder. "Jim" allowed the stranger to enter his home when he claimed he needed to use the telephone. Jim suffered broken bones and a head trauma and spent time in a rehab facility....

02/12/2014 Benched Since His Break
Dear Annie: We live in a small rural community where sports help keep the kids off of the streets. My 14-year-old son loves sports. He is well-rounded, makes excellent grades and has good friends. This year, he is again on the school basketball team, ...

02/11/2014 No One Trusts This Guy's Wife
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my wife went out of town for a conference. A month after she returned, I was on our computer and noticed that she hadn't logged out of her email. My curiosity got the best of me, and I saw that she had traded emails with ...

02/10/2014 When the Single Source of Your Marital Angst Isn't Going Anywhere
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 22 years. We each have two kids from previous marriages, and together, we have a son. All of our kids are doing wonderfully, except for my wife's daughter. I don't mind helping out now and then, ...

02/09/2014 Lulu: Spoiled Lemon
Dear Annie: Last year, I was laid off of work. Knowing my financial burden, our son asked whether he and his family could move in with us to help out. We reluctantly agreed. The issue is our 7-year-old granddaughter. "Lulu" is spoiled by her ...

02/08/2014 Care for the Nasty
Dear Annie: I am a live-in caregiver for my grandmother, who is in failing health. She has five children (including my father) who do absolutely nothing for her because they say Grandma is a mean, nasty person, which she is. Grandma feeds off of ...

02/07/2014 Rebel Moves In with Grandparents and Loses Her Cause
Dear Annie: Our 14-year-old daughter is not a terrible kid — probably just a typical teenage girl. She can be rude and obnoxious, she talks back and curses, and she leaves her room an upside-down mess and is obsessed with her iPhone, constantly ...

02/06/2014 Cavorting with Paid Escorts, AKA The Last Straw
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my husband has been calling escorts who advertise online. I am not sure whether he ever hooked up with any of them. I am just shocked that he is doing this and that it has been going on for quite some time. <...

02/05/2014 Daredevil GIrlfriend Drives Her Guy Nuts
Dear Annie: I am 69 years old, and my lovely lady friend is 65. We've only been dating for seven months, but I love her very much. However, a few things about her drive me up the wall. We live apart, and that is fine — she stays with me ...

02/04/2014 Nervy Family Resents New Parents' Request for Day of Peace
Dear Annie: Last summer, I gave birth to twins who were several weeks early. Throughout the time they were in the hospital, we had family support. My husband and I made the decision that for the first day home, we'd have no visitors. This ...

02/03/2014 Hard Choices When You Don't Trust the Trustee
Dear Annie: Both of my parents recently died, and my younger brother was named trustee of their trust. My parents' home represents the majority of the trust, although it was not on the list of assets. Instead, my brother and his wife are claiming the ...

02/02/2014 Wife Can't Stand that Hubby Turns the Other Cheek
Dear Annie: I am beyond speechless at some of the things my husband's parents say and do, and yet he lets all of this roll off his back. My in-laws often treat my husband's brother and kids to vacations to which we and our kids are not invited. ...

02/01/2014 He "Just Wants To Be Friends" Holds No Hidden Meaning
Dear Annie: I am 53 and am in love with a 33-year-old man. We've been together for three years, but the problem is that he says he just wants to be friends. I care about him a lot. I think there may be someone else, but I'm not sure. I don't ...

01/31/2014 Kids Sleeping with Adult Relatives: How Old Is Too Old?
Dear Annie: I have a question regarding the appropriateness of a grandfather sleeping with a 5-year-old granddaughter during visits to her family home. In this case, the grandmother and grandfather take turns sleeping in the same bed with the ...

01/30/2014 40-Year-Old Baby
Dear Annie: I have a 40-year-old daughter who is lazy. When she injures herself, has surgery or is sick, I wait on her like she's a baby. But I recently needed surgery myself, and she has no interest in helping me at all. A while back, I hired ...

01/29/2014 Naked Babies: All Sweet, No Shame
Dear Annie: Why is it OK to photograph children and babies half-dressed or naked? I don't mean pornography. I'm writing about family photos, TV shows and magazine advertisements. Babies are people who have no say over their own bodies. I feel ...

01/28/2014 "Might Have" Misled Him?
Dear Annie: I'm 46 years old, college educated, with no children. I recently celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary. It's not what I would call a good marriage. My husband occasionally has fits of anger and has been verbally abusive. More than ...

01/27/2014 Philandering Hubby's Brother Made Him Do It!
Dear Annie: A year ago, I found out that my husband had been cheating on me at his brother's house. He was having an affair with "Charlie's" wife's sister. My husband cheated more than 30 years ago with a friend of Charlie's, and we divorced ...

01/26/2014 Salute Veterans with Valentines
Dear Annie: Over the past 150 years, our nation has worked tirelessly to care for those who, as President Abraham Lincoln so eloquently stated, "shall have borne the battle." Today, the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) operates 151 ...

01/25/2014 Hostess Wants Her Head Count
Dear Annie: Whenever I invite my siblings over for a family dinner, one sister waits until the very last minute and then brings another person. This isn't some informal buffet. It's a sit-down dinner. In order for everyone to have a seat and a place ...

01/24/2014 Not Loving Lois
Dear Annie: I was married for 21 years, until my wife decided to call it quits. It's been four years since the divorce. She is now dating someone from work. I suspect this co-worker is the reason she left me, but I truly do not care anymore and have ...

01/23/2014 Lay Off the Dearly Departed
Dear Annie: I was married for 30 years to a man I loved deeply. I know perfectly well he is not perfect (who is?) and saw him struggle to control his temper and sharp tongue. He had a schizophrenic father and an alcoholic mother. They divorced when he ...

01/22/2014 Still Mad in Maine
Dear Annie: A couple of years ago, you published my letter signed "No-Win Situation in Wisconsin." My wife and I had been sharing a vacation with another couple, and I witnessed the husband kiss my wife on the lips as they left. You said if ...

01/21/2014 A Truly Loveless Marriage
Dear Annie: I am in a loveless marriage. My husband and I barely speak to each other. I mostly stay in my room because it's easier than dealing with my life when I'm not by myself. Do people really hold hands and kiss goodnight? This has never ...

01/20/2014 Remembering Martin Luther King Jr.
Dear Annie: My 39-year-old son-in-law died two years ago, quite suddenly and unexpectedly. My daughter is still grieving, which I fully understand, but her grief has turned her into an angry and jealous person. My husband and I are the only ...

01/19/2014 Make-Believe Miscarriage?
Dear Annie: More than 30 years ago, my brother "Zach" was married for several years to "Ruth," who had an affair with an older man and left him to marry the new guy. She became pregnant during their last year of marriage, but when ...

01/18/2014 An Estranged Father Passes
Dear Annie: My brother, "William," recently passed away in his sleep. His passing came as a shock to everyone. He wasn't ill or showing any indication that something was wrong. We suspect it was a heart attack. However, the real tragedy of his ...

01/17/2014 Family Plans
Dear Annie: My husband's family came to town for a week over the holidays. We made plans to be with them every evening except one. My parents were in the final stages of a job relocation and were leaving town that same weekend. We gave my family the ...

01/16/2014 Misplaced Other People's Money
Dear Annie: Three months ago, I was put in charge of collecting money for a group contribution. I put it in an envelope in my house. I then had to go on a trip. When I returned, I searched high and low for the envelope, and for the life of me, I can't ...

01/15/2014 The Passion Question
Dear Annie: I'm a divorced woman who was married to a self-centered man for 30 years. He often told me that if I thought there was something better out there to not let the door hit me on the way out. I finally took him up on it, and it turned out to ...

01/14/2014 Drawn to Exes
Dear Annie: I have been in a committed relationship for a year. Admittedly, my girlfriend and I (we are lesbians) rushed into things. We moved in together quickly when she broke up with her girlfriend of five years. After the first month, "Dennie" ...

01/13/2014 Shadows-in-Law
Dear Annie: My problem is my in-laws. They do not have any friends or hobbies, so they choose to cling to us. They insist on doing everything we do, going everywhere we go. Our children are active in sports and often play on the weekends. ...

01/12/2014 Unprotected Cheating
Dear Annie: I have been married for three years. Two months after the wedding, I discovered that my husband was cheating with several women. Worse, he confessed that he wasn't using condoms, and by that time, I was four months pregnant. I was crushed ...

01/11/2014 So-So Review Leads To Promotion
Dear Annie: I am the manager of a small bakery. I've had the same employee, "Sue," for the past nine years. She is lazy and uninvolved, and I gave her a so-so review. Much to my surprise, Sue was promoted to management in another facility. I was happy ...

01/10/2014 Real Grief Leads To Flimsy Final Straw
Dear Annie: My relationship with my mother has always been challenging. When she could no longer grab me by the hair and shake my head, she adopted inappropriate behavior with my boyfriends, called me stupid, worshipped my brothers and sister-in-law ...

01/09/2014 Opposites Also Repel
Dear Annie: I am writing to you with a heavy heart. I have been married to my second wife for 20 years. We dated for two years, and she became impatient with my reluctance to get married. We both wanted kids, but her timetable was different than mine. ...

01/08/2014 Choose Assertive Over Confrontational
Dear Annie: I'm an identical twin and will be turning 56 in February, but my sister behaves more like my daughter than my sister. Annie, I'm sick of it! My twin sister turned her back on me in believing ridiculous lies told by my youngest ...

01/07/2014 Social Outcasts Grown Up and Apart
Dear Annie: When I was a freshman in high school, I became friends with "Agnes," who was (like me) something of a social outcast. Agnes still considers me to be her best friend. That was 10 years ago. We have both grown up to be very different ...

01/06/2014 Who You Calling Cheap, Freeloader?
Dear Annie: My brother and his wife recently stayed with us for nine months. He did some part-time work every now and then. His wife refused to find a job and mostly stayed home. My wife and I work long hours. We also then had to do the ...

01/05/2014 Sis Wants To Keep Brothers Safe From Mom's Bad Choice
Dear Annie: I have five younger brothers who mean everything to me. Three of them still live with my mother. Mom lived with an abusive man for years. When I was 11, she chose this man over me and put me in a foster home for two years. He is now out of ...

01/04/2014 The Stranger In My House
Dear Annie: Years ago, Ann Landers published an essay about a woman who sees a stranger in the mirror. Can you reprint it? It's very apropos to what some of my friends and I are going through. — Northern California Girl Dear Northern ...

01/03/2014 Much Ado About Nothing?
Dear Annie: My wife and I recently had several relatives over for a family gathering. During the evening's events, my 10-year-old nephew threw a tantrum and threatened to hurt my 1-year-old son. He said, "If someone doesn't get him off of me, I am ...

01/02/2014 Gambling With Her Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been married to my lovely wife for nine years, and to this day, I can't get past her gambling habit. It is causing major problems in our marriage. Once or twice a week when she gets that itch to head to the casino, she loses ...

01/01/2014 Down and Tapped Out
Dear Readers: Welcome to 2014! We wish each of you health and happiness. We hope this year is better than the last and not as good as the next. Do your best to make this year special. Be kinder. Be more patient. Be more tolerant. Help someone in need. ...

12/31/2013 Why So Unwelcome?
Dear Annie: Three months ago, I attended the funeral of a friend and former co-worker, "Renee." I went in, signed the book, gave my condolences to her husband and was speaking to some friends. At that point, another co-worker came up to me ...

12/30/2013 All Grown Up and Not What She Expected
Dear Annie: I have two grown daughters. I don't know what I expected as we all grew older, but it certainly wasn't what I got. Here's the problem with my older daughter, "Bethany." The three of us had lunch together, and afterward, Bethany ...

12/29/2013 When Harry Met Married
Dear Annie: I am a married mother with two children, both in high school. But I am in love with a man who is not my husband of 21 years. "Harry" is my first love, and he came back into my life unexpectedly. He is also married. Neither of us ...

12/28/2013 Live Together, Leave a Legacy
Dear Annie: I am an 84-year-old woman in love with a 92-year-old man. Since I'm rather old-fashioned, I do not believe in living with him unless we are married. However, marrying him could change our financial status. Is there any service that could ...

12/27/2013 Eau de Kitty Litter
Dear Annie: One of my sisters has a lovely cat, but when we go somewhere with her, the kitty litter odor is overwhelming. It clings to her clothing and follows her everywhere. My sister is highly sensitive to criticism, so we haven't approached her ...

12/26/2013 Grown Children Rejecting Parents
Dear Annie: You often print letters from older parents dealing with rejection from their adult children. This is literally an epidemic everywhere. Anger and hatred are destroying families. My husband and I have three adult children who ...

12/25/2013 Tracking the Christmas Price Index
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. We hope those who are celebrating the holiday are fortunate enough to enjoy it with family and friends. Here's the annual PNC Christmas Price Index for those keeping track: "The Twelve Days of ...

12/24/2013 Drunk Dancer Dumped
Dear Annie: I'm a 26-year-old female and have been engaged to a wonderful man for the past year. We had plans to marry after he graduates in June with his master's degree. The problem started when on several occasions my girlfriends and ...

12/23/2013 New Year, New Debt
Dear Annie: For the past several years, my husband has taken out a new credit card each January and maxed it out over the next 12 months. This has resulted in major debt, which I fear will devastate our family and possibly affect our children and ...

12/22/2013 The Good, The Bad, The Wedding
Dear Annie: Four months ago, I foolishly accused my 22-year-old daughter of something of which she was innocent. She was deeply hurt. I tearfully told her many times over several days how sorry I am. I begged for forgiveness. She said she is not ...

12/21/2013 Not Moving In Doesn't Mean Breaking Up
Dear Annie: I am in my late 70s and have been with a wonderful man for some time now. "Joe" and I both lost our spouses several years ago. We each own our own homes and are debt-free, although I have to watch my finances more closely. ...

12/20/2013 Kicking Snuff
Dear Annie: After many years of using smokeless tobacco, I'd like to quit. Are there any effective measures one can take to beat this highly addictive habit? I use the kind of tobacco that comes in a can, and it goes wherever I go. It ...

12/19/2013 Transsexual Women Are Women
Dear Annie: I have a problem, and I'm not sure how my family will react. I'm attracted to transsexuals -- well, one in particular -- but I'm not gay. Some of the transsexuals I've spoken to don't look as if they are male at all. They ...

12/18/2013 Nothing Funny About a Punch to the Face
Dear Annie: I just finished watching a piece on the news about young people assaulting others and calling it a game. It seems they walk up to unsuspecting people and throw the hardest punch they can to the face in an effort to knock someone out. ...

12/17/2013 Is Porn Cheating?
Dear Annie: My husband likes to watch porn. I don't care to watch it myself, but if my husband asks me to join him in his viewing, I will. Recently, I found out that my husband was watching porn on his phone at work. When I confronted ...

12/16/2013 Confounding Confirmation
Dear Annie: I am 14 years old and facing a dilemma. My father isn't particularly religious, but my mother is a strict Catholic, and my older sister and brother have been confirmed. I have another six months before I am expected to go through the ...

12/15/2013 Untangling Estrangements Requires Forgiveness
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 34 years. I love her dearly and would do anything for her.   When my wife was 8 years old, she was molested by her uncle (her maternal aunt's husband). She told me about this before we ...

12/14/2013 Six Degress of the Sexless Marriage
Dear Annie: "Frustrated in South Dakota" was concerned about the dearth of sex in his marriage, saying his wife has no sex drive. You rightfully suggested she talk to her doctor to see whether there is something they could do to remedy the ...

12/13/2013 Disparage a Child's Intended at Your Own Risk
Dear Annie: Both my husband and I are on our second marriages. We have tried very hard to get along with our exes, to no avail. When we invite them to go to parent-teacher conferences with us or attend dance and piano recitals, it seems to only make ...

12/12/2013 Newlyweds on the Brink
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for only 18 months. Things were blissful for the first year, and then things took a drastic change. One day, he told me he has lost the "in love" feeling. Apparently, he had felt ...

12/11/2013 Enduring the Messy Divorce
Dear Annie: I was married to a verbally abusive narcissist for 10 years. Two separations and three counselors later, I decided to leave him. That was in June. I recently met someone who makes me believe there are good people out there. ...

12/10/2013 Decoding Jealousy
Dear Annie: I've been employed for two months at a large retail outlet and have gotten to know many of the people who work there. "Amanda" is in the food section, and I am in the clothing department. I'm a straight woman, and ...

12/09/2013 Molestation Suppressed?
Dear Annie: I am a woman in my mid-30s, and think I may have been molested when I was young. I have little memory of my childhood up until age 13. But I do know that when my friends played with their Barbie dolls, they had her driving around, going on ...

12/08/2013 Don't Shy Away From Good Fortune
Dear Annie: My husband and I are the youngest of our siblings, now all in our 50s with nearly grown children. Despite having the same opportunities, my husband and I are the only ones to have finished college, stayed married and kept the same jobs. As ...

12/07/2013 Find Family Beyond the Family Tree
Dear Annie: Since childhood, my mother has told me she never wanted me. I now have two children of my own. At one point, I became homeless, and my parents took me in. But I became ill and needed major surgery. While recovering, my brother's son came ...

12/06/2013 Age, Energy and Employment Differences Under One Roof
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and he moved in six months ago. "John" is 25 years older than I am. He has always been supportive and helpful, but now he is displaying passive-aggressive behavior. John ...

12/05/2013 Dissing Aunt Marsha
Dear Annie: My 58-year-old mother has a best friend whom she has known since they were both 5 years old. We call her "Aunt Marsha." She's been at all of our weddings and holidays. She is still friendly with her ex-daughter-in-law, who ...

12/04/2013 Cut Off From the Grandkids
Dear Annie: I have not shared a birthday, holiday or special occasion with my son for the past five years, since he married. He has two children now. We always have been close, but I'm so sad that my daughter-in-law won't let me be a ...

12/03/2013 Lifelong Sibling Jealousy
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 80s. We have four children. "John" and "Susan" are from my first marriage. They were very young when my first husband died and I remarried. I then had "Jane" and "Alice.&...

12/02/2013 Sticky Ex
Dear Annie: In 1988, I had a wife and three beautiful children. Then my wife decided to be "liberated." She wanted to spread her wings and be independent. She engaged me in a particularly acrimonious divorce and lived on child and spousal ...

12/01/2013 Every Marriage Has Its Thorn
Dear Annie: I am in my 60s and have been married for 10 years to a wonderful man. It's a second marriage for both of us. He was a widower, and I was divorced. The problem is his daughter, "Emily," who has been a thorn in our ...

11/30/2013 Three Dogs Between You Is Not the Path to Nuptials
Dear Annie: I have been with the same woman for six years. Now she has asked me to marry her. We get along terrifically, but when it comes to bedtime, there is no closeness. She says she can't cuddle with me because she's been hurt so many times in ...

11/29/2013 Their Friendship Survived a Burglary but Maybe Not the Story
Dear Annie: I'm 16 and have been best friends with "Cindi" since second grade. Last weekend, my parents attended a party and allowed Cindi to stay overnight. Two people broke into the house to rob it. They tied up and gagged ...

11/28/2013 Happy Thanksgiving!
Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends. And our personal thanks to those who are spending the day volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens, or going to a nearby nursing ...

11/27/2013 Gossip in Supervisor's Clothing
Dear Annie: My supervisor rarely states his desires clearly. But if I take the initiative or ask him to clarify, he makes me feel like an idiot. He is condescending and highly critical of most people. He also is a nonstop gossip. He has portrayed me ...

11/26/2013 First-Time Heartbreaker
Dear Annie: I am a boy in junior high school. I recently went to a social event for kids my age. While there, a girl spilled the beans that she has had a major crush on me for more than a year. We see each other often at school. I was shocked. She ...

11/25/2013 Daughter Will Cherish Her Two Loving Homes, Even as a Teen
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been separated for four years. We have joint custody of our beautiful 8-year-old daughter. "Lizzie" spends half the week with me and the other half with her mother. It works out well, and Lizzie fully ...

11/24/2013 Give Thanks for Timely Thanksgiving Dinner Guests
Dear Annie: We host Thanksgiving dinner for my husband's family every year, and I enjoy doing so, but I have a problem with my stepson's wife. They have not lived together for almost three years, but they still travel together regularly, including ...

11/23/2013 Dead at 7
Dear Annie: I want to thank you for printing the essay "Dead at Seven," by Paul O. Ketro, M.D., about the dangers posed by senior drivers who don't know when to give up their licenses. For more than a year, I have been trying to tell ...

11/22/2013 The Friendship's Doomed, but the Dog Doesn't Have To Be
Dear Annie: I recently moved into an apartment with a longtime friend. We both have dogs, but I was misled about hers. He is 15 months old and not trained. My roommate has no time for the dog. She takes college classes and works two part-time ...

11/21/2013 Memory Loss Is Common but Can Be Serious
Dear Annie: Over the past 10 years, I have noticed that my sister's memory has become very confused. She often has false memories, believing something that happened to a friend or celebrity actually happened to her. She also says hurtful things and ...

11/20/2013 Wrestling with Family Obligations
Dear Annie: When I married my husband, he was divorced with a college- aged daughter. For some reason or other, she did not complete her degree. After college, "Connie" got a job and her own apartment. She became pregnant by a co-worker and ...

11/19/2013 Her Unchecked Bipolarity Is Abusive
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Marie," has been diagnosed as bipolar, but doesn't take any medication. For 25 years, it has caused serious trouble. Marie is a spiteful, evil, controlling human being. You can't find a single person in town ...

11/18/2013 Alcoholics and Their Enablers
Dear Annie: My brother "Nathan" moved into an apartment with my other brother, "Steven," who lives with his girlfriend and her son. Nathan has an alcohol problem that already caused him to lose his job and is now creating problems ...

11/17/2013 What's Best for the Boy?
Dear Annie: I have been married to Sarah for nine years. We have two young sons, both with developmental issues. When I met Sarah, she had an older son, "Del," who was in the temporary custody of her father's cousins. The cousins ...

11/16/2013 Set House Rules for Kids Whose Parents Won't
Dear Annie: Last weekend, my husband and I invited a few relatives over for a cookout. There were three children under the age of 4. When it began to rain, we moved the party indoors. The parents let their kids run amok, and in a few short hours, the ...

11/15/2013 Married to a Hoarder
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. When our oldest son left for college, my wife began using his bedroom for storage. It gradually filled with clothes, papers and things my wife bought from TV shopping shows. Soon, there was ...

11/14/2013 They Were on a Break
Dear Annie: I am madly in love with my ex-fiancee. We have been separated since March but have been talking about getting back together and starting a family. The problem is, while we were separated, I slept with another woman. It happened at ...

11/13/2013 Wifely Duties Versus Rocks My World
Dear Annie: I have been married for more than 20 years and have never been sexually attracted to my husband. He is a good provider, but there is no passion, no excitement, nothing. I have tried everything I can think of to make sex better, but he acts ...

11/12/2013 Abusive Mess of a Marriage
Dear Annie: I have been married for 32 years to a horrible man. He is self-centered, controlling, a liar and a cheat. He manipulated me into buying a house I did not want, and when my mother died in this house, he kicked me out of the room we shared ...

11/11/2013 Honoring Veterans
Dear Readers: In honor of Veterans Day, here is one of our favorite pieces, written by John Alton Robinson of Monroe, La. "Freedom" From the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier To the silver-haired crowns of our fathers <...

11/10/2013 The Neverending Grudge
Dear Annie: A year ago, I had an argument, mostly via text, with my 37-year-old son. He was threatening to leave his bride of two weeks. I tried to get him to understand that he had made a serious commitment and shouldn't throw it away so easily. ...

11/09/2013 Broken Trust, Broken Marriage
Dear Annie: My husband works for a large mental health agency and five years ago had a two-year affair with a fellow employee. I found their illicit emails three years ago. Even though my husband and I are still together, I am broken and ...

11/08/2013 A Thick Skin Will Cure What Ails Her
Dear Annie: My older brother and I are both in our mid-30s and have not gotten along for 20 years. He has been verbally, psychologically and at times physically abusive toward me. He has a ferocious temper, and if I say anything he doesn't like, he ...

11/07/2013 A Mother's Concern Feels Like Control
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our 80s. We have three wonderful kids, all married, who live nearby. We have always been close. The problem is, one son thinks I am trying to control him. He never tells us when he is planning to go out of ...

11/06/2013 Married To a Beautiful Cold Shoulder
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been happily married for 27 years. We are both in our early 50s, physically fit and active. My wife looks the same today as the day we married. She's extremely attractive. The problem? She has no sex drive. She never ...

11/05/2013 Wishing a Drinker Would Stop Drinking
Dear Annie: I am a mother of three children, but it's the oldest my husband and I worry about. When "John" went to college, he started drinking a lot. I asked him about it then, and he admitted that he might have a problem, but he ...

11/04/2013 World's Worst Sister?
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my sister and my husband were engaged in an emotional affair that lasted nearly two years. I am in remission after having been diagnosed with breast cancer. On the day of my diagnosis, my 38-year-old son ...

11/03/2013 Protesting the Prenup
Dear Annie: My wife died five years ago. Two years ago, I met "Lorna," and I recently asked her to marry me. I feel strongly that personal assets that are brought into a marriage should be protected. I made this clear to Lorna early in our ...

11/02/2013 Go for Quality Over Quantity, Grandma
Dear Annie: I am hurt that my children and grandchildren do not include me when they have family get-togethers. They say they would have to clean their houses if I came, or they don't know when I am available. They expect me to call when I want to see ...

11/01/2013 Help Yourself Help Others
Dear Annie: I am one of six boys. We are all very different. My oldest brother, "Tanner," just turned 20. He is more of an introvert, and we realize this, but he has done nothing with his life and shows no interest in doing so. He doesn't ...

10/31/2013 Wedding Wrecker
Dear Annie: My fiance is amazing, sensitive and wonderful. The only problem is his sister. When we became engaged, "Jessie" was so jealous, her mother begged us to make her my maid of honor. I did, to keep the peace. I've spoken with ...

10/30/2013 Till Death Do Us Part Is a Vow, Not a Sentence
Dear Annie: I am retiring at the end of the week and am worried. I have been married for 27 years to my second husband. For the past 24, he has not once touched me, said "I love you" or displayed any affection. He is a good stepfather to my ...

10/29/2013 For the Love, Not the Money
Dear Annie: I am a single 40-year-old man. The past 18 months have been rough for my family. My father passed away, and my mother moved to Florida. Then she had a mild stroke. I have always liked Florida, so I decided to move with Mom and help care ...

10/28/2013 Choosing Your Attendants
Dear Annie: I am getting married next year. One of the most stressful things for me is picking the attendants. I have my best man and two groomsmen. My fiancee, "Sara," suggested I add another friend, which I was happy to do. Then, a ...

10/27/2013 Kids and Privates
Dear Annie: My son is a second grader. Over the summer, while he was staying with my ex-husband, a boy touched my son's private area over his clothes. This was no slight, accidental touch. It was deliberate. My son's stepmother called child protective ...

10/26/2013 Heaven's Very Special Child
Dear Annie: When I was in high school, I collected articles that I found inspirational and motivational. One of my most prized pieces appeared in Ann Landers' column in 1978. It was "Heaven's Very Special Child" by Edna Massimilla, who had a ...

10/25/2013 Trading Kissy-Face for Real Life
Dear Annie: I am a 44-year-old woman in a quandary. I have been married for 21 years to a good man who is nine years my senior. He is supportive and affectionate. Most women would be satisfied. He plays the lottery more often than we can afford, but ...

10/24/2013 Pros and Cons of Co-Sleeping
Dear Annie: What is your opinion on co-sleeping? My husband, his daughter and I all sleep in the same bed at night, and neither my husband nor I minds a bit. My husband loves it, saying he knows where both of his beautiful ladies are at night ...

10/23/2013 Frustrated with the Workplace Favoritism
Dear Annie: I love my job, but I constantly see favoritism among the management staff. One in particular frustrates me. "Joe" was hired because of "what he brings to the table." What he brings to the table is sitting at his desk ...

10/22/2013 Kinky Husband with an Odorous Fetish
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our mid-30s and happily married. We have sex almost every night. Here's the problem: I found out this past summer that my husband is kinky. I saw him smelling my worn lingerie, as well as our teenage daughter's and ...

10/21/2013 Time To Pull the Marriage Out of the Freezer
Dear Annie: I'm a 50-year-old male, married for 20 years to a beautiful woman in her 40s. The past five years have been hard. I have made mistakes during our marriage, but have worked hard to change and be a better husband. I don't drink, smoke or ...

10/20/2013 Outright Hostility or Bipolarity
Dear Annie: After more than 13 years of marriage to an intelligent and lovely woman, our relationship continues to be a rollercoaster ride. We are in our 60s. I was married once before. She has had three prior marriages and divorces. We each have ...

10/19/2013 Blame the Labor, Not the Fruit
Dear Annie: I dated "Carol" for more than eight years. I loved her and wanted to marry her. The problem was her children (now aged 37 and 42), who have not grown up to be mature adults. Carol knew from the beginning that if we ever broke up, ...

10/18/2013 Mass Makeout Sessions
Dear Annie: There is a young couple in our church who spend the entire mass making out. They kiss, tickle, rub and caress each other every minute of the service. It's very distracting. It is also distracting to see other people in church snickering ...

10/17/2013 Wrecked at the Reunion
Dear Annie: I'm 76 years old, and my 55th college reunion is coming up soon. I'm not sure I should attend. At every reunion, "he" is always there. We had a beautiful senior year and were very much in love. I expected a ring for ...

10/16/2013 'Just Dating' to 'In a Relationship'
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for a year. We are in our mid-20s. Both of us are interested in moving abroad in the near future. When we started dating, we just wanted to have fun. I have since graduated and am ...

10/15/2013 Dining with the Flirt
Dear Annie: We belong to a dinner group with six married couples. One of the couples divorced after the husband caught his wife having an affair. He no longer comes to the dinner parties, but the ex-wife still shows up and brings her new (married) ...

10/14/2013 Divorcing Power of Attorney
Dear Annie: My soon-to-be ex-wife and I live on the West Coast, while my 92-year-old mother lives in a senior facility in New York. She is happy there. She is still mentally sharp, but her body is starting to become frail. My wife has become the ...

10/13/2013 Let There Be Exes
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with "John" for more than 12 years. We have separate homes. He has never been married and has no children. I have been married twice and have five grown kids. John still has his ex-...

10/12/2013 Monthly Allowance for Biased Mom
Dear Annie: Ten years ago, my father passed away, leaving my mother well provided for. Since then, she has spent nearly 80 percent of the estate on herself, my brother and his children. My brother is her favorite child. He has had an up-and-...

10/11/2013 The Law Is the Only Way Out of a Legal Guardianship
Dear Annie: I am a 36-year-old man. I was in an accident 25 years ago and suffered a mild traumatic brain injury. It was tough growing up. When I was 23, I moved out on my own. This is when the real trouble began. First, I started drinking, and then I ...

10/10/2013 Bringing Male Rape Out of the Dark
Dear Annie: Male rape is a subject that is seldom mentioned. A close and dear male friend (in his late 40s) was severely raped twice. He was kidnapped from his residence, drugged, sodomized and left naked on the first occasion, and then his residence ...

10/09/2013 Run at the Speed of Light from This One
Dear Annie: Recently, I was introduced to an older gentleman. He has never been married, but he did have a son through artificial insemination. His son passed away, and he talks all the time about how special he was. He has a very strong and ...

10/08/2013 Mental Illness Trumps Good Parenting
Dear Annie: When our daughter was a child, she had emotional issues and extensive anger management problems. With tremendous concern and love, we got her professional support and therapy, and ultimately, our daughter learned the skills to control ...

10/07/2013 Depression Screening to the Rescue
Dear Annie: Six years ago, I tried to take my own life. I was a popular high school student, excelled at sports and had a girlfriend and a supportive family who were always there for me. People thought I had it all. What they didn't realize was that I ...

10/06/2013 Not Her Place To Ban the Cop
Dear Annie: My cousin is a police officer in a neighboring city, and we only see him when the whole family is together. Recently, he was caught on camera beating up a woman he'd pulled over for something. From his statement and the camera footage, it ...

10/05/2013 Executor Betrayal
Dear Annie: I am devastated. I just found out that my baby sister, as executor of my older sister's estate, sold the family house and possessions without discussing this with family or other beneficiaries. There is nothing we can do to recover ...

10/04/2013 Better Off Without Bully Hubby
Dear Annie: I love my husband, but I don't like him anymore. He is disrespectful to me because I am overweight, and he has been after me for years to lose the extra pounds. He uses filthy language when he speaks to me and says it's OK because I am ...

10/03/2013 Porn: Love, Dad
Dear Annie: I have a problem that I have never seen in your column. My 64-year-old father-in-law sends my middle-aged husband pornographic pictures. My husband and I share the same email address, and the last picture was extremely explicit. ...

10/02/2013 She's Marrying This Guy
Dear Annie: I recently became engaged to my boyfriend of four years. Immediately after he proposed, I phoned my parents, who always gave the impression that they liked my boyfriend and enjoyed spending time with him. I thought they'd be happy for us. ...

10/01/2013 Nurse Regrets and Options in Therapy
Dear Annie: I am a 57-year-old woman, and my husband is 61. We met online and spent weekends together for seven months before getting married. I was deeply in love with him for the first six months. Lately, my attitude and feelings have ...

09/30/2013 Widowed for the Holidays
Dear Annie: For many years, my husband and I hosted all the family holidays. Last year, my husband's aunt invited us to stay with her for Thanksgiving and celebrate with her family. We gratefully accepted. She invited my in-laws, as well, although ...

09/29/2013 Apply Your Higher Learning
Dear Annie: I work for an institution of higher learning. Since getting hired five years ago, I have taken advantage of my surroundings to earn a degree that is directly related to my job. After three years, my boss told me my degree is pretty ...

09/28/2013 Why the Women He Meets Leave
Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old male with decent looks and of average height. I'm a few pounds overweight, but I am not sloppy. I was married before, but have not had very much luck when it comes to the fairer sex. What sets me apart are two very ...

09/27/2013 Goodnight, Sexy Signoff
Dear Annie: My wife of 25 years feels that emailing and texting male friends is nothing to be concerned about. By accident, I discovered she had visited one of these men when she was supposed to be at her girlfriend's for the weekend. She swears ...

09/26/2013 Your Guy's Sister's Friends Are None of Your Biz
Dear Annie: I started dating "Zach" 18 months ago and have been living with him for almost a year. Things are perfect except for one thing. Before we met, Zach dated another girl for three years before me. She was horrible and ...

09/25/2013 If Your Marriage Is a Corpse, Bury It
Dear Annie: I have been married for 15 years. My husband and I still live under the same roof (for convenience), but we have drifted our separate ways. The problem is, our teenage son cannot stand to be in the same room with his father. All they do is ...

09/24/2013 Tolerating Mama's Drama
Dear Annie: My fiance's mother has a rocky relationship with both of her sons. We see her infrequently, but still, my fiance loses his patience with her quickly. At first I was OK with her, but now she annoys me, as well. She brags about things,...

09/23/2013 Her Lack of Motivation Is More Than Laziness
Dear Annie: Our 19-year-old daughter seems to have found a haven from adulthood in our home. She has resisted any effort to achieve anything outside her comfort level, and as a result, it's not all that comfortable at home for anyone, including her.
09/22/2013 The Secret Lives of Prison Guards
Dear Annie: I just found out that my brother, who I thought was in graduate school studying to be a teacher, is actually working as a prison guard. I'm the only one in the family who knows. When I phoned him to get the details, he told me that he'd ...

09/21/2013 Phone Sex Friend with Dementia -- or Foe?
Dear Annie: My wife of 50 years told me that a longtime friend has called her twice trying to have phone sex. I exploded! She told me not to say anything because it would ruin our friendship with this couple. I confronted him anyway and told ...

09/20/2013 Saving a Marriage Requires More Than Saying You Want To
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband for 19 years, married for nine. I love him and never had any serious issues with our marriage until four months ago. That's when I discovered that my husband was having an affair. He's been lying to me about it ...

09/19/2013 Between Him and His Children Is Not a Good Place To Be
Dear Annie: I'm dating a divorced man with five children, two of whom still live with their parents in a shared-custody arrangement. The divorce was very bitter, and she put him into bankruptcy. She is a spendaholic and not a pleasant person to be ...

09/18/2013 Ditched for the In-Laws
Dear Annie: My son recently married a young woman from an affluent family. When he was first engaged, we began to see less of him. We invited him and his fiancee to dinners, vacations, etc., but were usually turned down. They do, however, spend a ...

09/17/2013 Barbequed Rodent
Dear Annie: Last year, my husband and I attended my cousin's annual summer barbeque. After we arrived, I looked for a place to tie up our dog in the backyard and noticed a few dead rats. They appeared to have been there for some time. I made mention ...

09/16/2013 And Now "She's" Irish Step Dancing
Dear Annie: On a recent trip to visit my daughter, I found out that my 12-year-old grandson has taken up Irish step dancing. What bothers me is that he dances in the girls division. My daughter told me it began when a girls troupe needed one ...

09/15/2013 Using and Abusing Grandma
Dear Annie: My cousin's daughter, "Julie," moved her family of four in with my aunt (her grandmother) after my aunt's husband died. It was done on the pretense of helping Grandma maintain her home and large yard. In fact, the ...

09/14/2013 How To Give Your Cat a Pill
Dear Annie: Years ago, Ann Landers printed a hilarious piece called "How To Give Your Cat a Pill." I have two cats and can truly identify with the sentiment. Can you find the piece and put it in your column? — Condo Owner Dear ...

09/13/2013 Too Many Kids, Too Many Hours for One Grandma
Dear Annie: My granddaughter, "Mary," is employed full time, has two daughters, ages 10 and 5, and is pregnant with her third child, even though a divorce has been in the works for at least a year. The problem is that Mary expects ...

09/12/2013 No One Is Forcing Free Meds Down Their Throats
Dear Annie: My dad's cousin, "John," is an internist from another state. During my younger sister's wedding weekend, Dr. John stayed with us. Two days before the wedding, my sister was stressed and couldn't sleep. John offered her Ambien. ...

09/11/2013 Freelancer Tired of Freeloaders
Dear Annie: I make my living by helping people with computer issues, setting up, getting rid of malware, etc. I love helping clients and truly enjoy my profession. I do an excellent job for my customers and am completely devoted to customer ...

09/10/2013 Hubby's a Heavy Drinker in Need of a Checkup
Dear Annie: I am a 34-year-old wife and mother of four. My husband is 44 and drinks on a daily basis. I don't mind a few cans of beer when he gets home. However, he drinks at least a six-pack, usually more, every day after work. I'm tired of arguing ...

09/09/2013 Why Mom Chooses Her Pedophile Over Her Daughter
Dear Annie: My mother chooses to hide the fact that her boyfriend is a pedophile. He abused me 15 years ago, when I was a teenager, and it still haunts me. Mom broke up with him for a short period of time, but they got back together, and the ...

09/08/2013 Her Guy's Talking Jewelry -- with His Ex
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for three years. It's a second marriage for both of us. We are in our 50s. Here's my problem: My husband still keeps in close contact with his ex-wife. I understand that a certain amount of ...

09/07/2013 Crying Won't Change a Cheater
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship for a year, and my boyfriend has already cheated on me twice. In fact, he continues to talk and text with one of these ladies, and she recently posted a picture of them hugging closely. My boyfriend ...

09/06/2013 Beware the Minefield of Other People's Children
Dear Annie: I am involved with a wonderful man who has three grown children. The youngest, age 25, is still in college. He seems to have made college his career. Dad has put himself into debt putting his children through school. This young man ...

09/05/2013 Son's Reaction Far Worse Than Mom's Habit
Dear Annie: I am a 35-year-old man. Years ago, my mother developed a bad habit. Whenever I was in the passenger side of the car, if she stopped short, she would put her arm against my chest to prevent me from going through the windshield. This ...

09/04/2013 Atrial Fibrillation Screening Saves Lives
Dear Annie: Atrial fibrillation is a serious health issue that can lead to stroke. I didn't even really know about it until my wife and I attended a preventive health screening at a local church where they checked for atrial fibrillation and other ...

09/03/2013 Florida-Bound Feels Badgered To Stay
Dear Annie: I am a college student who is about two years from graduating. I have been living with my parents while I am in school, because it's cheaper than living on campus. A few years ago, I decided, for several reasons, to move from Ohio ...

09/02/2013 What's In a Name, Mom?
Dear Annie: My husband has a wonderful mother, and I am happy that such a terrific woman raised him. The problem is, she wants me to call her "Mom." I love her dearly, but I am not comfortable with this. She introduces me as her daughter and ...

09/01/2013 More Thin Than Thick
Dear Annie: Last year, my best friend of 20 years married someone who comes from a very wealthy background. The wedding was beautiful. I spent hundreds of dollars on travel to get an expensive bridesmaid dress, attend the bachelorette party and go to ...

08/31/2013 Don't Jump To Turn Seeming Secret Into Tragedy
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 11 years. My first husband died, and my grown children love "Davis" as a father. Davis is a wonderful man who took care of his kids when they were little, while his wife moved them ...

08/30/2013 Autistic Boy Needs Compassion Along with Goody Bag
Dear Annie: My grandchildren are 6 and 3. My brother has a step-grandson, also age 6, from his wife's daughter. Two years ago, at my eldest grandchild's birthday party, my brother and his wife brought this step-grandson along. He was not ...

08/29/2013 Facing Fetal Alcohol Syndrome
Dear Annie: I come from an extended family that is mostly successful. However, one of my cousins was born mentally and physically handicapped, and the family story is that her parents have incompatible blood types. However, they had another child 10 ...

08/28/2013 Prescription PTSD
Dear Annie: Earlier this year, I was caught up in a liability issue with my high school track coach. I had a knee injury and was being treated by a sports chiropractor, with the full approval of the superintendent of the school district. My coach, ...

08/27/2013 Sex Hater Seeks Help
Dear Annie: I am 46 years old and have one problem. I HATE sex. Everyone, including my boyfriend of seven years, thinks there's something wrong with me. I'm sure there is, but I have hated having sex since I was first intimate. I can't believe ...

08/26/2013 Troubling Facebook Post Warrants Followup
Dear Annie: My husband has a brother, "Bart," who is several years younger. They are not particularly close, but we socialize on holidays. Bart has two daughters, a 20-year-old and a 7-year-old, both living at home in their small town. The ...

08/25/2013 Too Many Joints in Joint Ownership
Dear Annie: I live with my 55-year-old sister. "Toni" has always been a heavy drinker, but she's recently moved on to pot and Vicodin. She has started hanging around with people half her age and is obsessed with being young. Toni will ...

08/24/2013 Long in the Tooth, Behind the Wheel
Dear Annie: You frequently print the essay "Dead at Seventeen" by John Berrio, about the dangers of reckless driving by teenagers. I've written a version of it that addresses the growing danger posed by older drivers who should no ...

08/23/2013 The Dark Side of the Mom
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. He has four children with his ex-wife, who lives nearby. The divorce was not pleasant, and my husband still has a lot of resentment. Neither of us is comfortable around the ex. So ...

08/22/2013 The Trouble with Venting Your Troubles at Work
Dear Annie: I am the manager of a small business with one co-worker. For the past eight years, "Sheila" and I have gotten along fairly well. Last year, not so much. Sheila has become lazy, obnoxious and surly. She seems to have a chip on her ...

08/21/2013 Negotiating Peace and Quiet with Noisy Neighbors
Dear Annie: My husband and I are teachers and are home most of the summer. Our next-door neighbors have two toddler boys and a couple of barking dogs. They are a nice family except for the continuous noise and chaos, which is especially noticeable in ...

08/20/2013 Managing Unsupportive Siblings
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer and then a brain tumor. She has had numerous surgeries and treatments. Mom is the youngest of five siblings. The whole time she has been fighting this disease, her siblings ...

08/19/2013 Living in Oblivion
Dear Annie: We have three adult children in their 30s. The oldest two are married and have good lives. The youngest, "Moira," is a nurse and lives with her fiance, "Bud," in a town not far away. Moira and Bud like to drink. Bud ...

08/18/2013 Hospice Nurse Offers a Little Too Much Comfort
Dear Annie: My husband of 28 years has been having long, intimate text conversations with his father's hospice nurse for several months while they both are caring for my dying father-in-law. My husband does this for hours every day. I have ...

08/17/2013 Serious Symptoms Warrant a Doctor's Opinion, Not a Spouse's
Dear Annie: Last week, my stepfather called me to say that my 78-year-old mother came downstairs complaining that her "brain wasn't working right" and that she was dizzy. She sat at the table for an hour before getting herself breakfast and ...

08/16/2013 Getting Counseling Means Staying for the Whole Session
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law tends to go to her family. She says she is uncomfortable with my son's side. She has been rude to us since she married my son, and she controls him. She threatens him if he does not do what she wants. My daughter ...

08/15/2013 Equalizing Time and Togetherness
Dear Annie: My husband has a 12-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. We don't get to see "Emma" too often. She lives with her mother in another state, and Mom keeps her summers so packed that she cannot visit. The problem is ...

08/14/2013 Rubadubdub, Dumpster Dive for the Grub
Dear Annie: I've found a new way to get free food: dumpster diving. Several times a week, a group of us go through the supermarket dumpster at night to see what they've thrown away. Sometimes there's nothing, but other times, there's great stuff. <...

08/13/2013 Back-to-School Tips for the College Bound
Dear Annie: It is back-to-school time for millions of young people. I am an instructor at a community college and would like to offer some suggestions to make the registration process smoother for students. 1. See the school counselor at least ...

08/12/2013 Isolation Bad Strategy for Betrayed Soldier
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old son joined the Army when he was 18. At his first duty station, he caught his barracks roommate, whom he thought was his best friend, stealing from him. My son felt betrayed and began isolating himself from his peers. ...

08/11/2013 Once a Mama's Boy, Now a Married Mama's Boy
Dear Annie: I've always known that my husband's widowed mother runs his life. She picks out his clothes and even decided which house we should buy. Of course, it's about a half-mile from hers. I thought after we married I'd have a more ...

08/10/2013 Adhere To Prescriptions Start To Finish
Dear Annie: As a patient, I know how easy it is to forget to take your medication one day. As a pharmacist, I also know how serious the consequences can be. A recent report finds that one out of seven Americans with chronic conditions, like diabetes ...

08/09/2013 Lingering Feelings of Abandonment Need Open, Unblaming Arms
Dear Annie: Twenty-five years ago, my ex-wife left me and took our four children with her. I married again a few years later and now have four lovely, intelligent children who make me very happy. The children from my previous marriage are now in their ...

08/08/2013 Putting the Kibosh on Pervy Stepdad
Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old college student and live at home during the summer with my mom and stepdad. The problem is, my stepdad makes me uncomfortable. He is a porn addict. He leaves girlie magazines all over the house and downloads porn ...

08/07/2013 Moving Away from Grown Kids Isn't Selfish
Dear Annie: I left my hometown when I was 19 and have lived in a nearby state for the past 27 years. Two of my children are grown and on their own, and my youngest currently lives with my ex-husband overseas. My mother is now in her 70s and ...

08/06/2013 On Her Own Terms, In Her Own Time
Dear Annie: Recently, our beautiful, intelligent, kind, responsible 20-year-old daughter told us she is a lesbian. "Sharon" has been sorting this out alone for the past two years, which breaks my heart. She told us that she has prayed not to ...

08/05/2013 An Apology a Day May Keep Trouble at Bay?
Dear Annie: My husband and I drove a long distance from our home to help our son and his wife with their move from another state. They have two infant daughters, and we wanted to help in whatever way we could. The first morning, Dad went with ...

08/04/2013 When Fear Makes You Say Idiotic Things
Dear Annie: I am a 60-year-old woman and just found out that there's a small chance I may have uterine cancer. I'm scheduled for additional tests. I haven't told friends or family because it seems too early to push the panic button. I told my husband, ...

08/03/2013 Empty Fretter
Dear Annie: I have been married for 25 years to a husband who provides well for his family. We are now empty nesters. However, my husband feels he has to be a social butterfly with everyone on the golf course or in a bar. When he drinks, he ...

08/02/2013 O-Negative Not an Automatic Get-Out-Of-Grandma-Free Card
Dear Annie: I recently had a conversation with my mother. She mentioned that she and Grandma are not speaking again. She reminisced about how poorly she has been treated by her mother, even as a child. She then mentioned how her mother donates ...

08/01/2013 They'll Believe You're Moving Out When You Move Out
Dear Annie: I'm a senior in college and live at home. My parents, especially my father, are controlling and overly attached to me. I've had enough and am planning on moving away the second I graduate, but my family doesn't seem to get this. They tell ...

07/31/2013 Tell the Baby-Obsessed To Back Off
Dear Annie: My husband, "Scott," and I have been married for three years, and our families keep asking when we're going to have children. It's all they talk about. I just became a licensed physician's assistant, and Scott was ...

07/30/2013 Their Money, Their Niece's Hormone Blocker
Dear Annie: My niece is transgender (she's a boy who wants to be a girl). She needs to take a hormone blocker, and it costs a fortune. Insurance won't pay for it, so the whole family is chipping in. My brother-in-law doesn't make much money, ...

07/29/2013 Flirty Betty and the Bald Repairman
Dear Annie: I've been with "Betty" for 20 years. Last week, a repairman came to fix the phone line. On his way out, Betty followed him and said in a sexy voice, "I like bald-headed men. You come back." Betty didn't know I ...

07/28/2013 Too Young To Man Up
Dear Annie: Would you please give me your opinion on the "man up" issue when raising boys? When my 2-year-old grandson falls down, he is told to tough it out, that he is OK, and to "man up." There is no hugging or wiping of ...

07/27/2013 Keep Private Matters Private, Even from Nosy Aunt
Dear Annie: I visit my family every summer and help my aging mother with her huge yard. About a decade ago, she and my stepdad bought a house for me. It was understood that eventually I would be able to put my name on the deed, but at the time, my ...

07/26/2013 Wounded Hubby Creating Collateral Damage
Dear Annie: A year ago, our son, "Don," discovered that his wife of eight years was cheating on him. It came as a shock to all of us. Don was devastated and angry, and quickly divorced his wife and got full custody of their three young ...

07/25/2013 Scrap Racy TV Night if Attraction Isn't Mutual
Dear Annie: I am a woman and am deeply attracted to a good friend, also female. We have begun watching a racy TV show together at my home, and it's becoming very uncomfortable for me to watch it with her. I find myself wondering whether I should ...

07/24/2013 Hold the Right Party Accountable
Dear Annie: I'm a very sad woman. I work and take care of my home and kids. My husband and I had trouble getting pregnant with the second child and after months of trying went to a fertility clinic. It was a difficult time, and I was not giving my ...

07/23/2013 Bracing for Sleepy Son-In-Law
Dear Annie: My daughter has been dating the same guy for 11 years. Three years ago, she purchased a townhouse, and he moved in. He has terrible sleep habits. He claims his "internal sleep clock" is not in sync with the rest of the world. He ...

07/22/2013 Throw Gossipy In-Laws an Innocuous Bone
Dear Annie: I find myself trying to keep every tiny bit of my life a secret since I got married — not because I'm ashamed of anything, but because my in-laws make my business fodder for gossip. Every time I talk to them, it feels as if I am ...

07/21/2013 Sex Life Flatlined After Affair
Dear Annie: I've been married for 15 years. Eight years ago, I was on an online message board. I was only hoping to have fun, talk about life and make online "friends." But while on there, I met a man. We started chatting online and ...

07/20/2013 How To Help Sis Despite Her History of Poor Choices
Dear Annie: My 32-year-old sister, "Ashley," got herself into trouble. From my earliest memories, she has always lied. She recently got out of drug rehab, but it doesn't seem to have helped. My parents and Ashley's biological mom ...

07/19/2013 Right and Smart To Keep Medical Records Away From This One
Dear Annie: My aunt works at the doctor's office where I am a patient. I am very private about my personal affairs, especially my health records. When I first saw this physician, I requested that my records be kept in a separate area so they could not ...

07/18/2013 How Many Chores Are Too Many Chores Post-Chemo?
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Elizabeth," is a professional who is married to an older man. I'll call him "Jacob." They have two children. Elizabeth recently was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and is going through intense ...

07/17/2013 Picky Eater Forced To Overeat
Dear Annie: I am the grandmother of nine beautiful little grandchildren. Two granddaughters live with their mother and spend weekends with their father, who remarried, and he and his wife are currently residing with me. Here's the problem: The ...

07/16/2013 Far-Away Gram Feels Unappreciated
Dear Annie: After my bitter divorce, my son decided to live with his father in another state. I have spent thousands of dollars on airplane tickets, hotels, car rentals and restaurants. I have never forgotten my two grandchildren's birthdays. ...

07/15/2013 Backpack Across Europe for a Break, Not an Escape
Dear Annie: I'm a young professional, and I have nothing left. After eight months of searching for a job in my field, I moved to a small town 12 hours away from family and friends to take a graduate-friendly position. Two months in, the firm let me go,...

07/14/2013 Just Run It Through the Plagiarism Program
Dear Annie: I am still fuming over something that happened a month ago. I was contacted by my son's high school teacher, alleging that he plagiarized parts of his final term paper. Annie, I coached him through the writing process, making sure he ...

07/13/2013 We're Not a Matchmaking Service, But...
Dear Annie: I'm a senior citizen. My companion of 16 years passed away a few years ago. I've had a few dating lunches since then, but nothing serious. Several weeks ago, while looking over the hot dishes at a local health store, I heard a ...

07/12/2013 Using Technology To Break Self-Imposed Isolation
Dear Annie: I am a 45-year-old gay man who has never had a relationship, and I don't expect it to change. I have lived all of my life in the closet. I know it's not emotionally healthy, but I feel unable to confide in anyone. When I was a teenager, I ...

07/11/2013 Racist Nana Is Against Interracial Marriage and Way Too Many People Care
Dear Annie: I am 29 years old, own my home and support myself. I am in a serious relationship with a wonderful man who is African-American. All of my life, my family has been ruled by my maternal grandmother. My "nana" doesn't ...

07/10/2013 Maybe Dad Wants To Be Taken Advantage Of
Dear Annie: My parents bought a house 15 years ago. When Mom died seven years later, Dad decided to refinance and take Mom's name off the deed. The bank needed a co-signer, so my sister and I agreed to be the co-borrowers. Dad is now 75. Four ...

07/09/2013 Too Much on the Text, Grandmommie
Dear Annie: This is my second marriage. My husband has two children from his first marriage and a stepdaughter. His first wife had several affairs. I feel it may have been due to his lack of support for her. He was always working and never had time ...

07/08/2013 Bypass Emotionally Manipulative Grandparents
Dear Annie: I am 15 and the oldest of four boys. During one of many fights between my parents, my mom left the house with my brothers and me, and we spent the night at a shelter. Our grandparents told our father that we have no values because ...

07/07/2013 Monopolizing Mom?
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law and her husband moved in with us 10 years ago. They even built an addition onto our house, from which we will gain financially if we ever sell it. During this time, I've enjoyed Mom's help with our two kids and the freedom ...

07/06/2013 Bogarting the Beach House
Dear Annie: My friend "Don" has spent a few days with me at the family beach house the past three summers in a row. The second year, he hinted about going again and was very pleased when I asked him back. But then he started referring to &...

07/05/2013 Caught Between a Funeral and a Job Interview
Dear Annie: My grandmother died the day before I was scheduled for an important job interview. I'd received notice two weeks prior, and it said there would be no rescheduling of the interview for any reason whatsoever. If I failed to show up, I would ...

07/04/2013 Happy Fourth of July
Dear Readers: Happy July 4th! While you're grilling hot dogs, scooping potato salad and spending the day with family and friends, please remember the reason we celebrate this day. Here's one of our favorite pieces, originally written in 1955 as a ...

07/03/2013 Stuck in Grief
Dear Annie: I've been friends with "Jane" and "Carol" since college. Unfortunately, since her mom died well over a decade ago, Jane has become a hermit. She is distant, and whenever we make plans, she makes an excuse at the very ...

07/02/2013 Boasting Blessings
Dear Annie: I have a lifelong friend who, over the past 10 years, has gotten so steeped in her church that she has become unbearable. She tells me constantly (bragging is more like it) about how her God has blessed her and her family with their new ...

07/01/2013 A Facebook Connection Gone Bad
Dear Annie: My wife of 38 years recently reconnected on Facebook with the guy she was seeing before we started dating. She spent a lengthy amount of time catching up with him on the phone and then asked whether I would be upset if she met with him to ...

06/30/2013 Exploring Independent Care
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has a serious medical condition, and her health is rapidly deteriorating. Unfortunately, her failing health is not something she is willing to deal with. My husband and I live in a different state. When we last ...

06/29/2013 White Hair a Lesbian Turn On
Dear Annie: I'm puzzled about something. I'm a straight female senior citizen with totally white hair. Although I think I am still quite attractive, I do look like a senior citizen. I would like to know whether there is any truth to a rumor I recently ...

06/28/2013 A Writer in Need of Feedback
Dear Annie: I've been trying to write a novel for a year. The problem is, I have no support from my family. My wife and friends always groan when I ask them to read what I've written. I'm trying to be considerate of their level of interest and don't ...

06/27/2013 Identity Theft by Genealogy
Dear Annie: A distant relative, whose family I had never heard of, contacted me on the Internet begging for family photos and history for her grandmother. Out of the goodness of my heart and at great expense, I took a week and sorted through ...

06/26/2013 Porn in the 'Hood
Dear Annie: We live in a quiet family neighborhood. Recently, a neighbor tried to locate the owner of a rental home next door in order to discuss a shared fence issue. When our neighbor could find no contact information through the city department of ...

06/25/2013 A Sick Kind of Cancer Warfare
Dear Annie: My older sister, "Johanna," was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer two years ago. Since then, she seems to have one new "lifelong dream" after another that she expects my brother and me to finance. My ...

06/24/2013 Put-Upon Babysitters Out of Business
Dear Annie: My husband and I both work 18-hour days at a hospital. When we get home, we are exhausted. Since our schedules are irregular, however, our siblings seem to think it means we are always available for free babysitting. My husband's ...

06/23/2013 The Pregnant Nutritionist with the Bad Diet
Dear Annie: I'm very concerned about my pregnant daughter-in-law's diet. She studied nutrition in college, but you'd never know it. My son, his wife and their two little children drove here for an overnight visit so we could see them before ...

06/22/2013 Nonstop Talkers: Deaf or Just Rude?
Dear Annie: I have a longtime friend who has become quite difficult to be around because she talks nonstop about herself. She is a single professional woman who is intelligent and talented. But I think living alone causes her to unleash all of her ...

06/21/2013 The Unexpected Death of a Young Parent
Dear Annie: I am in middle school, and a girl on my softball team was the victim of a terrible incident. Her dad was killed in a car crash caused by a drunk driver. She has been heartbroken ever since. I constantly wonder if I can do anything ...

06/20/2013 Cruel, Soul-Killing Parenting
Dear Annie: Our oldest son, "Adam," lives two hours away with his wife, "Eve," and their three children. One child, "Hayden," is Eve's from a prior relationship. She married Adam when the boy was 3. The biological father ...

06/19/2013 Married To Mary Jane
Dear Annie: My sweet, kind 33-year-old college-educated husband has regressed into a teenager. He has always been a marijuana user, but a year ago, he befriended "Jake," and now the two of them smoke marijuana daily. They spend their ...

06/18/2013 The Truth About PTSD
Dear Annie: As a military war veteran and someone raised in the midst of inner-city violence, I have suffered from and learned a great deal about post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). There are many misconceptions about this common and treatable ...

06/17/2013 Where There's Smoke...
Dear Annie: I have been married to the love of my life for several years. Our children are all grown and out of the nest. I recently learned that over the past few months my husband has had numerous telephone conversations with a female acquaintance. ...

06/16/2013 Happy Father's Day!
Dear Readers: Happy Father's Day to all the men in our reading audience who have had the pleasures and responsibilities of raising children. This includes fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers and those who have stepped in as father figures for those who ...

06/15/2013 Dragging Him Down Is Their Only Way Up
Dear Annie: I recently had to move back into my parents' house due to financial hardship. I'm 23 years old and have rarely asked them for any sort of help. But I receive a lot of grief, sarcasm and jokes about my current position, and this is from my ...

06/14/2013 What's Behind Constant Accusations of Cheating?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for five years. For the most part, we have a great relationship. The problem is, my husband is seven years older and had a few bad relationships before we got together. Because of this, he is always ...

06/13/2013 Married and Missing a Woman Who's Not His Wife
Dear Annie: About a year ago, I ran into a woman I used to spend time with in high school. We are both married, although she is going through a divorce. Since that day, she and I have been talking quite a bit. We discuss a lot of different ...

06/12/2013 No Good Can Come of This Snooping
Dear Annie: I have a friend who has a divorced daughter with two children. The ex-husband has a good job with the government. My friend is very strapped for money and sends as much as she can to the daughter. The daughter claims the ex-husband does ...

06/11/2013 Fight False Accusations Offensively
Dear Annie: My son's ex-wife has reported him to child protective services six times and to the police for various things she's invented over the past three years. Due to her false accusations, he has been arrested three times. He has been found ...

06/10/2013 If Removing the Lip Ring Didn't Win Over Boyfriend's Mom, What Will?
Dear Annie: In January, my boyfriend and I moved in together after four months of dating. We both have young daughters, and we love all of them. His ex took off two years ago and has no interaction with the children. Their grandmother and great-...

06/09/2013 Shouldering Too Much Blame for Ancestors' Slavery Past
Dear Annie: I have been doing a lot of family-tree research and recently learned that my ancestors owned slaves from the early 18th century until the end of the Civil War, when my last slave-owning ancestor was shot in the head by Union troops. ...

06/08/2013 Breadwinning Wife Resents Division of Assets with Stay-Home Husband and Father
Dear Annie: My wife and I are going through a divorce after 23 years of marriage. We just grew apart. We have four children, ages 12 to 21. The problem is, my wife feels I do not deserve any of the marital assets because she was the primary ...

06/07/2013 Hiding Is Not the Answer to Feeling Lost
Dear Annie: I am a 16-year-old girl in high school. I have so much to be thankful for, but recently, I have been feeling like something is wrong with me. Quite frankly, I am depressed. I am always tired, anxious and nervous, and I have outrageous mood ...

06/06/2013 It's His Change of Command and He Can Be Gracious If He Wants To
Dear Annie: My husband is a high-ranking officer in the military. He has worked hard to achieve his current position and is highly respected. The problem is, his family treats him like a child. In a few months, there will be a formal ceremony ...

06/05/2013 The Nigerian Scam Lives On
Dear Annie: I have worked for many years at a small family-owned company. I believe my boss has been the victim of a scam, but I can't tell her. For several years, my boss has been communicating with a gentleman who claims to be Nigerian. He ...

06/04/2013 Dating After Gastric Bypass
Dear Annie: I was overweight throughout most of my childhood and became morbidly obese after high school. When I was in college, I had terrible self-esteem and a horrible body image. I never dated. Three years ago, I had gastric bypass and have ...

06/03/2013 Ousted Sex Addict Wants Back In
Dear Annie: Five years ago (after 20 years of marriage), my wife and I separated because she found out that I had been regularly indulging in phone sex and that I had slept with another woman. In addition, I'd made constant demands of her for sex. ...

06/02/2013 Bad Dad Isn't the Only Male Role Model a Kid Can Have
Dear Annie: Ten years ago, my daughter, "June," married a guy I thought was a little immature. June thought he would change after she married him. He didn't. Five years ago, they had a child. She thought he would change then. He has not. ...

06/01/2013 Follow Your Heart, Not Your Potential Caretakers
Dear Annie: I am 73, and my wife is 68. We've been married 36 years, and we are healthy, active churchgoers. My wife had two young children when we married, and our son, "Cal," is now 34. We have helped all three of our kids financially, as ...

05/31/2013 Intrusive Mother-in-Law Needs Serious Boundaries -- Yesterday
Dear Annie: I have been married to a wonderful man for 35 years and have terrific children and beautiful grandchildren. Our marriage has been great, except for my manipulative and emotionally blackmailing mother-in-law. Our only fights have ...

05/30/2013 It's All Hugs and Kisses Until Someone Gets Slapped
Dear Annie: I am in my 20s and am engaged to a beautiful girl. Our religion prohibits sex before marriage. But when "Donna" tells me to stop kissing her, I persist. I don't see why not. It's just kissing. Donna says she has not been ...

05/29/2013 Despite His Efforts, She's Not Into Sex
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 34 years. I changed jobs so I could have better hours and pay and more time with my wife and son. Eighteen months ago, I went on disability due to severe arthritis. A few years back, I noticed ...

05/28/2013 Not Being Arrested and Being Innocent Are Not the Same Thing
Dear Annie: My bullheaded 50-year-old daughter has taken gossip from 32 years ago to make my life a living hell. I have four grown children. My older daughter called everyone she could think of and told them I molested my son when he was 5. My ...

05/27/2013 The Last Monday in May
Dear Readers: Many of you will be enjoying your Memorial Day weekend with barbecues and picnics, but we hope you will also remember the purpose behind the observance. Please consider taking the time to visit a veterans hospital or military cemetery ...

05/26/2013 It's Not All or Nothing with Dad
Dear Annie: I'm from a big blended family, and we're the type who believe that family is everything. I recently moved an hour away from my dad, his wife and their kids. I love my dad with all my heart, but I can't stand his wife. She is ...

05/25/2013 Compensation for Caregivers Is Reasonable, Related or Not
Dear Annie: I am one of five middle-aged sisters. My father died four years ago, and shortly after, my mother moved to an apartment near me. As her health has declined, I've gradually become a partial caregiver. I am with her every day, sometimes for ...

05/24/2013 When the Teachers Are the Mean Girls
Dear Annie: My daughter has a master's degree in education and spent three years as a nanny when she was an undergraduate. She recently began her first teaching job with second-grade children. The principal is terrific. However, there is an ...

05/23/2013 Living at Home, Always with Him
Dear Annie: I have three wonderful young adult children. The oldest two girls both recently graduated from college and are living at home, working and saving money. The girls were not particularly interested in dating until recently. Our oldest ...

05/22/2013 Great Kids Despite Parents
Dear Annie: My wife and I are caught up in our son's dysfunctional marriage. "Martin" and his wife have three children together, and he has an older child from a previous marriage. All of the children are wonderful. They do well in school. ...

05/21/2013 Is Masturbating Cheating?
Dear Annie: I feel betrayed by my husband, and he doesn't seem to see the problem. We have been married for 40 years. "Victor" always had a wandering eye and a problem being faithful. For whatever reason, I was never enough for him. ...

05/20/2013 Be Honest About Dad, Celebrate Heritage
Dear Annie: I realize that you ladies are not psychologists, but I value your opinion, so I hope you (and your readers) can help me. My darling 4-year-old grandson looks 99 percent Caucasian, but he is actually 50 percent African-American. His ...

05/19/2013 Addicted, Depressed, Lazy, Suicidal?
Dear Annie: My 22-year-old son, "Nick," spends most of his time playing video games. He was fired from several jobs last year because he stopped showing up. We had no idea. We finally kicked him out. It was the hardest decision of my ...

05/18/2013 Gone Fishin'
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Ned" for 25 years, and each year it seems to get worse. When we married, he told me I could do whatever I wanted with the house, but he never said I'd be the one paying. The house was barely furnished, the ...

05/17/2013 Tatted School Officials: Authority or Anarchy?
Dear Annie: The principal of the school where I teach has some big tattoos on her neck. She says they are Chinese symbols for "good fortune." I think they look trashy. I don't mind tattoos, but I don't think large markings on one's hands and ...

05/16/2013 Antisocial at the Dog Park
Dear Annie: I have an 8-month-old puppy, and I take her to a local dog park so she can run off leash and play with the other dogs, which she loves. In the three months I have been taking her, "Phoebe" has never been attacked or fought with ...

05/15/2013 Bullied by a Texas Ex's Girlfriend
Dear Annie: I am finally divorced. My ex and I have a minor child together. He has met my new partner, and they get along great while at our son's sporting events. I thought it would be healthy for our son to see us as friends. I also thought ...

05/14/2013 Lopsided Open Marriage
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for 15 years and recently decided to try an open-marriage lifestyle. We are doing this with full honesty and respect for each other. The main problem is that the dating success is not ...

05/13/2013 Who's Not Following Up on Child Abuse Reports?
Dear Annie: I am a single mom of a 4-year-old boy who is being abused by my ex-husband and his wife. After a visit, he comes home bruised and scratched with black eyes. He has had scabies more than a dozen times. The worst thing is that my son was ...

05/12/2013 Happy Mother's Day
Dear Readers: Happy Mother's Day. Please phone your mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, stepmother or foster mother and wish them the best. And our special good wishes to all the new mommies who are celebrating their very first Mother's Day. Also, ...

05/11/2013 Thank You, Mom and Dad
Dear Annie: I am writing a long overdue thank-you note to my parents. They are faithful readers of your column. Mom and Dad, I am thankful that: You stood your ground and did not give in to me, even when I threw fits and demanded my way. <...

05/10/2013 Little Girl Fears Food and Mom
Dear Annie: I'm concerned about my sister's parenting style. "Sara" just went through a nasty divorce, so we let her move into a house we own next door, thinking it would help to have family close by. Sara's kids spend a great deal ...

05/09/2013 Step Up to the Installment Plan To Keep the Peace
Dear Annie: My husband is the youngest of seven siblings. While they are all successful, some are more financially comfortable than others. Five years ago, the oldest sibling wanted to give their mother an 80th birthday party. She planned a ...

05/08/2013 Parenting as Mushy as the Mashed Potatoes
Dear Annie: My grandfather passed away last month, and the wake was catered by a close friend of the family who owns a restaurant. He closed off a section of his dining hall for our family. The meal included 15 children under the age of 10, ...

05/07/2013 Spilling the Boss's Beans Backfires
Dear Annie: My husband works at a private college. His male boss had an affair with one of the female directors under him. My husband and his assistant found out about it and, after much deliberation, brought it to the attention of the human resources ...

05/06/2013 Little Boys Run Wild and Don't Listen -- Cue Discipline
Dear Annie: I'm a 20-year-old woman in love with a 25-year-old divorced man who has a 4-year-old son, "Mikey." Lately, Mikey's mother has been letting us have the child more often because she has to go out of state on business. The ...

05/05/2013 Personality Change in the Wake of Divorce
Dear Annie: My brother was divorced more than a year ago. Of course, it was extremely difficult for his family, but slowly, life is moving forward. My mother is the one who is not getting over it. In the past year, she has grown into one of ...

05/04/2013 Dementia Dad Needs Reassurance
Dear Annie: I am a 57-year-old man with no siblings, and my mother is deceased. My 82-year-old father is physically healthy, but he's in the early stages of dementia. He has a few hobbies to keep him busy, but for some reason, he has become obsessed ...

05/03/2013 Marital Foul: Forcing an Impossible Choice
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a blended family with his two girls and my three sons. I am so grateful that we both took on this challenge. We had some good times, and we had some bad times, and when I say bad, I mean horrible. Our children ...

05/02/2013 Romanticizing the Ex
Dear Annie: I'm in my 40s and have been married for 20 years. We have two children. Our marriage has been OK but not totally fulfilling. For the past five years, I have been in contact with my ex-fiancee. I have thought about getting divorced ...

05/01/2013 Morning Paper Routine
Dear Annie: Recently, my wife and I stayed for four days at the home of one of her school chums. The gals yakked until late at night, so I was the first one up every morning. I'm an early riser anyway. I like reading the newspaper with my ...

04/30/2013 Help for Failure To Launch
Dear Annie: My boyfriend, "Jarrod," has always been very anxious about social situations and has a hard time making friends. Since graduating from high school, he's lost touch with the few people he considered friends and has become very ...

04/29/2013 Unchecked Paranoia Unsafe?
Dear Annie: What should I say to my sister when she makes outrageous claims? For example, she believes the government is spraying poison into the skies and dropping ticks to kill us. She has a huge supply of plastic coffins ready to put our corpses ...

04/28/2013 Better Role Modeling All Around
Dear Annie: I am currently in school and working four different jobs. I am also the mother of three children. My husband is very selfish. He doesn't think twice about sending our children to a sitter so he can go out to do whatever he wants. When I'm ...

04/27/2013 Kissing Cousins Not a Crisis
Dear Annie: Since my husband discovered that his parents are first cousins, he's been having an emotional crisis that I can't help him with. I was the one who uncovered the secret when I was doing research for a genealogy study to be presented as a ...

04/26/2013 Cheater No. 2
Dear Annie: A close friend of mine is a successful professional woman who went through a painful divorce several years ago when her husband was unfaithful. "Diane" swore off dating for a long time. A year ago, Diane began seeing a ...

04/25/2013 Guarding Against Early Eating Disorder
Dear Annie: My 4-year-old granddaughter, "Jill," visited recently and declared, "My mommy told me to watch what I eat because she doesn't want me get heavy." Jill is certainly not heavy, and I was appalled that she was being told ...

04/24/2013 Dwelling on the Zit
Dear Annie: When I was 11 years old, I made an insulting remark to one of my older sister's teenage friends, teasing her about her acne. The next day, my mother loudly confronted me about it, and my grandmother and sister joined in. For the next ...

04/23/2013 Global Youth Service Day
Dear Annie: Did you know that an estimated 16 million youth participate in volunteer activities in the U.S. every year, and that by volunteering, these young people will perform better in school? These amazing kids do everything from collecting ...

04/22/2013 Backstabbing Friends with Influence
Dear Annie: My friend "Nina" just broke up with her boyfriend of five years. We are here for her, trying to help in any way we can, even though we think she is out of her mind for doing this. One of our friends has been telling Nina ...

04/21/2013 Dealing with Bipolar Disease
Dear Annie: Our 31-year-old son is bipolar. We did not realize how severe it was until a few years ago. He is a bright, gentle and articulate college graduate who can also be mean, self-centered and highly opinionated. When he takes his medication, he ...

04/20/2013 Don't Count on Molding Mr. Right
Dear Annie: I'm a 70-year-old woman, still attractive and athletic. I have been dating "Sam," age 74, for nearly three years. When we met online, I clearly stated that I wanted to get married in the near future and that I had three cats and ...

04/19/2013 Steroids Fueling Angry Criticism?
Dear Annie: I have grown children from my first marriage. I now have a 7-year-old son from my second marriage, and we are home-schooling him. My older children, who all attended public school, aren't terribly keen on this. One of them, "...

04/18/2013 Mom Likes Her Maladies
Dear Annie: My husband's parents are in their mid-70s. They are both in good health and financially stable. The problem is, my mother-in-law has a bit of hypochondria along with some anxiety. She has self-diagnosed herself with many "syndromes&...

04/17/2013 Campaigning for Tobacco-Free Kids
Dear Annie: We are the future. It may sound cheesy, but that's the motto I live by, and it's one of the reasons I believe so strongly in the need to prevent and reduce tobacco use among teens and kids. My passion for tobacco-use prevention started ...

04/16/2013 Cutting Off the Dysfunction
Dear Annie: I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family. I have an older sibling who has hated the rest of us for the past 45 years. Family gatherings are extremely uncomfortable events. Inappropriate barbs lead to physical fights, young children ...

04/15/2013 Hey, Little Missy, You're Losing It -- and Them
Dear Annie: I have been friends with "Missy" for a long time. She hates her husband's sister and hasn't allowed them to speak to each other for years. The sister is not allowed to come anywhere near Missy's house. Last year, things got worse....

04/14/2013 Doesn't Want To Fit In, Doesn't Want To Be Left Out
Dear Annie: I'm a sophomore in high school. I never had much social stability as a child because my family moved around a lot and I was often in a different school every semester. I've always been that pretty girl who becomes an outcast as soon as she ...

04/13/2013 Dead at 17
Dear Annie: My 17-year-old son has his beginner's driver permit and thinks he knows it all. If I mention something he did wrong behind the wheel, I'm being "mean." I can't seem to get through to him the dangers that can happen in a split ...

04/12/2013 Child Protective Services, Anonymously
Dear Annie: My sister, "Suzie," has always been a bit of a flower child, and my parents think it's funny. Suzie dropped out of high school to pursue her "career" in something — art, music, dance, yoga, whatever. I usually ...

04/11/2013 Cleaning the Office Frat-House Style
Dear Annie: I work for a small family-owned company, and there are fewer than 10 employees. There is no office cleaning service. For years, one of the employees has been compensated for cleaning the building after hours. This person was recently ...

04/10/2013 Blame It on the Plumber
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Dennis" for eight years. Early on, Dennis couldn't do enough for me. Now, if my car won't start, he yells at me and says to call a tow truck. If I ask him to spend time with me, he always has other things ...

04/09/2013 Secondhand Drinking
Dear Annie: I wanted to share a bit of what it's like to be the family member of a person who drinks too much. I know. I had more than 40 years of experience by the time I finally sought answers. I studied brain- and addiction-related research to ...

04/08/2013 Love Stuck
Dear Annie: I am a 44-year-old guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. I met "Lisa" two years ago. I was fresh out of a divorce. Lisa was in terrible shape. Her mother had just died, and shortly after, she lost her fiance in a traffic ...

04/07/2013 Every Parent's Nightmare
Dear Annie: My 17-year-old daughter, "Kylie," has had behavioral problems since she was 14. I am a single mother. I work full time and also have two sons, one of whom lives with his dad. Kylie was in a hospital for three months for various ...

04/06/2013 Grieving Grandpa Amid the Ruins
Dear Annie: I've always had a problem with my mother and sister. When I was a child, I often stayed with my grandfather. I loved this man fiercely. He died recently, and the last 10 years of his life were terrible. My mother and aunts rescinded his ...

04/05/2013 Nine Months In and Under Wraps
Dear Annie: I've been a widow for 15 years. I moved to another state to be with my kids and met "Jerry." We've been dating for nine months. Jerry has been divorced for two years and has two adult children. His ex-wife was his ...

04/04/2013 Friends Behaving Rudely
Dear Annie: Recently, I invited my best friend, "Evan," and his family of four to join my family at a popular out-of-state theme park. Our children are similar ages, and we have always gotten along well even though we live in different ...

04/03/2013 Visits with Dad Warrant Undivided Attention
Dear Annie: I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We both have children from our previous relationships and share custody with our exes. Until recently, we had our kids on the same weekends. Then my boyfriend's ex decided that her children ...

04/02/2013 PTSD in the Wake of Iraq
Dear Annie: My father, my brothers and I all served during Operation Iraqi Freedom. Only my father and I deployed to combat areas. Dad retired five years ago and is showing drastic symptoms of PTSD. He is stockpiling food and medical supplies ...

04/01/2013 Threatened by a Child
Dear Annie: I am an elementary school teacher. This year I have two 7-year-old students with major behavior issues. Both of them have threatened to bring a gun to school and shoot me and their classmates. As shocking as it is to hear this from such ...

03/31/2013 Greeting Mental Illness with Compassion and Common Sense
Dear Annie: I took a job at a local bookstore after my position as a special ed teacher was downsized. Now I have a "special ed" problem at work. A woman comes in here once a week with her son, a mentally challenged adult. The son is ...

03/30/2013 Lethargic Chain-Smoking Gambler Not Just 'Quirky'
Dear Annie: I'm in love with a wonderful man who has a couple of habits I can't seem to get past no matter how often I tell myself they aren't important. My partner is 47, smokes heavily, does not exercise and spends a good part of each day ...

03/29/2013 The Other Woman Not Sitting Right with The Other Man
Dear Annie: I'm a gay man and have been with my boyfriend for four years. I know he's bisexual, but I guess I didn't understand. He told me recently that he wants to have a girlfriend in addition to seeing me. I understand the logic, but I don't like ...

03/28/2013 Mom's Making a Mountain Out of a Martha
Dear Annie: I have a wonderful husband and a problem that started when we married last year. We had a destination wedding. My husband's stepfather paid for the immediate family to stay at a beautiful rental house. My brother's ex, "Martha,&...

03/27/2013 'I Feel Ya' Not the Language of Love
Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful guy who has a daughter by his ex-girlfriend. I have not yet met my stepdaughter. Her mother has full custody and won't allow my husband access. I am older than my husband by three years. I want to have a ...

03/26/2013 His Most Familiar, Her Least Favorite
Dear Annie: When I married three years ago, my hubby and I were best friends. Then his mother moved to town, and everything went downhill. My in-laws disrespected and trashed my rental home. I was hurt that they would do this, because I was ...

03/25/2013 Focus on the Friendship
Dear Annie: One of my best friends is a lesbian and has feelings for me. I found this out a few years ago and communicated to her several times in a nice way that I am not gay, but she says she cannot change the way she feels. It was an ...

03/24/2013 The Kids Might Not Be All Right
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Ashley," is divorced and has four children. She has had numerous volatile boyfriends. The last guy sliced the tires on her car. Ashley says I need to mind my own business, so I have been quiet about her poor ...

03/23/2013 Wife Wants to Leave Depressed, Ailing Husband
Dear Annie: I've been married for 36 years. The first 20 were loving, but the past 16 have deteriorated to the point of despair. My husband, "John," is now 68. Though once athletic and active, John is now frail and weak. He complains ...

03/22/2013 Misguided Parents Favoring Troubled Daughter
Dear Annie: I grew up with a sister who had substance abuse problems. While I studied hard, "Carla" dropped out of school and led a life of partying. My parents always made sure she was well provided for. Every time they gave her something ...

03/21/2013 Meddling Parents Don't Respect Boundaries
Dear Annie: Many years ago, my wife and I lived near my parents. After three years of putting up with their too frequent and always unannounced visits, we moved slightly farther away. My Dad is the worst offender. Mom caters to his every whim. Dad is ...

03/20/2013 Mom Doesn't Value Daughter's Health?
Dear Annie: I am a teenager in the northwest. Recently, I contracted a kidney infection that was painful and needed treatment. I didn't know what I had and wasn't familiar with the symptoms, so the only thing I said to my parents was that I didn't ...

03/19/2013 Don't Force a Child to Hug Relatives
Dear Annie: I have a question about forced touching. Let's say an 8-year-old doesn't want to hug her uncle or give Grandma a kiss. Do you force the kid to do it? Do you badger, threaten and make a fuss? I'm wondering about this because if you ...

03/18/2013 Twentysomething Co-worker Can't Complete Simple Tasks
Dear Annie: I am 55 years old and have worked at my job for 25 years. A couple of years ago, the company hired a 26-year-old guy. I have been patient, but I am reaching the end of my rope. "Justin" cannot remember what was said the ...

03/17/2013 Son of Divorced Parents Is Holding a Grudge
Dear Annie: My 27-year-old son, "Scott," is married with one child. Twelve years ago, Scott's mother and I divorced, and I think he is still angry about it. My ex-wife and I have both remarried, but Scott wants little to do with either of us....

03/16/2013 Solitude Saboteurs
Dear Annie: I desperately need your help. I thoroughly love my solitude. I love to garden, cook, sew and read. I grill every few weeks and make it a fantastic outdoor experience just for me. I could hardly wait to retire so I could finally ...

03/15/2013 Coming Out to the Conservative Christian Family
Dear Annie: My family is very conservative, and they are rather religious Christians. For the past seven years, I have known that I am gay. I tried dating boys to please my parents, but it just didn't feel right. During my senior year of high school, ...

03/14/2013 Controlling the Money Is Controlling
Dear Annie: What do you do when your husband controls the money? I'm 68 years old, and for the past 10 years, "Robert" has paid the bills and has hidden the checkbook from me. Robert told me I need to pay my own bills. He has a ...

03/13/2013 Put the Fizzle on the Freeloading
Dear Annie: I don't know how much longer I can handle my daughter and her family living in our home. Five years ago, they came here intending to stay "a few months." My husband is ill, and he is extremely uncomfortable having no ...

03/12/2013 Poking His Way Into Dangerous Territory
Dear Annie: My husband, "Clark," and I have been married for 47 years. We both have Facebook accounts. A year ago, Clark became friends with "Toni," an ex-girlfriend from his late-teen years. I am my husband's third wife. Toni has ...

03/11/2013 Hoard Your Own Cars
Dear Annie: My husband hoards cars and is too lazy to fix them. Now he is lying about money, saying, "Oh, this is set aside to fix the cars." But I know he is frittering it away and wasting his time. He always has excuses about why he can't ...

03/10/2013 Lovers Block
Dear Annie: I am unable to develop feelings of love for my husband of eight years. In fact, deep inside, I despise him. This is my second marriage, his fourth. In our early years together, I began to notice obvious signs of his having an ...

03/09/2013 Avoiding Hospital Readmissions
Dear Annie: As a geriatrician, I know how thrilled patients are when they are released from the hospital and how upsetting it is to be readmitted a few weeks, or even just days, later. One in five older patients is readmitted to the hospital ...

03/08/2013 Unstructured Wife Spoiling Kids?
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I married my best friend. I've been with her for 10 years. She has two teenage children from a previous marriage. When we all moved in together nine years ago, there were a few struggles, but I felt they were not unusual and ...

03/07/2013 Wife Needs to Get a Better Job
Dear Annie: Money is a constant issue in our house. I need my wife to quit her part-time job at a superstore and find one with a better salary. She knows this. But every time I bring it up, she gets angry and defensive and says that I am calling her ...

03/06/2013 Middle-aged Boyfriend Still Relies on Parents
Dear Annie: My boyfriend's parents are truly wonderful people, but they have taught their son to rely solely on them. He is in his 50s, and they still pay his bills and give him loans, often for "toys" rather than something necessary. I am ...

03/05/2013 'Perfect Angel' Wants to Defy Parents, Date
Dear Annie: I'm a junior in high school. I thought everything would happen this year — the great friends, the boyfriend, etc. On all of the TV shows, the juniors are having boys over, getting drunk, going on dates, having sex and so much more. I ...

03/04/2013 Divorce Pushes Mom off the Deep End
Dear Annie: I'm 18, and my parents recently went through a messy divorce. First my mom moved out. Then my dad moved out a month later because Mom didn't want him living in our house. She wanted to move back in. I have an older sister and a ...

03/03/2013 Grandmother Wants More Time With Grandkids
Dear Annie: My daughter just gave birth to our first grandson. The problem is, she and her husband plan to take the baby to his parents' house for babysitting, even though I offered. We both live nearby. I'd love to watch him at least one or two days ...

03/02/2013 Kvetching Cousins
Dear Annie: I am 60 years old and have a cousin the same age. "Kevin's" conversations are sexist, racist, immature and extremely self-centered. He mocks people who recycle and told me helping others is "a waste of time." His takes ...

03/01/2013 March Is National Kidney Month
Dear Annie: I was just 18 years old when a routine doctor's visit exposed off-the-chart high blood pressure and landed me in the emergency room. As a carefree teen in my first year of college, I felt healthy and assumed it couldn't possibly be ...

02/28/2013 Twenty Years of Hookers Takes Its Toll on a Marriage
Dear Annie: I recently obtained proof of what I had long suspected: My husband of more than 40 years has been seeing prostitutes and having affairs for the past 20 years. During this time, he was always considerate and loving to me. I thought we had a ...

02/27/2013 Overwhelmed Grandma Needs Alternative to Foster Care
Dear Annie: My daughter is a drug addict who is in and out of jail. Over the past 14 years, we have taken custody of her four children. Two of the kids are great. However, the other two are the problem. The oldest girl just turned 18 and moved ...

02/26/2013 The Post-Breakup Fake Out
Dear Annie: I am a 21-year-old female, quite independent, happy and full of life. Last year I started dating "Luke," age 26. We hit it off great, and I fell in love. But two months ago, something changed. Luke recently started a new ...

02/25/2013 Classic Verbal Abuser: Stirs When Shaken
Dear Annie: My husband criticizes me all the time. He also says the nastiest, most hurtful things when we argue. I have been called a slut and a troublemaker and threatened about almost everything. I don't believe he feels bad about the way he treats ...

02/24/2013 Gramma Blitzkrieg
Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on something. I am a grandmother of four wonderful grandkids and very proud of the fact. The problem comes when dealing with the other grandmother, especially when others are in the vicinity. I don't know whether ...

02/23/2013 Jealous Mom Blind to Her Many Blessings
Dear Annie: I always felt that my mother and I were inseparable. I never thought I would be blessed to marry a wonderful man and that it would damage our relationship, but it did. My mom has had a great influence on my life for 32 years, but ...

02/22/2013 Long-Estranged Mother Wants Her Daughter Back
Dear Annie: My daughter hasn't spoken to me in 20 years. "Linda" is 45 years old and has been married since around 1993. I wasn't invited to her wedding, so I am not sure. I think she received a master's degree, but I wasn't invited to her ...

02/21/2013 The Leaving-for-College Breakup Question
Dear Annie: I am a senior in high school. I have been dating "Brianna" for 10 months. She graduated last year and attended a community college, but really had no ambition or motivation to be there. We spent last summer together, and I ...

02/20/2013 Paraphernalia in Plain Sight Probably Cause for Trust Issues
Dear Annie: I am a 19-year-old heroin addict striving toward recovery. I go to five Narcotics Anonymous meetings a week, but I have occasional setbacks. After the most recent incident, I left drug paraphernalia in the bathroom. I took full ...

02/19/2013 Drag that Hug from Behind Out of the Closet
Dear Annie: Several years ago, I stayed with my aunt and uncle for a week. My aunt sent me down to the basement to tell my uncle to come upstairs for dinner. When I turned the corner, I caught him pulling up his pants in front of the computer screen. ...

02/18/2013 Don't Be Shy About Dangerous Drinking
Dear Annie: Our daughter, "Mattie," is 42 years old. She has been married for 10 years and has two school-age children. Due to her husband's work transfers, Mattie twice was left alone with the children for several months while she tried to ...

02/17/2013 Stuck on a Liar
Dear Annie: I have been in love with "Cliff" for four years. We bought a home together two years ago, but soon after, he became unemployed, angry and spiteful. I tried to tough it out, believing it would eventually get better, but when Cliff ...

02/16/2013 The Domino Effects of a Nasty Divorce
Dear Annie: My parents and brother live in another state. A few years ago, my brother went through a nasty divorce. He and my 11-year-old niece, "Jenny," are still estranged from the ex-wife. The issue is how my mother is reacting to ...

02/15/2013 Could Compatibility Be Enough?
Dear Annie: My wife and I are having marital problems. Our issues started when I caught her lying to me and talking privately on the phone to my best friend of 12 years — the same guy who was the best man at my wedding. After arguing for a few ...

02/14/2013 Valentines for Vets
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, along with our special good wishes to the veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our particular thanks to those readers who have taken the time to send valentines, visit the vets and ...

02/13/2013 Celebrating Anna, Again and Again
Dear Annie: My brother, "Jay," and his wife have an adopted daughter, "Anna," who is now 3 years old. We adore her. Jay and I recently got into an argument. He said they were angry that we didn't call Anna on her birthday. I ...

02/12/2013 Second-Chair Husband
Dear Annie: Twenty years ago, my wife had an affair with a co-worker. It ended when he moved back to his home state 2,000 miles away. At the time, I asked my wife to go to counseling with me. We made it to one session before she pronounced our ...

02/11/2013 Time To Take Their Own Two Feet Out for a Spin
Dear Annie: When I married "Joe" three years ago, I moved into his home with my preteen daughter. Joe has two older children and a teenage son. I agreed that the youngest son would stay with us during the week and live at his mother's on the ...

02/10/2013 No Gifts from Her Abuser
Dear Annie: I am 39 years old. For the past 20 years, I have had ongoing therapy to recover from the sexual abuse I suffered as a child. My abuser was my half-brother. When I finally said something at the age of 13, my family did not believe or ...

02/09/2013 The Maid
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Tired in Rural Oregon," whose kids are slobs and whose husband doesn't care. I told my kids if they didn't pick up their messes, I would hire a "maid." One day, they came home to a clean, ...

02/08/2013 Finding Compassion After Suicide
Dear Annie: I lost my beautiful daughter to suicide six months ago. A strong and able firefighter, she was also extremely active in her community. Naturally, I leaned on my mother for consolation, but I didn't find it. Instead, my mother was ...

02/07/2013 Take Suicide Talk Seriously
Dear Annie: I'm a teenager, and my friend told me he's having suicidal thoughts. His dad is really hard on him, and I suspect he's verbally abusive, as well. He made me promise never to tell anyone and said he wouldn't actually go through with ...

02/06/2013 Little Brother Lost
Dear Annie: I'm a mother in my mid-20s and a very concerned sister. My brother, "Dennis," is four years younger and the first to graduate high school. He went to college and had everything going for him. Now he is throwing it all away. <...

02/05/2013 Who Gave Who What?
Dear Annie: After two months, I am still upset with my father-in-law. My two daughters recently married, and the weddings were six weeks apart. My in-laws gave us a nice sum of money to help us with the weddings. We were very grateful and told them so....

02/04/2013 Untying the Common Law Knot
Dear Annie: I have been with "John" for more than 10 years. We have children together. I have reached the point in my life that I wish to be married. I never wanted to be a girlfriend forever, and he knew this from the beginning. John ...

02/03/2013 What's Weighing Dad Down
Dear Annie: My family wants to move to another state. The only reason we haven't is because of my dad's job. He has worked for the same company for 18 years and doesn't want to lose his retirement benefits. I understand how important the job is, but ...

02/02/2013 Too Young To Be So Useless
Dear Annie: I am married to an absolute angel. Unfortunately, her mother has been living with us for the past two years. Mom doesn't work, doesn't do much of anything around the house, doesn't cook or clean, and sleeps until nearly noon. We have to ...

02/01/2013 Rotating Dinner Gone Horribly Awry
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my son's fiancee recommended we rotate who hosts Christmas dinner. That year, she and my son went to her mom's house, and last year they were supposed to come to mine. Instead, they went to her mom's again and were upset ...

01/31/2013 How Do You Approach What Seems To Be a Ticking Time Bomb?
Dear Annie: With the recent events that have occurred across the country involving mass killings, this has prompted me to ask a question. What do you do if you know someone you think could end up in the news involved in a mass killing? What do you do ...

01/30/2013 Money and Kids
Dear Annie: I've been with a wonderful guy for five years. After two abusive marriages, I am finally being treated right. "Bud" and I have only two issues: money and kids. We have broken up a few times over our problems, but honestly, I can'...

01/29/2013 Both Life and Bonuses Can Be Unfair
Dear Annie: I am an associate in a law firm with two offices. Each office has three associate attorneys and is managed by a partner. During my first year, I was the only associate in my office, and I received a Christmas bonus. The second year,...

01/28/2013 The More Parents Accept The More Kids Push
Dear Annie: Normally I'm good at minding my own business, but when I see how my granddaughter, "Susie," manipulates her mother (my daughter), I feel the urge to say something. Susie is almost 12 and seems to be testing the limits in ...

01/27/2013 National Salute To Veteran Patients
Dear Annie: I am honored to see citizens and patriots step forward to honor and support one of our nation's greatest assets, the American veteran. Helping those who have given their mind, body and spirit in defense of our nation is woven into the ...

01/26/2013 Good News for Struggling Grandparents
Dear Annie: I would like to reply to "Arizona Grandparents," whose daughter won't allow them to see their grandchild. They asked whether it will ever get better. My granddaughter was 6 when my son and his wife divorced and I was no ...

01/25/2013 Keeping Kosher Despite Her Friends
Dear Annie: I am in the process of converting to Judaism. Among other things, this involves eating only kosher food. Initially, it was difficult, but I know that doing this brings me closer to understanding more of my new religion. My problem ...

01/24/2013 Midlife Crisis Threatens Marriage
Dear Annie: After 44 years of marriage, I can no longer trust my husband. "Steve" reconnected with a high school flame, and the end result was late-night emails, texts and calls. He even bought throwaway phones so they could stay in touch ...

01/23/2013 Dreading the Shock of Home
Dear Annie: I've been studying abroad in Rome for the past three months. I head back to America in a few weeks. I can honestly say I haven't missed being home. I've absolutely loved my stay in Europe. I feel safe and happy. The one thing I'm ...

01/22/2013 Good Old-Fashioned Hostile Hospitality
Dear Annie: My 20-something children attend school in other cities. On occasion, they have asked to bring their current boyfriend or girlfriend home for a visit to meet the family. The friend then stays in a separate room for a night or two. ...

01/21/2013 The Right Age for a Firm Grip on the Birds and the Bees
Dear Annie: I have an 11-year-old daughter, and I feel she may know more about the "birds and bees" than she should because of what she sees on TV and hears on the radio. It seems that every time I turn on the radio, we hear a song ...

01/20/2013 This Reconnection Will Require an Acknowledgment
Dear Annie: My problem is my relationship with my daughter, "Carolyn." It started 10 years ago when she went to visit her grandparents in another state. My parents and I haven't had a close relationship since I was in my 20s. I am now 57....

01/19/2013 Hoping He's Not Gay
Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and afraid that my brother is gay. "James" recently made a new friend at work who is gay. He has been going to the library with this new friend and spending the entire day there doing homework. James ...

01/18/2013 Negative Nancy
Dear Annie: My parents have been divorced for 30 years. Both made mistakes when they were married, but the end was due to my mom's drinking. Dad provided for me and now takes an active role in his grandchildren's lives, always making an effort to show ...

01/17/2013 Friendly With the Ex
Dear Annie: I am a senior in high school. My boyfriend broke up with me a month after he went off to college. We had been together for nine months, and I was devastated. He was my first real boyfriend. He treated me well and cried when we broke up. He ...

01/16/2013 I Don't Trust Him
Dear Annie: I have been married for six months and am crazy for my hubby. He has back problems and some sexual issues that keep us from being intimate. At least, those are the excuses he uses for the fact that we don't touch like we used to. I ...

01/15/2013 Paranoid Hubby
Dear Annie: I used to travel a fair amount for my job. These trips included lunches and dinners with my co-workers, sometimes in groups, sometimes not. At no time did I ever have the faintest interest in having an affair. But my husband thinks ...

01/14/2013 Living With Slobs
Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl, and I love reading your column. I hope you can help me. My uncle "Ted" got a divorce and had to sell his house. My family was happy to let him stay with us until he found a new home. That was two years ...

01/13/2013 Alcohol Changes Him
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Bart" for 21 years. I knew he had issues with alcohol. He has a pattern of getting sober for a few years and then relapsing over and over. He is truly a wonderful guy, but when he drinks, he's like a ...

01/12/2013 Mom and Daughter: Double Trouble
Dear Annie: Our daughter is going down a bad road, and our 13-year-old granddaughter, "Lana," is in the driver's seat. Lana has been diagnosed with ADHD, but since we live in another state, we have no way of knowing whether she's ...

01/11/2013 Feeling Guilty About Mr. Good Times
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently moved to the city where my husband's family lives. One of his brothers has been married for two years. (It's his third wife.) "Pete" is a likable guy who often arranges fun activities. Pete moved ...

01/10/2013 Emotional Affairs Taking Their Toll
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I caught my husband having an emotional affair with a friend of ours. Even though we went through counseling and he told me he was no longer in contact with her, he lied. He continued to lie for almost a year, even during ...

01/09/2013 Still OK To Cuddle with Mom at 13
Dear Annie: I am a 56-year-old male dating a woman with a 13-year-old son. We plan to marry in the near future. The boy has no relationship with his father and is very fond of me, as I am of him. The problem is that he's a mama's boy. I think ...

01/08/2013 Help Bio Mom See Contact in a Positive Light
Dear Annie: I am a 50-year-old adoptee. About 10 years ago, I was finally able to locate my biological mother. It took me months to work up the nerve to phone her, and the call was a nightmare. Her first words were, "How did you find me? ...

01/07/2013 Out of Love with the In-Laws
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Barry" for 20 years. Even though we live several hours from his mother, she controls many of our family's decisions. My mother-in-law is our only living parent. I have tried many times to please ...

01/06/2013 Holding All the Cards with the Kids
Dear Annie: My ex-husband and I have been divorced for three years. It was his idea. He cheated on me with several women. His family, however, was extremely cruel, calling me all kinds of names and telling me I was a terrible mother and the ...

01/05/2013 Traveling, or Not, with the Kids
Dear Annie: I am a divorced father of two teenagers. Their mother and I have maintained a good relationship when it comes to raising the children. However, an issue has now come up. Since my divorce, I have enjoyed international travel to the ...

01/04/2013 Don't Even Try To Please Negative Nina
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Nina," is my husband's only sibling. She is divorced with grown children. Nina appears to be sweet to most people, but she can get pretty ugly, especially when she drinks. She has ruined more than one ...

01/03/2013 All in the Family, Please
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old adoptee. My grandparents raised me from 6 months old and officially adopted me when I was 10. They have three sons — my biological father and his two brothers. This is where the problem lies. My "...

01/02/2013 Depressed and Off Her Meds
Dear Annie: I was diagnosed with depression more than 20 years ago. When I was in high school, I was hospitalized for close to a year. Because money and insurance have been sporadic, I have been on and off of medication. Plus, once I get on a good ...

01/01/2013 Honoring a New Year
Dear Readers: Happy New Year. We hope 2013 will be the best year ever for each and every one of you. May you be blessed with good health, close family, kind friends, love and laughter. We hope you will make this the year you vow to be kinder and more ...

12/31/2012 Make Peace with the Line in the Sand
Dear Annie: My husband and I lived with a very dysfunctional situation for several years. His children from a prior marriage were encouraged by their mother to tell falsehoods about our home life. She was planning to leave the state and needed full ...

12/30/2012 Beware Friendship Dictators
Dear Annie: I have been friends with "Jon" for seven years. For three of those, we dated and lived together. In the end, we decided we didn't work as a couple and decided to remain friends. Jon is rather arrogant, and even though he has ...

12/29/2012 Nagging Is Part of Parenting
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 23 years, and we have two teenage daughters. Our biggest issue is disciplining the kids. I think they should do more household chores. My husband agrees in theory, but does nothing to hold them ...

12/28/2012 When Are You Due No More
Dear Annie: I am a fortunate mother of four beautiful little girls, all under the age of 8. While I am not overweight, I could be in better shape. How do I handle strangers and distant acquaintances who approach me and ask me when my baby is ...

12/27/2012 Caregiver Works Too Hard To Find a Job
Dear Annie: My friend "Rachel" is very dear to me. We've been best friends since the 11th grade. Now that we've entered the adult world, however, she's encountered some difficult situations. She had a drug problem, has always had family ...

12/26/2012 Relationships and the Law
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Stan" for five years. We are both in our 60s. When we started dating, I was absolutely certain that I did not want to get married. But Stan and I have been through so much these past few years with various ...

12/25/2012 Prices Up for True Loves
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. We hope those who are celebrating this holiday are fortunate enough to enjoy it with family and friends. A few years ago, we printed a prayer that a reader sent in, author unknown. Since then, we've received several ...

12/24/2012 Quality Audio or Bust
Dear Annie: On behalf of the approximately 40 million deaf and hearing impaired in the United States and Canada, especially those who wear hearing aids, would you pass this message to the TV stations? I love watching TV: sitcoms, news, dramas, ...

12/23/2012 Good School-Life Balance Teaches Good Work-Life Balance
Dear Annie: How can I deal with the demands of being a high school senior? I am overwhelmed. Between homework, my job, a social life, sports and family time, there are not enough hours in the day. All of these things are important to me, but I ...

12/22/2012 Blinded By No-See-Ums
Dear Annie: I want to reply to "Twice Bitten," who is being bitten by tiny bugs. I had the same problem. After several visits to the dermatologist and tests with no diagnosis, I tried lavender soap and lotion. Bugs do not like the smell of ...

12/21/2012 Living with Lupus
Dear Annie: I'm 27 and have lupus, a chronic autoimmune disease. My condition is usually under control, and I live a normal life. The problem is, I'm very sensitive to perfume, air fresheners and cigarette smoke, and with my medications, I can't drink ...

12/20/2012 May-December Mentoring
Dear Annie: My 50-something male cousin has brought a 20-something female cousin to live with him. He calls it "mentoring." The poor girl is learning disabled. They are the only two people living in the house, and the arrangement has ...

12/19/2012 Cancellation Consternation
Dear Annie: Back in May, our son and his wife invited us to a concert at the end of December to celebrate my husband's milestone birthday. They said it would be their treat, and we all agreed it would be a fun evening. Over the next few months,...

12/18/2012 Don't Diss the Drawal
Dear Annie: For the past 18 months, I've been dating a woman who resides two states south. We are planning on her moving north to live with me. My problem is her thick southern accent. "Beth" habitually holds the last word of a ...

12/17/2012 Grown Man Flailing
Dear Annie: I have been close friends with "Luke" for more than a year. We have a strong bond, but it's strictly platonic. However, all that changed when he started dating "Lacey," who, at age 20, is 10 years younger than Luke. ...

12/16/2012 Always a Volunteer, Never a Host
Dear Annie: Each year, I dread Christmas Eve, which is too bad because it used to be such a special night for me. My husband's two siblings take turns having Christmas Eve dinner at their homes. They always throw it in my face that I never ...

12/15/2012 'Your Husband' Hits a Nerve
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Your Husband," who wrote an open letter to his wife explaining how her unwillingness to have sex justified his affair. He was obviously pouring his heart out. I am a 54-year-old woman on hormone ...

12/14/2012 Academic Loves Working-Class Joe ... in Theory
Dear Annie: I'm a 54-year-old single woman and a part-time college professor. I have three grown, successful children. At the time I met my boyfriend, "Joe," I was living in a nice boardinghouse in an affluent area. Joe, 63, was divorced and ...

12/13/2012 Old and Obese Are a Complicated Coupling
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Nancy" for 51 years. The day of our wedding, I was 167 pounds with a full head of hair. Now I am 181 pounds and bald. Nancy was always a Rubens type, which was fine with me. After giving birth to our first ...

12/12/2012 Families Dealing with Autism Need Support, Not Judgment
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We have two boys, and the oldest is non-verbal autistic. "Austin" can write, and he wears a talking device around his neck. He likes to shop and enjoys eating different things. But ...

12/11/2012 When Ratting on Your Supervisor, Safety in Numbers
Dear Annie: I work in the aftercare program of a highly regarded private school. It's a part-time job at minimum wage, but the kids are great, and I am grateful to be employed. My problem is with the supervisor of the program. "Jane" ...

12/10/2012 Would Home Alone Make Everyone Happy?
Dear Annie: My family recently went on vacation, and my 17-year-old son was an absolute pain. He refused to go swimming with us at the pool, saying it would be too boring. He wouldn't wear a jacket and tie to dinner at the hotel's five-star restaurant,...

12/09/2012 Lazy and Socially Awkward Could Be Asperger's
Dear Annie: My niece, "Susan," is 23 years old and in college. After four years, she still hasn't picked a major. She is quite intelligent, but lazy and immature. She is socially awkward and has lost friends because of her negative attitude.<...

12/08/2012 Forgetfulness More Likely Than Deceit
Dear Annie: I have a sister who is 10 years older. "Doris" lives in a retirement hotel, and we speak often on the phone and see each other once a month or so. Recently, my oldest son told me he saw Doris dining in a posh restaurant. ...

12/07/2012 From Mutual Friends to Mutual Divorces
Dear Annie: Three months ago, my husband and I were introduced to a couple through mutual friends. My husband could not take his eyes off the woman all evening. They arranged to go on an all-day seminar course together. The course leader took a ...

12/06/2012 Parental Alienation Is Real and Recognized by Law
Dear Annie: My incredible husband of two years has a 4-year-old daughter with his ex-wife. I have actively helped raise "Christie" since she was barely a year. We haven't communicated with the mother since the time we took her to ...

12/05/2012 RAINN a Resource for Rape, Incest Victims
Dear Annie: I am perplexed as to what to do. I'm positive that my wife was a victim of incest, but I don't know how to broach the subject or how to help her. Her sister manifests similar problems that I've heard are caused by rape by one's ...

12/04/2012 Choose Your Battles
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I walked away from a 28-year marriage. A year after my divorce was final, I began seeing an old family friend. My ex-husband has decided that the only possible reason for why I left him is another man, because in his humble ...

12/03/2012 Is Lack of Commitment a Problem?
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Gary" for 11 years. He is in his early 50s and has never married. Neither of us has children. Gary and I travel together, go camping and attend major sporting events. We make each other laugh and have fun in the ...

12/02/2012 Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candlelighting
Dear Annie: When a child dies in your family, the world changes, and you will never again be the same person. Life goes on, but priorities change, and remembering the child who has died is an important way of traveling through your grief journey to ...

12/01/2012 Real Mean Girls
Dear Annie: Over the summer, I had a falling out with my best friend, "Alicia." I had invited all of our friends to a party, and one of them brought along a boy, "Andrew," whom she specifically wanted me to meet. I liked him. But ...

11/30/2012 Clingy Mom, Clingy Kid
Dear Annie: My wife and I have a wonderful 3-year-old son. We have a great home and make good money, but life stinks. For the past year, my wife has insisted on allowing our son to sleep in our bed. And in case you're about to ask, the answer ...

11/29/2012 Sleeping with the Boss ... Again?
Dear Annie: A few months ago, I discovered that my wife was having an affair with her boss. She works for a small company that requires long hours and some traveling. When I confronted her, she didn't deny it. When I asked her why, she said it ...

11/28/2012 Dating on a Strict Diet
Dear Annie: I am a woman who follows a strict diet. It has nothing to do with weight or any medical condition. I don't care about calories. It's about eating organic, and there are a lot of things I do not tolerate, such as corn syrup, food coloring, ...

11/27/2012 Toss the Fishwrap, Lose the Fire Hazard
Dear Annie: My mother is in her late 90s. She insists on covering her kitchen counters with newspaper, including the areas right next to the electric cooktop and the microwave. My mother does not see this as a fire risk. She thinks it is keeping a ...

11/26/2012 In Love with a Schizophrenic
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I reconnected with the guy I have loved since grade school. "Thomas" left after graduation to live in another state. I know he has schizophrenia, and I'm willing to take the risk. Even though I'm 18 and still in ...

11/25/2012 Crude, Sexual, Teachable
Dear Annie: I am in a dispute with my kids' middle school. For the past two summers, the school has recommended to our 8th-grade students several reading selections that contain crude language and explicit sexual content. I don't understand why. The &...

11/24/2012 Options for Complicated Care
Dear Annie: My wife's aunt "Zelda" is 83 and lives alone. She is in the early stages of dementia, and her short-term memory is rapidly deteriorating. She will ask the same question multiple times within a 15-minute span. She also is ...

11/23/2012 Right Now It All Hinges on DNA
Dear Annie: Several months ago, my 17-year-old son's girlfriend had a baby. I was upset at first, but then realized that the couple was young and needed help. My house now looks like a daycare center. For the whole nine months, we were part of ...

11/22/2012 Prayers and Snippets for Thanksgiving
Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving to one and all! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends. We also hope you remembered those who are alone today and would love to be part of your family on this occasion. If ...

11/21/2012 Moving on in Her Own Time
Dear Annie: I was married to my husband for 31 years. Two years ago, he was killed in an accident. I loved him to the moon and back and miss him terribly. Eight months later, my daughter introduced me to a nice gentleman. He is a sweet man, ...

11/20/2012 No More Cash for Colleagues
Dear Annie: I work in a large organization and know my colleagues quite well. Though I enjoy working with them, a number of them recently have begun borrowing cash from me. These are usually requests for small amounts to cover the cost of lunch or ...

11/19/2012 PFLAG Offers Help to the Transgendered
Dear Annie: I am a transgendered boy and am having trouble coming out to my family. I wear sports bras and boy's clothing most of the time, and when I am speaking with my friends, I use male pronouns, but I still can't gather the courage to tell my ...

11/18/2012 Retired and Dangerous
Dear Annie: Not too long ago, my life was perfect: great marriage, good kids, well established in our community and a fantastic sex life. Three years ago, at the age of 49, my husband retired after a 30-year career in law enforcement. He retired with ...

11/17/2012 Asperger's Explains It
Dear Annie: I'm in my 30s. Four years ago, I was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome after a two-year career ended in disaster. It was my mother who suspected what was wrong. It explained the problems I've had — no friends, no social life and the ...

11/16/2012 Sulking for Sex
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We have two children, one with Asperger syndrome. Over the years, my sex drive has waned because of stress, age, work, children, etc. I try to make an effort to be intimate every ...

11/15/2012 Suicide Survivor Not at Fault
Dear Annie: Last May, my children's father committed suicide. He and I had split up two years before because of his violent ways. Despite my marrying another man, I still cared for my ex and worried about his welfare. I would even sneak him food and ...

11/14/2012 12 Hour Project People
Dear Annie: Recently, my husband mentioned that he wanted to get together with some friends for a project. I encouraged him to invite the guys to our home to work on it. I thought it would be a few hours, but it ended up taking well over 12. They ...

11/13/2012 A Badge Gives Power Not Personality
Dear Annie: My cousin "Tyler," who had a host of problems as a teenager, became a policeman at age 23. He was a jerk before he joined up, but now he's become a bigger jerk. Tyler is always bragging that he can fix parking tickets or ...

11/12/2012 No Respect for the Dead
Dear Annie: When my older sister was dying a year ago, our entire family supported her with calls and visits with the exception of our father and half-brother (my mother's son from a previous marriage). They also didn't attend the funeral and offered ...

11/11/2012 Self-Esteem Develops Alongside Values
Dear Annie: I am a teenager. In our society, the central message is that you need to look perfect and have tons of money. It's drilled into our heads every day, and I feel the pressure. Clothing companies tell me I need to wear their labels to ...

11/10/2012 One Greedy Seed
Dear Annie: I am one of 13 siblings. Both of our parents have been sick for the past four years. At one time, we had a family meeting, and everyone agreed to pay $20 a week for a caregiver, since we all worked. But slowly, my siblings started to bail ...

11/09/2012 Itty-Bitty Invisible Bites
Dear Annie: I often feel sharp bites like pinpricks on different places of my body, especially at night. At first, it happened only in the bedroom, but now I get them while sitting in my family room and even in my car. I thought it might be bedbugs, ...

11/08/2012 Married to the Mob
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for only one month, and he already has had a brief fling with a woman from his office. This caught me completely off guard. I thought we were happy, and I am pretty sure my husband enjoys being married to ...

11/07/2012 Read Between the Separate Lives
Dear Annie: My boyfriend lives with a woman who gave birth to his child. He says it is not a romantic arrangement. She wanted to get pregnant, and he provided the genetic material. He sleeps on the sofa. My issue is, when he wants to spend time ...

11/06/2012 Disturbed Son, Divided Marriage
Dear Annie: My husband, "Paul," wants nothing to do with my 36-year-old son, "Alan." I admit that Alan lived with us too long and has done some terrible things, but he's my son and I love him. I've enabled him because of his health ...

11/05/2012 Mom and Me Minus Me?
Dear Annie: My father was recently killed in an accident. Now it's just my mother and me. I don't know how my mom is going to cope with the loss, and I am not sure how I will, either. I won't have my father around to see me graduate, get married or ...

11/04/2012 Book Smart, Not Boy Smart
Dear Annie: I am a 17-year-old straight-A student and have sound judgment for most things, but I'm not sure about this. I have started seeing "Michael," a 25-year-old guy. I know it's a big age difference, but everything else about ...

11/03/2012 A Message of Love for Bobby
Dear Annie: My son's father, "Joe," and I divorced when "Bobby" was very young. Joe remarried and moved to another state. When Bobby was 11, I thought it best for him to go live with his dad so he could have a male role model. Joe ...

11/02/2012 Mom, Dad, Meet My Backbone
Dear Annie: I live in Europe. I visit my parents twice a year with my kids, and my parents visit us annually. I recently asked that no relatives visit during my son's spring break so he can concentrate on his SATs and AP exams. My parents, ...

11/01/2012 Jake Likes His Cake
Dear Annie: I'm dating a guy who works out of town and is home every four weeks. "Jake" calls and texts often and says he misses me all the time. Here's what bothers me: Jake always asks me how I feel about him. He says, "Do you even ...

10/31/2012 Suspicions Confirmed
Dear Annie: In the 20 years I've been with my partner, I've had suspicions that he's cheated. Whenever I confront him, he becomes angry and tries to turn it around on me. I finally decided I had to know, so I bought mini digital voice recorders and ...

10/30/2012 Wishing He'd Leave While Tempting Him To Stay
Dear Annie: I was with my ex-husband for 18 years before I divorced him. We have three children, and he hasn't been the best father or husband. Lately, however, he has been nice and comes around to visit the kids. I appreciate the fact that he is ...

10/29/2012 For Better or for Sedentary
Dear Annie: I've been married for 47 years to a man who is 13 years older than I am. He reminds me often that he is 86 and set in his ways. For much of our marriage, I have carried the load around the house, but now it is worse. My husband ...

10/28/2012 Express Yourself, Just Not in My Paper
Dear Annie: When my son married six years ago, my wife and I welcomed his bride into our family with open arms. I knew my daughter-in-law had views that were much different from mine, but I was confident that we could coexist. I helped them with ...

10/27/2012 Best Family Friend Not Your BFF
Dear Annie: My cousin and her husband have four young kids. My family is invited to every birthday and Christmas party. Of course, they expect a gift each time. They even register for toys and clothes. Their kids are already spoiled with bedrooms ...

10/26/2012 Nothing but Lies in Their Promised Land
Dear Annie: Eleven years ago, we moved halfway across the country in order to live close to my husband's family. For years, we heard about all the things they would do with our kids if only we lived nearer. My parents were still busy raising my four ...

10/25/2012 A Nasty Bunch of In-Laws
Dear Annie: A few years ago, I met the most amazing man. "Jim" is the love of my life. I fell in love with his family, too. The problem is, after a year of marriage, I received a text message from my mother-in-law (Jim's stepmother) ...

10/24/2012 Mommie-in-Law Dearest
Dear Annie: I've been out of work for two years. My family has suffered greatly, and my daughter's mild depression turned severe when this started affecting her life. Recently, my in-laws were kind enough to let the three of us move in so we ...

10/23/2012 We Need To Talk About Kevin
Dear Annie: I recently married "Kevin," who has been divorced for four years. We decided to live in his house. I knew we'd have adjustment issues, but even so, things don't seem to be working out. The house is in his name only, ...

10/22/2012 He's Old Enough -- and So Is She
Dear Annie: My son, "Clark," is 51 years old and never married. Last month, he met a 26-year-old online. This girl's mother is only four months older than my son. The girl is younger than my grandchildren. Clark has proposed to this ...

10/21/2012 An Open Letter to His Wife
Dear Annie: I want to write an open letter to my wife. She reads your column and will see it. Dear Wife: There is absolutely no doubt that our relationship is based on love. You are the best wife and mother. Your love and companionship are a ...

10/20/2012 Dance, Shoot and Shop Your Way Into a Relationship
Dear Annie: "Looking for a Relationship, Too" asked where to meet men. You suggested bookstores, grocery stores, hardware stores, laundromats and sporting events, and while taking college courses, playing golf, softball and basketball, doing ...

10/19/2012 Be the Calm in the Wake of Hurricane Sarah
Dear Annie: Your column is the first page I turn to in the newspaper. I now have a problem and hope you can help. My boyfriend, "John," and I have been together for five years. We have a wonderful relationship. He loves my three ...

10/18/2012 Tread Lightly on Newfound Independence
Dear Annie: Due to many complicated family issues, I've been estranged from my adult daughter for the past 10 years. However, she has a college-aged daughter with whom I've managed to maintain a decent and, I thought, loving relationship. Last ...

10/17/2012 Lazy Larry Needs a Shave and a Checkup
Dear Annie: My husband's only sibling is his 65-year-old brother, "Larry." Larry's mother spoiled him rotten. To say he's lazy is an understatement. He does nothing to help himself. He was fortunate enough to win a local election when he ran ...

10/16/2012 Unlucky in Love
Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old man in excellent health. The problem is, I never have had much luck with the ladies. I adore all kinds of women: tall ones, short ones, average ones and even plump ones. The only ladies I do not find attractive are the ...

10/15/2012 Chatty Hubby Radio Silent on Other Woman
Dear Annie: I have been married for 36 years. Eight months ago, I learned that my husband had been calling other women, one in particular, for the past two years. The calls included text messages and pictures. The woman he was mostly in touch ...

10/14/2012 This Friend Is All Business
Dear Annie: My husband, "Chuck," and my best friend, "Lorna," partnered to purchase and remodel old houses for rental. At first, it worked well. Chuck did the physical work, and Lorna did the aesthetic stuff. But they had too many ...

10/13/2012 Depression Stole the Woman of His Dreams
Dear Annie: In January, I finally married the woman of my dreams. "Julie" was sweet and kind, with lots of love to give. Things went well for a few weeks, but then everything changed. Julie has always had issues with depression. She'd be ...

10/12/2012 Small Town Single
Dear Annie: I am 29 and have been a teacher in a small town for seven years. During this time, I have had two serious relationships, but neither worked out. Recently, my mother has been on me about moving so I can find someone to marry and ...

10/11/2012 Married to a Road Rager
Dear Annie: My husband is a wonderful man in almost every respect. But when we are in the car together, he uses road rage to manipulate me into agreeing to things I don't want. He'll drive threateningly if I don't say it's OK for him to take that ...

10/10/2012 Let Her Make More Decisions and Let Her Pay for Them, Too
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a 20-year-old daughter, "Brianna." We pay for her private college tuition, as well as all of her expenses. In August, Brianna was invited for a weeklong trip to Hawaii with her boyfriend's family. She ...

10/09/2012 National Depression Screening Day
Dear Annie: I want to share my story of depression — and hope — so that it might help others. I'm nearly 50 now, but only recently did I recognize the depression that has plagued my life. I had the symptoms for decades: bursts of ...

10/08/2012 Forced Isolation Is Abuse
Dear Annie: My niece, "Anna," is married to "Andy." He is a real loser. Andy was in the military and was discharged early with a supposed disability from a pain in his hip. He refuses to get a job, because he's "disabled."...

10/07/2012 Your Sibling, Your Choice
Dear Annie: I am 40 years old and have a younger brother. My mother died a few years ago. My father is 67, in good health and very active. We all live near one another. In June, I received a Facebook message from a woman in another state ...

10/06/2012 Birthday Party Blues
Dear Annie: My extended family has always been big on celebrating family birthdays for the adults. Celebrations used to include a meal at a restaurant, but as the families expanded, we began celebrating at relatives' homes with appetizers followed by ...

10/05/2012 "Husband Substitute" Son Is Ultimate Mama's Boy
Dear Annie: My son married a young widow with two small boys. They have been married 15 years and are currently expecting their first child together. Throughout this marriage, my daughter-in-law would never let my son have any kind of fatherly ...

10/04/2012 Mourning Mother Fears Becomoing Estranged Grandma
Dear Annie: My son passed away last year from cancer. Not even two months after his death, my daughter-in-law began dating a married man. She then became pregnant and moved in with him and my two young granddaughters. She had the baby 11 months after ...

10/03/2012 Doris Day in a Lonely Way
Dear Annie: I'm writing on behalf of those of us in the "trapped" generation. We are the ones who grew up thinking Doris Day was the ideal woman. We were college-educated, but still expected to marry and have a family. Many of us limited our ...

10/02/2012 Stonewalling King Lear
Dear Annie: I am an 88-year-old father with three grown daughters. I have a substantial amount listed in my will, which originally was to be equally divided. A year ago, my youngest daughter and I had a falling out. I said something that ...

10/01/2012 Parsing the Pecking Order
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law blatantly favors her oldest granddaughter, "Miranda," to the exclusion of the other four. She says Miranda is the "good granddaughter" and her 17-year-old sister, "Amy," is the "...

09/30/2012 The Loud and Abrasive Need Love, Too
Dear Annie: My 21-year-old granddaughter recently confided that she doesn't attract men and doesn't know why. It bothers her a great deal. She knows it's not her looks. She is good looking. She has had some self-esteem issues due to dyslexia and ...

09/29/2012 How To Get on the Do Not Invite List
Dear Annie: For years, I have been attending friends' weddings, showers, graduation parties, birthday parties, engagement parties and other happy occasions. The problem is, these things require me to give up my time and money. I don't want to ...

09/28/2012 In Love with Another Mormon
Dear Annie: My boyfriend of seven months recently ended things suddenly. "Ethan" is Mormon, and I'm Lutheran. We were planning a future together. Ethan claims he wants to go on a mission and cannot prepare to do God's work while having a ...

09/27/2012 Give Up the Boyfriend and Make the Marriage Work
Dear Annie: I am 38 and have been with my husband for 18 years. We have built a wonderful life with great kids, but circumstances led to a separation. I was the one who wanted it. My husband is a good guy, but he just hasn't been able to give me the ...

09/26/2012 One Thing Mom Shouldn't Have To Whine About
Dear Annie: My parents divorced years ago. Dad waited patiently while Mom chose between him and another man. In the end, Mom chose the other guy, but it didn't work out. Neither have any of her other relationships. Meanwhile, my dad married a lovely, ...

09/25/2012 Not So Funny Mom
Dear Annie: When I was little, my mother would insist, "I'm not your mother." I'd be convinced and start to cry. Then she would say, "I'm just kidding." As a 6-year-old, I was afraid of the vacuum. She unplugged it and told me it ...

09/24/2012 This Looks Nothing Like Forgiveness
Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend, "Tom," for more than a year. We love each other very much. However, early in our relationship, I was coming out of a rough breakup with my ex. I made a huge mistake thinking I could keep the ...

09/23/2012 Pitfalls of Cosigning
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Gina," was the first one in our family to go to college. Of course, we all were proud. She chose a school that was rather pricey, but she had some scholarships and loans. She graduated last year. In college, ...

09/22/2012 Bob Strikes a Chord
Dear Annie: May I, a male in his 70s, respond to "Bob," who said that aging, obese, snoring and unhealthy women are the reasons for bedroom problems? Perhaps in his home, but not in ours. I can't pinpoint exactly when intimacy began evolving ...

09/21/2012 Flying the Flirtatious Skies
Dear Annie: My wife, my granddaughter and I recently took a six-hour flight home. I thought we'd have the middle section to ourselves, but when we boarded, I noticed there were four seats. As I put our carry-on luggage into the overhead bin, I saw my ...

09/20/2012 Meet Your Future Difficult Daughter-In-Law
Dear Annie: Our son has been dating "Nicole" for several years. She has two teenage daughters from a previous marriage. Although they live several hours from us, my husband and I have done everything to make "Nicole" feel welcome. <...

09/19/2012 Traveling Tom
Dear Annie: I am 23 years old and have been dating "Tom" for two years. He works in a demanding job that requires an extensive amount of travel. He's away almost six months of the year. When Tom isn't traveling, he's with me during ...

09/18/2012 In the Shadow of a Sibling
Dear Annie: My brother and I grew up in the shadow of our older sister, "Nina." Nina had new clothes while we had stained, torn hand-me-downs. If I asked for something, I was called a "spoiled, selfish brat." If our plans ...

09/17/2012 Road Trip Anxiety
Dear Annie: Am I strange? I like to keep my house clean and neat. In addition, I check for items that may need fixing so the house is not in disrepair. Although friends and family think I am "anal," I do not feel that I am obsessive. ...

09/16/2012 A Bigshot in His Dreams
Dear Annie: I've been friends with a small group of people since junior high. We're in our late 50s now, and though none of us has set the world on fire, we have good families and stable careers. All except "Joe." Ever since he was a ...

09/15/2012 When Is Enough Enough?
Dear Annie: When can we stop giving our children money? When is enough enough? My daughter and her husband are in their mid-30s. They bought a house they could not afford. On top of that, they are in the middle of filing for bankruptcy, as they ...

09/14/2012 Double Whammy: OCD and Bipolar
Dear Annie: I am a teenager in high school with two close friends, "Emma" and "Vienna." Emma was recently diagnosed with OCD and bipolar disorder. Ever since the diagnosis, there have been many conflicts. Emma is now really ...

09/13/2012 Pure Evil
Dear Annie: My mom is 67 and pure evil. She manipulates her doctors, who don't know the real truth. I've tried to remain patient and respectful, to no avail. My mom has pushed everyone away. She has no friends. Since my father died, she's ...

09/12/2012 Issuing a Polite Eviction
Dear Annie: My wife's sister and her husband moved in with my mother-in-law 30 years ago. Mom was the sole caregiver until age limited her ability, and then government aid allowed for home assistance. Mom supported them while my brother-in-law spent ...

09/11/2012 Brevity Means Less To Blow Up
Dear Annie: I live far away from my family, but try to keep in touch. The problem is my sister, "Diane," who always misinterprets what I say. Last month, for example, we were talking about Dr. Oz when I commented that we'd have to ...

09/10/2012 World Suicide Prevention Day
Dear Annie: On September 10th, people throughout the world will be observing World Suicide Prevention Day, an annual event co-sponsored by the International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) and the World Health Organization (WHO). ...

09/09/2012 All That Stands Between Baby and Grandma Is One Difficult Mom
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We each have adult children from previous marriages. One, "Luella," only wants a relationship when it suits her. We don't hear from her on Father's Day, but if you miss something ...

09/08/2012 Keep Out of the Access Lanes
Dear Annie: I had to respond to the letter from "Seeing Red About Blue," whose son is in a wheelchair. She often finds the striped area next to the handicapped parking spot occupied, blocking safe passage back into her van. I have a ...

09/07/2012 Taking Too Much Care of Susie
Dear Annie: My older sister, "Susie," is 33 and has been receiving financial support from my parents for more than a decade. They give her money outright and also pay her car insurance, health insurance and other bills. Susie does not work. ...

09/06/2012 Steamy Online Chats Worth a Real-Time Chat
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 18 years, and we have three children. I always thought we got along great. Over the past few years, we have not been as intimate as we once were, and I attributed it to busy schedules, children, etc. ...

09/05/2012 A Partnership Without a Partner
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I married a lovely young woman. While we were engaged, "Nina" and I had several candid discussions about finances, figuring that once we married, she would look for a job and we would split the household expenses ...

09/04/2012 Traditional, Conservative Seeking Same
Dear Annie: My husband and I are trying to raise our three children in a traditional, conservative environment, but my in-laws undermine our values. We recently went on a cruise with them, along with my husband's brother and niece and her live-...

09/03/2012 Dad Can't Fix Daughter's Bad Taste in Men
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Grace," is 48 years old and recently divorced from her husband after 23 years of marriage. They have no children. My wife and I liked her husband, but he never wanted to work for anyone. He always thought he could ...

09/02/2012 Rub a Dub Dub, Thanks for the Bedbugs
Dear Annie: My friend is a massage therapist. She had been offering me discounted professional massages in her home for months, and I finally took her up on it. The massage was fantastic. Later that night, however, I found many fleabites on my back, ...

09/01/2012 The Constant Companion
Dear Annie: For the past three summers, my friend "Don" has spent a few days with me at our family beach house. The second year, he hinted about visiting again and was pleased when I invited him back. Soon, he began referring to "his ...

08/31/2012 Get the Empty Nesters Out of the Nest
Dear Annie: We are three daughters who need help. Our parents' home seems unhappy and full of bitterness. Mom and Dad have been married for 59 years, but Mom doesn't seem to enjoy life. Dad is not perfect, but we really don't know their past personal ...

08/30/2012 Rushing Marriage in the Wake of Divorce
Dear Annie: My wife and I are in the final stages of a divorce after 25 years of marriage. We have two wonderful teenagers. We both realize that we had a part in the breakdown of the marriage, and we are trying to keep the process as friendly as such ...

08/29/2012 Mama's Off Her Meds
Dear Annie: I am married to a great guy, and we have two wonderful, intelligent teens. But my mother-in-law is causing great stress. "Mama" was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder 10 years ago and is prescribed a cocktail ...

08/28/2012 Dancing Her Way to the Poor House
Dear Annie: My 81-year-old mother lives alone, drives her own car and manages her own finances. Between savings, retirement income and inheritance, she is well fixed. What worries me is that Mom has been enrolled in ballroom dance lessons for several ...

08/27/2012 Deflecting Nunofyerbizness Questions
Dear Annie: I am a single mother in my mid-30s and recently graduated from college. Because of the current job market, I am having difficulty finding a permanent full-time position in my field. I will most likely need to relocate to another state. ...

08/26/2012 The Politics of Pulling Favors for Family
Dear Annie: My problem is my husband's much younger 18-year-old sister. Because there's such an age gap, "Lauren" has always been given whatever she wanted and told that everything she does is wonderful. My husband's parents are only in ...

08/25/2012 Running Scared from Toxic Mom
Dear Annie: My toxic mother has put a strain on my family. Two years ago, she got into a fight with my husband, and I sided with him. Life has been a living hell ever since. She constantly calls and leaves horrible messages on our voicemail. She has ...

08/24/2012 The Number on the Scale Is the Business of the Person Standing on It
Dear Annie: Our 21-year-old daughter has had weight issues for years. "Barbara" weighs 80 pounds more than she should. I cannot remember a time when Barbara's weight wasn't a big deal to my husband. His mother also puts in her two ...

08/23/2012 She's Just Not That Into Him -- and Never Was
Dear Annie: I've been married for 14 years. The first few, everything was good, and then I stopped enjoying sex. I've seen several different doctors and had my hormones checked, and the verdict is that I am in great health for a 39-year-old. I ...

08/22/2012 A Question of Paternity
Dear Annie: Years ago, my brother, "Harry," cheated on his wife. She forgave him, and they got back together. They seem very happy. A few years after his affair, the other woman had him served with paternity papers. Harry pays child ...

08/21/2012 Lesbian Leaves Behind Husband and a Cloud of Misconception
Dear Annie: My husband of nine years was married to his first wife for 30 years when she left him for another woman. She apparently was a lesbian, but he had no knowledge of it until their marriage fell apart. His two adult kids blame him for ...

08/20/2012 The Issue of Visitation
Dear Annie: I am a single mother of six children, the youngest of whom is 12. I divorced their father 10 years ago. I am the custodial parent and receive child support. I don't have any issues with my ex's financial responsibilities. It is visitation ...

08/19/2012 A Seriously Empty Nest
Dear Annie: I am a single parent. My youngest left for college last fall, and I did OK handling the changes in my home and heart. I took on a few redecorating projects, attended numerous local events and accepted another job to help with tuitions and ...

08/18/2012 When the All-Expenses-Paid Ride Comes to an End
Dear Annie: What do you do with a sibling who has been enabled all of his life when Mom is no longer around to provide for him? My brother has had a house to live in, a car to drive, insurance, etc., for the past 25 years. He is an alcoholic ...

08/17/2012 Living with a Hoarder
Dear Annie: I have been a stepmom for seven years. My husband's youngest is 22 and still lives with us. "Cara" is a hoarder. Her room is full of rotting garbage, soda cans with fruit flies coming out of them and half-eaten food left ...

08/16/2012 Daddy Dearest
Dear Annie: Many years ago, my husband, "Sam," and I divorced. I started seeing someone else and became pregnant. That man left me, saying he didn't want more children. Sam and I began dating again, and he said we could remarry if his name ...

08/15/2012 Enlist Switzerland To Transport the Kids
Dear Annie: I left a relationship of six years when my boyfriend became physically and emotionally abusive. We have two children together. With my children's well-being as my first priority, I decided to stay in the same town so they could ...

08/14/2012 Firing the Godmother
Dear Annie: I am no longer speaking to my best friend of more than 20 years. I thought "Katie" and I were friends for life. She is even godmother to my daughter. Two years ago, we invited Katie and her husband to my 50th birthday ...

08/13/2012 Alcoholic Brother Needs To Bottom Out
Dear Annie: My brother, "Luke," recently returned to our hometown. Since he's been back, all he has done is drink beer. He has made no effort to find a job. I love him, but it is quite obvious that he's an alcoholic. When Luke lived ...

08/12/2012 Stifled Suspicions
Dear Annie: Last month, I took my grandkids to a water park. While I was watching the crowds, I noticed a man with a boy who looked to be around 12 years old crouched behind a picnic table. They looked as if they were waiting for someone to come by so ...

08/11/2012 Long-Distance Love Needs a Reality Dose
Dear Annie: I'm a college student and only get to see my long-distance boyfriend once every four or five weeks. We've been dating for more than 18 months. Assuming we stay together through grad school, we will have dated longer than six years before ...

08/10/2012 Everybody Buys Their Own Birth Control
Dear Annie: My husband and I are the parents of a 15-year-old boy. "Will" is a good student. He has been in a friendly relationship with a 15-year-old girl, and it has become serious. They have had sex on two different occasions, and Will ...

08/09/2012 Friending Your Kids' Friends
Dear Annie: Recently, my husband and I chaperoned a seven-day office-sponsored trip for high school sophomores and juniors. My husband, who is in his 50s, is very outgoing. While on the trip, he developed quite a following among the teens, especially ...

08/08/2012 Heroin Heartbreak
Dear Annie: My wife and I have a 23-year-old son who is a heroin addict. "Rob" has been to rehab twice and has relapsed again. We have been attending Nar-Anon meetings for the past eight weeks and find them helpful. Rob seemingly has not hit ...

08/07/2012 The Fallout of Getting Friendly with the Boss
Dear Annie: For the past seven years, I've worked for "Joe" and his assistant, "Nancy." Nancy recently took a four-month leave due to stress and anxiety. During her absence, Joe and I went to lunch a few times and dinner on one ...

08/06/2012 In Love with the Idea of Grandchildren
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law was desperate to have grandchildren, but when our daughter was born, Mom turned out to be a horrible grandmother. During visits to Grandma's house, our daughter had to entertain herself in a spare bedroom because ...

08/05/2012 Good Child Care Requires Good Oral Hygiene
Dear Annie: I have a beautiful 3-month-old daughter. We live close to my parents, and they babysit "Abby" all the time. Here's the problem. At my last dental visit, my dentist told me about a study that says adults with bad oral ...

08/04/2012 It's the Sexy, Stupid
Dear Annie: I have had all I can take from your female readers who complain about the lack of intimacy from their husbands. You tell them to have their husband's testosterone checked and seek counseling. Allow me to give you a better answer. ...

08/03/2012 Calculating Compound Culpability
Dear Annie: Many years ago, I suspected my ex-husband of sexually abusing our daughter, "Mary." There was opportunity and some evidence. I didn't actually see anything. In and out of denial, I didn't know what to do, and so I didn't do ...

08/02/2012 Snide, Snippy and Evil, Will You Marry Me?
Dear Annie: I am 54, and my girlfriend is 40. We've dated on and off for seven years. I love her, and I believe she loves me. The problem is, she is incredibly jealous and honestly believes every woman is attracted to me. Even if that were ...

08/01/2012 Nobody Ever Lost Weight from a Lecture
Dear Annie: My parents and siblings often complain that they can't lose weight. However, they douse their food in salt and sauces, drink alcohol before bed, and have no qualms about pulling out the potato chips or chocolate candy. I used to be like ...

07/31/2012 Follow Your Dreams, Own Your Choices
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I informally agreed to move in together once I'm out of college and he is in grad school. Right now, we have a long-distance relationship. Here's the problem. I recently found a two-year MFA program overseas that I'...

07/30/2012 Facebook Friends Aren't All the Real Thing
Dear Annie: My husband spends too much time on the Internet and then gets upset when I say so. Several months ago, I caught him talking to a woman online, and I'm worried it's happening again. In spite of my suspicions, however, when I've checked his ...

07/29/2012 Cutting Ties for the Greater Good
Dear Annie: I am a grown man in my early 30s, and I'm still having problems with my parents. My mother has always favored my older sister, even though my sister has been irresponsible her entire life. She abuses alcohol and drugs, but my mother won't ...

07/28/2012 The Pressured Speech of Bipolar Mania
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Speechless in Omaha," whose friend, "Sharon," wouldn't stop talking. I am a physician and also the mother of an adult son with a serious mental illness. Sharon's speech is suggestive of "...

07/27/2012 Patience with Autism at any Age
Dear Annie: My younger brother, "George," is on the autism spectrum. He has a friend, "Cindy," with similar needs. For the past few years, my parents have welcomed Cindy into our home, and now she feels comfortable inviting herself ...

07/26/2012 Too Far Away for Comfort
Dear Annie: I am 33 years old and fed up with how distant my family is. I am disappointed with my grandparents for the way they behave. I grew up around them, but they moved to Arizona when I was 19. I thought we were close, but it seems we ...

07/25/2012 Wigged Out Over Thinning Hair
Dear Annie: I am an attractive 30-something female who began experiencing thinning hair in my late 20s due to a thyroid disorder. Many women have the confidence to accept their hair loss and do nothing to hide it. I admire that. However, for me, it ...

07/24/2012 Commitment To Child Trumps Attraction
Dear Annie: I've been with my boyfriend for eight years and find that I'm not as happy as I used to be. But we have a child together, which makes it harder to decide what to do. For the past few years, I have been talking to another man. ...

07/23/2012 This Three's a Crowd
Dear Annie: "Daniel" and I have been going out for six months. We really connect and feel as if we are meant to be together. There is only one problem. One of our best friends, "Jordan," has developed strong feelings for me. ...

07/22/2012 The Sting of No Acknowledgment
Dear Annie: Six years ago, my 54-year-old divorced sister, "Sue," decided to move in with my parents because she was afraid to live by herself. At the time, Sue had a part-time job and my parents were in good health. Within a year, however, ...

07/21/2012 Just Friends Don't Kiss
Dear Annie: When a person says "no," what does it mean? Some men just don't get it. Or do they believe it really means "yes"? I have a wonderful friend, "Homer," and I love him dearly, but I am not "in love&...

07/20/2012 Feeding Bud's Family
Dear Annie: I've been seeing "Bud" for a year. He lives in a trailer park and has a 23-year-old daughter who is on Bud's checking account and charge cards. This girl insists that her mother (Bud's ex-wife) spend weekends at the trailer, so ...

07/19/2012 Daughter's Negative Self-Image Feels Inconsolable To Mom
Dear Annie: My college-age daughter is very hard on herself. "Sharyn" is a beautiful, intelligent and wonderful person at heart, but she cannot see it, even though everyone else does. For 12 years, Sharyn has been in some form of ...

07/18/2012 Reasons for Paternity Tests Go Beyond Biological Ties
Dear Annie: I have been married to an amazing woman for two years. I work away from home, and she manages to take care of everything and work full time. She also is a caregiver for her mother, and for this reason, we have decided to put off having ...

07/17/2012 Scissors at the Ready
Dear Annie: My sister, "Lena," has been a problem for decades. She abused her children physically and continues to abuse the rest of the family emotionally. She is haughty and manipulative and lies to everyone. Her own kids want nothing to ...

07/16/2012 As Long as the Ex Rules the Roost
Dear Annie: My fiance, "Clyde," and I have been together for three years. We have a great relationship. We have lived together for two years, and my 5-year-old considers him "Dad." Clyde is divorced and has two daughters, ...

07/15/2012 When Insecure Met Attention-Seeking
Dear Annie: I'm a middle-aged man who has been divorced for four years. I am currently a caregiver for my mother, so I don't get out much. I've taken to many social media sites as a way to meet people with similar interests and have developed several ...

07/14/2012 Considering Allie
Dear Annie: My fiance and I cut corners for four years so we could have a nice wedding. We didn't ask either set of parents for money, and they didn't offer. We're footing the entire bill, including the formal wear for the attendants. The ...

07/13/2012 The Final Say on Funerals
Dear Annie: My parents divorced acrimoniously when my siblings and I were young. My brother, "Tim," was a difficult child and was arrested when he was 11. The local law officials offered the option of handing custody to my father as an ...

07/12/2012 Mouthy Mom Requires New Response
Dear Annie: My mother and I have had a poor relationship for years. She is self-absorbed, demanding and consistently hurtful. She seems to find great amusement in upsetting me and takes every opportunity to do so. On one occasion, I was ...

07/11/2012 Punch Drunk Love
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Dayna" for eight months, and we moved in together three months ago. We fell in love from the moment we met. I'm normally a calm guy. However, two months ago I made a mistake. I went out drinking with ...

07/10/2012 Staycation Time
Dear Annie: My husband, "Kevin," and I have been together for nine years. Every summer, Kevin used to go to the beach for a week's vacation with a family he was close to. The entire group numbered about 15 people. Three years ago, Kevin told ...

07/09/2012 Bordering Uninvited
Dear Annie: Let me say that I am grateful my parents are alive and well enough to enjoy their grandchildren. However, they expect to be included in everything involving their grandchildren. Each of my children plays a sport (sometimes two) in addition ...

07/08/2012 Explain Yourself, Please
Dear Annie: I have been married for 24 years to my high school sweetheart, and we have two sons. For most of this time, I have put up with my wife not allowing any mention of my family or involvement whatsoever in any activities. I don't know why this ...

07/07/2012 Selfish or Sane?
Dear Annie: I have been with "Jason" for eight years, married for four. Between us, we have raised five children. The problem is that Jason is controlling and verbally abusive. When we met, I was willing to overlook many things ...

07/06/2012 Love the Little Tyke
Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband moved in with us last year in order to save money and someday raise a family. We enjoy having them here. The issue is my son-in-law's 5-year-old boy from his previous marriage. The custody arrangement ...

07/05/2012 Countdown To Safe Sex
Dear Annie: My younger brother, "Gary," is 27 years old and lives in a two-bedroom apartment. I recently found out from a mutual friend that he is living with "Debbie," a 17-year-old dropout. This girl quit high school, had a fight ...

07/04/2012 Happy Birthday, America!
Dear Readers: Happy Fourth of July! While you are enjoying the outdoor barbecue, here's a little history to go with the day: The United States has a Great Seal that is used to authenticate certain documents issued by the federal government. ...

07/03/2012 Single Mom Needs Strength Not Ultimatums
Dear Annie: My daughter has been married to a drug abuser for 10 years. "Rob" can't keep a job and sells everything on the premises for money to buy more drugs. He even took his 9-year-old daughter with him to trade her TV and other ...

07/02/2012 Georgie Porgie Gropin' My Thigh
Dear Annie: My husband, "George," seems to feel the need to constantly grope me. I mean from the time I get up in the morning until he leaves for his overnight shift, he's trying to grab my breasts or squeeze my bottom. He does this whether ...

07/01/2012 Sic the Lawyers on the Vultures
Dear Annie: My father and mother were both sick and only weeks away from dying when my niece went to my father's bedside and asked if she could have his house when he "didn't need it anymore." She made sure that her mother was with her to ...

06/30/2012 Empty Nesters: Fright or Delight?
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband more than 20 years. We have never been separated, even for a few days. We have stuck it out through the good, the bad and the horrible. We have two boys who are about to graduate high school, and I am ...

06/29/2012 Out of Prison and Paroled at Home
Dear Annie: I have been with "Jim" for eight years. We are in our 40s and have been through a lot together. When I moved in with him three years ago, two of his kids lived with their mother, and the older boy was in prison. I was supportive ...

06/28/2012 "30 Years of the Same Old Thing..."
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our late 40s and have been married 30 years. (We married young.) "Eugene" has started looking at a lot of porn and seems to have a compulsion about it. We have enjoyed adult videos as a couple and ...

06/27/2012 Where Does All the Support Go?
Dear Annie: I've been a stepmother to two lovely girls, now 12 and 17, since they were very young. My husband gladly pays child support on time without fail. The girls have different mothers who raise their children in opposite ways, yet in both cases,...

06/26/2012 Full Time, Part Time, Can You Ever Trust an Addict?
Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend, "Harry," for three years, and I love him very much. Last year, we had a child together. I think Harry will soon be popping the question. There is one big issue that will stop me from saying yes. ...

06/25/2012 Holding Grandchildren Hostage
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law is bipolar and refuses to take anything for it. Now her illness is affecting my relationship with my 9-year-old grandson. My husband and I practically raised my grandson until he was 4. Neither parent wanted much ...

06/24/2012 Must You See It To Believe It?
Dear Annie: I am a 17-year-old who was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome at age 10. My AS is mild and allows me to function better than most. However, I have an individualized education program and access to the learning/emotional support system in my ...

06/23/2012 Supporting Cancer Patients
Dear Annie: I am 28 years old, and one of my friends recently was diagnosed with cancer. While I'm thankful to have known several cancer survivors, I am now at an age where some of my childhood playmates and current peers might be diagnosed with this ...

06/22/2012 Don't Blame the Waitress
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our 60s and have been married for 28 years. We recently retired. My husband and I both enjoy stopping at neighborhood bars for a drink before dinner, but I've noticed that he indulges quite a lot and often starts at ...

06/21/2012 Premarital Counseling for Marital Finances
Dear Annie: I am engaged to a man who was divorced 20 years ago. He has three grown sons. The first two are doing well, but the third is still not financially responsible at the age of 30. His father has to pay off his automobile and credit cards. My ...

06/20/2012 Broken Family Ties
Dear Annie: I am 47 years old, and my mother is 80. I have three grown children and a 7-year-old daughter whose father is not in her life, nor does he pay child support, even though he earns a decent income. I recently have had some personal setbacks. ...

06/19/2012 Redefining Family
Dear Annie: I married at the age of 18. Shortly before my wedding, both of my parents died, leaving me with no other relatives. I looked forward to sharing life with my husband's large, close-knit family. But the day after the ceremony, my new mother-...

06/18/2012 Turns Out the Grass Isn't Greener
Dear Annie: I've been married for 40 years and am now retired. While working, I became infatuated with "Lucy," a co-worker. We became friends, and after one of our many lunches, we took the rest of the day off, stayed at her house, and you ...

06/17/2012 A Father and a Date
Dear Annie: Last year, you printed a column on Father's Day about what makes a dad. There is a huge difference between what makes a "father" and what makes a "dad." A father is someone who believes that by donating his ...

06/16/2012 A Moment of Silence for Sharon
Dear Annie: I have enjoyed a wonderful friendship with "Sharon" for the past eight years. However, lately she talks nonstop and interrupts me so often during conversations that the only way to enjoy our interaction is through email or by ...

06/15/2012 Guess Who's Coming To Dinner
Dear Annie: A year ago, my sister, "Sheila," had an affair. She is now living with the Other Man. Sheila and her husband have a 23-year-old son who has been devastated by this. My family believes the boyfriend is simply using Sheila ...

06/14/2012 Anxious Mom
Dear Annie: I'm 16 years old and deeply worried about my mother. I believe she has an undiagnosed anxiety disorder that's getting worse. She constantly stresses about every little thing. I can't remember the last time I saw her totally relaxed. <...

06/13/2012 Pain Pill Pals
Dear Annie: I had several surgeries during the past year and needed help from friends during my recovery. They have been generous with their time, caring for me and my three boys so my husband could work. They even helped with meals and chores. I have ...

06/12/2012 Anorexia Kills
Dear Annie: I know that anorexia is not uncommon in teenage girls, but I never thought I would see the signs in my best friend. "Emmy" always complains about the way she looks and is constantly focused on her weight. She makes sure everyone ...

06/11/2012 Down the Addiction Drain
Dear Annie: Please help me. My husband, whom I love very much, is addicted to pain pills. It's been more than a year. He says he takes them to maintain his energy levels for his long 12-hour days, but, Annie, he still takes the pills on his days off. ...

06/10/2012 Dealing with Dog and Human Aggression
Dear Annie: My 54-year-old daughter, "Susan," has been angry with me since she was a teenager. I have tried to question her about why she hates me so much, but she won't discuss it. She is married to a controlling man who shares her feelings ...

06/09/2012 Managing Despite Manipulative Parents
Dear Annie: I am an only child who was reared by loving but extremely controlling parents. They tried to dictate my attire, my friends and my opinions. I moved away and married, but things have only gotten worse. I considered moving home to ...

06/08/2012 Go On and Make a Little Noise
Dear Annie: I am an 18-year-old guy, and my parents are splitting up. I don't know the full story, but things are getting somewhat awkward around the house. We try to live normally, but the silence hurts. I'm trying to deal with it and put up a good ...

06/07/2012 Unhappily Ever After
Dear Annie: I am 58 and have been married to "Hank" for 24 years. I have two children from a previous marriage, and Hank and I have a 21-year-old son together. I've tried everything to be a good wife, but Hank never has been ...

06/06/2012 Alice in Crazyland
Dear Annie: My brother-in-law and his wife are strange people. "Tom and Alice" live beyond their means and are constantly asking for help. We've given them more than $10,000, and they've never paid back a dime. That's not the worst part. ...

06/05/2012 Dealing with Extreme Extremely
Dear Annie: My wonderful wife and I have been married for a little less than a year. Though I love her with all my heart, I absolutely do not get along with one of her friends. "Sherry" is negative, overdramatic and incredibly self-centered. ...

06/04/2012 From Chummy to Civil Without Looking Back
Dear Annie: My husband's sister-in-law is not only annoying. She is frustrating. We were friends once and lived together in my in-laws' house. She has a son, and I have a daughter who is younger. The first time we fought, she began shouting at ...

06/03/2012 Addicted to Toxic Love
Dear Annie: My sister, "Lois," has been seeing "Desmond" for a year. This guy is toxic. He does absolutely nothing for her and expects everything in return. He tells her how to dress and whom she can and cannot speak to. Lois and ...

06/02/2012 All Grown Up and Ungrateful
Dear Annie: My husband and I have five adult children between us, all making a good living. Some of our children expect us to pay their airfare to come visit us, in addition to picking them up at the airport, being their taxi service so they can go ...

06/01/2012 Facebook Flirting with Danger
Dear Annie: I am a freshman in high school, and my older brother, "Adam," is a junior. Although I wouldn't consider myself popular, I have a great group of friends. Recently, I noticed that Adam is flirting on Facebook with a girl in ...

05/31/2012 Is He Marrying Painfully Shy or Woefully Rude?
Dear Annie: My son has been dating "Meredith" for quite some time. They live together at college and plan to marry next year. I don't know how to handle this girl. She never says thank you when you give her a gift, even in person, or ...

05/30/2012 Bouncing Baby
Dear Annie: I'm a 58-year-old woman, and I'm concerned about my year-old granddaughter. When she was merely 4 months old, my son-in-law would toss her up in the air and then catch her. Her head was completely unsupported. When she was 5 months ...

05/29/2012 Collaring Catty Kate
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Kate," has a son who is a year older than mine. For my husband's sake, every time Kate comes to town, I tell her she's welcome to stay with us. Kate doesn't always behave herself. I try to blow off her ...

05/28/2012 The Story of Taps
Dear Readers: Today is Memorial Day. Please remember those servicemen and women who have died serving their country. You can honor our fallen heroes by visiting cemeteries and placing flags or flowers on the graves of veterans. It is also customary to ...

05/27/2012 Jumping the Relationship Gun
Dear Annie: Last month, an old boyfriend contacted me. I hadn't seen "Bud" in 30 years. We had a wonderful conversation. I visited him at his home. He even sent me a large sum of money to help pay off a mortgage bill. We now talk at least ...

05/26/2012 Trusting Cheaters
Dear Annie: I'm in my early 20s and have been dating "Aidan" for a year. He attends college two hours away. He doesn't socialize much and stresses a lot about his grades. His only real friend is "Cara," a girl we went to high ...

05/25/2012 Bare Naked Mommies
Dear Annie: I am becoming excessively annoyed by a new trend I'm seeing with my friends who have recently become parents — the "naked mommy." I'm 27 and have not yet had children. Several of my friends are having their second ...

05/24/2012 The Long Trip to Tenuous
Dear Annie: My father and I have never had the best relationship. He was domineering, controlling and verbally abusive to me as a teenager, and as a result, I rebelled and did things specifically to irritate him. Several times, he kicked me out of the ...

05/23/2012 Forty Years Frozen
Dear Annie: After more than 40 years of devotion to my husband, I have finally realized what a stonehearted jerk he is. I have done everything in my power to love, respect and encourage him. But I've fallen into a pattern of picking up the pieces of ...

05/22/2012 Envying the Enabled
Dear Annie: My brother and sister and I had an amazing childhood. Our parents stressed the importance of hard work and education. The three of us got advanced degrees, and my sister and I entered the workforce after graduation. Our brother, &...

05/21/2012 Kelsey Mately
Dear Annie: My husband's sister "Kelsey" filed for divorce a few months ago. Her soon-to-be ex-husband kept in touch. He told me that Kelsey had been cheating on him with the guy she is currently seeing. I didn't want to believe him, but in ...

05/20/2012 His Problem Goes Way Beyond Age
Dear Annie: Five months ago, I met "Abby" at my job. We have a lot in common and have become close. We flirt with each other. Here's the problem. Abby is 41, and I am 20. She looks and acts much younger. Abby is in a terrible ...

05/19/2012 Lay Off the Sneak-Mail
Dear Annie: A few months ago, my husband mentioned that he'd responded to an email from a girl he used to know. I didn't think much about it, but then I saw him composing an email, and every time I walked near him, he shielded it from me. He started ...

05/18/2012 The Sinister Side of Wardrobe Control
Dear Annie: I am married to "Chris," a wonderful man. He was previously married and has major trust issues because of his ex-wife. I can handle most of this, but one thing has become worse over the past two years. Chris has this idea ...

05/17/2012 Things Change ... but not Some Things
Dear Annie: For the past five years, I've been with the most wonderful woman. "Jane" and I plan to marry, but we haven't set a date because she has two adult daughters who still live at home, and their future plans are unsettled. Her ...

05/16/2012 Scissors Beat Paper ... Thin Resolve
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for eight years, and we have two beautiful children. Recently, an ex-boyfriend called to let me know that his father had died. I hadn't heard from him in 12 years. "Matt" and I ...

05/15/2012 Ring Around the Codependency
Dear Annie: My brother-in-law, "Travis," has been in a relationship with his girlfriend, "Kristin," for eight years. They now have two young children. Kristin has cheated on him too many times to count and continues to do so. They ...

05/14/2012 Carpe Diem in Ireland
Dear Annie: I am a college senior, graduating in May. I am currently undertaking two internships, and one of them will include a job offer when a position opens up. But I don't know if I should take it. I have always had a passionate desire to ...

05/13/2012 Celebrating Mom
Dear Readers: Happy Mother's Day. Please phone your mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, stepmother or foster mother and wish them the best. And please don't forget those for whom this day, for whatever reason, is filled with sadness. Give them a call ...

05/12/2012 It's All Fun and Games Until Somebody Gets Hurt
Dear Annie: Four months ago, my wife of 22 years left me. She moved in with her parents, filed for divorce and said she is going to find happiness. She had an affair, and we tried to work through it, but she wanted me to heal according to her ...

05/11/2012 Gender Identity Issues
Dear Annie: We have two children and a 13-year-old grandson. Two years ago, our 48-year-old unmarried son very reluctantly told us that he has been diagnosed with gender identity disorder and considers himself to be female. This came as a complete ...

05/10/2012 Momma's Gonna Miss You
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have three young children and a great relationship. We recently decided to move from Boston to Georgia. My husband, children and I believe it is the right choice. The problem is ...

05/09/2012 Dead-Beat Sally
Dear Annie: My 25-year marriage is falling apart. My husband's 40-year-old daughter, "Sally," has been living with us for eight months. She occasionally buys a few groceries, but otherwise pays nothing. She does no work around the house. I'...

05/08/2012 Wiped Out
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law asked me to wipe her PC's hard drive so she could donate it. In the process, I discovered an old suicide note she had written. It dates back five years, which was a time when I know she felt overwhelmed caring for a ...

05/07/2012 When Visitation Means Crossing Into Violence
Dear Annie: I have a never-ending situation with my husband, whom I love very much. We have two preteen daughters he insists on taking across the border to Mexico to visit his family. With the recent drug wars and violence there, I am beside myself in ...

05/06/2012 He's Figured It Out -- and Moved On
Dear Annie: My ex-husband and I have been officially divorced for only four months, and last week he married the girl he dated all through high school. They began dating immediately after we separated. My ex and I have a 5-year-old son ...

05/05/2012 Healthy Secret-Keeping
Dear Annie: This past year, an old high school friend looked me up after nearly 30 years. She was in town to visit her dying father. Our youthful parting had been quite unpleasant. She called to apologize for anything she had done to offend me ...

05/04/2012 Bipolar Roommate Off Her Meds?
Dear Annie: I have known "Molly" for 10 years. One of her roommates is my current girlfriend of five years. Molly has always been a good friend to both of us, but now I'm seeing a different side of her. She is short-tempered, passive-...

05/03/2012 Be Careful with Your Power of Attorney
Dear Annie: Last year, our youngest brother, "Don," was diagnosed with throat cancer. Within three months, it had spread over his entire body. Don is only 58, married with two children. When he was initially diagnosed and having a ...

05/02/2012 Hold Off on the Welcome "Matt"
Dear Annie: Our daughter is 42 years old and divorced. For the past two years, she has been seeing "Matt." We accepted him and welcomed him at our numerous family gatherings. Several weeks ago, our daughter drank too much at a party ...

05/01/2012 Picking the Scabs Off of Teenage Scars
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 45 years. We both grew up in this small Midwestern town. Until 10 years back, I thought it was a good marriage. The problem began when I found out some things that happened during our high school ...

04/30/2012 Alone Among Family and Friends
Dear Annie: Last June, I retired from the company where I had worked for 25 years. This past January, I had an unfortunate accident that resulted in a broken foot and surgery on one ankle. I was in the hospital for four days and in a rehab facility ...

04/29/2012 Pushing Skeletons Out of the Closet
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my younger sister learned that her grown daughter had been molested as a child by our then-teenage brother. I believe her, but was totally unaware of the situation, as I moved away nearly 25 years ago. Her daughter ...

04/28/2012 Eyes Off the Rearview
Dear Annie: I am 57 and single. I truly regret leaving my husband of only three years, but he never wanted to spend time with me, did not communicate, drank beer all the time and spent every day in the garage working on ship models. My life ...

04/27/2012 Nosy Neighbors and Inconvenient Ordinances
Dear Annie: My husband, "Ken," has been self-employed for 25 years. He owns two large trailers and has always parked them in our driveway. However, in the past two months, we've had visits from the police department nearly every night. A ...

04/26/2012 Close the Book of Bobby and Toss It
Dear Annie: A year ago, I fell in love with "Bobby" over the Internet. Two months later, he said he loved me. I was stunned. But a little later, he told me he was in a relationship and the girl was suicidal. He was afraid that if he broke it ...

04/25/2012 Eccentric or Troubled?
Dear Annie: My sister owns seven cats, three dogs, two turtles and a lizard. They are overrunning her house. There are random bits of garbage all over the floor, along with used dishes — both human and pet. When the dogs do their business in the ...

04/24/2012 The Single Friend Factor
Dear Annie: My husband and I own a small business. We both work at other full-time jobs, and we also have three children, so life is hectic and busy. I am uncomfortable with the intensity of a relationship he is having with one of our ...

04/23/2012 There Are Worse Things Than Being Alone -- and She's Dating Him
Dear Annie: I'm 60, divorced and currently seeing "Don." He's five years my junior and extremely attentive. Don has a background of violence (one incident landed him in jail), but he now manages his anger. However, he still refuses to ...

04/22/2012 Who's Your Daddy?
Dear Annie: I am a 56-year-old stepfather to two wonderful young women, ages 20 and 17. My wife of five years did a wonderful job raising the girls after their father died. Our relationship is open and trusting. I never call them stepdaughters. I view ...

04/21/2012 Dodging the Farm
Dear Annie: My husband's parents live on the farm where he grew up, which is about an hour away from my folks' house. When we go home to visit, I prefer to stay with my parents. I have no problem visiting the farm and spending time with my ...

04/20/2012 Gauging the Godfather
Dear Annie: Bob and I are both divorced from our previous spouses. His ex-wife was unfaithful, and so was my ex-husband. We fell in love even though we live miles apart. I recently visited him for the second time to talk about our future plans. He ...

04/19/2012 Not Your Penny-Ante Problems
Dear Annie: My 85-year-old uncle, a widower, spends several days a week at casinos. This is no penny-ante stuff. He gambled away everything he ever owned and had to move into subsidized housing. He is somewhat fatalistic at this point, figuring ...

04/18/2012 Supporting Tobacco-Free Kids
Dear Annie: The facts about tobacco use are startling. Every day, nearly 4,000 kids under the age of 18 try their first cigarette, and another 1,000 become regular smokers. To hook kids, tobacco companies spend billions of dollars each year targeting ...

04/17/2012 Drowning in the Needs of Others
Dear Annie: I am 24 and have four small children under age 10. My mother was in a car accident last fall that left her paralyzed from the chest down, and she now lives with us. With hardly any help from my older sister, I struggle every day trying to ...

04/16/2012 Bully Bully
Dear Annie: This past year has been hell in my marriage. My husband has gone out of his way to mistreat me. It has been eight years since we have had sex. He claims it's due to a physical problem, but that's not true. I once spotted him fondling a ...

04/15/2012 Mom's a Mess
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Ellen" for seven years, and we recently moved back to her hometown. Apparently, she left behind an old boyfriend. They were teenagers "in love." Ellen was repeatedly unfaithful, and the boyfriend ...

04/14/2012 Turning Up the Heat on Hot Flash Insensitivity
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Upstate New York Where It's 20 Degrees Outside." He said his wife has hot flashes and wants to set the thermostat down, but he likes it at 74 so he can run around in his underwear. She's ready to move out. ...

04/13/2012 Sister Poses Serious Threat
Dear Annie: I have always had a rocky relationship with my older sister, "Nancy." She's lived with our parents her entire life, and even after she married, she convinced her husband to move in with them. Her marriage didn't last long. <...

04/12/2012 What's in a Name?
Dear Annie: My wife and I were both married before. Last year, she confessed that she'd had a 35-year affair with a married doctor. At the time, she was in her early 20s and he was in his early 40s. After 35 years, she decided he was too old for her ...

04/11/2012 Step Away from the Drama
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old senior in college and will graduate in May. There is a growing riff in my family, and most of it is due to my stepmother. She says horrible things about my family (and others) when she thinks no one is listening. But we'...

04/10/2012 Youth Service America Preps for Annual Youth Service Day
Dear Annie: During the past 25 years, Youth Service America has mobilized millions of youth across the globe to do good in their communities — an estimated 16 million! These amazing kids do everything from advocating for more affordable housing ...

04/09/2012 Guit-Ridden Fiance Weighs Options
Dear Annie: I recently became engaged to my wonderful girlfriend of four years. The wedding is scheduled to take place in September, and I just made the worst mistake of my life. My fiancee's grandfather recently was diagnosed with cancer. My ...

04/08/2012 The Trouble with Schizophrenia
Dear Annie: Thirty years ago, our son was diagnosed with schizophrenia. He has been hospitalized more than once, although he believes it was only to "punish" him. In the past few years, he has refused all psychiatric intervention. &...

04/07/2012 Entitled Brother Abandons Family Over Money
Dear Annie: My 64-year-old brother has refused to talk to my 86-year-old father for nearly 10 years. When our mother died, Dad married a nice Christian widow. He then sold the family home. He and his new wife built a new one in another town. ...

04/06/2012 No Mutual Support Between Sisters
Dear Annie: For 20 years, I've considered my sister, "Trina," my best friend. A couple of years ago, she was transferred into a very difficult work position. Trina has had a hard life, and I wanted to be there for her through thick and thin. ...

04/05/2012 Her Financial Provider Won't Pick a Career
Dear Annie: I've been with my husband for 15 years. He has many good qualities, but he has always struggled with shyness, low self-esteem and awkwardness. When we got together, he promised to be the financial provider. He started many careers, all of ...

04/04/2012 His Marriage Took a Big Turn
Dear Annie: I'm writing this from a friend's computer so my wife won't find out. "Lizzie" and I are in our late 20s. She has an older sister and two adopted siblings, both of whom are developmentally disabled. One has Down syndrome, but he ...

04/03/2012 Anonymous Screenings on National Alcohol Screening Day
Dear Annie: I want to share a personal story that I decided to be very public about: I'm a recovering alcoholic. The irony of my situation is that I made a successful career out of writing about using alcohol to cope with the stresses of parenthood in ...

04/02/2012 MIL Borrows To Bond?
Dear Annie: My husband and I love to entertain our friends, and we also are often invited to various events. I have a wonderful aunt who owns an upscale shop in another state. Twice a year, she allows me to choose anything I want at fabulous discounts....

04/01/2012 Paws Off the Food Bar
Dear Annie: Our town has a small grocery with popular hot and cold bars where customers can help themselves to deliciously prepared food. Lately, I have noticed a nicely dressed man at the store accompanied by his medium-sized dog. The man reaches ...

03/31/2012 Hubby Seeks Housework, Wife Denies
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married 42 years, and she plans to retire in a few months. I am unemployed, cannot find a job and consider myself retired already. I do the grocery shopping and have dinner on the table by the time my wife ...

03/30/2012 Catholic Past, Jewish Future
Dear Annie: I'm 20 and attending college near my parents' home. Despite what my Catholic family wants, I've been exploring other religions for the past five years and have decided that Judaism is the right road for me. I want to let my family in on ...

03/29/2012 Covert Tryst with Convict Betrays Sibling Bond
Dear Annie: I'm in my mid-20s, and my sister is a junior in high school. "Tina" has always looked up to me as the "cool brother," and we've become buddies. I tell her my issues at work and my troubles with women, and she tells me ...

03/28/2012 Ladies Room Gestapo
Dear Annie: I am a 54-year-old lesbian in a 23-year relationship. My partner and I have begun to hate traveling. Don't get me wrong. We love and enjoy exotic places, but dealing with stupid and rude people is getting old. Our problem has to do ...

03/27/2012 Dodging Divorce
Dear Annie: I have been with "Tony" for three years. When I started seeing him, I didn't realize he was still legally married to a woman who cheated on him. He promised to divorce, but things remain the same. He claims "it's just a ...

03/26/2012 To Move Forward, Back Up
Dear Annie: I am 32 years old and live with my girlfriend, "Sarah," who is 37. We have been together for eight months. Things were great in the beginning, but lately the relationship has been going south. There is an ex-boyfriend who ...

03/25/2012 The High Price of Free Rent
Dear Annie: I graduated from college last year. I have a modest paying job in my hometown and can afford rent. But since I am trying to save money for graduate school, I moved back in with my parents. My folks agreed. They are quite frugal and would ...

03/24/2012 Three-Way Friendships Require Reassurance To Combat Hormones
Dear Annie: I'm 16 years old, and I have two best friends, "Krystina" and "Tayler," who mean the world to me. Lately, Krystina has been full of drama. She often says she feels left out and hurt. But, Annie, we never do anything ...

03/23/2012 Helicopter Mom Needs To Come In for a Landing
Dear Annie: I have been best friends with "Lisa" for more than 25 years. We are both single mothers. Her 16-year-old son, "Dean," is friends with my 17-year-old son, "Jon." I have begun to notice that Lisa is ...

03/22/2012 Dog Bite Victim Needs More Than "Get Over It" To Get Over It
Dear Annie: Five years ago, an encounter with a large, vicious dog put me in the ER and left me with lasting scars, physical and otherwise. I'm almost 20 now. I can pet and play with small, quiet dogs, but larger ones strike panic in me. I ...

03/21/2012 Social Worker Should Tell
Dear Annie: My friend "Jodi" is 27 and very sheltered. Her parents still pay her rent and bills. I'm worried because Jodi has been acting out of character. She cheated on her husband with a 59-year-old man. He's now her new boyfriend and &...

03/20/2012 Hubby Silently Simmers Over Nitpicking Wife
Dear Annie: My wife of three years always seems to have something derogatory to say about "Janie," my 20-year-old daughter from my first marriage. If Janie vacuums, my wife says she didn't do it right. If she has a half-filled garbage can, ...

03/19/2012 Win-Win Turns Into Big Loss
Dear Annie: Four years ago, my adult son was divorced and then lost his job. He tried selling his house, but couldn't find a buyer. At the same time, my sister's daughter, also recently divorced, needed a larger house and a better school system for ...

03/18/2012 Are Interrupters Rude, or Are You Taking the Long Way Around the Barn
Dear Annie: When I married my wife last summer, her son was living in the basement with no intention of getting a job. "Terence" is 23 and not exactly bright. We tried offering advice to help him move forward with his life, but he likes ...

03/17/2012 Don't Let First Love Distort Real Love
Dear Annie: Ten years ago, I fell in love with "Brandon" and had the two happiest years of my life. Then he changed. We broke up, and I found out he had been having sex with another coed. His deception and harsh words put a stop to any ...

03/16/2012 A Distant Fifth Wheel
Dear Annie: I live five hours away from my parents and a married younger brother. I work two jobs and can only afford to visit my folks once a month or so. Lately, when I have driven out to see them, I am the last to discover that the four of ...

03/15/2012 Till Death Do We Chat
Dear Annie: A year ago, my daughter met a man over the Internet. That's fine, but I have the following issues: 1. She wants to marry him without actually having met him in person. 2. He is from a foreign country where the customs are ...

03/14/2012 Bride Might Take a Cue from Her Brother and Boycott the Wedding
Dear Annie: I am getting married in May. My fiance, "Stan," didn't like his last job, so my brother hired him. Stan has been working there for a year. I recently found out that Stan has been pulling nasty pranks on my brother. He ...

03/13/2012 When Love Throws a Wrench Into Friendship
Dear Annie: My husband, "Rick," had been close friends with "Edward" for 30 years. We used to get together frequently, and Edward was always kind and considerate and someone we highly respected. Then, Edward got engaged to "...

03/12/2012 Abuse Is Not Hush-Hush
Dear Annie: My son married a woman with a 3-year-old daughter, "Suzy." Suzy's biological father, "Duke," has shared custody. When I met Duke's parents and extended family, we became quite friendly. Over time, I've learned a ...

03/11/2012 When Harry Met Sally ... at Work
Dear Annie: Is it possible for two married co-workers of the opposite sex to be friends? I have been married to "Jane" for 15 years. A year ago, she discovered that I was texting my co-worker "Lisa," with whom I have a ...

03/10/2012 Just Be Happy Just Don't Fly
Dear Annie: "John" and I have been married for 15 years. He is a wonderful person and a great father to our two young girls. Our relationship is fine on the surface, but it's emotionally empty. There is little intimacy, which has been ...

03/09/2012 Mom's a Mess and Auntie's a Mom
Dear Annie: My niece, "Tricia," and I have always been close. Her mother (my sister) had a very traumatic life, and I often came to the rescue to be sure my niece was fed and protected. Tricia is now grown with two adult children of her own ...

03/08/2012 Married to the Meanie
Dear Annie: My best friend, "Maggie," and I are like sisters. We have great fun, can talk about nearly anything and have supported each other through our toughest times. Our husbands also get along well, and we often do things together. ...

03/07/2012 When a Healthy Dose of Suspicion Makes Sense
Dear Annie: "Bill" and I have been married for 43 years. He retired three years ago. We didn't socialize with any of his co-workers, so I didn't know them well. Last Christmas, Bill got a card with no return address. It only had Bill'...

03/06/2012 Caregiving Sibling Carrying Too Much
Dear Annie: My father is 87 years old and has congestive heart failure. I am the youngest of four siblings, two of whom live out of town. For some reason, everything falls on me. We pay for a caregiver to come in for four hours a day, but she ...

03/05/2012 Flogging the Family Feud
Dear Annie: My fiance and I were best friends growing up, and our families were close, as well. When we were 16, his parents suddenly pulled "Paul" out of school and told me never to call their house again. My mother said Paul was no longer ...

03/04/2012 Will Dad Step Up?
Dear Annie: Six years ago, I divorced my alcoholic, workaholic husband and became a single parent. My ex has regular visitation, but I am the one who handles all the sick days, school conferences, injuries, etc. He never bothers. Shortly after the ...

03/03/2012 Best Friends Forever ... or For Now
Dear Annie: I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I have been with my boyfriend, "Mike," for a year, and I love him more than anything. However, my friends feel differently. They find him loud and rude. Mike thinks they are immature, and he ...

03/02/2012 There Are Rules and Laws Governing Debt Collection
Dear Annie: Our son's first marriage ended in divorce 10 years ago. From that union, we have a wonderful 13-year-old grandson. Our ex-daughter-in-law, "June," remarried quickly, and that marriage failed about 18 months ago. ...

03/01/2012 Family Is Rarely a Zero-Sum Game
Dear Annie: My spouse and I are in a 40-year same-sex relationship. Seven years ago, we had a legal marriage, but my family refused to recognize it. My brother's wife went so far as to write letters to the local newspaper urging repeal of the law. My ...

02/29/2012 Invite Her if You Can Afford Her
Dear Annie: I have been friends with "Laura" since my husband and I moved here 22 years ago. She is financially better off than I am (and flaunts it), but it never bothered me until she decided we should exchange Christmas gifts a few years ...

02/28/2012 College Girls Need Friends Beyond Mom
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. She has a grown daughter from her first marriage. I watched "Lori" grow up and love her as my own. My wife always has been fiercely defensive of Lori. I can't say anything ...

02/27/2012 Get. Out. Now.
Dear Annie: In my 22 years, I have had only two serious boyfriends. After both relationships ended in heartbreak, I decided to give myself a breather from men. Nine months later, I met Chris. We grew close in a short period of time, but the ...

02/26/2012 Cookies Before Complaints
Dear Annie: We live in a new neighborhood and take pride in the appearance of our home and yard. We were very pleased when new neighbors bought the house next door and moved in. Unfortunately, they have a rusting vintage car that's parked in ...

02/25/2012 Violent Child Can't Be Trusted Around Sibs
Dear Annie: When I married my husband, his son, "D.J." was 6 years old. My children from my first marriage were slightly older. Right from the start, D.J. was a handful. He was violent and often in trouble at school. A year into the ...

02/24/2012 Hubby in the Hot Seat over Hot Flashes
Dear Annie: For the past year, my wife, "Janie," has been getting hot flashes. She is always broiling in the house while the rest of the family freezes. She insists on keeping the temperature at 70, while the rest of us are most comfortable ...

02/23/2012 Great Friend, Lousy Roommate
Dear Annie: Last April, I moved into an apartment with one of my best friends. We get along great except for one thing: her cats. "Renee" was born with no sense of smell. She's normally very organized except when it comes to the ...

02/22/2012 Thorn in the Family Side
Dear Annie: My husband and I were both widowed before meeting. We are now 70 and have been happily married for six years. We both have grown children. Everything is good in our blended family except for my son's wife. "Stacy" has been ...

02/21/2012 Whitewashed from the Family Photos
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. She has a son from her first marriage who lives in another state. We haven't been to "Keith's" house in four years because my wife has some health problems that keep her from ...

02/20/2012 Mom-Sanctioned PDA at the Dinner Table
Dear Annie: I have two grown children, both married with kids. My youngest, "Carrie," has a 14-year-old daughter who has been seeing a boy for a year. The other day, we were visiting Carrie, and my granddaughter and her boyfriend got ...

02/19/2012 Held Hostage by Depression
Dear Annie: My roommate, "Michelle," is suffering from depression. Six months ago, she suddenly lost interest in going out with friends and would cry for no reason. She began calling in sick so many times that she was fired. She cashed out ...

02/18/2012 Hands Are Tied when a Messed-Up Child Is a Legal Adult
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old nephew has been a troubled youth, despite all the attempts of his family to help him, including counseling and rehab. When he was 18, he became involved with a messed-up 14-year-old girl who used drugs, alcohol and sex to ...

02/17/2012 Damaging Favoritism Amid Broken Boundaries
Dear Annie: I have two daughters, ages 5 and 2. My in-laws favor the older girl. They buy her more presents, give her more money and pay way more attention to her than to her sister. They almost seem obsessed with her. As soon as she walks in the door,...

02/16/2012 Ex Con on the Straight and Narrow Canned
Dear Annie: After eight years at my job, I was let go. I have a felony record. The CEO who knew of my background retired last year. He felt I had proved myself and had no problem with me. When he retired, we got an interim CEO. I told him about my ...

02/15/2012 Equal Parts Heart Over Equal Parts Money
Dear Annie: My husband and I work comparable hours, but I earn less than half of what he does and have little discretionary income. I come home to my "second shift," which includes cooking, cleaning and picking up after this man, who leaves ...

02/14/2012 Valentine's Day Sex Therapy
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, along with our special good wishes to the veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our particular thanks to those readers who have taken the time to send valentines, visit the vets and ...

02/13/2012 Too Much Power in an Ex
Dear Annie: "Ron" and I have been living together for more than a year. I love him and believe he loves me. We are both in our 60s and retired. Ron is good to me in all but one way: He can't seem to cut off contact with his old ...

02/12/2012 Wannabe Doc Has No Time for Mom and Dad
Dear Annie: Our 22-year-old son is in college. He lives at home, and we pay all his expenses, which is fine with us. He was never particularly interested in school until his last year of high school. Now he's doing really well. The problem is, ...

02/11/2012 The Little Extras in Estate Planning
Dear Annie: I am 90 years old and am concerned that after I die my kids will squabble over my things. So I would like to work it out before that happens. I have a daughter who lives in another state and two wonderful daughters-in-law who live ...

02/10/2012 Bleeding Grandma
Dear Annie: My mother is 86 and lives in another state. My 33-year-old nephew and his three kids live with her, as do my niece, "Joanna," and her two children. Not one of them has a job. Several months ago, Mom broke her hip and was ...

02/09/2012 Jordan Overload
Dear Annie: My wife, "Jane," and I have been married for five years, and she is the love of my life. She has an identical twin sister named "Jordan." The two women are best friends. Jordan is at our house four or five times a week, ...

02/08/2012 Lawyer Up for Limbo
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Clifford" for 36 years. He recently told me he is in love with his secretary and wants to be with her. Did I mention she is 23 and in the process of getting a divorce? Clifford is the last person I ...

02/07/2012 Till Mike Do We Part
Dear Annie: After 40 years of marriage, my wife came home from work one day and said she was leaving. I decided then that I would never marry again. Four years ago, I met "Lynn." Now, of course, I am madly in love with her. She never ...

02/06/2012 Wave a Drama-Free Goodbye to Mama and Her Boy
Dear Annie: I have been married nearly 30 years to someone who is a self-centered, selfish, immature mama's boy. Mama is so controlling, and yet so needy, that every time we've moved, she's moved nearby. She has switched to the same doctor and even ...

02/05/2012 Path To Common Ground Not Paved with Abuse and Anger
Dear Annie: My husband's sister is impossible. "Anabel" is bitter, nasty, venal, snide and vicious. She can't wait two minutes before making a cruel remark. Soon after my husband and I moved back to his hometown, he had a stroke at ...

02/04/2012 Drug-Dealing Bipolar Parents Seek Full-Time Sitter
Dear Annie: My brother lives 100 miles away from his job. He says he has a good job, but our family strongly suspects he is dealing drugs again. He has two children with an ex-girlfriend who is bipolar and not taking her medication. The ...

02/03/2012 Curbing Self-Indulgent Mom
Dear Annie: I am one of nine children. There is a large age gap between us because my younger siblings are from a second marriage. They are 3, 5 and 7. Since moving out a few years ago, I have begun to see my mother in a different light. As a ...

02/02/2012 Facebook Rebel's Motives Unclear
Dear Annie: I am a college freshman. My sister, "Katie," is a sophomore in high school. I am on good terms with many of her friends. One, "Jessie," is a bit wild. In November, Jessie messaged me on Facebook. She said she ...

02/01/2012 Dire Forecast Can Bring About Cloudy Conditions
Dear Annie: My husband and I moved from Alaska to Hawaii a year ago to help a friend who is suffering with ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease). "John" promised to pay my husband $120 a day if he would leave his job and act as caregiver. My husband ...

01/31/2012 Help for Mentally Ill Mary
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law, "Mary," is a demanding, conceited, freeloading, depressed 60-year-old witch. She has made our lives miserable for the five years I've been married. Mary used to work as a nurse, owned her own home and ...

01/30/2012 Gay Man Balking
Dear Annie: I have loved a gay man all my life, and I am now 64, so I know a little something about the problem. I work in an office where a 35-year-old man is dating a female co-worker who is 50. I believe they both care for each other, but ...

01/29/2012 Alcoholic Mom Mothers On
Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old married woman. I have two much younger brothers from my mother's second marriage. They live with her in another state. Recently, Mom admitted that she is an alcoholic. I've always had my suspicions, but was never ...

01/28/2012 Call Me
Dear Annie: Six years ago, I married "Richard." He is a wonderful, caring, good-looking man. We returned from our honeymoon to find out he had lost his job. The next three years were a rollercoaster, and he finally found employment 18 months ...

01/27/2012 Forgotten Roots
Dear Annie: I never thought I'd be writing, but here I am. I was a single mother and struggled to raise my children without help. They are all good kids. One daughter, "Susan," lives 2,000 miles away from the rest of the family. She ...

01/26/2012 Child From Previous Affair
Dear Annie: Thirty years ago, my husband had a long-term affair. At the time, he was 30, and she was 16. He planned to leave me, and our two young children, but he changed his mind and supposedly broke off the affair. Last year, I found out he had a ...

01/25/2012 Angry With 'Angry Birds'
Dear Annie: My wife is addicted to playing games on her smartphone. She lies in bed in the morning playing games before she gets ready for work. When she comes home, she is often on the phone when she walks through the door. When we sit down for ...

01/24/2012 Feeling Blue
Dear Annie: I am a man in my 50s with a lot of problems. First, my wife of nearly 20 years left me for a much younger man. (She now lives in a foreign country.) For three years, I've been raising three kids alone. I'm under-employed and nearly broke. ...

01/23/2012 Secondhand Electronic Smoke
Dear Annie: My pregnant granddaughter smokes. She has switched to electronic cigarettes, telling her husband that these are completely safe and will not affect the baby in any way. She also claims there is no danger of secondhand smoke. I say ...

01/22/2012 In Love With Friend's Husband
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I was fired for stealing from my job. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone, so I lied — to my parents, my friends, everybody. I told them I quit so I could go back to school. Then I lost my house because I didn'...

01/21/2012 Real Affair Versus 'Emotional Affair'
Dear Annie: I am 44 years old and have been married for 12 years. This is my first marriage and her third. My wife had a yearlong affair with a co-worker. We tried counseling, but her inability to end the affair forced me to move out, although ...

01/20/2012 New Shift Leads to Lack of Sex
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 50s. We have been married for one year and have not been intimate for six months. Until he transferred to a second-shift job, our bedroom was exciting. Now I'm not allowed to touch him. Anything more than ...

01/19/2012 Not Doing Their Fair Share
Dear Annie: I am in a relationship with a widower. He is a thoughtful person and works two jobs. His two adult sons live in his home with their girlfriends. Neither of the boys pays rent. Nor do they buy groceries or cleaning supplies. They never ...

01/18/2012 Jerked Around
Dear Annie: My girlfriend broke up with me in April because she wanted to date another guy. Over the summer, she sent me random emails and text messages about various things, a few of which I answered out of politeness. In September, we both ...

01/17/2012 Kitchen Remodel Causes Family Rift
Dear Annie: We have five grown children. One of our sons, "Mark," obtained a contractor's license and asked to remodel our kitchen and bathroom so he could show his work to potential customers. He said the only cost to us would be for ...

01/16/2012 These Families Don't Need Help
Dear Annie: Four months ago, I joined a nonprofit that provides free tutoring and homework help to elementary-school kids. When I started, the kids coming into our center were from low-income minority and immigrant families. These were kids who would ...

01/15/2012 National Salute to Veteran Patients
Dear Annie: Among my joys as President Barack Obama's Secretary of Veterans Affairs is the chance to see the expressions of gratitude from Americans of all walks of life for the service and sacrifices made by our military veterans. This happens every ...

01/14/2012 Favorite Grandchildren
Dear Annie: How do you deal with ignorant relatives? My wife and I have two teenagers and three children under the age of 12. We live an hour away from family and see them during holidays, birthdays, cookouts and such. I am close to both of my parents ...

01/13/2012 Womanizing Roommate
Dear Annie: I recently moved into an apartment with three other guys. We get along well and have fun together. One of my roommates is a serious player and has no qualms about dating six women at the same time. With each one, he implies that ...

01/12/2012 Dangerous Son
Dear Annie: I have a friend in Alabama who is being physically and mentally abused by her adult son. I've called domestic abuse hotlines for information, and I gave my friend a phone number to call in case she needed someone to talk to. She seemed ...

01/11/2012 Dad, You're Disgusting
Dear Annie: I am increasingly disgusted by my dad. He is obese and getting bigger, and he won't (can't?) stop eating. He and my mother recently stayed in our home for a long weekend. When we went out for breakfast, Dad ordered enough food to feed ...

01/10/2012 False Positive
Dear Annie: A few years ago, I was ready to begin a new job pending a drug test and was told to call a few days after for my start date. I live cleanly and don't touch drugs or alcohol. I contacted the company and left a voicemail. I called ...

01/09/2012 Trapped in Abusive Relationship
Dear Annie: My good friend "Ben" met "Kim" during his first week as a freshman at college. Three weeks later, Ben called to tell me they were getting married in a month. Both of their families were shocked. Ben is usually a ...

01/08/2012 A Universal Signal
Dear Annie: You recently printed a letter from "Worried Driver in Lafayette, Ind.," who asked for a universal sign to tell drivers to hang up their cellphones. As a psychology instructor, this subject often comes up in class when ...

01/07/2012 A Breakup Doesn't Always Come with a Good Reason
Dear Annie: I'd been seeing "Ralph" for more than three years. We were actually living together the last year. Ralph is 60, and I'm 55. Six months ago, he announced that he couldn't be in the relationship any longer. After a lot of talk and ...

01/06/2012 Dealing with Dementia
Dear Annie: Seven years ago, I married into a wonderful family. It was my second marriage, and the family accepted my 10-year-old son as their own. My father-in-law has always been nice to me, but I've been told there was a lot of verbal abuse ...

01/05/2012 When Other People's Kids Need Your Help
Dear Annie: Last January, a couple moved to our town, and their two daughters began attending school with my 11-year-old daughter. The older girl is the same age as mine, and they became friends. Throughout the summer, the girls played at our ...

01/04/2012 Twice a Month He's Gonna Party Like It's 1999
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Horace" for less than a year. This is his second marriage. His prior marriage was to his high school girlfriend, and they have two children together. I met Horace in my "partying" stage. ...

01/03/2012 Home Is Where the Snark Is
Dear Annie: I am a 17-year-old girl with divorced parents. My dad lives with "Heather." She is young, has three kids and is very irritating. Heather seems to think she has to make fun of people. Her favorite targets are my mom and my ...

01/02/2012 Spineless Parents Breed Spoiled Brats
Dear Annie: My husband has twin 28-year-old daughters. They are hardworking and smart, and any parent would be proud of their achievements. I began dating my husband five years after his divorce, and we married three years later. However, when ...

01/01/2012 A Little Distance Can Mean a Happy New Year
Dear Readers: Happy New Year! We hope you celebrated responsibly, and that 2012 will bring good health and good cheer to all of our wonderful readers. Dear Annie: I've been married for 14 years and have known my husband's family for an ...

12/31/2011 Oops Sex on Sleep Aids
Dear Annie: I am a 60-year-old man, and I'm in a 10-month relationship with a beautiful young woman of 63. A terrible thing happened. An ex-girlfriend I briefly dated years ago stopped by my house to repay some money I loaned her. She brought ...

12/30/2011 When the Mother You Love Is the Woman You Can't Stand
Dear Annie: My mother lives by herself. I have not spent a great deal of time with her, but now that she is aging, I feel guilty for not being around. Mom doesn't have any friends, and my siblings barely speak to her. She is a difficult woman. ...

12/29/2011 Honor Thy Emotionally Abusive Mother?
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband, "Andrew," for 10 years. During this time, I have witnessed the way he is treated by his stepmother. His father always defended his wife when she insulted or hurt Andrew, saying "she didn't mean ...

12/28/2011 Bully for You, Sis
Dear Annie: My sister is snide and competitive and makes hateful comments whenever we're together. She's a bully who has made my life difficult for the past 10 years. I tried to make things right for my parents' sake, until I realized they were too ...

12/27/2011 Hubby Wants His Dolly
Dear Annie: My husband, "Frank," retired three years ago, after more than 40 years with the same company. He frequently mentioned a co-worker, "Dolly," saying how nice she was and what good friends they were. He wondered how she ...

12/26/2011 The Ultimate DIY Project
Dear Annie: We have a 54-year-old friend we are desperately trying to help. "Timothy" is morbidly obese at nearly 300 pounds. He suffers from related health issues: sleep apnea, high blood pressure, joint pain and constant fatigue. He is ...

12/25/2011 An Inflated Take on a Classic
Dear Readers: A Merry Christmas to one and all. Here's an interesting take on the following well-known song, figures courtesy of the PNC Christmas Price Index: "The Twelve Days of Christmas" On the first day of Christmas my ...

12/24/2011 Lose the Pitter-Pat for Friendly Chitchat
Dear Annie: I've begun to develop strong feelings for one of my managers at work. She is beautiful both inside and out and fun to be around. When I am near her, I behave properly, but inside, my heart is going pitter-pat. I want to do the ...

12/23/2011 Armed Alcoholic Is a Tragedy Waiting To Happen
Dear Annie: My friend "Candi" regularly drinks and drives. She often drinks at a friend's house and then drives herself home. Other times, she drinks at home and then goes out. There are even times when she takes her teenage daughter in the ...

12/22/2011 Madly in Love from a Distance
Dear Annie: A year ago, my girlfriend and I started dating, but this isn't what you would call a normal relationship. She and I live about 500 hundred miles apart, and only met in July on a trip to Florida. We connected four years ago in an ...

12/21/2011 It's Easier To Replace the Cookware than the Husband Who Cooks
Dear Annie: I usually do the cooking in the house, but occasionally, my husband likes to surprise me by preparing a meal. I'm glad he wants to relieve me of the kitchen duties, but he has a bad habit of wrecking my cookware. Recently, I came ...

12/20/2011 She Loves the Heat but Won't Start the Fire
Dear Annie: You frequently print letters from husbands whose wives show no interest in sex, but I've never seen a problem like mine. My wife loves sex. However, she will never initiate it or act seductively. If I don't initiate sex, it doesn't happen. ...

12/19/2011 Help Rarely Comes Uninvited
Dear Annie: I am a single mother of three, trying desperately to make ends meet. My paycheck is normally gone before I get back to work on Monday. I've been trying to find a part-time job to supplement my income, to no avail. Since my annual salary is ...

12/18/2011 The Danger of Indulging the Fantasies of the Underaged
Dear Annie: I am 18 and had been seeing casually a 15-year-old girl who lives down the street. We were mostly friends, although she hinted that she wanted something more out of the relationship. When I turned 18, my father had a serious talk ...

12/17/2011 Be Insistent With Doctors Who Ignore Symptoms
Dear Annie: During a self-exam in March, I noticed a painful lump above my left breast. I was told repeatedly that painful lumps are rarely breast cancer, and that it was probably a benign fibroid. I was unable to get a doctor to take it seriously....

12/16/2011 The 'Other' Grandparents Give Better Gifts
Dear Annie: I've written you before, but this time I hit the send button. I have three grandchildren. One is biologically related, and the other two are my daughter's stepchildren from two previous relationships. The older child currently ...

12/15/2011 Abandoned After Separation
Dear Annie: My husband and I separated 10 years ago when our children were preteens. He has shown little interest in them and maintains contact only due to my encouragement. My family always includes him when we have family get-togethers. His family, ...

12/14/2011 What Did I Do?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have noticed that his sister's husband has been rather cool to us for quite some time. We can barely get a civil hello from him at family events, yet he is warm and friendly to others. To the best of our knowledge, we have ...

12/13/2011 Full Disclosure
Dear Annie: I have been unemployed since April. My former employers signed a nondisclosure contract about the terms of my resignation. But apparently, if the company to which I am applying asks the right questions, they are told everything. My ...

12/12/2011 Cheating Husband Doesn't Need To Change
Dear Annie: I married "Henry" five years ago. It was my second marriage and his third. Henry thinks he is easy to get along with, but I find it difficult to communicate with him. If he doesn't like what you say, you are wrong. Last ...

12/11/2011 Racist Granny
Dear Annie: My husband and I adopted our daughter at birth. When my mother-in-law found out that "Amanda" is biracial, she informed my husband that we were no longer welcome in her home. Initially, she admitted it was simple racism, but now ...

12/10/2011 A Family Impaired by Alcohol
Dear Annie: I have three daughters, the youngest of whom is 45. "Susan" has not been in a relationship for five years, and she has a severe drinking problem. She has had two DWI convictions and lost her license for a year. She received the ...

12/09/2011 Reindeer Got Run Over by a Granny
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for more than nine years and still have a problem with my mother-in-law. When I had a bridal shower, Mom didn't reply, didn't show up and never sent a card. This made me feel unwelcome. (She still has a ...

12/08/2011 When Family Secrets Are Dangerous
Dear Annie: My 12-year-old son recently informed me that his 18-year-old cousin was molesting him. I immediately informed my in-laws. They were in shock and denial. Both said, "Are you sure? Maybe they were experimenting." I was outraged and ...

12/07/2011 Forever the Fiance, Never the Groom
Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and divorced. I am now engaged to a woman who is 29 years my junior. "Carla" is everything I ever wanted. I never intended to fall in love with her, but I needed a friend, and there she was. She feels the same ...

12/06/2011 Mystery in the Middle
Dear Annie: My husband and I have three adult sons. The oldest and youngest are married, but the middle son (age 56) is not. He has his own house in our neighborhood and has had a younger man living with him for many years. We assume our son is gay, ...

12/05/2011 Is It Worth Opening this Can of Worms?
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my wife left me. I went to counseling immediately, and we worked hard to get back together for the sake of our children. We eventually reconciled. While I try not to dwell on the past, something still troubles me, and I'm ...

12/04/2011 Holidays Sometimes Require Extending Invitations You'd Rather Not
Dear Annie: My brother and "Melanie" had a baby together (unplanned). The boy is now 2 years old. Melanie moved in with my brother before the baby arrived and stayed until two months ago. She was never overly kind to my brother, frequently ...

12/03/2011 Single Mom Needs To Cool It with the Slumber Parties
Dear Annie: I have a 35-year-old daughter with two children (ages 13 and 2), and they all are living with us. "Micki" moved in after leaving her common-law husband a few months ago. He was the third man in her life. Since Micki has ...

12/02/2011 Betrayed by Her Boyfriend and Her Boss
Dear Annie: I work for a major corporation, and I like my job. However, my boss has betrayed me. She is single, and I wanted to set her up with a friend of my boyfriend. She sent me her picture, and my boyfriend asked me to send the pic to his ...

12/01/2011 Lock Up the House Treasures and Invite the Thieving Girlfriend for Christmas
Dear Annie: My nephew was in the hospital last summer. Because the hospital is closer to our house, his parents and the nephew's 17-year-old girlfriend stayed with us for two nights. Within a few hours, we noticed $70 was missing from a ...

11/30/2011 Grandparents Seeking Custody Could Consider Legal Guardianship or Foster Parenting
Dear Annie: We are the grandparents of a beautiful 4-year-old girl. We have been watching her for the past three months because her parents had their water service shut off due to lack of payment. A month ago, they had their gas and electricity shut ...

11/29/2011 No Dibs on Friends
Dear Annie: I am taking a foreign language class at school. The first week, there was a new girl, "Molly." No one talked to her except me. I made her laugh, and we had fun at lunch. She became my only friend in that class. Two weeks ...

11/28/2011 Embrace Your Inner Ogre
Dear Annie: My husband and I are raising our two teenage grandchildren. Our grandson is 15 and recently started going out with a girl. They attend the same school and are Facebook friends. We don't know this girl, but after their first outing to a ...

11/27/2011 Six Ways To Disarm a Flirt
Dear Annie: Your column is the first thing my wife reads every morning, so I figured I'd write. An issue has come up that I'd rather not discuss with anyone else. My wife and I are both retired. We go to the same neighborhood coffee shop every ...

11/26/2011 A War of Unilateral Decisions
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a small online stock trading account. Several months ago, he mentioned that he was thinking of giving our son and daughter-in-law money to open their own stock account. I immediately told him I was against it. I then ...

11/25/2011 When the Silver Spoon Spoils
Dear Annie: I am a sophomore in college and have been living with the same roommate for the past two years. I've known "Max" since high school, and we were good friends. Toward the end of last semester, however, Max started to do things that ...

11/24/2011 Happy Thanksgiving Wishes
Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends. And an extra shout-out to those readers who are spending the day volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens. Bless you for your kind ...

11/23/2011 A Family Destroyed ... by a Spoiled Surprise
Dear Annie: My oldest child is 27 and engaged. He and his fiancee, "Kayla," ordered the wedding rings together. Last May, my son texted, saying, "We are going to pick up the ring on Thursday." That Sunday we celebrated ...

11/22/2011 One Day at a Time Is Ahead of Himself
Dear Annie: I'm a young man fresh out of high school and taking life one day at a time. "Rachel" is my best friend. I've known her family for many years. We confide in each other and have no walls. She's quirky and sometimes calls me ...

11/21/2011 Mama's Girl Isn't Going Anywhere
Dear Annie: For the past three years, I have been in a committed relationship with "Kathleen." We truly love each other, and I have been like a father to her 10-year-old son, "Brandon." The problem is, Kathleen is 46 and ...

11/20/2011 Getting a Grip on the Out-of-Control 'Boyd' in the Class
Dear Annie: My son is in the second grade at a terrific private school. Unfortunately, there is an out-of-control boy who has been in his class since kindergarten. "Boyd" is in the principal's office nearly every day because he throws temper ...

11/19/2011 Gone Is the High School Guidance Counselor?
Dear Annie: I am very concerned about the state of education, specifically as it relates to the elimination of services. I am a high school counselor who is passionate about helping students and their families navigate through some of life's ...

11/18/2011 When Is a Kiss Just a Kiss?
Dear Annie: When is a kiss just a kiss? The husband of my wife's best friend gave her a wee bit of a special kiss on the lips after another summer of overlapping vacation time at a summer cottage. I could be way off the mark, but it seemed like more ...

11/17/2011 Are Grandparents Automatically Free Babysitters?
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my daughter was newly married and pregnant. Neither she nor her husband had a job, so both sets of parents took them in at various times and helped when the baby was born. My son-in-law went back to school and got ...

11/16/2011 Marry Her or Leave Her Alone
Dear Annie: My girlfriend, "Sophie," and I broke up three months ago after a five-year relationship because of my inability to commit. While we were together, I was brutally honest about how I felt, even though I hated how unhappy she was ...

11/15/2011 People Aren't Obligated To Leave Anyone Anything
Dear Annie: Here's the story: My sister married into a wealthy family. Unfortunately, her husband died three weeks ago at the age of 63. My grieving sister was visiting with her in-laws recently and was informed through casual conversation ...

11/14/2011 Is a 22-Year Age Gap Too Big?
Dear Annie: I am a 44-year-old single guy with no kids, never married. I look younger than my age and could probably pass for 34. I recently met this beautiful girl who is a senior in college. She seemed very nice and is probably 21 or 22 ...

11/13/2011 Unconditional Love Doesn't Mean Anything Goes
Dear Annie: Recently, my sister, "Linda," became furious when a friend of mine politely declined to do an unreasonable favor. Rather than accept no for an answer, she tried to manipulate other people into strong-arming him into changing his ...

11/12/2011 The Office Leech Is the Boss's Nephew
Dear Annie: I work in a small office with 10 people. We all work on commission. The problem is the boss's nephew. "Randy" does as little as possible to get by and is a total leech. I know he doesn't make much on commission, because he rarely ...

11/11/2011 In Honor of Our Veterans
Dear Readers: Today is Veterans Day. In honor of our veterans, here is a piece written by John Alton Robinson of West Monroe, La. "Freedom" From the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier To the silver-haired crowns of our fathers<...

11/10/2011 Midlife Crisis on the Dot
Dear Annie: I recently turned 50, and I hate it. I wasn't bothered when I turned 40, but this birthday is really eating at me. I used to be very athletic, but with all the abuse I put my body through, I had to quit playing sports. I was well ...

11/09/2011 Suicidal Tendencies
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter, "Shawna," is dating an 18-year-old boy who is abusive of her. She lives with him and his family. She has an 18-month-old son, and my wife and I have custody, not only because she felt she was too young to ...

11/08/2011 Very Part-Time Job Isn't Worth Alienating Daughter
Dear Annie: I am a retired 70-year-old single senior and live on a fixed income. I try to be self-sufficient so I won't have to depend on my children for anything. They have their own financial issues. Two years ago, my daughter, "Alice,&...

11/07/2011 A Threat from Beyond the Grave
Dear Annie: My wife and I just celebrated a bittersweet 25th wedding anniversary. Eight months ago, a friend emailed that my wife's college boyfriend, "Steve," was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Their relationship only lasted a few ...

11/06/2011 Take Your Children's Serious Claims Seriously
Dear Annie: Recently, our 11-year-old daughter visited her 14-year-old cousin over the weekend. When she came home, she told us that her aunt and uncle went to a neighborhood party, and she and her cousin went to bed in separate rooms. During the ...

11/05/2011 Honesty Is Not Always the Best Policy
Dear Annie: My cousin "Kelly" went from a rotten marriage to a horrible relationship, with no break in between. During this past year, her boyfriend has cheated, lied and threatened her. I was her shoulder to cry on and finally had ...

11/04/2011 Are Angry Married Parents Better than Divorced Parents?
Dear Annie: I have a year-old son whom I love more than anything in the world. My girlfriend, "Karen," and I are trying to be good parents. The problem is, Karen and I have broken up several times due to arguments that got out of ...

11/03/2011 Falsely Accused: Mothers Versus Stepmothers
Dear Annie: I am a stepmom to two wonderful little boys under the age of 4. I treat them the same as my own children. The problem is their mother. "Carla" acts as if I am the wicked witch. I know it is hard to let another woman care for your ...

11/02/2011 Psychological Effects of Extreme Favoritism
Dear Annie: My brother, "Lenny," lives in upstate New York, and I live in Texas, but we've always been close and call each other often. Lenny has been raising two grandsons, ages 9 and 10, since the parents died in an accident four years ago....

11/01/2011 Calling Off the Wedding Isn't Always the End
Dear Annie: My fiancee, "Beth," and I have been together for more than two years. Recently, she called off our wedding, saying she isn't ready. The wedding was planned for a year in the future, so I am grateful she told me now. A few ...

10/31/2011 A Marriage of Porn and Abuse?
Dear Annie: We live in a large townhouse complex with people from many different backgrounds. For some time, several of the residents have been talking about a young boy who lives here. The mother, whose husband openly disparages her (and has little ...

10/30/2011 The Third Isn't Always the Charm
Dear Annie: My only sibling passed away six years ago. He left three adult children and a wife who walked out on him a month before he died. The two eldest children are doing great. The problem is the youngest. "Olivia" is an adroit ...

10/29/2011 Mom and Hubby Just Can't Get Along
Dear Annie: I have been married to "George" for more than 20 years. For most of this time, there has been tension (to put it mildly) between my husband and my mother. He rubs her the wrong way, she snipes at him, and he snipes back. I've had ...

10/28/2011 He's Working for the Ex
Dear Annie: I have been seeing my boyfriend for more than a year. "Keith" was divorced three years ago, but he and his ex-wife live in the same town and have four kids together, one of whom still lives with her. I am bothered by ...

10/27/2011 Depressed and Adrift Hubby Wants To Go Home
Dear Annie: My husband, "Harry," and I have been married for 32 years. Recently, he lost his job because of disability. I work two jobs to support the family. Six months ago, Harry suggested we sell our house and move to his old ...

10/26/2011 Abandoned Son Knows His Father's Secret
Dear Annie: My eldest brother has a secret. Before he met his wife, he was married and had two children in a country that does not have divorce. This was 25 years ago. The first marriage was very rocky, and my brother left his wife while she was ...

10/25/2011 Cheating Father, Dying Mother
Dear Annie: I come from a family of seven kids. Last spring, our oldest sister, "Susan," was diagnosed with lung cancer, and it has spread. We have rallied around and take turns spending time with her. We recently found out that "...

10/24/2011 She's Leaving for All the Right Reasons
Dear Annie: I am 29 years old, have been married for eight years and have two toddlers. I have decided to leave my husband. When we met, I was in college and my husband had just graduated. I quit school with the assumption that he would pass ...

10/23/2011 A Rotten Childhood Doesn't Have To Mean a Rotten Life
Dear Annie: I'm very intelligent. Unfortunately, I was raised by a neglectful mother and her hateful, abusive unmarried sister. Trouble at home led to trouble at school, resulting in multiple expulsions that hindered my education. My father was out of ...

10/22/2011 Her Husband's Hateful Children Get Away with It
Dear Annie: A few years ago, I married a wonderful, thoughtful, caring man. It was a second marriage for both of us. When we were dating, everything seemed to be perfect. His two sons are grown and out of the house, and he has two teenage girls still ...

10/21/2011 Wife Wants Impotent Husband To Give It Up
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married more than 40 years. We are retired, have no debts and are financially comfortable. We have a great family. Due to age and medical conditions, my husband is almost completely impotent. But he won't ...

10/20/2011 Kid Picks on Facebook
Dear Annie: Yesterday, our daughter-in-law announced that she did not want pictures of her children posted on Facebook. My wife is beside herself, saying that "Mary" has no right to do this. My wife refuses to respect the request. ...

10/19/2011 Does Baby Have To Change Everything?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have an old friend whom we've known more than 40 years. For the past 20, we have alternated spending Christmas Eve together. "Betsy" has one unmarried adult son who has not attended our Christmas events ...

10/18/2011 Matching a Gift in Meaning Doesn't Necessitate Matching it in Value
Dear Annie: About 17 years ago, a neighbor of mine employed "Violet," a teenage au pair from France. We became friends, but when Violet returned home, we lost touch. Earlier this year, Violet found me on Facebook, and we corresponded ...

10/17/2011 Higher Expectations Can Feel Like Criticism
Dear Annie: I am a 19-year-old girl still living with my parents. My 22-year- old brother lives here, as well. I am working two part-time jobs and recently obtained full-time employment. My brother, "Sam," attended college courses ...

10/16/2011 Big Dangers in Washing Mouths Out with Soap
Dear Annie: The other day my daughter threatened to wash her 4-year-old's mouth out with soap. I don't want to interfere in how she disciplines her kids, but I told her I am totally against putting soap in a child's mouth. I explained that ...

10/15/2011 Grandson Should Be Compensated for Full-Time Care for Grandma
Dear Annie: I am one of three sisters. Our mother is 93 years old and has Alzheimer's. For the past four years, my 44-year-old son has been her full-time caregiver. He shops, cooks, does her laundry, makes sure she takes her medications and is up half ...

10/14/2011 One Family, Two Alpha Males
Dear Annie: My husband and my son-in-law are both alpha males. My daughter and I are very close. In the early years of my daughter's marriage, there was a small power struggle between her husband and me, but I bit my tongue until it bled. We seem to ...

10/13/2011 Family Feud is Spreading
Dear Annie: Two of my married children have been in a feud for more than three years. It started with comments made about one of their children and has accelerated to the point where one won't attend a family function if the other is there. Now it is ...

10/12/2011 There Are Some Relationships You Just Can't Fix
Dear Annie: My husband, "Fred," is one of many siblings. His mother passed away several years ago. Since her death, his father's negative and controlling nature has become amplified. He is verbally abusive and would never consider ...

10/11/2011 He Doesn't Want Her Back
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 23 years. We recently separated due to our 18-year-old son's anger management issues and my wife's sick parents. She moved out nine months ago to take care of them. Well, her parents died, and my ...

10/10/2011 House Rules Stand
Dear Annie: My husband, our daughter and I made plans to visit my mother-in-law. Other family members will be in town, as well, including our older daughter (age 25) and her boyfriend. They live together. My mother-in-law informed me that my ...

10/09/2011 Outgrowing Your Friends
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been friends with "Ed and Bonnie" for many years. We were in each other's weddings, our kids are the same age, we have taken vacations together, and on and on. My problem now is Ed's drinking. He has ...

10/08/2011 When Bullying Lasts a Lifetime
Dear Annie: More than 40 years ago, I was the target of cruel bullying. A girl who hated me started a vicious rumor that ruined my reputation. She said I slept with the entire football team. If that wasn't enough, she and a carful of girls drove by my ...

10/07/2011 His Wife Has MS and He's On His Own
Dear Annie: My wife, "Elizabeth," is wheelchair bound with multiple sclerosis and needs constant care, which I have been doing alone for years. Our family members become irritated when we don't attend birthdays, weddings or other ...

10/06/2011 Grandma Doesn't Mean Free Babysitting
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law, "Joan," lives nearby. Since the birth of our son three years ago, she has not once offered to babysit or have him sleep over. She never asks to spend time alone with him. When I've suggested it, she tells me how ...

10/05/2011 Properly Disposing of Pain Medications
Dear Annie: I would like to know the proper way to dispose of pain medications when a loved one passes away. Quite recently, my sister's friend's husband died from cancer. Two days later, my sister and her friend were trying to sell his unused ...

10/04/2011 Help Yourself Help Others
Dear Annie: I am a former professional football player. During my career as a punter, I enjoyed stints on the Oilers, Lions and Ravens and led the NFL in the yards-per-punt average three times. I was even selected to play in the 1994 Pro Bowl. Despite ...

10/03/2011 Worried Mom Should Enable Her Son to a Counselor's Office
Dear Annie: My 26-year-old son graduated two years ago from a terrific university. During college, he lived on his own and had a girlfriend, but just before graduation, they broke up. My son had a hard time coping, and when he graduated, he came back ...

10/02/2011 Some Relatives Are Better Enjoyed from a Distance
Dear Annie: I've been married for 17 years and have four children. My husband has four much younger brothers, all married. Nine months ago, two of them had a falling out after a night of drinking and fighting. One ordered us to choose between them, ...

10/01/2011 Dad Wants To Go it Alone in Caring for Alzheimer's Stricken Wife
Dear Annie: Our mother has Alzheimer's disease, and we don't think Dad is taking proper care of her. Mom seems undernourished. Dad thinks a slice of toast or a cup of coffee constitutes adequate caloric intake for her. If she says "no" to ...

09/30/2011 The Only Pot in Her House is for Plants
Dear Annie: I am a 67-year-old woman who has been deeply hurt. My husband died seven years ago, and I suffered deep depression. My psychiatrist told me to meet new people, so I did. I joined an expensive dating service, which was a disaster. Then I ...

09/29/2011 Destination Wedding Puts a Damper on Vacation Plans
Dear Annie: I have been married to "George" for 11 years. In the past two, George and I have had sex only three times. Lately, when I go to kiss him, he turns away. I have asked George if there is someone else or if he has a medical ...

09/28/2011 Accused: Badmouthing Men
Dear Annie: I know you won't print this, because your column is all about badmouthing men. Hollywood does the same thing. Why is it terrible when a man belittles his wife, but funny when she belittles him? Explain why Brad Pitt and Ben Affleck ...

09/27/2011 Teen Needs Help Dealing with Divorce and Remarriage
Dear Annie: I'm a 16-year-old boy with two problems. My biological parents divorced when I was 2, and my mother remarried when I was 12. I live with my mother and stepfather and see my dad on the weekends. The first problem is, since Mom ...

09/26/2011 Children Have Power of Attorney and Mom Isn't Pleased
Dear Annie: Ten months ago, I was in the hospital and was not expected to live. Fortunately, I recovered. Unfortunately, I had given power of attorney to my children. My oldest daughter had my mail forwarded to her and took over the finances. ...

09/25/2011 Difficult Daughter Keeps Parents at a Distance
Dear Annie: A few years back, you helped me with my daughter. Now I need your help again. My husband and I have not seen our daughter in almost a year. We are visiting our son for Thanksgiving, and he invited our daughter and her family to join ...

09/24/2011 Sexts, Lies and Overweight
Dear Annie: I discovered that my 55-year-old husband of 35 years was texting, calling and receiving calls from a 27-year-old woman for a period of nine weeks. Sometimes there were 200 texts in a day. I'm pretty sure she was sexting him, but I can't ...

09/23/2011 Too Tired Hubby Too Into SIL's Flirtations
Dear Annie: I think my brother-in-law's wife is attracted to my husband, "James." James believes this to be true, as well, but he rather enjoys the attention. Whenever we are at his brother's house, the wife is always flirting with ...

09/22/2011 Captain's Gal Reluctant To Take the Reins with Horse Crazy Tween
Dear Annie: I have been seeing "Captain" for three years. His 13-year-old daughter, "Rosie," is horse crazy after riding at summer camp and is now taking lessons locally. As a former horse trainer, I am thrilled at her ...

09/21/2011 Care About Your Care
Dear Annie: We all know that health care is expensive and that finding good, affordable care can be tough. There is a way your readers can avoid unnecessary heath care bills: by learning what high-quality care looks like. We spend a whopping $...

09/20/2011 Never Too Young To Back Away from False Friends
Dear Annie: I'm soon to be an adult and am starting to make some important decisions. "Lana" has been my best friend for 12 years, but I'm beginning to think it's over. She is really hurting me. When we go to festivals together, Lana ...

09/19/2011 His Wife's BFF Is Now His Nurse
Dear Annie: My wife said I should ask for your advice. We have a next-door neighbor, "Dee," whose husband died 10 years ago. She's become my wife's best friend and confidant. I help with maintenance on her house and car. We both think the ...

09/18/2011 Should this Empty Nester Fly the Coop?
Dear Annie: My husband is cold and distant. We have been married 20 years, and if his behavior doesn't change, this soon-to-be "empty nester" will fly the coop. "Clive" has always been the quiet type, but for the past 15 ...

09/17/2011 On Golden Child
Dear Annie: My husband and his brother, "Sam," are both in their 50s. My mother-in-law thinks Sam is "the golden child." He and his wife receive the best gifts, and we get whatever trash she can put her hands on. She gives my ...

09/16/2011 Post-Breakup, Dad Battens Down the Hatches
Dear Annie: I am having an argument with my husband and need an impartial opinion. My daughter, 19, has been dating "Thad," 21, for four years. Thad recently admitted that he cheated on her, and now she is breaking up with him. She ...

09/15/2011 Addict Daughter Takes Family Down with Her
Dear Annie: My sister, "Ruth," has struggled with addiction to prescription medication since high school. My parents have been incredibly supportive for the past eight years. They helped her get into rehabilitation programs, paid for lawyers,...

09/14/2011 Navigating a Friend Request from a Spouse's Estranged Child
Dear Annie: A while back, I signed up for Facebook in order to stay in touch with friends and renew old acquaintances. Several weeks ago, my husband's 35-year-old daughter, "Sheila," sent me a friend request. She has not been in touch ...

09/13/2011 Mom Fears for Son's Life
Dear Annie: My son has been married to "Josie" for 11 years. I admit I never cared for her. She has a volatile temper and creates destructive scenes. Once they married, I did my best to be friendly, hoping she would mellow with time. She has ...

09/12/2011 Raising Addicts
Dear Annie: I have been a single mother for 20 years. Four months ago, I was talked into letting one of my daughter's friends stay with us while her parents searched for a new home in another state. They agreed to pay me a monthly stipend for their ...

09/11/2011 Sibling Rivalry Gone to Her Head?
Dear Annie: I'm 12 years old, and my brother is verbally and physically abusive. Sometimes it's just playing around, but other times it really hurts. When I yell out, my mom gets involved. She sends us both to our rooms without even knowing what the ...

09/10/2011 MIL Can't Get Enough of Her Former DIL
Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful man with a teenage son from a previous marriage. I love them both dearly. We now have two toddlers and a baby on the way. The problem is my mother-in-law. She left my father-in-law several years ago for ...

09/09/2011 I Spy Transcripts of My Wife's Infidelities
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. I was laid off recently for the second time. While reviewing our finances, I noticed that our cellphone usage had substantially increased. I asked my wife about it, and she explained that she ...

09/08/2011 Visitation Schedules Change as Kids Grow Up
Dear Annie: When I divorced three years ago, my ex-husband and I worked out a visitation schedule whereby he gets our children three weekends a month. Now that our older child is 13, she is involved with a great many extracurricular activities and has ...

09/07/2011 Married to a Flirt
Dear Annie: I have been married for 19 years, and my husband is a flirt. Early on, he would openly say teasing things to other women. After complaining repeatedly that he was being disrespectful to me, he stopped. Now I find him staring at ...

09/06/2011 Sunk by the Costs of Prescription Meds
Dear Annie: My husband has had several chronic illnesses during the past 20 years. He takes 15 different prescription medications a day and has frequent doctor visits and testing. Our medical bills are through the roof. When credit card interest rates ...

09/05/2011 Hubby Found Himself ... in the Arms of Another Woman
Dear Annie: My husband and I were married for 47 years. Four years ago, he said he wanted to "find himself." A month later, he was in Las Vegas (with another woman), using the company car and gas card. When he stopped answering his phone, I ...

09/04/2011 Parents of Popular Kids Can Help Their Kids Be Kind
Dear Annie: My 12-year-old son, "Mark," is starting middle school. He has a semi-friend, "Scott," whom he met in day care years ago. In spite of attending different schools, they have maintained a friendship, but it has diminished ...

09/03/2011 Bipolar Sister Saw Suicide as the Only Solution
Dear Annie: Recently, my 49-year-old sister committed suicide. She lived with my partner and me for the last 18 months. I find it harder each day to understand why this happened. I am upset, angry, troubled and confused. My sister was bipolar ...

09/02/2011 Ogler Catches Wife's Eye and Not in a Good Way
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and we have five wonderful children. "Tom" is 50, and I am 39. In the past few years, Tom has developed an annoying habit. He openly ogles attractive women and young ...

09/01/2011 Married to the Slob
Dear Annie: "Bill" and I have been married for seven years, but since our first child was born, I've felt like a horrible nag. I have to remind him frequently to pick up after himself and finish what he started. He leaves all the cabinet ...

08/31/2011 In-Laws Horn In on Hubby's Thank You
Dear Annie: I'm recovering from cancer. To thank my husband for being so helpful, caring and patient during my treatment, I want to give him a nice party for his 30th birthday. He liked the idea and put together a guest list. I mentioned this ...

08/30/2011 Employees Need To Feel Valued
Dear Annie: I work in a small office with two other people. The office was understaffed to begin with, and my boss is now undergoing chemotherapy and is out two weeks of every month. Then my co-worker decided to retire. As a result, I had to work a ...

08/29/2011 Don't Let the Bedbugs Keep Your Family at Bay
Dear Annie: My husband's mother lives three hours away, not far from his sister and her family. The problem is, my sister-in-law has had a bedbug infestation for more than a year. She has sprayed the mattresses and covered them with plastic, but won't ...

08/28/2011 Any Solace in a Post-Nuptial with a Cheater?
Dear Annie: I recently discovered that my husband has a secret e-mail address and has been meeting women while on business trips. In the past year, he has e-mailed seven different women. When I vaguely questioned him, he changed his upcoming dates of ...

08/27/2011 Mom's a Real Handful
Dear Annie: My mom has become a handful, and I don't know what to do about her. I am a grown woman, and I feel like I'm raising a teenager. Mom had some financial problems and came to live with me 18 months ago. She helps with some bills when ...

08/26/2011 Wicked Sister
Dear Annie: How do we deal with our sister "Michelle" who says and e-mails hurtful things to each of us at the most inopportune times? I have three other sisters. "Debbie" called me this evening in tears. She recently spent ...

08/25/2011 The Perils of a Perfect Youth
Dear Annie: I had a fabulous time in college. I was president of my sorority, a peer mentor at our advising center and active in many organizations. I also was granted many awards and honors. I loved rushing around with little sleep and juggling many ...

08/24/2011 Mean Girls -- It Ain't Just a Movie
Dear Annie: We live in a small rural area. We love the community, school, church, etc., but I am sad for my daughter. "Tess" is a junior in high school. About six months ago, one friend became angry with her for some reason and ...

08/23/2011 Mind the Red Flags
Dear Annie: My husband (probably soon-to-be ex) and I read your column with our morning coffee. We've been married 43 years and have two married children and five beautiful grandchildren. I felt very blessed, loved and cherished. "Bill&...

08/22/2011 Something Went Very Wrong at this Wedding
Dear Annie: Seven months ago, I married "Jake." Since that day, his family has refused to communicate with us. They claim my bridesmaids were "out to get them" and told Jake that I "talk too much about my travels." Why ...

08/21/2011 Baby Crazy Grandma
Dear Annie: I knew my mother-in-law would go crazy when we had the first grandchild, but I'm starting to feel resentment. My baby is 7 months old. Mom was angry when she wasn't the first to hold her. She drives 50 miles twice a week to visit. She ...

08/20/2011 Never-Married Sib Feels Ostracized and Punished
Dear Annie: I have six siblings. Our childhood was traumatic. My dad was an out-of-control drinker who was frequently violent, and Mom wouldn't stand up to him. When Dad wasn't beating us, my parents would pit us against each other by encouraging ...

08/19/2011 Facebook Alerts Mom to Daugher's Married Status
Dear Annie: Last night, I visited my daughter's Facebook page and saw that she had enjoyed a lovely anniversary. Going a little further, I Googled her name and found an article about her in connection to an award she had won. In the article, it ...

08/18/2011 Hubby Isn't Selfish, He's Hurt
Dear Annie: My husband's parents divorced 25 years ago, and both remarried people who had children from previous marriages. All of the siblings are self-supporting with the exception of one stepbrother, "Rick," who is now 26. My in-laws pay ...

08/17/2011 SIL Lies Like a Dog
Dear Annie: "Elaine" has been married to my brother for 45 years. She is critical, opinionated and condescending, and she loves to use her poison tongue to point out our faults to her husband and children. I do my best to remain cordial for ...

08/16/2011 He Keeps His Honey (and His Money) in the Dark
Dear Annie: "Ed" and I have been married for six months. He is a wonderful husband in every way except one: He refuses to discuss our financial situation with me. I know nothing about the mortgage payments, utility bills or insurance. I don'...

08/15/2011 Anorexic Mom Can't Gain Weight After Surgery
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has always had issues with her self-image and is borderline anorexic. Recently, Mom had surgery. As a result, she lost weight and has been unable to gain it back. She also suffers from depression, for which she takes ...

08/14/2011 A Friend in Constant Crisis
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Robyn," is also a dear friend who has been part of my life for 20 years. Robyn is now in her 50s and has two children — one by a married man who dumped her, and the other by a loser who abandoned her. ...

08/13/2011 May Loves December, and December Loves His Ex
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I met three years ago. He was separated from his wife of 20 years after he found out she was cheating on him. Their divorce was final six months later. "Lawrence" is a lot older. I am 28, and he is 50. ...

08/12/2011 Son Dreads Dinner with Dad ... and Company
Dear Annie: For the past 10 years, my son, now a medical student, has dreaded having dinner with his father. His dad and I separated more than 20 years ago, and every encounter with the children has included his father's wife. She dominates the ...

08/11/2011 Mom Worries About Modeling Bad Marriage
Dear Annie: "Jimmy" and I have been married for five years. In the past two, things have slowly gone downhill. Jimmy works long hours, and while we are OK financially, money is also a source of stress. Certain triggers that didn't ...

08/10/2011 Indulgent Grandma Rules this Roost
Dear Annie: I am 26 and a single parent to a 3-year-old girl. I love my daughter more than anything in this world. However, in the past few months, she has become a brat and a monster, doing everything she can to test me. Due to recent ...

08/09/2011 Grandma Tiptoeing Through the Minefields of Divorce
Dear Annie: My son is being emotionally tortured by his teenage daughters. He has been divorced from their mother for years, but has always been there for his kids. He's never missed a support payment and shares responsibility for them. Now the ...

08/08/2011 Hubby Won't Take His Vitamin V
Dear Annie: I am a 48-year-old married woman. I love my husband and believe he loves me, too. "Frank" used to be very affectionate and also quite interested in sex. Now I am lucky to get a kiss on the cheek at bedtime. We haven't had sex in ...

08/07/2011 Another Prince Turned Drunken Frog
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Greg" for 21 years, and we have three wonderful teenagers. When we met, Greg seemed like the perfect guy. However, a few years after we married, he began to drink much more heavily, and now he gets drunk ...

08/06/2011 An Affair To Forget
Dear Annie: I have been married for 30 years and have three grown children. My husband served in the Navy and was away a lot of the time. Early in our marriage, he was gone for nine months, and during that time, he had an affair with a much younger ...

08/05/2011 Bedwetting Teen Needs Help not Denial
Dear Annie: I have been married to "John" for six years. We both have children from our first marriages. John's oldest son is now 14 and still wets the bed. I suggested not allowing the boy to drink anything after 7 p.m. and always making ...

08/04/2011 This is Not a Man You Stand By
Dear Annie: I am in my early 50s and have been married for 34 years. My husband is the only man I have ever been with. For years, I put up with his cheating because I was concerned about my children and our financial future. Now the kids are grown and ...

08/03/2011 Stepfather of a Train Wreck Wants to Rescue Granddaughter
Dear Annie: I married my wife, "Debbie," more than a decade ago. I genuinely believe we were brought together by divine providence. The only thing that troubles me is our kids — Debbie's children from her first marriage. They didn't ...

08/02/2011 The Threat of Suicide that Holds a Marriage Together
Dear Annie: A year ago, my 73-year-old sister, "Jenny," married a man she barely knew. He had been married three times before, and she was aware that he had problems. Being a nurturing person, she thought she could help him. They ...

08/01/2011 Treats for Tricks
Dear Annie: My wife and I are both 30 and have been married for five years. We have a toddler. The problem is, over the past few years, my wife has cut down sex to roughly once every couple of months. I do what I can to keep her happy and have ...

07/31/2011 Out with the In Crowd
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Julia," is 16 and has not one true friend. Her friends are all nice, polite girls and boys, but they ditch her on a regular basis. They cancel scheduled outings at the last minute or never show up. Julia is ...

07/30/2011 Is This Woman Scorned Overreacting or Right on the Money?
Dear Annie: My wife, "Amy," is 26. She is a wonderful, pretty girl, and I love her to pieces. We've been married two years. Her married sister, "Zoe," is a year older and supermodel gorgeous, but I have never been even remotely ...

07/29/2011 I Spy Another Reason To Say Goodbye
Dear Annie: I am a 43-year-old male and have been in a common-law relationship with "Carol" for the past six years. I've never been married, but I proposed to Carol. We have a daughter together. I also have a teenager from a previous ...

07/28/2011 From Love Her to Hate Her and So Forth
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Jim" for three years, and we lived together for seven years before that. We had a rocky relationship until we had our daughter, who is now 4. Jim has always been an angry, controlling, emotional ...

07/27/2011 Granddaughter Old Enough To Make Her Own Lousy Decisions
Dear Annie: My granddaughter, "Tammi," graduated high school at the end of May. She has been working at a pet store since last fall. This was her first real job, and she was both elated and proud. When I visited over the Christmas ...

07/26/2011 Grandson's Hands Dirty from the Drug and Sex Trades
Dear Annie: My son and I, on pretty substantial evidence, believe that my grandson is not only doing drugs but selling them, and was also selling his 14-year-old sister to his friends for sex. My grandson is 19. His father threw him out of the ...

07/25/2011 Four Years of Secret Lunches Add Up to Something
Dear Annie: "Don" and I have been married for 43 years. I thought we had a good marriage, but my trust has been shaken recently. Don retired four years ago. He told me a former co-worker, "Lulu," had e-mailed to ask to meet ...

07/24/2011 Fast-Food Five-Year Old Isn't an Aberration
Dear Annie: My 35-year-old granddaughter, "Sally," has a 5-year-old son who eats only fast food — French fries, chicken nuggets, ice cream, etc. "Tyler" won't take vitamins because he "doesn't want to." This has ...

07/23/2011 Irresponsible Boy-Men Should Not Be Moving In
Dear Annie: I am 30 years old and divorced with two young sons. Two years ago, I began dating "Brad," who is six years younger. He doesn't work or go to school and now lives with me and my kids. I work full time and pay someone to clean and ...

07/22/2011 Sometimes the Customer Is Beyond Wrong
Dear Annie: I work as a clerk at a clothing store. Yesterday, a woman came in with a boy who looked to be about 13. She wanted him to try on a specific outfit, and he refused, saying it "looked stupid." I silently agreed with his assessment. ...

07/21/2011 Hooker with a Cart of Gold ... and Other Assets
Dear Annie: I am worried about my 79-year-old father. My mother died two years ago, and my brother and I regularly see Dad and invite him for dinner and to other events. But he's still lonely for female companionship. Six months ago, Dad began ...

07/20/2011 Oh, Donna, You're Bleeding Us Dry
Dear Annie: My parents are in their early 80s. They've had some health problems and are slowing down, but they are still able to care for themselves. They make ends meet because they carefully saved over the years. The problem is my younger ...

07/19/2011 Random Encounters with Bio Dad Leave Bad Taste
Dear Annie: I have never met my biological father. My parents have never lied to me about him. They told me the truth about where I came from and have always added that they love me. I received presents from this man from the time I was 6 ...

07/18/2011 Someone's Gotta Give
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years. Two years ago, we both lost our jobs, so we moved in with his parents. The problem is, my in-laws are so used to getting their way that they become angry when they don't. Friends and ...

07/17/2011 Toddlers on Sleep Meds a Dangerous Trend?
Dear Annie: For the past two years, my 4-year-old granddaughter has been given medication to "help her enter REM sleep" at night, and the dosage was recently increased. She seems drugged and impossible to wake up. This drug worries ...

07/16/2011 Playing House with the Homeless?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been separated for three years. Things had been going well until he got involved in an offbeat church and began housing homeless people of different backgrounds. I couldn't take it anymore and left. He recently ...

07/15/2011 My Own Private Reproductive M.O.
Dear Annie: I need advice on what to do about my niece. She is 39 and has no relationship with her mother (my sister). About 20 years ago, this niece confided to me that she had had an abortion. I respected her confidentiality and kept the ...

07/14/2011 The Ins and Outs of Rehab
Dear Annie: My best friend, "Bob," has struggled with alcoholism for many years, and has been in and out of rehabilitation programs. Two years ago, he found a program that worked. He went into a men's halfway house, where he received ...

07/13/2011 Babysitter Sees Belittling as a Bad Parenting Strategy
Dear Annie: I am 16 and regularly baby-sit for a 2-year-old boy and his 5-year-old sister. Both kids are very sweet, although the boy has some minor behavior issues. I have addressed them and made it clear that they will not be tolerated while I'm ...

07/12/2011 When Tough Love Backfires
Dear Annie: Five months ago, I begged my sister to move in with me to get her away from her abusive boyfriend. It took some convincing and tough love, but she finally ceased contact with him completely. Three months after she moved in, my fiance and I ...

07/11/2011 The Husband Looks Nothing Like the Boyfriend
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Ryan" for three years, and we dated for two years before that. It's a second marriage for both of us. My first marriage was miserable and lonely, and I wanted to make sure to do it right the next time. ...

07/10/2011 This House of Ten is a House of Cards
Dear Annie: A year ago, my sister "Lois" left her boyfriend. She had no place to live, so my husband and I offered to let Lois and her four children move in with us. I have three teenagers myself, so our house became very crowded. At ...

07/09/2011 Overworked Mom Needs To Decompress
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 20 years, and we have two children in their teens. Over the years, my husband has purchased rental property that will hopefully turn out to be a good investment. Along with maintaining those properties ...

07/08/2011 The Wife May Be in the Dark, but Mom's in the Know
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my 27-year-old married daughter is having an affair with her 40-year-old boss. He is married and has two children. She doesn't know that I know. I warned her to be careful when I noticed that she and her ...

07/07/2011 Snubbing Has Its Place in Family Affairs
Dear Annie: I work in a family business along with my parents, my brother and my sister. Two years ago, my brother's wife and my sister's husband also worked there, but they had an affair and moved away together. Three months later, they both returned ...

07/06/2011 Break Out of Those Chains
Dear Annie: I am constantly getting chain-letter e-mails from a friend I met in a class years ago. The e-mails usually contain vague threats about how something bad will happen to me if I don't forward the letter to five friends, or how good luck will ...

07/05/2011 Don't Let Modesty Make You Sick
Dear Annie: I'm 22 years old and recently needed an operation in the only hospital in our area. I am an extremely shy and modest female and would never go to a male doctor except in an emergency. Luckily, I was able to arrange for a female surgeon and ...

07/04/2011 Celebrating Lady Liberty on Independence Day
Dear Readers: Happy Fourth of July! We hope you are enjoying your holiday weekend with friends and family, watching fireworks and firing up the grill. Here's something that was sent to our mailbox a while back, and we saved it for today: Dear ...

07/03/2011 What's Not To Like About Sunday Brunch?
Dear Annie: My husband insists we have brunch every Sunday with his grown children and mine. Because he works extremely long hours and we don't get to spend enough quality time together, I would like to use that time to do things for the two of us now ...

07/02/2011 Pitfalls and Triumphs of Counseling
Dear Readers: As promised, one more day on counseling: Dear Annie: Is counseling helpful? You bet. Every person sees a situation differently. Counselors give us a viewfinder into the other side so we can empathize and understand. They teach us ...

07/01/2011 What To Expect from Counseling
Dear Readers: We recently printed a letter from "Problem Still Here," who asked our readers if counseling was worth it. We were inundated with replies from readers sharing their stories, and the vast majority found counseling tremendously ...

06/30/2011 Bad Mom Milks System, Cheats Son
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Chloe," receives child support for her son, "Logan," who is 3. Chloe does not live with her son because she is not capable of taking care of him. She is an alcoholic who lives with her abusive boyfriend. ...

06/29/2011 Being Friendly with Ex-In-Laws
Dear Annie: In no uncertain terms, my son and his second wife have told me that it is wrong to be in contact with my son's ex-wife. They've said my ex-daughter-in-law should not be invited to my home or to family functions, and that including her ...

06/28/2011 Now that He's Here I Don't Want Him
Dear Annie: I'm a young woman who is living at home for the summer before moving away in the fall. Here's my dilemma: Several months ago, I excitedly arranged for my long-distance boyfriend to live with my family and get work nearby. Unfortunately, ...

06/27/2011 Taking a Backseat to the Kids
Dear Annie: I have been dating Jeff for three years. He has two teenage kids from a prior marriage. During the first two years, I understood that he did separate activities with his children, but I now feel he should include me in more than the ...

06/26/2011 Help Daddy Dearest from a Distance
Dear Annie: I need to know how to handle my father, who is mean and hateful toward me. I am 52, and my earliest memories are of this man physically and emotionally abusing me. When I was 10, he would kick me across the yard, call me "...

06/25/2011 Is 60 Old?
Dear Annie: I'm confused about what to do with a situation in my family. At the age of 21, I am the oldest of four children. My parents have been divorced for seven years and still remain good friends. Dad remarried six years ago and is miserable. I ...

06/24/2011 Which Comes First: the Appreciation Speech or the Gift?
Dear Annie: I'm so frustrated right now. Our 22-year-old daughter, "Olivia," is living at home with my husband, our 17-year-old son and me. A while back, she quit college and moved in with her friends, which turned out to be a financial ...

06/23/2011 She's Never Gonna Leave Him
Dear Annie: I am having an affair with a married woman. We used to live together and then separated under conditions that were totally my fault. Afterward, I begged her forgiveness and proposed marriage. She declined, but we continued our physical ...

06/22/2011 Combat Fresh-Baked Bribes with Healthy Boundaries
Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old male who recently developed an eating disorder. I've lost almost 50 pounds from restricting, purging and over-exercising. Even though I get a lot of compliments on my weight loss, I am nowhere near where I'd like to be. ...

06/21/2011 Judge, Jury and Sister
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with "Derek" for two years. I love him dearly and know we will marry someday. The problem is, my sister and her husband will not accept Derek because we started dating when he was still going through ...

06/20/2011 Married to a Nocturnal Ninja
Dear Annie: I dated "Tony" for a year before we married two years ago. I thought I knew him, but shortly after the wedding, I discovered that everything about him was a lie. This included falsehoods about his financial situation, his family, ...

06/19/2011 We Heart Dads
Dear Readers: Happy Father's Day to all the men in our reading audience who have enjoyed the pleasures and shouldered the responsibilities of raising children. This includes fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers and those who have stepped in as father ...

06/18/2011 The Indiscreet Boorishness of the Bourgeoisie
Dear Annie: I'm so confused. I have been married for 15 years and have five kids. Our married life started out great, but for the past several years, it has been dwindling to the point where I don't know if I want to stay. My husband will tell ...

06/17/2011 Father Filcher Cleans Teeth and Bank Accounts
Dear Annie: My father is a dentist and earns a good living, but he is going after my money. When I graduated from high school, he took the money relatives and friends sent me and kept it for himself. A year later, he and Mom were going through a ...

06/16/2011 The Godfather
Dear Annie: I have known "Tony" for 17 years, and we've dated for the past seven. He has one ex-girlfriend who has remained in his life. When "Mara" became pregnant (by another man), she asked Tony to be the godfather. At first he ...

06/15/2011 Got Me on My Knees, Layla
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my son began dating "Layla," who then became pregnant. I went out of my way to include her in our family. I bought maternity clothes and baby outfits, took her out for lunch and paid for her to join us on a family ...

06/14/2011 Rage, Rage Against the Man, the Kids, the Therapist...
Dear Annie: I've been married for 20 years, but I have a situation at home and don't know what to do anymore. My wife gets angry over little things on a daily basis. She is constantly upset about things people do or don't do. If a child eats a ...

06/13/2011 ... and You Can Forget About Flossing!
Dear Annie: I'm a 66-year-old mother of two, grandmother of four. I have been verbally abused my entire life — first by my father and now by my daughter. I love my daughter, but I'm ready to dismiss her from my life in order to preserve ...

06/12/2011 PANDAS Kid Takes on Bullies
Dear Annie: I am a smart, funny, typical 8th-grade girl with lots of friends and good grades. I do, however, suffer from PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcus), which causes tics. In my case, ...

06/11/2011 Better Off With Him or Without Him?
Dear Annie: I am in my late 50s, divorced, with a career that spans 30 years. I have been successful in my life with one exception — relationships. I have been with "Ted" for more than seven years. The first half was good, but ...

06/10/2011 Falsely Anonymous
Dear Annie: I met "Janice" through my son's school. She's a parent of one of his classmates. She would come to my house in the afternoon before picking up her kids. We would enjoy a cup of coffee and sit around and talk and laugh. ...

06/09/2011 The Cackle and the Fury
Dear Annie: I retired from the Navy after 30 years of service. Many of those years were spent at sea, so I was looking forward to spending some stress-free time with my wife. It hasn't happened. Here's the problem: We have owned our house for ...

06/08/2011 These Three Little Piggies Never Leave Home
Dear Annie: My best friend, "Jamie," lives five hours away. She and her husband, "Bob," are both disabled. Jamie has several chronic illnesses that leave her in pain and exhausted most of the time. Bob weighs about 500 pounds and ...

06/07/2011 Milking Mom for All She Has
Dear Annie: My father passed away a year ago. My brother, who lived closest, was entrusted to oversee my mother's care. My siblings and I were all aware of the sacrifices Dad made to ensure my mother would be provided for. Their house is not paid off, ...

06/06/2011 Snooping on Her Good Taste
Dear Annie: I have lived across the street from my husband's sister for 20 years. She is super-competitive and nosy. She knows our every move — when we are home, who is visiting, etc. When she sees a car in our driveway, she will come over with ...

06/05/2011 An Ex-Con in Name Only
Dear Annie: Six months after my daughter married, her husband was arrested twice. Each time, he called from jail and begged me to pay bail and then legal fees, promising to pay me back when he got out. My daughter stuck by him through seven ...

06/04/2011 Daughter Resents Daily Doses of Mom's Horrors
Dear Annie: My mother was physically and mentally abused as a child. I know because I have been listening to the horror stories since I was 5 years old. I am now in my 40s and, quite frankly, am running out of compassion for her. First of all, ...

06/03/2011 Smoking in the House is Reason Enough To Move Out
Dear Annie: I have two daughters, "Kathy" and her younger sister, "Carly," both in their late 20s. Carly and I have always had a rocky relationship, stemming from my being the disciplinarian since my wife refused to do it. Kathy ...

06/02/2011 Is an Antique Wedding Gift Taboo?
Dear Annie: I am down to my last nerve with my husband of 30 years. He has turned into a lazy slob I can no longer tolerate. Last year, "Evan" worked a total of three weeks. It was the same the year before. He has taken one shower in ...

06/01/2011 Beware the Ultimatum
Dear Annie: Our nation's schools provide the majority of American children with at least one of their daily meals. Unfortunately, more than 90 percent of the school meals do not measure up to national nutrition standards. This is worrisome because we ...

05/31/2011 Time To Change the Locks on this Charmer
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Sherwin" for two years. We are both in our 50s. He has two grown children, and I have two teenagers who still live with us. Before we married, I thought Sherwin was perfect for me. We enjoyed ...

05/30/2011 Memorial Day Remembrances
Dear Readers: Today is Memorial Day. We know for many, this is simply part of a long weekend. But we hope you will keep in mind the reason behind the holiday — a day to remember those servicemen and women who have died serving their country. ...

05/29/2011 The Cons of Coddling the Mentally Ill
Dear Annie: My parents adopted my brother, "Kyle," when he was 6 weeks old. As he grew up, it was apparent that something wasn't right. When Kyle was 18, he was diagnosed as bipolar and schizophrenic and was put on a cocktail of medications. ...

05/28/2011 She's Not Fooling Us
Dear Annie: A few years ago, I had a one-night stand with my married boss while attending a work-related seminar in another town. On the third evening, we had dinner and drinks, and one thing led to another. We had always been attracted to each other, ...

05/27/2011 Sometimes Grownups Play Rougher than Kids
Dear Annie: I am in an awkward social situation. My 3-year-old daughter and I were invited to join a group of moms and children at a local park. At first, it was great, but now the other mothers have decided they don't like me. They don't say it to my ...

05/26/2011 Don't Let the Bedbugs Bite
Dear Annie: For the past 10 summers, "Dan and Kelly" have stopped at our house on the way to visit their relatives up north. It's a long trip, so they often need to stop at a motel before reaching our place. Sometimes they stay with us ...

05/25/2011 Sibling Grudgery
Dear Annie: Nearly 23 years ago, at the end of my Ph.D. studies, I became ill with severe depression. Not recognizing the problem, I self-medicated with illegal drugs and became an addict. I was so messed up that I had to move back in with my parents, ...

05/24/2011 Facebook Fighting
Dear Annie: My daughter recently married and had a baby. The problem is my son-in-law. I have tried to like him, but it's hard. He is in the military in another state, and my daughter lives at home in order to finish college. It was his idea to save ...

05/23/2011 A Diamond May Be Forever, but Your Stay Here Isn't
Dear Annie: I have always been a generous person. I have allowed my brother, niece, nephew and now mother-in-law to live with me on a temporary basis in order to get their lives together. This hasn't been easy, and I have tried to deal with them in ...

05/22/2011 Party Mom Can't Buy Her Son Shoes
Dear Annie: I'm having a difficult time dealing with my adult stepdaughter, "Daphne." Last year, Daphne threatened to kill herself and we had to take custody of our 3-year-old grandson to prevent Child Protective Services from putting him in ...

05/21/2011 Facebook Obits
Dear Annie: I'm 20 years old, and lately, I've been catching a lot of criticism about my Facebook page. My grandfather passed away, and I updated my status to say that he is loved and deeply missed. People offered condolences and support. My ...

05/20/2011 Child Abuse Requires 911, Not CPS
Dear Annie: I am a college student. I graduated from community college with an associate's degree in December and am finishing my first semester at the university. No matter how hard I try (tutoring, studying more and for longer hours), I am not doing ...

05/19/2011 Thrifty Mom Offset by Spendthrift Grandparents
Dear Annie: I have been trying to teach my 20-year-old daughter the value of saving money and staying within a budget. Meanwhile, my parents give her money every time she asks. I am newly divorced and feel it is important for my daughter to ...

05/18/2011 Don't Abandon Pets to Fend for Themselves in the Wild
Dear Annie: How can I help a friend who is convinced his neighbors are bombarding his house with rays that have affected his health and caused the death of one of his dogs? "Edwin" is a retired engineer in his early 70s, divorced for ...

05/17/2011 Black and Blue Isn't Always Black and White
Dear Annie: I have a dear friend who has been in an abusive relationship for many years. The abuse is mostly verbal, but occasionally physical. Apparently, this has been going on for their entire 23-year relationship. When she would ...

05/16/2011 Paranoiac Needs a Checkup
Dear Annie: My husband and I can no longer communicate effectively with each other, and our eight-year marriage is suffering as a result. It's like we are living in two separate worlds. In his, no one is trustworthy, including me. We are all out to ...

05/15/2011 Grandma Got Bowled Over by a Contract
Dear Annie: In one short month, my life has fallen apart. My son and his wife have a beautiful 7-year-old boy — bright, funny and athletic. From the day he was born, I helped care for him while his parents worked. I rearranged my work schedule ...

05/14/2011 Caught in a Web of Estrangements
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my wife and our 25-year-old daughter had a falling out right after our son's wedding. They talk during family get-togethers, but otherwise haven't spoken in the past six months. Meanwhile, my newly married son moved to his ...

05/13/2011 Grandma's Fed Up with Jekyll and Hyde Kids
Dear Annie: My daughter has five beautiful children whom we love very much. My husband and I often take the kids overnight and on weekends to give some quiet time to their parents. When the children are with us, they behave beautifully. But ...

05/12/2011 She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not...
Dear Annie: My wife recently had an affair. She told me she was in love with the guy and was going to leave me. Now she says she realizes he was only using her physically and she isn't interested in him anymore. This affair ended last winter, ...

05/11/2011 Hoarder in the Hood
Dear Annie: I live in a small condominium community of 24 units. Two units down, there is an older woman who is a hoarder. She continually has trash piled up by her front door and back porch. When you look through her glass sliding doors, you can see ...

05/10/2011 Deadbeat Spouse May Be Depressed
Dear Annie: I married "Theo" three years ago. The marriage started out OK, but then I discovered he had a drug addiction. After a great deal of pushing from me, Theo finally got clean two years ago. The problem is, he has not held down a job ...

05/09/2011 Night Shift Nurse has Poor Night Vision
Dear Annie: I'm worried about my younger sister, "Louise." I recently retired, and Louise will be eligible to retire in four years. She is a full-time operating-room nurse who is required to rotate being on call at night. The problem ...

05/08/2011 Poems and Prayers for Mom
Dear Annie: I cut out this piece that appeared in an old Ann Landers column and am hoping you will print it for Mother's Day. It made a huge impression on me all those years ago. — Loving Daughter Dear Daughter: With pleasure. Here it is:<...

05/07/2011 Powerful Plea for Teens to Drive Safely
Dear Annie: You recently printed a "Contract for Drivers," by John Violette. It requires teenage drivers to maintain decent grades, follow all traffic laws and never drive impaired or get in the car with a driver who is. It reminded me of ...

05/06/2011 All the Troubles of an Interracial Relationship Without the Relationship
Dear Annie: I am a white male and have fallen in love with an African-American woman who is 12 years older. I have never met such a wonderful, kind, sweet, caring and loving woman. She makes me laugh. She is my soul mate. I want to spend the rest of ...

05/05/2011 Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Herpes but Were Afraid To Ask
Dear Annie: Would you please give your readers some information on herpes, both types? Can you address the fact that the lip type doesn't always stay above the waist, or the genital type below? Also, this virus can be in your body for years before it ...

05/04/2011 Being Old Carte Blanche To Be Rude?
Dear Annie: My mother is in her late 80s and is becoming increasingly difficult. She's always been rather critical, but now she is downright rude and insulting. It's as though being old gives her the right to say anything that pops into her head ...

05/03/2011 Redefining the Worse in for Better or Worse
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband for more than 25 years. During that period, he has cheated countless times, left me for other women and developed a crack habit. I have tried to stick it out because I believe marriage is for better or worse....

05/02/2011 Fly-By Mother Is No Mommy
Dear Annie: When I married my husband, I suddenly became a full-time stepmother to his three young children, all under age 5. Their mother would pop up when it was convenient for her. She rarely called on their birthdays and often left them waiting ...

05/01/2011 Father's Medical Records Might Mean Life or Death
Dear Annie: My daughter will soon be 16. Her father and I were never married, and we had broken up by the time she was born. When my ex discovered I was pregnant, he threatened to take the baby away and never let me see her. So I left him when I was ...

04/30/2011 Teen Wants to Spread the Message of the Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids
Dear Annie: Adults are supposed to set a good example, but I literally can't go anywhere without seeing adults smoking. That is not surprising because in West Virginia alone, more than one in four adults smoke. It is no wonder that across the country ...

04/29/2011 Woman Must Seek Help to Get Sister and Nephew Out of Abusive Home
Dear Annie: My sister, "Miranda," is married to an alcoholic who is getting more bizarre each year. Miranda and her 12-year-old son are not allowed to go out after dark. If they go out during the day, "Biff" calls repeatedly on ...

04/28/2011 Fearful Wife Finds it Difficult to Trust Her Husband
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We've had our difficulties, but the latest setback has me stymied. After a two-month separation, "Cliff" and I tried to reconnect. We started to cuddle in the early morning, ...

04/27/2011 A Women's Group Makes One Member Feel Unwelcome
Dear Annie: I have known "Cathy" since grade school. We are now in our 50s. In the past several years, we have become close again. Last summer, I set up a luncheon with "Lois," a mutual friend of ours. Cathy also brought two of her ...

04/26/2011 Dependent In-Laws Must Learn to Budget And Handle Their Own Money Issues
Dear Annie: My in-laws emptied out my husband's bank account and put thousands of charges on his credit cards. They refused to return the money, and it took us six years to pay off the debt they incurred. My in-laws recently retired without ...

04/25/2011 Husband Hopes to Make His Wife Feel More Appreciated
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together for 12 years. For most of that time, it seems we have been following my preferences in terms of jobs, living arrangements, etc. I have an office job, and she stays home with our three kids. We also live in ...

04/24/2011 Son-in-Law Needs to Help Seek Guidance For His Wife's Mental Illness
Dear Annie: Last summer, my 23-year-old daughter, her husband and their 2-year-old son moved in with me. My husband and I wanted to help them get back on their feet, and we also wanted my daughter to go back to school. My daughter has some ...

04/23/2011 Child Abuse Suspicions
Dear Annie: I took care of my grandson three days a week for the first two years of his life. He is now 3, and I have not been allowed to see him for nearly a year because I noticed clear evidence of sexual abuse and told my son. I took my ...

04/22/2011 Married to a Cheater
Dear Annie: Several weeks ago, something happened that keeps bugging me. My husband and I were riding in his car when I noticed a book he had been reading on the front floorboard. I picked it up and asked how he liked it. He said it was interesting ...

04/21/2011 One Strike, He's Out
Dear Annie: Nearly 20 years ago, I was convicted of drunk driving and given a year's probation. My brother, "Joe," immediately cut off all contact. I got treatment for my drinking problem and have been sober ever since. I know Joe ...

04/20/2011 Neighborhood Watch Run Amok
Dear Annie: We have lived for six years in a lovely neighborhood and have great neighbors on both sides. My wife and I travel extensively, often for months, and both neighbors, "Jim" and "John," have keys to our house and keep an ...

04/19/2011 Diary of a Schizophrenic's Daughter
Dear Annie: My mother is bipolar with schizophrenic tendencies. My childhood was difficult. Days consisted of her drinking, gambling, being promiscuous and inviting homeless people to live with us. Mom would have conversations with herself for hours ...

04/18/2011 The Boss's Daughter Is the Company Wrecking Ball
Dear Annie: I have worked many years in a small family-owned business. One of the owner's children recently graduated from a prominent university and is now employed here. This kid has an opinion on everything and is quite the gossip, ...

04/17/2011 Accidentally Pregnant on Purpose
Dear Annie: My good friend "Lara" is three months pregnant with her third child. She recently confided in me that she purposely didn't use birth control. She told her husband, "Joe," that the pregnancy was "an accident." <...

04/16/2011 Old Girlfriends Don't Come Knockin' for Nothin'
Dear Annie: You told "Upset," whose husband has no interest in sex, to have his testosterone level checked. Because "Upset" specifically mentioned their sleeping apart was due to his serious snoring, I suspect a much more likely ...

04/15/2011 Her Baby's Daddy's Just a Big Baby
Dear Annie: I am 21 and have a baby with my boyfriend, "Emmett," who is 19. I love him dearly, but I don't know what to do with him. He is unemployed and goes out all the time. I am stuck with two young children at home while Emmett ...

04/14/2011 Speak Out Against Bigotry
Dear Annie: My 29-year-old daughter works at a large multinational corporation. On numerous occasions and in different divisions of the corporation, she has heard anti-Jewish comments. In fact, at one event, she was so upset by what was being said at ...

04/13/2011 Minding Your P's and Q's
Dear Annie: I'm a 47-year-old father of four kids. My oldest, "Janet," is 24 and lives on her own. I adopted Janet when she was 2. Her mother made it clear that Janet is to never know that she is not my biological child. Janet's mother and I ...

04/12/2011 He'd Rather Share Her Than Lose Her
Dear Annie: I am an intelligent 70-something with a good education and am a responsible father and grandfather. I am also the husband (more than 40 years) of an amazing, accomplished woman. For the past 20 years, my wife has had a platonic ...

04/11/2011 A Son Is a Son Until He Takes a Wife
Dear Annie: I am a junior in high school. I have been with my wonderful girlfriend, "Maria," since our freshman year. Her parents won't let her officially date until she is 16, which will be soon. Last year, at her 15th birthday party,...

04/10/2011 Making a Mountain of Excuses Out of a Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been with "James" for six years. He is 57. We get along great and enjoy each other's company. We both own our homes. Five years ago, we became engaged, and James moved in with my 12-year-old son and me. However, ...

04/09/2011 Compulsive Spender Needs Debtors Anonymous
Dear Annie: We are in our 80s and have known "Ed and Jane" for 15 years. They sometimes invite us to spend a couple of nights at their condo in another state, and we reciprocate. It went fairly well until the past few years. Now the ...

04/08/2011 Children Want Mom Locked in Mourning
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Cathy," has been a widow for more than 18 months. Before her husband passed, they lost a young son in a tragic accident. Cathy recently met a divorced man through a church site for singles and is the ...

04/07/2011 Imitation is the Sincerest Form of Insecurity
Dear Annie: I've been close friends with "Lucy" since high school. In the past few years, I've noticed that she is imitating everything I do, and I mean everything. I recently dyed my hair red, and she did the same, even using the ...

04/06/2011 Haunted by Sexual Trauma
Dear Annie: I need to talk to someone. No one knows about this — not even my husband of 19 years. I am now 40, and when I was a young girl, I was molested for a period of time by a hired man on the farm my dad owned. He said if I ever ...

04/05/2011 When Homelessness Leads to Doglessness
Dear Annie: Through circumstances beyond our control, my husband and I recently found ourselves homeless for about a month, and we slept in our car. We had two dogs. A friend took one, but no one wanted "Rex." Temporary boarding was not ...

04/04/2011 Solutions for Sloppy Twentysomethings
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old college student living on a fixed income in a small apartment with a roommate. "Randy" is one of my best friends, and we've known each other for 10 years. We're a good match. I suffer from Asperger's, and Randy ...

04/03/2011 Where Do Social Security Numbers Come From?
Dear Annie: My husband and I own a business together that would collapse if we divorced. The business is starting to prosper after several years of debt and difficulties. At this point, we cannot afford to rock the boat, as we surely would not survive ...

04/02/2011 Be Careful Before Wishing an Unfaithful Spouse Would Come Back
Dear Annie: I am ready for the loony farm. Both of my adult sons are back at home, one with his child. My husband retired last year. I am still working. One son, "Matt," contributes toward rent and household chores, but the other, &...

04/01/2011 Young Narcissist Needs To Practice Humility
Dear Annie: I am a 14-year-old girl. I am arguably the smartest in the school and have never lacked confidence. I admit I am prideful and have never questioned my self-worth. I am always the one in the group with a sarcastic remark, although I am ...

03/31/2011 No Dog Needs This Many Walks
Dear Annie: I desperately need someone to tell me whether or not I am crazy. My husband and I live in an upscale neighborhood. He has met most of the neighbors by walking our dog. Last year, a neighbor moved out and rented his home to a couple ...

03/30/2011 Hepatitis and Booze a Bad Mix
Dear Annie: My mom is 50 years old and just told me that she has hepatitis C. I think she has probably had it for quite some time, since my late father also had it. Growing up, Mom and I were never close. She kept to herself a lot. Things have ...

03/29/2011 Unchecked Fear of Failure Can Ensure It
Dear Annie: I've been with my husband for 14 years. I have a career and make good money with excellent benefits. But "Ben" hasn't found himself quite yet. He is now in his early 30s and has studied architecture, business, machining, personal ...

03/28/2011 Toastmasters Takes the Anxiety Out of Public Speaking
Dear Annie: I am a 65-year-old male who has been involved in an exclusive relationship for the past four years. "Betty" is 56, and we get along great, travel frequently and have an active sex life. Several months ago, I began to ...

03/27/2011 Work Never Ends for Confidante of a Constant Complainer
Dear Annie: I am a divorced woman in my 50s and have been dating a man for several months. I feel close to "Darryl," and he gives many signs that we are headed for a long-term relationship. Darryl and I have started socializing with ...

03/26/2011 Grandfather Eagerly Waits For Family to Celebrate His Birthday
Dear Annie: I'm looking for an essay that appeared in an old Ann Landers column. It was about an elderly man who was celebrating a birthday. He spent the whole day waiting, but no one came. I visited my mother today in a home. She brought up this same ...

03/25/2011 Concerned Wife Feels Uncomfortable About Husband's Coed Reunions
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our mid-40s, happily married with a wonderful family. In the past two years, my husband has reconnected with some high school friends through social media. I think it is great that they are able to communicate and ...

03/24/2011 Sister Wants Answers From Distant Brother
Dear Annie: I am one of four adult siblings in a family that has always had difficulty communicating. I haven't spoken to my brother, "Tom," in many years. After getting married, Tom never bothered to invite our parents over, and he ...

03/23/2011 Wife Considers Leaving Her Safe and Boring Marriage
Dear Annie: I am 47 years old and am living with so many regrets. I married my husband because I did not think anyone else would ask me. I have never been in love with him. Fast-forward 25 years. Our children are off on their own. I have been ...

03/22/2011 Dependent Stepson Causes Tension in Marriage
Dear Annie: I am having a problem and don't know what to do. Please do not suggest counseling, because I tried, and my wife won't even consider it. We married 17 years ago. Both of us were in our mid-50s. She had two grown children, and I had ...

03/21/2011 Girlfriend Should Have the Courage to Meet Boyfriend's Mother
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Annette" for two years, and we are inseparable. I love and appreciate her. We both still live with our families and spend the majority of our time at her house. Annette often talks about moving in ...

03/20/2011 Woman Feels Betrayed by Female Friends
Dear Annie: My husband and I were in a social group with several other women who I thought were friends. A short time ago, he told me that two of the women came to him under the pretense of being concerned about our marriage. They claimed I had said ...

03/19/2011 This One's for Everyone
Dear Annie: I would like to thank you for the many times you've reminded readers to take care of important medical, financial and end-of-life decisions. I did that years ago and have a legal will and power of attorney. Over the years, I also gently ...

03/18/2011 Romancing the Phone
Dear Annie: My neighbor "Linda" has been single and lonely for years. A few months ago, she told me that she was communicating with a man she met on a personals website. I was initially happy to hear this, but quickly changed my mind. ...

03/17/2011 Undercover Tat
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for more than 20 years. He is a very good-looking man. His co-workers are mostly women. Yes, I am jealous, and I have good reason to be. When we married, he was loving, caring and gave me lots of ...

03/16/2011 Their Child is NOYB
Dear Annie: I am the second wife of the nicest, most wonderful man I have ever known. "John" and I have been in a happy marriage for seven years. John is friends with "Ruth," a 36-year-old mother of two, and her husband. ...

03/15/2011 How Bad is Bad Enough To Leave?
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our mid-60s, married 42 years. Our marriage hasn't been great, but it's also not horrible. About 15 years ago, my husband developed erectile dysfunction and stopped wanting sex. I urged him to talk to his ...

03/14/2011 Deconstructing a Promise to the Departed
Dear Annie: My beloved sister, "Dawn," died last year following a long battle with cancer. Her husband of 43 years was a caring and capable caregiver. At the memorial service held in their church, "John" spoke tearfully of their ...

03/13/2011 In the Absence of Consequences, Abuse Prevails
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Ralph" for 14 years. I have one daughter from a previous relationship, and Ralph and I have six together. My oldest daughter is now 18, but Ralph became physically abusive of her starting when she was 9. I ...

03/12/2011 When Love You Means So Much Less
Dear Annie: I am 55 and have been in a relationship with "Don" for two years. Don was trying to fix up a friend, so he called this woman who used to be his neighbor 20 years ago. He told her he had a girlfriend, but said nothing about the ...

03/11/2011 If He Scares You, Get Out
Dear Annie: I'm 15 and have the greatest boyfriend. "Dane" is 17. He shows me so much respect and is so sweet. He loves me, I can tell. We practice safe sex. We just celebrated our half-year anniversary. Sometimes, though, Dane is ...

03/10/2011 He Might As Well Be Having Sex With Her
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband had an emotional affair with an old girlfriend. This woman has caused problems throughout our marriage. I never seem to measure up to her. The first time I discovered that my husband was seeing her, I told him ...

03/09/2011 Profile of a Pedophile
Dear Annie: Are there any signs to look for to determine whether someone is a sexual predator? I have always heard that when it comes to young children being sexually abused, it is usually a close relative or friend. I have a 6-month-old ...

03/08/2011 Besides the Criminal Record
Dear Annie: More than 10 years ago, I was convicted of prostitution and shoplifting and went to jail. At that time, I was homeless, an alcoholic and had an undiagnosed mental illness. With the help of several community agencies and my family (who ...

03/07/2011 Sure as the Donald I Breathe
Dear Annie: How do you deal with a husband who thinks the world revolves around him? "Donald" always has to be the center of attention and makes sure he is in the spotlight at all times. People have told me he is spoiled and self-centered, ...

03/06/2011 Till A Break Do We Part
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Trish" for almost two years. She's a few years younger than I am. I always saw myself as being single forever, but now I've learned the real meaning of love. I don't want to be apart from her. Trish ...

03/05/2011 Closed Hearts After Open-Heart Surgery
Dear Annie: My brother was scheduled for open-heart surgery involving three different procedures. I hadn't seen him for several months and wanted to visit before the operation, as I feared he might not make it through. The day before his ...

03/05/2011 Closed Hearts After Open-Heart Surgery
Dear Annie: My brother was scheduled for open-heart surgery involving three different procedures. I hadn't seen him for several months and wanted to visit before the operation, as I feared he might not make it through. The day before his ...

03/04/2011 Stable Sam Used to be Mr. Right
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Sam" for 17 years. I have two grown daughters from my first marriage and a 16-year-old son with Sam. For all these years, Sam has been the quintessential stable husband and father, working to put a ...

03/03/2011 Angry Mom Fears She's Becoming Her Parents
Dear Annie: I am a 28-year-old mother of two beautiful girls, ages 8 and 2. I have a problem controlling my anger, and I take out all of my frustrations on my girls. When something is done wrong or not fast enough, or when my 8-year-old talks back, I ...

03/02/2011 Abusive Father Doesn't Warrant Benefit of the Doubt
Dear Annie: When I was 5, my mother married an abusive man. He talked down to us and often resorted to slapping and name calling. On at least three occasions, he was physically abusive — punching, throwing and beating us. On the other hand, he ...

03/01/2011 Sharing a Bathroom Should Be Unremarkable
Dear Annie: I'm a single father of a 16-year-old son whom I have raised since he was 2. "Zack" is mature and carries himself with confidence. When Zack took up sports and his schedule became busy, we found that it was sometimes ...

02/28/2011 Drop "Sweet as Pie" Like a Hot Potato
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 60s and have been married for eight years. "Troy" has a temper. One minute he will be sweet as pie, telling me he loves me, even singing love songs. The next minute he will fly into a rage and ...

02/27/2011 Don't Wait for Courts To Protect Kids
Dear Annie: My friend "Alicia" has been married for more than two decades and has two very intelligent children. But she is married to a man who doesn't work and has a lot of problems. "Steve" left his job after a ...

02/26/2011 When Mom Really Loves Lotto
Dear Annie: I am a school coach in a small town. Last week, I walked into our local gas station to pay for my purchase and spotted a woman sitting on the floor. She was inserting money into the instant lottery machine, selecting a lottery card, ...

02/25/2011 The Other Side of the Story
Dear Annie: We daughters-in-law have a problem. Our in-laws are unable to care for themselves. More than 10 years ago, Mom developed a brain tumor. She's lost her long-term memory, and her personality went from sweet to the complete opposite. Dad has ...

02/24/2011 Ladies Love Her Helpful Boyfriend
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are compatible in every way but one. He feels compelled to run to the aid of his single, female neighbor, even though she has a boyfriend. He watches her dog, fixes her fence, helps ...

02/23/2011 Whatever Happened to Spoiled Jane?
Dear Annie: Our niece, "Jane," is 51 years old, an alcoholic and a divorcee. She lives in a home owned by her mother, who also pays all her bills. Jane's only job has been part-time summer work, and she was laid off last year. Jane ...

02/22/2011 Married to a Farmville Addict
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Brook" for more than 20 years, and we have a loving relationship. However, lately I am lonely because my wife is addicted to the Facebook game "Farmville." We used to spend our evenings ...

02/21/2011 When Organizing Becomes Another Word for Nosy
Dear Annie: My adult brother is a drug addict. "Keith" has been in and out of rehab programs, but hasn't succeeded in staying clean. He lies to family members and lives in his car and various fleabag motels. He is still working, but only ...

02/20/2011 Fool for Something that Looks Nothing Like Love
Dear Annie: I am a 42-year-old woman with two teenage daughters. I have been living with my boyfriend, "Jonas," for 15 years. For the past two, Jonas has been out of work. This has affected his mood, as well as his sexual drive. He is not ...

02/19/2011 A Sober Response to Drunk Dialer
Dear Annie: It has been more than 13 years since I first had a situation that was resolved with the help of Ann Landers. My daughter was about to turn 16 and get her driver's license when I came across a column that included a contract to help keep ...

02/18/2011 Estrangement Over Foreign Tongue
Dear Annie: About seven years ago, my ex-wife, trembling and crying, woke me up early one morning to talk about her childhood. She told me she had been molested by her father. I didn't know how to take the delicate information I was told, so I said ...

02/17/2011 Selfish Smoker Lashes Out at Family
Dear Annie: I am having a problem with my mother-in-law. My husband is so upset that he doesn't plan to speak to her again. My mother-in-law is a smoker. So are my husband, mother and father-in-law. We have asked everyone to smoke outside ...

02/16/2011 Facebook Page of Pain
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 40s. We've been married for 13 years and have two young, beautiful, healthy children that I thank God for every day. After many years of marriage, I found out quite unexpectedly that my husband has ...

02/15/2011 Mr. Hawaii, N.O.
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter, "Nadia," dated a sweet guy for three years. They broke up when he moved to Hawaii to "see the world." For three years, he dated no one else and expected Nadia to do the same. However, after 18 ...

02/14/2011 How 'Not Tonight, Dear' Leads to Porn
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, along with our special good wishes to the veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our particular thanks to those readers who have taken the time to send valentines, visit the vets and ...

02/13/2011 Make Difficult Relationships Easier with Technology
Dear Annie: Last summer, my husband became seriously ill while out of town. When I called his family, they started bossing me around and even called the hospital and berated the staff. I had my husband moved to a larger hospital in the city where his ...

02/12/2011 Coming Soon to a Care Facility Nowhere Near You
Dear Annie: My father married my stepmother 20 years ago. Three years ago, he suffered a stroke. Though moderately disabled, he is still mentally sharp, didn't lose his speech and is able to do most things for himself. He is happy as a ...

02/11/2011 Guest List Standoff
Dear Annie: I have some concerns about the guest list for my daughter's upcoming nuptials. She has always been budget conscious, and I appreciate her attempts to keep the guest list to a minimum, but it's created a problem. She and her fiance ...

02/10/2011 Stuck in a So-Called Marriage
Dear Annie: I am 26 and have been living with my "husband" for a year. We had a religious ceremony, but didn't file the legal paperwork. Now I realize it was a huge mistake. I desperately want out of this so-called marriage. "...

02/09/2011 Sometimes You Gotta Leave the Hot Friend Home
Dear Annie: I have been best friends with "Claire" since junior high. She is nothing short of a knockout, with a sweet personality to match. We have always been very close, and I treasure our friendship. The problem is, when we are ...

02/08/2011 Anxious Jane Means No Harm
Dear Annie: Every year, we invite our extended family for the holidays. Last year, we had our nephew, "John," and his wife, "Jane." John is a terrific, lovable, normal 30-something. Jane, on the other hand, is not nearly as normal. ...

02/07/2011 Moonlighting at the Office
Dear Annie: My husband, "Don," is a recovering alcoholic. Last year, I discovered that he had a balance of $27,000 in credit card purchases for expensive watches, tool machines and alcohol. This nearly destroyed our 15-year marriage. ...

02/06/2011 Say Thank You, Grandma
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 21 years. We hit a low note in our marriage, and she met an old friend on Facebook. The two of them texted and called each other, met for dinner, got together again and hopped in the sack, and then saw ...

02/05/2011 Hands out of the Bucket
Dear Annie: We live in a community made up mostly of retired couples who rotate having dinner get-togethers. One of the men in our group seems unable to keep his hands out of the ice bucket. His usual routine is to remove the ice tongs, stir the ice ...

02/04/2011 Sneaky Double Standard
Dear Annie: Our children gave my husband and me a surprise anniversary party. They invited friends we had not seen in many years, including "Frank and Mary." Frank and I were always good friends. We even had a minor crush on each ...

02/03/2011 Restraining Order Nothing to Feel Guilty About
Dear Annie: I am a 30-something woman and was in a relationship with another woman for two years. "Angie" was physically, emotionally and mentally abusive toward me. She decided many times to break off our relationship, but would ...

02/02/2011 When "Mary" Becomes "Harry"
Dear Annie: "Bill" and I have been married for 42 years. I recently learned that he has been in touch with a former co-worker. Friends saw him having lunch with "Mary." I also saw a short e-mail from her, saying, "Hi! Same ...

02/01/2011 Her Bully is Her Twin
Dear Annie: I have an 18-year-old fraternal twin sister. We have the same friends, the same classes and the same extracurriculars. The problem is, she bullies me. If I have something she wants, she throws things at me. She pushes me out of my ...

01/31/2011 Parents Behind the Times
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband and I moved across the country to help with his aging parents. Everyone welcomed me, with the exception of one niece who has gone out of her way to let me know that I am not part of this family. When ...

01/30/2011 Cool To Ask for Cash?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have three children and several grandchildren. I provide paid daycare for my oldest and youngest sons. Our middle son, "Cliff," has been disabled for a year and is married to "Justine." She has four ...

01/29/2011 After the Funeral
Dear Annie: My husband died suddenly at the age of 46. For the first few months, you're in shock and have lots of life-altering decisions to make. Simple tasks become overwhelming. I expected friends to be there to help, but I found out through ...

01/28/2011 Odd Gift a Sign of Something More?
Dear Annie: Last August, one of my favorite authors published a new book. My husband told me not to buy it and hinted that his parents were planning to get it for me for Christmas. This was the type of thing they had done before, and I was happy to ...

01/27/2011 New Backbone in Time for New Baby
Dear Annie: I have been divorced from "Bill" for more than a year and separated for almost two. I am currently expecting his baby. Obviously, we were still sleeping together, but this pregnancy was a total accident. I've always ...

01/26/2011 Exceptionally Wild, or Just 19?
Dear Annie: Our son, "Colin," is 19 years old and a sophomore in college. He was always helpful and a good student. Last spring, Colin became rude and condescending. We found out he was living with a 33-year-old man who is infected with HIV. ...

01/25/2011 Tripping on his Cold Feet
Dear Annie: I come from an extremely dysfunctional family. I am 50 years old and have been estranged from my family since I was 31. I do not miss them and have no desire for contact. I've had only a few long-term relationships in my life. I am ...

01/24/2011 Daddie Dearest
Dear Annie: I believe my husband of 19 years is suffering from some form of mental illness. I need to know where to go for help — not for "Steve," because he doesn't think he has a problem — but for our teenage children and me.
01/23/2011 Valentines for Vets 2011
Dear Annie: Over the years, your readers have opened their hearts to America's veterans by participating in the National Salute to Veteran Patients each February. This past year, more than 300,000 valentines were received at VA medical centers, and 15,...

01/22/2011 Insatiable Selfishness
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband and I had some problems and we separated. My parents were wonderfully supportive at the time, but when I decided to return to my marriage, they insisted my husband apologize to them. He refused, saying he only ...

01/21/2011 Sometimes Superman Has To Take the Bus
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for four years. Six months ago, we were blessed with a little boy who has become our world. The problem is, "Greg" is constantly going out of his way for his family. ...

01/20/2011 Binge-Drinking Husband Needs Help
Dear Annie: My husband has several friends he's known for years. All of them are heavy drinkers. "Tom" is not a big drinker, but when he is with these friends, he gets sloppy drunk. We are in our 60s, and for medical reasons, Tom ...

01/19/2011 Shady Wife Begets Snooping Husband
Dear Annie: I am a 36-year-old husband and father, married for four years. Two years ago, I caught my wife cheating on me. I was willing to forgive her for the sake of our children. But lately, our marriage seems to have fallen into that dark ...

01/18/2011 Older Woman, Younger Man, So What?
Dear Annie: My father has a habit of touching me when he talks. He'll tap my hand or leg, and he often touches my arm when it's unnecessary. I've told him many times that I don't like it, but he gets quite unhappy if I ask him to stop. He's done this ...

01/17/2011 Hubby's Late Hours and Female Callers Cause for Concern?
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Nate" for 16 years. He is wonderful, but blind to the way his family behaves. These people have never been particularly warm toward me or my children from my first marriage. Nate and I have a child together, ...

01/16/2011 Family Should Hold Sex Offender Accountable
Dear Annie: I was repeatedly molested by my older brother when I was a child. Like most children in those circumstances, I lived in fear and told no one. Therapy finally helped me realize that living with the secret was killing me. Having to ...

01/15/2011 Parents Disapprove of March-December Romance
Dear Annie: I am 55, married for 29 years, and the mother of three children. The problem is our middle child, "Martina," who is living with a 50-year-old divorced father of two. One of his children is married with kids, so our 24-year-old ...

01/14/2011 Arm Wrestling for Armrests?
Dear Annie: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for more than 20 years, and in that time, we have become homebodies. Every year since we tied the knot, the passion has gradually declined, and lately, it's about dead. I am ...

01/13/2011 The Back-Up Plan
Dear Annie: I was in a nine-year relationship with "Louisa." We were engaged for three years before we moved in together. Once we were living in the same house, however, we couldn't tolerate each other. We didn't touch, kiss or have sex. ...

01/12/2011 Do Not Disturb Prince Charming
Dear Annie: I am disturbed by my husband's behavior. We were married in June, and I knew that "Clark" had a short temper. But an incident happened last night that frightened me. He became upset over a silly matter and screamed profanities, ...

01/11/2011 15 and Burgled
Dear Annie: I'm 15 years old. Two years ago, I arrived home from school to find a burglar in my room. My bedroom door was locked, and when I got near it, the thief burst through the door. I attempted to kick him in the groin, but missed. He grabbed my ...

01/10/2011 Evict Those Freeloading Children
Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our mid-60s. For most of our lives, we have done pretty well, but lately we've had financial difficulties because our incomes have been significantly decreased while our debt has not. My health is failing, and I don't ...

01/09/2011 He's Perfect ... and Married
Dear Annie: Five years ago, I became friends with "Jim." As our friendship deepened, it turned into something more. I've never had a relationship with such mutual respect and understanding. We even started a business together. The ...

01/08/2011 Possible Reasons for Child's Inappropriate Classroom Behavior
Dear Annie: This is for "Concerned Teacher," whose 9-year-old pupil rubs herself against her seat all day long. I am a school psychologist. If sexual abuse has been ruled out, she should simply treat it like any other publicly unacceptable ...

01/07/2011 Teen Should Express Sexuality With Team Members When He Feels Ready
Dear Annie: I'm a 17-year-old high-school senior and homosexual. So far, only my closest friends know, but of course, that's not going to last long. I'm wondering whether I should tell my track team now or wait until they ask about it. All of ...

01/06/2011 Campaign Hopes to Increase Percentage of High School Graduates
Dear Annie: It is a tragic fact that one in four young people in America does not graduate from high school. We are at risk of losing our leadership position in the global economy. But I am convinced that by working together we can change this ...

01/05/2011 Man Still Seeks Approval From Ex-Wife
Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old mother of a 9-month-old boy and a stepmother to three older children. My husband's ex treats me like the third wheel. She walks into my house without knocking and goes through my stepchildren's drawers and takes things. ...

01/04/2011 College Student Wants to Pursue Long-Distance Relationship
Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old college sophomore. The summer before my senior year of high school, I took a trip to Europe with a religious youth group. From the moment we boarded the plane, "Rachel" and I shared a connection. By the second ...

01/03/2011 Husband Needs to Express Frustration with Wife's Constant Criticism
Dear Annie: I am in my late 40s, have a good career, am well-respected and well-educated, and have many friends and acquaintances. I keep in reasonable shape. I love my son, my siblings and my mother, and always want to do the best I can. The ...

01/02/2011 Frustrated Mother is Tired of Supporting Unemployed Son-in-Law and Family
Dear Annie: I had to retire early due to a disability. My daughter moved in with me, along with her husband and their kids. "Sarah" does not work, other than helping me around the house and taking me places. Her husband has a hard time ...

01/01/2011 Criticizing DIL's Housekeeping Is No Way To Start the Year
Dear Readers: Happy New Year! We hope you are recovering nicely. Here's a little New Year's wish from us, author unknown: "A health to you, a wealth to you, and the best that life can give to you." Dear Annie: Our daughter-in-law, &...

12/31/2010 Life is Tough -- and even Tougher for Some
Dear Annie: A year ago, I became ill and was in the hospital for a month. I was told that my children were there the entire time. Since then, I have been declared legally disabled. There is some room for improvement in my condition, but it will take a ...

12/30/2010 Badmouthing Dad Makes Everyone Look Bad
Dear Annie: I am a 17-year-old girl, and my parents are in the middle of a divorce. That is not the problem. I am really happy they are divorcing. The problem is, my mother has been telling everyone that Dad had an affair and that The Other ...

12/29/2010 The Biffs of the World Require Boundaries and Distance
Dear Annie: My mother passed away two years ago. She had been with "Biff" for about 13 years. Biff is a jerk. Most of the family discontinued all contact with my mother because no one could stand him. I tolerated him, but he made me ...

12/28/2010 Contacting the Incarcerated
Dear Annie: Recently, my dear friend "Jill" learned that a long-lost high school friend has been incarcerated for nine years. Jill insists on contacting "Alan" and has encouraged our friends to do the same, even though we have not ...

12/27/2010 Reinforce Confidence To Combat the Influence of an Abuser
Dear Annie: I need to know how to react to my 32-year-old daughter when she tells me about what her emotionally abusive husband has said or done to her. "Joan" is a nurse at a hospital. Her domineering husband, "Ray," is ...

12/26/2010 Can There Be Friendship After Divorce?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 20 years, and the spark has left our relationship. We are in counseling, communicate openly, have tried date nights and mutual activities, and get along OK. But we have grown apart and have lost the ...

12/25/2010 Tokens of Appreciation on Christmas
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas to one and all. In honor of the holiday, here is a short poem, author unknown: May the spirit of Christmas bring you peace, The gladness of Christmas give you hope, The warmth of Christmas grant you ...

12/24/2010 Saving a Son and a Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been married to a wonderful man for 26 years. We are compatible in every way except when it comes to my 28-year-old son, "Jeremy." Jeremy has epilepsy, diabetes and a host of other problems. Recently, the two of them had a ...

12/23/2010 A Family's Holiday Hubbub
Dear Annie: Our two children are married with families of their own. The siblings used to get along quite well, but over the past few years, they hardly speak to each other. I don't know what happened. We threw ourselves an anniversary party, ...

12/22/2010 Bringing the War Home
Dear Annie: My husband, "Bill," and I have been married for almost two years. Bill was in the U.S. Army and served in Iraq. When he got back, we were married, but, Annie, he has totally changed. This past year, all we seem to do is ...

12/21/2010 When One's Past Is Troubled
Dear Annie: I am living with the girl I fell in love with 40 years ago. "Nancy" and I were separated during the Vietnam War. Last year, we reconnected, divorced our respective spouses and began planning a future together. I told Nancy ...

12/20/2010 The Right Medicine for a Mentally Ill Sibling?
Dear Annie: My 30-year-old sister is mentally ill and currently lives with my mother. "Stacy" used to live in her own place, but in the past six years, she has become gradually more dependent. She refuses to go anywhere alone and will no ...

12/19/2010 The Replacement Dad
Dear Annie: I am recently divorced and readily admit that I contributed to the reasons why my ex-wife and I are no longer together. The problem is, six days after the divorce became official, my ex was already dating someone else and letting him meet ...

12/18/2010 Deleted and Cropped Wife Has Reason To Worry
Dear Annie: My husband and I each have our own profiles on Facebook, and we are "friends," so we can see each other's profiles. Several weeks ago, I noticed that he had deleted all pictures of me from his photo album. When I asked him about ...

12/17/2010 Dealing with a Hard-Sell Dentist
Dear Annie: How do you deal with people who simply delete their family from their lives? There was no argument or complicated situation. All of a sudden, they are not returning phone calls or e-mails. My sister has done this for the second ...

12/16/2010 Friendship on Fire
Dear Annie: I am in a bit of a bind. One of my closest friends is like a female version of me. We can talk to each other about anything, from relationships to off-the-wall topics that most people would consider strange. However, when we talk to ...

12/15/2010 No Room for Gossips in the Workplace
Dear Annie: My two daughters-in-law, "Dolly and Cynthia," have been arguing for the past nine years. These women are in their 30s and act like teenagers. They had a shouting match at a grandchild's birthday party and last week fought ...

12/14/2010 Bad Boyfriend PTSD
Dear Annie: I am a 26-year-old woman, recently engaged to my live-in boyfriend. The other day, I came across an online conversation he had with an ex-fling of his. I know I shouldn't have snooped, but the word "marriage" came up and I got ...

12/13/2010 Safe Sex in the Guest Bedroom
Dear Annie: After 18 years of marriage, my husband and I divorced three years ago. My daughter has always been a Daddy's girl and resents me for divorcing her father. We never see eye to eye on anything. "Keisha" is now 13 years old ...

12/12/2010 Death of the Door-to-Door Candy Salesman
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and plan on marrying after his children are grown. "Jack" is wonderful with my family. Here's the problem: My sister, "Ellen," has 8-year-old twins, and I ...

12/11/2010 Time To Close the Family Bank?
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Kirk" for 23 years. The problem is my in-laws. They always come to us when they are in need, and this occurs on a routine basis. I'm talking loans from $20 to $1000 and borrowing cars, pressure washers, a ...

12/10/2010 Inexpensive Help for Drug Addicts
Dear Annie: I am a 27-year-old man, living with a girlfriend and our 3-year-old daughter. I have a serious problem with drugs, mainly prescription pills. I have tried to quit many times, unsuccessfully. When I don't have any drugs for 12 hours, I get ...

12/09/2010 What an STD Means to a Marriage
Dear Annie: I have been married for 16 years. I was recently diagnosed with trichomoniasis, a sexually transmitted infection. My doctor explained that if I have been faithful to my husband, then he must have cheated on me. When I confronted my husband,...

12/08/2010 The Bully Problem
Dear Annie: Last year, my 16-year-old daughter had a bout of depression and anxiety and didn't handle herself well. As a result, she has been shunned by the friends she's had since 7th grade. "Lauren" has tried to make amends by ...

12/07/2010 Moms Need Boundaries, Too
Dear Annie: I am at the end of my rope. My mother-in-law is a wonderful, giving person, and I care for her. But she does not seem to understand boundaries. Last weekend, my daughter and her family came for a visit. I wanted to spend some time ...

12/06/2010 When Everyone Prefers the Other Woman
Dear Annie: For 30 years, my brother has been unhappily married to a horrible, selfish, evil woman who treats him terribly. Our entire family tolerates her only to keep the peace. Recently, I found out that my brother is involved with a ...

12/05/2010 Light a Candle in Remembrance of a Child
Dear Annie: When a child dies, the world stops for that family, and the holidays become a time of painful remembrance rather than a time of celebration. The 14th Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting on December 12 marks a day where families ...

12/04/2010 No Escapin' Grandma's Mothballs
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law is coming to stay with us for a weeklong visit. We get along OK for the most part. The problem is that she packs all of her belongings in mothballs — every last item. She keeps mothballs in her closets, her dresser ...

12/03/2010 An Unhealthy Stew
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my father had a big fight with his sister, my "Aunt Joan." Aunt Joan did some things that were truly selfish and hurtful, and all of the family agrees that her actions were inexcusable. She has since cut off all ...

12/02/2010 Red Flag Fiance
Dear Annie: For my entire life, my parents have favored my younger sister, "Erin," their only biological child. (My older brother and I are adopted.) When I turned 16, my parents told me to get a job. When Erin turned 16, they paid ...

12/01/2010 Pregnant and Under Court Order
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old single mother. Two weeks ago, I left my boyfriend when he began to be physically abusive in front of our child. We currently are under a court order to have no contact with each other, but I keep in close touch with his ...

11/30/2010 Till Excessive Slovenliness Do We Part
Dear Annie: I've known my wife for two years. We've been living together for five months and married for one. I love her a ton. I pull my share of the load around here, including paying half the bills and buying the groceries. I cook, clean ...

11/29/2010 Flirting with the Frenemy
Dear Annie: I read your column daily and have never seen a story like ours. My ex-husband and I have two daughters. He favors the younger one and talks to her often, but has had almost zero contact with our older daughter, "Dyan," in more ...

11/28/2010 Do Not Disturb Day Sleeper
Dear Annie: I need a polite way to tell people to leave me alone. My husband and I work opposite shifts and only have a few hours a week to spend together. I work a late shift and need to sleep during the day. My doorbell rings constantly even though ...

11/27/2010 Uncomfortable Genes
Dear Annie: Four of my five siblings and their partners are tremendously overweight. Two of my sisters claim to have the "family fat genes." I don't believe such nonsense. I love my siblings dearly, but sadly, their children are now &...

11/26/2010 How Old is Too Old To Get a Dog?
Dear Annie: Both of my parents are in their mid-80s. My father has become rather frail, but won't admit it, and my mother requires a walker to get around. Over the past 30 years, they have had several lovely dogs. The last one, "Rex,"...

11/25/2010 A Day of Thanks
Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends, and that you remembered those who are alone today and would love to be part of your family on this occasion. For those readers who ...

11/24/2010 Baking Soda for Body Odor?
Dear Annie: I am running out of patience with my 24-year-old stepson. "Andy" lives with his mother, but in the same town we do. Since his senior year in high school, he has never finished anything he starts. He has tried college three ...

11/23/2010 How To Keep Your Friend's Hands Off Your Husband
Dear Annie: My husband and I regularly go camping with several other couples. There is usually drinking going on throughout the day. The wife of one of the other couples seems to pay a great deal of attention to my husband. Recently, we were ...

11/22/2010 Marriage Minus Romance Minus Sex Equals?
Dear Annie: I have been married to an absolutely amazing man for four years. "Jeff" complements me in every way. Where I am weak, he is strong. We have a wonderful baby boy who is the light of our lives. The problem is, the romance ...

11/21/2010 This Cat Has Too Much Power
Dear Annie: When my husband retired, our daughter asked us to move near her because she was expecting twins. We took care of the children every day. Two years ago, our daughter announced she was getting a cat. Unfortunately, I am allergic to ...

11/20/2010 Bipolar Bride?
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Lori," a wonderful woman, for six months. I've never been happier and wouldn't change my life for the world. The problem is, Lori allows every little thing to get to her, and I get hit with the ...

11/19/2010 There's "Kissing Cousins" and then There's This
Dear Annie: My son and daughter-in-law have a 14-year-old son and a well-endowed 12-year-old daughter, and the two of them behave like lovers. They will sit crammed together in the same chair with their arms wrapped around each other, holding hands ...

11/18/2010 Addicted to Technology
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We both were married twice before, and both of my ex-husbands left me for other women. My husband recently re-established e-mail, text and phone contact with his former fiance, who ...

11/17/2010 Pining for a Love or Talking to a Friend?
Dear Annie: I have been with "Ted" for a year. He is a wonderful man, and I love every moment we spend together. But he talks to his ex-wife on a regular basis. She left him after a 13-year relationship, and they had no children together. ...

11/16/2010 He Said He Was at the Dentist and He Wasn't
Dear Annie: "Roy" and I have been married for 43 years. We have two married children and several grandchildren. We've had our share of problems, but I have always trusted him — until now. Roy retired three years ago. Recently, ...

11/15/2010 Natural Behavior Not Necessarily Public Behavior
Dear Annie: I'm a public school teacher with 20 years of experience, but this one has me shaken. The sweetest and brightest of my 9-year-old students spends most of the day positioning herself so she can rub against her chair in a way that ...

11/15/2010 Bob Myers, RIP
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11/14/2010 A Deal is a Deal
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old son from a previous marriage lives with my husband and me. "Jacob" is in his second year of college and maintains a B average. He has worked the same part-time job since he turned 16 and pays all of his own bills, ...

11/13/2010 You Can Divorce the Man, But Not His Debt
Dear Annie: My husband is overextended on his credit cards and sometimes skips several months of payments or juggles between one card and another. Creditors and collection agencies call our house all the time, and I'm losing sleep over it. ...

11/12/2010 The Other Woman, But Not
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Tom" for two years and am close to his family. Since early in the relationship, Tom's cousin "Jeremy" and his two sons have been maintaining my yard. When they come over, I always talk to them ...

11/11/2010 A Celebration of Vets and Veterans Day
Dear Annie: Years back, Ann Landers printed a poem my father wrote for his own newspaper column. With November 11th approaching, I thought you might like to print it again. — Randy Vaincourt Dear Randy: With pleasure, in honor of our ...

11/10/2010 Forced Sharing
Dear Annie: My friend "Janet" booked some discounted hotel rooms through an online auction. One of them was a two-bedroom suite for two nights, which she booked with me in mind, hoping I would share it with her for an upcoming occasion. <...

11/09/2010 He Does Everything but Kiss and Tells
Dear Annie: I have been married for almost 20 years to a somewhat verbally abusive and manipulative man. We were separated for a year, but remained in the same house while I worked with him to understand how damaging his behavior was. During that time,...

11/08/2010 Can't Shake that Schoolgirl Crush
Dear Annie: I am a 45-year-old woman, married to a wonderful man for 23 years. But for the life of me, I cannot get over meeting "Ted" through my husband's business 16 years ago. The second I shook hands with him, fireworks went off. It was ...

11/07/2010 Teflon Husband
Dear Annie: My husband and I are beside ourselves with worry. Our daughter is a beautiful, sweet girl with a good job, and she has always been very responsible and level-headed. Her husband is handsome, outgoing and smooth (Teflon has nothing on this ...

11/06/2010 Caught in Bed with the Other Man
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for five years and have three children. Recently, she cheated on me, so we went for counseling. Toward the end of our six weeks of counseling, I caught her in bed with the Other Man. She begged for ...

11/05/2010 Grieving Widow and Stepdaughter Clash
Dear Annie: I've known my 26-year-old stepdaughter, "Monica," since she was 5. She never spent much time with her father, but when the first grandchild was born, she came by more often because she wanted a babysitter. Her dad and I were ...

11/04/2010 Layout of a Legal Separation
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We have a son we both adore. About five years ago, I made a career switch. It was a tough time for us financially, and it put a strain on our relationship. I thought we were pulling out of it ...

11/03/2010 She Likes It When He Leaves
Dear Annie: How do I deal with being married to someone I simply do not like? After 15 years, I realize that I don't enjoy being around my husband. I look forward to him leaving the house. It is hard for me to do anything for someone I feel nothing ...

11/02/2010 Her Square-Dancing Boyfriend is a Liar with a Record
Dear Annie: I am an older divorced woman and belong to a square-dancing club. Shortly after I started, a single man joined and quickly became my dance partner. He was very smooth and a good dancer, and we also began dating. Then he said there ...

11/01/2010 His Mental Illness Is a Danger to Her
Dear Annie: How do you get a mentally ill person to see a psychiatrist when he thinks he's perfectly fine? I have a cousin who immigrated to the U.S. with his family a year ago. I believe he had some issues before they came, but the new ...

10/31/2010 Quick-Draw Divorce Demand Adds to Wife's Anxiety
Dear Annie: I'm a young newlywed with general anxiety disorder, which includes frequent and severe panic attacks. A few days ago, I came home to find my husband, "Jerry," sitting on the couch with his wedding band on the table. He ...

10/30/2010 Sex, Drugs and Medical School?
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old daughter, "Tracie," is attractive, a top student, a volunteer and a Sunday school teacher. She planned to become a doctor. Recently, Tracie became sexually involved with a 20-year-old man who is known to be ...

10/29/2010 Autistic Son or Lunatic Mother?
Dear Annie: Our son recently informed us that our 7-year-old grandson has high-functioning Asperger's syndrome. I have extensive experience with children on the autism spectrum. "Jeremy's" behaviors, while rowdy, are not typical of Asperger'...

10/28/2010 His Wife Wants To Spend the Night at a Friend's...
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for four. We have a wonderful 11-year-old son. We got together while we were in high school. Neither of us ever had many close friends or much of a social life. But all of a ...

10/27/2010 The Risks of Going Commando
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter came home for the summer after her first year of college. When I did her laundry, I couldn't help noticing there were no panties. I was stunned when my daughter told me that she and many other girls at ...

10/26/2010 Sis Is a Pathological Liar
Dear Annie: I have several siblings. One, "Emily," divorced when her children were young. We tried to be supportive and helpful. We believed her horror stories about her ex-husband's affairs and sexual perversions. At various times, Emily ...

10/25/2010 A New Start Would Be a Step Back
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 26 years. "Cliff" had a midlife crisis after seeing photographs of himself at our daughter's wedding. I knew he took the aging process hard, and I tried to help him through it. But then I ...

10/24/2010 Did this Jokester Turn on a Dime?
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I married "Tim," who is in his mid-30s. I moved more than 1,200 miles away and left my family, friends and a great job to be with him. I had no debt and used all the proceeds from the sale of my home to have a nice ...

10/23/2010 Irrational Brother Holds Ridiculous Grudge Against Sister
Dear Annie: About 10 years ago, my brother, "Sam," stopped speaking to me. The reason was that he set me up with his best friend when I was 18, but after two years together, I realized it wasn't going anywhere and broke it off. Sam went ...

10/22/2010 Woman is Upset With Mother-in-Law's Uncaring Nature
Dear Annie: How do you deal with a cold, indifferent, dysfunctional family? I was attracted to my husband, "Chuck," in part because I thought he had a warm, loving family. Boy, was I wrong. In 21 years, they have never embraced me or made me ...

10/21/2010 Teen is in Love and Wants to Date Older Boy
Dear Annie: I'm a freshman in high school. It has been stressful, and I have difficult classes. However, I recently met this amazing guy who lifts my spirits and keeps me grounded. Now, before you start the whole "teenagers don't really ...

10/20/2010 Irresponsible Sister Has Worn Out Her Welcome as a Guest
Dear Annie: My sister, "Didi," has been living with my husband and me for several months. Didi pays a modest amount of rent based on her income — but we set it up before she started working more consistently. She now has a part-time ...

10/19/2010 Daughter Needs Consequences in Order to Learn Responsibility
Dear Annie: My relationship with my 22-year-old daughter, "Lana," has become impossible. She is a total slob. She lived here over the summer and did exactly one load of laundry. It was not uncommon to come home and find dishes in the sink ...

10/18/2010 Listen and Make an Effort to Gain More Friendships
Dear Annie: I'm 23 and work at an office at a medical university. I got out of therapy about a month ago and returned to my job, feeling better than ever. I'm taking antidepressants, and they've been working well. My co-workers are friendly, ...

10/17/2010 Guy Can't Force Ex-Girlfriend to Give Baby up For Adoption
Dear Annie: My 27-year-old son broke up with his 23-year-old girlfriend after a three-month relationship that was largely based on sex. Six weeks after the breakup, the girl announced that she was pregnant. My son is sure that he is the father, but ...

10/16/2010 He Hasn't Made a Move in Two Years
Dear Annie: I am a 66-year-old woman. I took care of my husband for many years before he died. We loved each other deeply. But because of his illness, there was no sex for the last 10 years of his life. I am now with a man who is 49. He says he ...

10/15/2010 Full-Blown Rebellion Requires Special Ops
Dear Annie: I have been fighting a lot with my 16-year-old daughter, "Rebecca." It has escalated to the point where she moved into an apartment with her 19-year-old boyfriend, "Rick." I am not comfortable with the age difference ...

10/14/2010 An Uninvited Rubdown Breaks Up Friendship
Dear Annie: I am 26 years old and happily married. We recently moved into our first home, next door to "Tom and Sophie," a childless 45-year-old couple. My wife likes Sophie, and I enjoyed Tom's company until he asked me to join him on a ...

10/13/2010 Rolling Up the Welcome Mat
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my then-single husband decided to take in his 9-year-old sister, "Taylor," because his mother was using drugs. It was intended to be a temporary arrangement until his mother could clean up her act. After one year, ...

10/12/2010 No Need To Fear Rape Fantasies
Dear Annie: My wonderful boyfriend of two years recently told me he has rape fantasies — both of being the rapist and of being raped. He said that, for obvious reasons, it's not something he talks about. But things are getting really serious ...

10/11/2010 This Roommate Is Taken
Dear Annie: My roommate, "Trish," and I are good friends, and we are both attending the same college. Last spring, her boyfriend spent a lot of time at our apartment. He stayed overnight several times, which made me uncomfortable. I spoke ...

10/10/2010 Curb the Poolside Drinks, Mom
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Jennifer," is 33 years old and has a 2-year-old child. Jennifer is generally a good mother, but she does two things that I question. The first is that she forces my granddaughter to watch TV in the bedroom ...

10/09/2010 A Boyfriend without a Backbone Is No Boyfriend at All
Dear Annie: Eight months ago, I started dating "Ron." His wife died two months before my companion passed away. We started as friends, and then it became something more. We have similar interests and get along great with one exception: Ron's ...

10/08/2010 Uncle Asked for Character Reference Has Nothing Nice To Say
Dear Annie: I don't have the best relationship with my nephew, "Bob." He has asked for a number of favors from me in the past and has gotten very nasty when things didn't go his way. He has also bragged about abusing people and pets, and he ...

10/07/2010 No Need To Talk About Your Tubal
Dear Annie: I am a 25-year-old woman with two daughters. I became pregnant with my oldest when I was 20, but the relationship with her father fizzled. My current husband is a loving father and a good provider, but he comes from a troubled background, ...

10/06/2010 V-V-Victory Screams of N-N-Nepotism
Dear Annie: Last night, my daughter's high school held tryouts for cheerleading. Many girls and their parents were shocked by the actions of the cheer coach, who advanced her own sophomore daughter and six of her daughter's friends to the varsity ...

10/05/2010 Teen Terrified of "Perfect" Father
Dear Annie: I am 15 years old and the youngest of four children. My father and mother have had bickering matches for as long as I can remember. Their fights sometimes get physical, but not enough to do real harm. My mother has constantly tried ...

10/04/2010 Losing Friends for Partying Sober
Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I have a large circle of friends who are some of the nicest people you'll ever meet. Or so I thought. I have never been one to drink or party, not because I looked down on it, but simply ...

10/03/2010 He "Didn't Do It" ... Again
Dear Annie: I've had a problem with my 21-year-old kid brother for a long time. "Deacon" constantly lies and steals from me, as well as from my mother, other family members and friends. He's not a horrible person, but he has no respect for ...

10/02/2010 Family Should Help Mom Seek Counseling
Dear Annie: I am concerned about my mother, a 66-year-old widow of 15 years. When my father was alive, Mom worked full time, kept a reasonably clean house and raised two children by herself. (My father was an alcoholic who was not around much.) In the ...

10/01/2010 Wife Needs to Leave Emotionally Abusive Husband
Dear Annie: What do you do when you have been with someone for almost 40 years and he keeps becoming infatuated with other women? A few years ago, my husband became interested in a woman young enough to be his daughter. He called her at all ...

09/30/2010 Couple Should Seek Marital Counseling to Work Through Issues from Affairs
Dear Annie: Our 25-year-old daughter and her husband, "Buddy," are having marital problems. "Kristen" told me things weren't right between them, and I recently found out Buddy has been cheating. They have been married only ...

09/29/2010 Optimistic Sister Wants to Throw Party for Estranged Sister
Dear Annie: My sister's 50th birthday is coming up, and I would like to acknowledge it in some way. However, due to years of her heavy drinking, lying, self-pity, verbal abuse and the resulting toxic personality, she has managed to lose her career, ...

09/28/2010 Creepy Customer Won't Stop Flirting with Young Waitress
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I met the girl of my dreams at a restaurant that I frequent several times a week. I was eating lunch there long before she started serving, but the first day I saw her, I began sitting in her section. The problem is, ...

09/27/2010 Daughter Fears Her Father's Violet Outbursts
Dear Annie: I need your advice on how to deal with my very violent father. He knows no boundaries, has no respect for anyone and exerts zero control over himself. He is physically violent and verbally abusive. He threw chairs at his 82-year-old mother ...

09/26/2010 Man Still Tempted by Teenage Romantic Interest
Dear Annie: Fifty years ago, I met and fell in love with the most beautiful, perfect woman. "Denise" and I were both teenagers, and due to errors in judgment on my part, we went our separate ways. But I never stopped thinking about her. We ...

09/25/2010 A Whiny Kind of Commentary
Dear Annie: Our dad is in his 80s. In the past few years, he has become the poster child for whining. My siblings and I have gently brought this to his attention, but he insists it is not whining, it's commentary. We call every day and visit ...

09/24/2010 A Father's Favoritism Run Amok
Dear Annie: My father, who has been remarried for 17 years, has a stepson, "James," who is 15 years younger than I am. I like James, but he is the son my father always wanted, the golden child with an interesting and prestigious job, who ...

09/23/2010 Elderly Widow Underestimated and Annoyed
Dear Annie: I am an 80-year-old widow, and my doctor says I'm doing great for my age. I thought so, too, until recently. Some of my family members have begun to pop in — no phone calls beforehand, even though they all have cell phones, ...

09/22/2010 Dear Old Overbearing Drama Queen Dad
Dear Annie: I met "Tom" a few months ago at church. We are both retired and have a lot in common. He is close to my age and attends services with his 84-year-old father, who has limited mobility. Tom is his caregiver. It turns out ...

09/21/2010 Second-Class Citizens in Their Own Family
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 26 years, and we are very happy. When we first married, we moved next door to my widowed mother-in-law to help her out. About 12 years later, however, we moved to a more family-friendly community 20 ...

09/20/2010 Home To Wreck the Holidays
Dear Annie: I have been married almost 30 years to a really good guy. We have two children together, and "Judd" has a 34-year-old daughter, "Toni," from a previous marriage. I helped raise her. But Toni creates drama every time she ...

09/19/2010 Poor Parenting, or Child Abuse?
Dear Annie: I believe the manager in our building is abusing his 11-year-old daughter. One tenant saw him walk into a dark, empty apartment earlier this year, and she was crouched on the floor next to the door. We reported this to the police, but it ...

09/18/2010 Blind Teen Seeks Job
Dear Annie: I am writing about my 18-year-old son, "Jacob," who is blind. He is a bright, intelligent young man who lives on his computer. All his friends are visually impaired. The few people he knows at school don't socialize with him ...

09/17/2010 A Neighbor's Inappropriate Texting
Dear Annie: I am having problems with my neighbor "Sarah," who I used to consider a good friend. A year ago, she began sending my husband text messages. They started out innocently, but then she began implying she wanted "Ed" to ...

09/16/2010 in Deep with an Inmate?
Dear Annie: I've been married for five years. We've been very happy until recently. Last year, my husband spent three days in jail due to a misunderstanding that got out of control. While there, he befriended a fellow inmate, and they ...

09/15/2010 Stepmom's Baby Mania Dangerous?
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a year-old baby boy. He is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to us. However, my husband's family almost makes me regret having a child. His stepmom didn't like me before I got pregnant, but as ...

09/14/2010 She's Tied Up Her Husband and Her Boyfriend
Dear Annie: I am 52 and have been married for 32 years, most of which have been platonic. We've stayed together for the sake of the children, who now live on their own. My husband and I get along fairly well, but I have no feelings for him, and there ...

09/13/2010 More than a Peck
Dear Annie: My husband, "Sam," and I are retired. Two weeks ago, we ran into one of Sam's former co-workers while out shopping. He seemed quite happy to see her. They kissed hello with a peck on the cheek — no big deal. I told Sam to ...

09/12/2010 Suspicious Minds
Dear Annie: "Cooper" and I have been together for seven years, and we have a young child. We recently became engaged. Here's the problem. A year ago, we hit a rough patch, and I decided I needed some space. I dated a guy I liked a lot,...

09/11/2010 The Neverending Midlife Crisis
Dear Annie: I had a textbook midlife crisis. In my early 50s, after an affair of six weeks, the guilt became too much and I confessed to my lovely and intelligent wife of 31 years that I wasn't sure I'd ever loved her. The new love of my life was also ...

09/10/2010 Her Brother Doesn't Approve of Her Biracial Husband
Dear Annie: Three years ago, our daughter, "Lucy," married a wonderful biracial man, and they now have a beautiful little girl. Our son-in-law has a great job and is a positive influence in Lucy's life. She is going back to school to obtain ...

09/09/2010 Psychological Effects of a Bilateral Mastectomy
Dear Annie: Seven years ago, I had an elective bilateral mastectomy. I had multiple lumps and biopsies, coupled with a family history of cancer. Also, my young daughter was reaching the age I was when I lost my own mother to breast cancer. My doctor ...

09/08/2010 Runaway Bride Comes Back Years Later
Dear Annie: Many years ago, I was engaged to "Roy," a great guy. I called off the wedding two weeks before because I had a terrible case of cold feet. Roy and I remained friends for three years, but when I began dating someone else and ...

09/07/2010 Rumors of Child Abuse Should Not Be Dismissed
Dear Annie: Several years ago, I married the man of my dreams. "Darren" was everything I wanted. He had three children, two from a previous marriage and one from an earlier relationship. Darren told me all about his children before ...

09/06/2010 Too Much of an Ex Thing
Dear Annie: I resent that my husband's ex-wife is still in the picture. I tolerated her presence when his children were young, but now that they are grown, I don't see why she is still in our lives. She will show up on my husband's birthday and bring ...

09/05/2010 Grandpa Playing Favorites
Dear Annie: My husband and I have four grandchildren under the age of 12. My stepson is the father of all these children, although the eldest, "Sara," is from an earlier relationship and lives with her mother. Sara rarely sees my stepson, so ...

09/04/2010 The Cheating Elephant in the Room
Dear Annie: My married boss is having an affair with one of my co-workers. We work in a very small office with few employees. We have all been here for many years and have become close, but now the tension is unbearable. The affair is the big pink ...

09/03/2010 A Facebook Affair To Remember
Dear Annie: Last May, my 56-year-old husband met a woman on Facebook and quickly became infatuated. She lives in Germany. We live in Kansas. My husband thinks he knows everything about her and believes she is completely on the up and up. In ...

09/02/2010 Home Is Where Her Husband Isn't
Dear Annie: I've been married for 18 years and have two wonderful children. I love my husband, but there are some behaviors I simply don't understand. "Andy" works long hours, while I am home alone with our two children. He rarely ...

09/01/2010 Dated Stereotypes Behind Dateless Nights?
Dear Annie: I am a divorced male in my mid-50s. I cannot seem to find anyone to connect with. I am a fit, intelligent, successful businessman. I can prepare a gourmet meal, clean a bathroom and change the head gasket on a 1986 Pontiac. Most of ...

08/31/2010 Looks Like an 8-Year-Old, Talks Like a Sailor
Dear Annie: My good friend "Kathy" has an 8-year-old son, as do I. "Brian" is extremely smart, but has a sailor's vocabulary. He also threatens other kids and says he will beat them up. Sometimes, Brian encourages other kids to hit ...

08/30/2010 Till Death or Double Standard Do We Part
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together for 17 years — married for the past nine. This is a second marriage for both of us. We have no children together. Things were good for the first several years, but then I became complacent and ...

08/29/2010 When Trust Issues Create Trust Issues
Dear Annie: I love my girlfriend, "Candy," with all my heart. But I have issues with trust. I wanted to see if Candy would be faithful, so I created a fake online profile and sent her a message as "Jake." We started a conversation. ...

08/28/2010 Fired and Flummoxed
Dear Annie: I just got fired yesterday. In all my 18 years of working, I have never been fired. I was completely blindsided. My boss never addressed any issues she had with me. Yesterday, she called me into her office and simply said, "It's not ...

08/27/2010 A Well-Founded Case of Cold Feet
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I met each other at a military school. A month later, we moved in together. My 12-year-old daughter and I moved 900 miles to be with him. Six weeks later, he asked me to marry him. Soon after, we both began getting ...

08/26/2010 When Harry Met Sally's Sister
Dear Annie: I have three sisters, but the one who was my best friend in the whole world was "Michele." Nine years ago, I found Michele and my husband of 19 years in bed together. They both said, "It's not what you think," ...

08/25/2010 When Does a Vacation Home Become a Hotel?
Dear Annie: My 81-year-old mother passed away several months ago. One of her final wishes was that my older sister and I get along. Sis inherited Mom's house, but she lives five hours away and didn't want it, so I purchased the house from the ...

08/24/2010 Reservations for Three
Dear Annie: My husband and his brother are very close. Too close. "Chris" calls his brother every day, sometimes twice a day, and talks for an hour or more each time. Whenever we go out, it is to his brother's house two hours away. ...

08/23/2010 Hubby Only Enjoys Alternative Forms of Sex
Dear Annie: My husband and I are a happily married couple of less than 10 years, both in our late 40s and in good health. We have a wonderful marriage in every way, except I would like him to want to have sex with me. Don't misunderstand. We ...

08/22/2010 If You Can't Beat 'Em, Gross 'Em Out
Dear Annie: My sister and I are the only relatives my father communicates with. He is divorced from my mother, his parents are deceased, and he is estranged from his extended family. Dad is a retired physician, and even his business partner, with whom ...

08/21/2010 Taking Hoarding to New Heights
Dear Annie: My three grown sisters and I have a widowed mother with a severe hoarding problem. Due to numerous roof leaks and animal infestations, her drywall and ceilings are collapsing. When her neighborhood association took legal action ...

08/20/2010 He Only Calls for Cash
Dear Annie: Our 19-year-old son, "Todd," left home a year ago with only a backpack. He left a voicemail saying he was with a friend and not to look for him. My husband finally got a mailing address when he called Todd's cell phone and said ...

08/19/2010 To the IRS, an Arm and a Leg
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. He was a drinker when I met him, but of course, I was young and naive and thought I could change him. When I couldn't, I decided to join him. We had two children, and because of our ...

08/18/2010 All Chemistry, No Commitment
Dear Annie: My wife of almost 30 years passed away several years ago, and after grieving for more than a year, I reluctantly tried online dating. Just when I was about to call it quits, I met a lovely widow who had had many lousy relationships after ...

08/17/2010 An Invitation to Trouble
Dear Annie: Today we received a wedding invitation that we were not looking forward to. You see, my husband's brother is getting married, and we don't know how to respond. This brother left his wife and daughter last year after 24 years of ...

08/16/2010 Courtesy Call
Dear Annie: A while ago, my husband, my adult son and I attended a family function in a different city. My husband left for home a day earlier, so my son and I ended up sharing a room before our early-morning flight. That night there was a party to ...

08/15/2010 OxyContin and Weed Mean Trouble
Dear Annie: My boyfriend, "Tyler," and I are both 15. He suffers from depression, and lately it has gotten much worse. He told me he takes many doses of Benadryl each night to help him sleep. He promised he would stop once school was ...

08/14/2010 F Is For...
Dear Readers: When we printed the letter from Walt Paluch, asking for the words to an old Father's Day song, we had no idea so many readers would be interested. Although none seems to hit the nail on the head, one comes close. It was sent in by two ...

08/13/2010 Service Volunteer Extends Himself at Home and Abroad
Dear Annie: I am going to be in college soon, and I have two problems, both centered around my love life. While acting as a service volunteer in a foreign country, I met "Anna" and became close to her and her family. Anna has kept in ...

08/12/2010 Her Profile Pic for His Eyes Only?
Dear Annie: I am a blessed child of two wonderful, loving people. My parents are incredibly generous. Right now, they are putting my sister through school and paying all of her expenses so she will graduate debt-free. They have helped me in countless ...

08/11/2010 Rx for Painful Sex
Dear Annie: I have been dating the woman of my dreams for a year. She treats me incredibly well, and we both are very much in love. Like most adults our age, at first we had sex every week. However, over the past few months, "Jane" ...

08/10/2010 Get Custody Details in Writing
Dear Annie: I have been married for five years to a wonderful man. When we first began dating, he had custody of his then 2-year-old daughter. Her biological mother, "Jessie," wanted nothing to do with her. In fact, the first time I met ...

08/09/2010 Good Samaritans or Ulterior Motives?
Dear Annie: My sister, "Elaine," has terminal cancer. Yesterday, I got a call from someone named "Laura" telling me Elaine had made arrangements to move in with a family from her church. I offered to let her come here and even said ...

08/08/2010 Vacationing with the Enemy?
Dear Annie: For several summers, my family has overlapped vacation time with a nice couple we have known for many years. Now I'm not sure I want to keep seeing them. They bring their two dogs, one of which is high strung and barks constantly. ...

08/07/2010 Lippy 20-Year-Old Is All Play and No Work
Dear Annie: Our three sons, ages 14, 17 and 20, live with us. The problem is the 20-year-old. "Justin" couldn't keep up the pace of home schooling and bailed out with a GED. This despite my wife's correcting all of his work before submission....

08/06/2010 Don't Touch My Kids!
Dear Annie: A year ago, my uncle was released from prison after serving time for sexually abusing a little boy and girl. I have two young children. Anytime my uncle is around and I see him pick up my kids and give them kisses, I freak out and yell, &...

08/05/2010 A Match Made in Purgatory
Dear Annie: I am 52 years old, have been divorced for 15 years and am currently involved in a relationship with a wonderful man. "Chuck" lives 80 miles from me, but we have adjusted to the distance and enjoy weekends together. The problem is,...

08/04/2010 Swaddling Helps Babies Sleep
Dear Annie: My friend "Helen" has a 5-month-old baby, "Petey." This is her first child. She has no siblings and very little family, so her experience with babies is limited. Petey seems to be rather small (about 12 pounds) ...

08/03/2010 She Left Him for the Richest Man in Town
Dear Annie: I am married to a man four years my junior who seems locked into the idea that I am cheating on him. I am not, although I'd have good reason: He is hardly ever around and pays little attention to me. We have two children, and I ...

08/02/2010 I Love Mom, but Not After 7
Dear Annie: I love my mother, but not after 7 p.m., when she starts drinking. For 11 years, I have suffered through her alcoholic abuse and have been ravaged by the physical and emotional agony that come with it. My family and I have done ...

08/01/2010 How To Divide Weekend Time
Dear Annie: I am a 45-year-old attorney. My wife helped put me through law school. Once we got on our feet, I said she didn't need to continue working, and she opted to stay home. We do not have children. She pursues her art and education, generally ...

07/31/2010 Hoarders Trapped Under Towers of Trash
Dear Annie: Our 16-year-old son, "Kevin," finished his sophomore year and received nothing but D's and C's on his report card. He is not concerned in the least, telling us, "D's are passing grades, and that's good enough for me."
07/30/2010 Sweet Kid, Scary Parents
Dear Annie: I enjoy taking my 8-year-old daughter to our neighborhood park. Over time, she's made many friends there, and while she has become close with some, there are others I'd prefer remain "playground friends" only. Most people seem to ...

07/29/2010 Splish Splash Drowned in the Blast
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Betty," is having a terrible problem with her sister-in-law, "Linda" (her husband's sister). Linda is very manipulative, thinks she's never wrong and can be downright hateful. Recently, Linda's husband was ...

07/28/2010 Greedle-Dee and Greedle-Dum
Dear Annie: I am 55 and have been married to Jim, age 73, for five years. Jim's wife died six years before we met, and his two children became furious when he began dating, saying he was being unfaithful. They badgered Jim until he deeded them his ...

07/27/2010 Closet Smoker
Dear Annie: I am 18 years old and have been hiding a dirty secret from my parents for two years. When I started dating my current boyfriend, I developed the nasty habit of smoking. At first, it was easy hiding it from my parents, but it's getting a ...

07/26/2010 Sick and Tired of Daddy's Girl
Dear Annie: I have been living with "Clyde" for more than a year. He has a 25-year-old son and a 14-year-old daughter. His divorce was long and painful, and his ex-wife involved both children in the mess. She continues to badmouth Clyde to ...

07/25/2010 Texting Toward Infidelity
Dear Annie: My 50-year-old husband and I have been married for 24 years. "Fred" is constantly texting a 35-year-old divorced woman he used to work with. He insists they are only friends who like to keep in touch. They start texting before 6 ...

07/24/2010 The Best Thing He Ever Gave Her Was an STD
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Bob" for almost two years, and we moved in together a year ago. For the most part, it's been OK. Eight months into our relationship, Bob gave me an STD that I will have for the rest of my life. He insists he ...

07/23/2010 What's That Smell?
Dear Annie: When my widowed father required constant care, I tried repeatedly and without success to have him moved to my home, but was rejected by my siblings, as well as by my father, who wanted to stay in his home. I live quite a distance away and ...

07/22/2010 Cutting Off Her Sister To Please Her Parents
Dear Annie: I haven't seen my sister "Joanne" in six years because she had a falling out with my parents and my other sister, "Beth." I recently invited Joanne to visit me at my home. When Beth found out, she turned against me and ...

07/21/2010 Memory Lane or Road to Stalkersville?
Dear Annie: Six months ago, I ran into a friend from high school. She mentioned an old girlfriend of mine, "Liz." Over the years, I have thought of Liz often, wondering how she was, if she was happy, how much she may have changed and ...

07/20/2010 Who's the Father?
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Sam" for two years. Before we were together, Sam was in a relationship with "Sara," who became pregnant. She claimed the baby was his, and he believed her. He took care of this child and loved ...

07/19/2010 20 Years Single for a Reason
Dear Annie: For the past year, I have been involved with "Mr. H.," who appears to care very little for me. He started off calling and visiting regularly, but six months into the relationship, he began distancing himself. Mr. H. never ...

07/18/2010 Hollywood Fantasies Interfering with Job Performance
Dear Annie: I work in a relatively small office in California. One of my female co-workers moved out here "to live by the beach and hang with the movie stars." A year later, her husband left, and her daughter has little to do with her. My co-...

07/17/2010 Teen Struggles To Forgive Deadbeat Parents
Dear Annie: I am 16 years old. Right now, I am living with my aunt (my father's sister). My mother and father have never really been in my life, although I did live briefly with my mom. My father is in jail for manslaughter and will be out in ...

07/16/2010 Confronted with Adversity, Hubby Plugs Ears
Dear Annie: In the past three years, my husband and I have become friends with another couple, "Lynn and Bob." Lynn and I have become quite close. Bob is more introverted. My husband isn't crazy about him. We've recently learned that he ...

07/15/2010 Office Food Thieves
Dear Annie: My 34-year-old daughter, "Mary," has two children I love dearly and often take care of. Though she says she loves me, Mary has told me in anger that she doesn't respect me. I don't know where I went wrong or whether it is ...

07/14/2010 23 and Trapped
Dear Annie: My girlfriend got pregnant during our senior year, so I married her to do the right thing. At first, it was great living together, even with the baby. But now, five years later, we have two kids and she's pregnant again. I know it takes ...

07/13/2010 Married to Dr. Jekyll -- and Mr. Hyde
Dear Annie: I have been married to the same man for decades. "Ralph" has always preferred the company of females, but lately, all he talks about are other women — their physical attributes, how intelligent and personable they are, etc. ...

07/12/2010 Cat-Sitter or Cat-Burglar?
Dear Annie: An old acquaintance agreed to look in on my cat while I was on vacation. Upon my return, I noticed that the lock had been picked on the door to the room where I keep my valuables. My purses, dressers and closets had been rummaged through. ...

07/11/2010 Early Signs of an Abuser
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl, dating an 18-year-old who just graduated. We've been together for eight months, and at first, it was great. Then, as our relationship progressed, he started getting really jealous. He made me delete all the guys ...

07/10/2010 She's Cheating with Her Former In-Laws
Dear Annie: I met my current boyfriend while separated from my ex-husband, and we now have a beautiful son together. The problem is, I cannot let go of my ex-husband and his family. I'm sure they feel the same, because we secretly see each other all ...

07/09/2010 When a One-Night "Stan" Moves In
Dear Annie: My husband, my son and I live with my mother-in-law. She's been divorced for nine years. I know Mom deserves companionship, but one night last month, she went out with the girls and decided to bring a guy home. We thought it was going to ...

07/08/2010 Banish Bad Table Manners
Dear Annie: My parents eloped 35 years ago, and my grandmother never forgave them. She disowned my mother and has never been part of our lives. Four years ago, my oldest brother also cut off contact with the family. After losing two of the most ...

07/07/2010 Creepy Repairman Has Master Key
Dear Annie: I've lived in the same apartment for almost a decade and have seen many neighbors come and go. Three years ago, I married "Joe" and he moved in. Joe quickly befriended "Nick," a fairly recent arrival. We often share ...

07/06/2010 My Mom's a Facebook Abuser
Dear Annie: Over the years, I have made several major moves around the country and have found that my Facebook account is a great way to keep in touch. However, my dear mother does not seem to understand Facebook etiquette. She comments on my page as ...

07/05/2010 Mom Self-Mutilates To Cope with Pain
Dear Annie: I have three daughters, all in their 40s and married with children. The problem is, the two oldest are not speaking to each other. They had a feud nine years ago when "Stefani" got married, and she and her older sister, "...

07/04/2010 Ralph Waldo Emerson on American Independence
Dear Readers: Happy July 4th! While you're salivating over the grilled hot dogs and potato salad, please consider taking an hour out of your day to visit a veterans hospital or volunteer at a soup kitchen. And please remember friends and family ...

07/03/2010 Is She Gargantuan?
Dear Annie: For the past 20 years, I have been fortunate to have four neighbors who have become good friends. We socialize, take care of each others' houses when one is out of town, and exchange birthday and Christmas gifts. We also have celebrated ...

07/02/2010 Should He Have Seen this Dear John Coming?
Dear Annie: My wife of 18 years left me. The day started out like any other. I got dressed for work, gave her a kiss on the lips and told her, "I love you. See you later." She said, "Love you, too." When I got home, I discovered ...

07/01/2010 Bridezilla Strikes ... Seven Years After the Fact
Dear Annie: I recently had a falling out with my brother's wife, "Cindy." I offered to take her to lunch to talk, but she sent my brother instead. He belittled me and had a list of grievances that went back seven years. His major ...

06/30/2010 This Fear is for the Birds
Dear Annie: I am a 14-year-old girl who suffers from ornithophobia, which is a fear of birds. I have researched how to overcome it. One website listed steps to follow, and I did all of them except the last one, which said to go to a place where there ...

06/29/2010 How To File a Complaint Against a Bill Collector
Dear Annie: In these tough economic times, my husband and I have managed to stay ahead of things by working hard and being careful with our money. We know we are both fortunate to have jobs. Some family members are not so lucky and have lost their ...

06/28/2010 Is Grandson in Danger or Off-Limits?
Dear Annie: I have a daughter whose lifestyle includes drugs. She has two children and refuses to let me be a part of their lives. The boy is only 3 years old, and no one has seen him in two months. I have contacted the police, child ...

06/27/2010 Unauthorized DNA Test Backfires
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Nick" for eight years. Four years ago, we decided it was time to start a family. After a year with no success, we consulted a specialist, and it turns out Nick is infertile. After much soul ...

06/27/2010 Grandma's Covert DNA Test Backfires
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Nick" for eight years. Four years ago, we decided it was time to start a family. After a year with no success, we consulted a specialist, and it turns out Nick is infertile. After much soul ...

06/26/2010 Defeat Your Jealousy Demons
Dear Annie: "Austin" and I have been married for several years, and we have two beautiful children. He was an alcoholic when we met, but when he realized it was seriously affecting his health, he quit in a single day. Our marriage was ...

06/25/2010 Open Cabinet Doors Cause Potentially Fatal Head Trauma
Dear Annie: My widowed uncle has two sons, ages 11 and 13. My uncle is as skinny as a rail, but the boys are quite fat. They eat healthy food — my uncle is a great cook — but their portions are large, and their father makes no effort to ...

06/24/2010 What if She Gets Pregnant and Marries this Idiot?
Dear Annie: My husband and I are at the end of our rope with our 18-year-old daughter, "Kate," who just graduated from high school. Kate has been dating a 21-year-old man for more than a year. She met him at my husband's work. We don'...

06/23/2010 Barbecue and Safe Deposit Boxes at the Next Family Reunion
Dear Annie: Last week, our 22-year-old grandson flew in for a visit from college. We celebrated with lots of barbecues and swimming. The entire family was here for the weekend — our older son, his live-in girlfriend and her 17-year-old daughter, ...

06/22/2010 An Apology Does Not Equal an Admission of Guilt
Dear Annie: My son and his family have been estranged from us for six years. We discovered the reason was that his wife was spreading vicious lies. When I caught her in one particular lie, she left a message saying, "To us you are dead." I ...

06/21/2010 He Wants Out, but She Won't Sign
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married 35 years. Before you applaud, let me explain that it has not been a good marriage. I was crazy about my wife. She was smoking hot and even today, in her 50s, is still quite attractive. But she was ...

06/20/2010 The History of Father's Day
Dear Readers: Happy Father's Day to all the men in our reading audience who have had the pleasures and responsibilities of raising children. Having a caring father is not only one of life's great joys, but fathers also are tremendously important to a ...

06/19/2010 Walking on Eggshells Around Nasty M-I-L
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law always has to be the center of attention. She insists on buying expensive things and believes she's always right even when you have proof that she isn't. If you don't agree with her, she gets nasty. My wife is the polar ...

06/18/2010 Boyfriend Gets Upset when He Hears the Word "Marriage"
Dear Annie: I am 26 and have been seriously dating "Bryan" for four years. We have lived together most of that time and love each other deeply. Last year, Bryan was offered a promotion in another city and said he wouldn't go unless I ...

06/17/2010 Grandson Victim of Mother-Daughter Estrangement
Dear Annie: I have not had a real relationship with my 42-year-old daughter for years. "Susan" claims I was never supportive, and that no matter what she did, I was never proud of her. She says I always put her down. I told her I tried to do ...

06/16/2010 Mom and Dad Help Kids at the Cost of Their Own Retirement
Dear Annie: I am 32 and the youngest of three children. My parents have always been generous — refinancing our homes, sending each of us to the college of our choice, as well as graduate schools, and offering financial help. All of us are now ...

06/15/2010 A Bipolar Mother and an Absentee Father
Dear Annie: I'm 35, a loving family man and a successful teacher who can't get over my childhood. When I was young, I lived with constant anxiety due to my mother's moods. Some days, she would be gentle and caring, but other days, I would wake up to ...

06/14/2010 Is Sex Over at 50?
Dear Annie: Is sex over in your 50s? My husband started sleeping on the couch 10 years ago because he claimed I snored. I had surgery that was supposed to alleviate it, but since we still don't sleep together, I'm not sure whether that was the real ...

06/13/2010 Jealous Wife Forces Hubby To Stay Home
Dear Annie: I am a 21-year-old professional woman with two children. My boyfriend, "Rickie," and I have been together for two years, and I am consumed with jealousy. I don't want him to work because I'm afraid he'll flirt with a co-worker or ...

06/12/2010 Man in ER Calls Mom Before Wife
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 22 years. Two weeks ago, I took him to the ER because he had abdominal pains. After hours of waiting, his scheduled CT-scan was delayed. The doctor recommended I go home, since it was 4 a.m. My ...

06/11/2010 No Relationship Would Be Better than this Relationship
Dear Annie: I am 60 and have been in a relationship with "James" for nine years. He is 76 and a kind man. When we met, his wife had died six weeks earlier. I had been widowed for four years. We live together in my home. I never go to ...

06/10/2010 When He's Too Into His Mother-in-Law
Dear Annie: I am a 25-year-old male who has been married for a few years, and I still love my wife as much as the day I met her. The problem is, I am having sexual fantasies about her mother. My mother-in-law is happily married and has no idea ...

06/09/2010 Slacker or Stay-at-Home Dad?
Dear Annie: I have a toddler and another child on the way. I've been with my children's father for years, although we are not married. "Evan" does not have a job, and it seems as if he has no intention of ever getting one. While I'm ...

06/08/2010 Children Born of Artificial Insemination Need Their Genetic Information
Dear Annie: I have two wonderful cousins, a brother and sister related to me through their father. Both are now in their 50s and have seven children between them. About 12 years ago, my stepmother spilled the beans and told me that our cousins ...

06/07/2010 An Old Flame Intrudes on a Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Julia" for 30 years. Last November, she was contacted by an old boyfriend through a reunion website. Since then, they have been trading e-mails and text messages several times a week. Julia has told me about ...

06/06/2010 Vacationing with the In-Laws
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two daughters, ages 11 and 7. Last year, we took a family vacation with my mother-in-law. Now she thinks we should do it every year. I would like the opportunity to take a family vacation with only my husband ...

06/05/2010 Father's Verbal Abuse Making Son Sick
Dear Annie: My son and his wife live across the country. I see them once or twice a year. They have two children. My 13-year-old grandson can do nothing right in his father's eyes, and the 11-year-old girl can do nothing wrong. I have ...

06/04/2010 How To Spot and Report Elder Abuse
Dear Annie: My father is 78 years old and has been a widower since Mom died four years ago. Last June, an old acquaintance resurfaced and swept Dad off his feet. "Lisette" once served jail time on drug charges, yet Dad is acting like a ...

06/03/2010 Parents Worried Sick About Son's Underage Dating
Dear Annie: My 21-year-old son, "Charlie," a college junior, is dating a 16-year-old high-school sophomore. His father and I are sick with worry. We sat Charlie down and explained that he is being unfair to such a young girl and risking jail,...

06/02/2010 Can I Get Out of My Lease Because My Landlord Lied?
Dear Annie: My family and I recently moved to a new subdivision, which includes several duplexes crowded together. We were told it was a quiet area, and when we checked it out, it seemed very pleasant. In fact, our lease states it has to stay quiet.
06/01/2010 Husband Holds $100 Grudge for 35 Years
Dear Annie: I have been married for 35 years to a man who, at any moment, will bring up things from our past that are very hurtful to me. And he knows exactly what he is doing. Two weeks ago, he threw something in my face that goes back to ...

05/31/2010 The Last Monday in May
Dear Readers: Today is Memorial Day. Please take a moment to remember and appreciate the sacrifices made by the men and women who have served their country. In their honor, we would like to reprint one of our favorite poems on the subject, by John T. ...

05/30/2010 Woman Would Rather Sleep With Daughter Than Hubby
Dear Annie: My wife sleeps with our 9-year-old daughter, "Alexis." This started shortly after Alexis' birth and continues to this day. At the same time, my wife complains bitterly about our lack of emotional and physical closeness. My ...

05/29/2010 Cancer Treatments Reduced Libido to Zilch
Dear Annie: I am a 56-year-old male and have been married to the love of my life for 33 years. The last 16 have been hard on her. She underwent chemo twice, had both breasts removed and, five years ago, had a hysterectomy. She can no longer take ...

05/28/2010 When Facebook Friends Aren't Friends at All
Dear Annie: My daughter is 13 years old. She has a 12-year-old friend, "Tasha," who is often left home alone, sometimes watching a younger sibling, while her mother works a second-shift job. Mom doesn't get home until 1:00 a.m. My ...

05/27/2010 Man Risks Life To View Porn
Dear Annie: The other day my 2-year-old son picked up his father's BlackBerry and gave it to me. When I looked at it, the web browser was on a site where women post sexually explicit ads with pictures. I confronted my husband, and he claimed he was ...

05/26/2010 Who Pays when the Mechanic/Friend Messes Up?
Dear Annie: My father and I co-own a vehicle. I recently had a mechanic friend install some parts for me as payment for babysitting his stepdaughter. After he completed the repair, more problems arose. My father took the car in to the dealership, and ...

05/25/2010 As the Father, He Has Rights
Dear Annie: My son met his girlfriend while in college. They moved in together, and "Dora" became pregnant. After a few months, she decided they should move back to Nebraska to live near her father. My son had two jobs at the time, so they ...

05/24/2010 Witch Doesn't Want To Say Grace
Dear Annie: I am a 37-year-old married witch. I do not hide my practice. After my grandfather's death, my extended family began taking it upon themselves to say grace before family meals as a way to honor his memory. This, despite the fact that my ...

05/23/2010 What Not To Put On Your Job Application
Dear Annie: I am a screener of online applications for a company that has more than 125 stores across nine states. Each week, we get hundreds of applications. My job is to reject the unsuitable candidates and perform a short phone interview with the ...

05/22/2010 Time for Facebook but Not for Chores
Dear Annie: I am a divorced father and have raised two children alone for the past six years. The kids are now 19 and 16. The problem is chores. My son takes out the garbage, feeds the cat, shovels snow in the winter and cuts the grass in the ...

05/21/2010 Is Smoking Around Kids Child Abuse?
Dear Annie: My stepdaughter, "Pam," is 24 and is the mother of two children, one 7 months and the other a toddler. Her children are often ill with bronchitis and other maladies, and the oldest has behavioral issues. The baby rattles when he ...

05/20/2010 Hubby's Having One-Night Stands With Other Men
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our late 40s and have been married 20 years. We have four kids. We are both well-educated professionals. A few years ago, I learned my husband was having one-night stands with other men. We went for ...

05/19/2010 Lonely, Overweight Teen Equals Lonely, Overweight Adult?
Dear Annie: I have two teenage sons. The oldest is very athletic and makes good grades. He will be graduating soon and leaving for college. The problem is our youngest son. "Logan" is very intelligent, but couldn't care less about ...

05/18/2010 Old-Fashioned for Wanting Her Teen To Wear Clothes?
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our mid-60s. For the past five years, we have been the guardians of my daughter's 13-year-old son, "Jake." When I married 12 years ago, I certainly didn't expect to be raising a teenager at my age. ...

05/17/2010 This Woman Clearly Can't Be Trusted
Dear Annie: I've been married to "June" for nine years. We have two young children. June's first marriage ended in divorce, and after, she moved in with her sister and brother-in-law, "Chuck." While there, she began an affair with ...

05/16/2010 My Son Gets Beat Up -- By His Wife
Dear Annie: My son and his girlfriend have a very unhealthy relationship. Their arguments turn into physical confrontations, and she becomes abusive. She also is bipolar and is not taking her medication. They briefly broke up, but she informed ...

05/15/2010 If Three's a Crowd, What's Nine?
Dear Annie: A year ago, my brother left his wife of 34 years when he became emotionally attached to a woman he met through his weekend activities. His wife actually transported the two of them to their kayaking adventures. She warned him that the ...

05/15/2010 If Three's a Crowd, What's Nine?
Dear Annie: A year ago, my brother left his wife of 34 years when he became emotionally attached to a woman he met through his weekend activities. His wife actually transported the two of them to their kayaking adventures. She warned him that the ...

05/14/2010 Divorcees Turn Lesbian Because Men Are No Good?
Dear Annie: I have a 49-year-old stepdaughter, "Tina," who was married for 20 years and has two children and four grandchildren. Tina has been divorced for five years and has dated regularly. Three months ago, she began an intimate lesbian ...

05/13/2010 In Trouble with Mom for Calling Her Drug Addict Brother a Drug Addict
Dear Annie: My brother has been a drug addict for the better part of 30 years. When he comes off a binge, he usually loses a job, a car and sometimes his living arrangements. My mom always cleans up his messes. She lets him move in for several days so ...

05/12/2010 When To Spill the Beans on Your Man's Cheating Friends
Dear Annie: Some time ago, my boyfriend and I spent the night with his best friend, "Jimmy," and his girlfriend, "Eve." During that time, my boyfriend asked me not to bring up the couple's relationship troubles. Jimmy was cheating ...

05/11/2010 When the Other Woman Is Your Sister
Dear Annie: I work in a doctor's office where the husband and wife are both physicians. They have staggered work schedules and aren't in the office at the same time. The wife's sister also works in our office. Some time ago, we employees were ...

05/10/2010 Mother's Day Faux Pas Is Last Straw
Dear Annie: Can you please explain to my husband why it's not a good idea to play nice guy to your ex-wife on Mother's Day? He secretly invited his ex and her mother to my Mother's Day brunch, knowing I would object. I have nothing against ...

05/09/2010 Mother's Day Tributes to Mom
Dear Annie: I came across this old Ann Landers column a few years back, after my mother passed away. Will you please print it for Mother's Day? -- Still Miss Her Dear Still: Thank you for the poignant reminder. Here it is: Today ...

05/08/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 8
Dear Annie: My wife's daughter, "Susan," recently took her two young children and moved out of the home she shared with our wonderful son-in-law. She has been having an affair with a charming friend of theirs. Susan now claims she has ...

05/07/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 7
Dear Annie: I was married for 35 years to a cheating husband. We have been separated for the past nine. The house we have lived in for 25 years belongs to me. It has three floors. I live on the top floor, my son and his family live in the middle, and ...

05/06/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 6
Dear Annie: My sister "Justine" has invited me to go on vacation with her three times. The problem is, she consults with my other two sisters and their husbands to come up with the date and place without any input from me. She just phones ...

05/05/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 5
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law took her own life a few days after Christmas, leaving behind our son and 10-year-old grandson. "Jane" was only 33, but we loved her like our own daughter. The marriage had been in trouble for a while. The last ...

05/04/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 4
Dear Annie: I have only known my biological father for 14 years. (I have no relationship with my biological mother.) Dad signed away his rights when I was young, but I reconnected with him at age 15. He claims he always wanted me, but I am now 28, and ...

05/03/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 27-year-old son was just released from prison after serving 18 months on drug charges. While there, he was enthusiastic about turning his life around, saying he'd find a job and attend Narcotics Anonymous meetings when he got out. <...

05/02/2010 Annie's Mailbox® for May 2
Dear Annie: I have a beautiful, outgoing younger half-sister. "Emma" is 25 and has had a hard life. Her father left us when Emma was small, and my mom struggled financially to raise her. A year ago, after a whirlwind courtship, Emma ...

05/01/2010 Donate Unworn Wigs to a Good Cause
Dear Annie: My patience is running thin with my 92-year-old mother's rude and hurtful behavior. When I talk to her about it, she just laughs and brushes it off. I wasn't around my mother through most of my marriage, but a few years ago, she ...

05/01/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, May 1
Dear Annie: My patience is running thin with my 92-year-old mother's rude and hurtful behavior. When I talk to her about it, she just laughs and brushes it off. I wasn't around my mother through most of my marriage, but a few years ago, she ...

04/30/2010 I Saw Mommy Kissing Someone Who Wasn't Daddy
Dear Annie: Three years ago, our 7-year-old granddaughter saw her mother kissing another man and told her father (our son). My question is: Was she right to tell him, or should she have spoken to her mother first? This granddaughter's actions ...

04/30/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Three years ago, our 7-year-old granddaughter saw her mother kissing another man and told her father (our son). My question is: Was she right to tell him, or should she have spoken to her mother first? This granddaughter's actions ...

04/29/2010 Annie Laughs, Raises Eyebrows
Dear Annie: My wife's 84-year-old mother lives with us. My wife's cousin, "Erma," lives two hours away and occasionally sends letters and newspaper clippings to Mom to keep her updated on happenings in the old hometown. Erma is also very ...

04/29/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My wife's 84-year-old mother lives with us. My wife's cousin, "Erma," lives two hours away and occasionally sends letters and newspaper clippings to Mom to keep her updated on happenings in the old hometown. Erma is also very ...

04/28/2010 Dog Licks Dishes Clean, Guests Watch
Dear Annie: For more than 20 years, I had a best friend, "James," who loved me very much. We did everything together and chatted online frequently. One day, everything stopped. I didn't see him online as usual. After three days, I ...

04/28/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: For more than 20 years, I had a best friend, "James," who loved me very much. We did everything together and chatted online frequently. One day, everything stopped. I didn't see him online as usual. After three days, I ...

04/27/2010 Stay "Married" at 18 or Cut and Run?
Dear Annie: I am 18 and have been in a relationship with "Justin" since I was 15. I couldn't ask for anyone better. Justin would do anything for me. We love each other's families and friends, too. Let's just say I feel married. But ...

04/27/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am 18 and have been in a relationship with "Justin" since I was 15. I couldn't ask for anyone better. Justin would do anything for me. We love each other's families and friends, too. Let's just say I feel married. But ...

04/26/2010 His Wife's Only Randy When She's Schnockered
Dear Annie: Is it unusual for a 25-year-old to not know her sexual orientation? In her senior year in high school, our daughter told us she thought she was gay. She then had a relationship with another girl that didn't turn out well. When she ...

04/26/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Is it unusual for a 25-year-old to not know her sexual orientation? In her senior year in high school, our daughter told us she thought she was gay. She then had a relationship with another girl that didn't turn out well. When she ...

04/25/2010 Giving Up on Your Son Is No Way To Deal With Your Ex
Dear Annie: After five years of regular and consistent visits with my 8-year-old son, I have decided to stop seeing him. This is heartbreaking for both of us, but I can no longer tolerate my ex-wife's behavior. This woman insults and bullies ...

04/25/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: After five years of regular and consistent visits with my 8-year-old son, I have decided to stop seeing him. This is heartbreaking for both of us, but I can no longer tolerate my ex-wife's behavior. This woman insults and bullies me,...

04/24/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 24
Dear Annie: My mother recently decided to sell her house and move into a senior living complex. As a result, she needed to downsize. My sister, "Liz," came for a visit and made a list of things she wanted, and not really caring about ...

04/23/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 23
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Chloe," is 21 and expecting her first child. She works full time and lives with her father (we are divorced). Chloe is still seeing the father of the child — a convicted felon who was released from ...

04/22/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 22
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Archie" for 20 years. He used to be self-employed, but the business wasn't going well, so he got a regular job. He worked for a few years, but didn't like it and decided to go back into business for ...

04/21/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 21
Dear Annie: I'm 24 years old and confused. I have been in an on-and-off relationship with the same woman for the past eight years. A year ago, I discovered "Samantha" had been having extended, all-night conversations with "Andrew,...

04/20/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 20
Dear Annie: When our children were growing up, their father was working, sleeping or playing golf. I was the one who coached their softball teams, went to their sporting and scholastic events and took them to church. After 23 years of marriage, I ...

04/19/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 19
Dear Annie: My husband of many years has become emotionally distant. We used to spend a lot of time together, but he recently took a new job in another town and has an apartment there. We see each other once or twice a week for a few hours. I have a ...

04/18/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old stepson, "Marshall," has been living with us since he was released from jail five months ago. While intelligent, Marshall is also childlike. He has a developmental disability and is receiving counseling. He ...

04/17/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am 17. Last year, I got into a relationship with "Jeremy," who was 19. He was my first boyfriend. Our relationship got serious pretty fast. He told me early on that he wanted kids. After six months of being together, I got ...

04/16/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 14 years. He is one of five boys, all of whom are married with children. Nine years ago, I did something that offended my sister-in-law, "Tonya." My husband and I immediately took Tonya and ...

04/15/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I was married for 34 years and divorced two years ago. Within months, I married "Sam," who I met through an Internet dating site. He treated me like I was all he cared about in this world. Now I've discovered he drinks six ...

04/14/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Ever since my son met his wife 12 years ago, he has allowed her and her family to insult me. For example, her family held a party for my grandson's first birthday at their home and included the entire family, plus my ex-husband and his ...

04/13/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Our 20-year-old son, "Kevin," worries us terribly. He was kicked out of college because of marijuana use and for the past year has couch-surfed, backpacked and hitchhiked. He visited over the holidays, and although he didn't ...

04/12/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband, "Joe," turned 40 last summer. His cholesterol, blood pressure and weight are higher than they should be, and his doctor suggested he lose 20 pounds. I try to feed him well, but I know he stops for the occasional ...

04/11/2010 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband and I are an interracial couple. My father totally disapproves of all interracial relationships, especially one involving his "baby girl." Annie, I am 47 years old, and even after two years of being with the most ...

04/10/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 10
Dear Annie: My son's wife sent me an e-mail saying if I step foot on their property, they will have me arrested for trespassing. It all began when I suddenly had to constantly retype my e-mail addresses. At first, I thought I was entering ...

04/09/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 9
Dear Annie: A while back, I went on Facebook and found many friends I had not heard from in years. My 21-year-old granddaughter sent me a message that she wanted to "befriend me," and I agreed. "Nicole" is a college student and ...

04/08/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 8
Dear Annie: I've been divorced for five years. Immediately after the papers were signed, I met "Matthew." We dated for a few months. The chemistry was perfect, but then he shocked me with an e-mail saying he didn't have feelings for me. <...

04/07/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 7
Dear Annie: I am at a crossroads and need your advice. For the past two years, I have been dating an older married man who works at my office. I started seeing him after my husband and I split up. Our time together is limited. He comes over to ...

04/06/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 6
Dear Annie: After four years, I finally got engaged to "Thomas." I love him with all my heart. Thomas is 50 years old. Until last year, he lived with his widowed 68-year-old mother. She treats him like a husband. When we became ...

04/05/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 5
Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old woman, and my husband is 65. We have been together for 45 years. Until recently, I thought we had the perfect marriage. However, when he became seriously ill and believed he might die, he confessed to an affair 30 years ...

04/04/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 4
Dear Annie: We have a 42-year-old daughter who is on drugs. "Beth" always claims to need money for "doctors, dentists and medicine." She has conned us plenty of times. Beth has a 20-year-old daughter, "Emily," who now has ...

04/03/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 3
Dear Annie: I am a 7th-grade girl. There's this guy I like — and I know he likes me, too. The problem is, we're both too shy to ask the other out. But I'm scared that if I don't do anything, nothing will ever happen. If I ask him out, will I ...

04/02/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 2
Dear Annie: I am 33 and have a 16-year-old daughter. I'm currently in a loving relationship with a 44-year-old man. I adore him with all my heart. He treats me well and shows me lots of affection. "Al" is a great father to his four kids, but ...

04/01/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, April 1
Dear Annie: My husband and I adopted a boy from a reputable adoption home 26 years ago. At the time, we were given only a few details about the birth parents. Several months ago, I found out who the birth mother is and where she lives. If I ...

03/31/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 31
Dear Annie: I am an 80-year-"young" gay male and have been swept off my feet by a 55-year-old gay man. I went into this as a fling, but it soon became serious. I know several male couples who have a similar age difference, and the ...

03/30/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 30
Dear Annie: I recently lost my husband. We married quite young, and after 20 years, he had an affair and we divorced. Three years later, we remarried and stayed together for another 20 years. He was a wonderful husband and an attentive grandfather. We ...

03/29/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 29
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Jerry" for 15 years. Four years ago, I discovered he was a crossdresser. I was understanding about it, and even went shopping, bought clothes and tried on shoes for him. I agreed to go away with our kids ...

03/28/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 28
Dear Annie: For the past eight months, my 18-year-old son has been dating a girl who just turned 16. Call me naive, but I didn't realize they were sexually active. Recently, I discovered some alarmingly pornographic pictures of this girl on my son's ...

03/27/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 27
Dear Annie: "Frustrated in N.J." wrote to say that his 65-year-old wife no longer wants to have sex with him because of vaginal dryness. In your response, in which you recommended counseling (which may indeed be needed), you missed an ...

03/26/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 26
Dear Annie: I am a widow and have been going with "George" for almost 15 years. It began with me inviting George over for a homemade meal. Then he took me out to dinner, and it just grew from there. In the beginning, we did have sex, but ...

03/25/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 25
Dear Annie: Once again, my husband is taking a vacation without me. We both work. My job, however, is part time with no paid vacation, and after taxes and paying my student loan, my annual income is $10,000. With that money, I pay a couple of ...

03/24/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 24
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-20s and recently became engaged. For years, I have suffered from hyperhidrosis — extreme sweating of my hands, armpits, eyebrows and upper lip. When I say extreme, I mean sweat dripping down my hands, visible beads of ...

03/23/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 23
Dear Annie: When I met my husband, he told me he was separated from his wife. At the time, I was separated, too. It turns out I was the only one telling the truth. My husband is in the service, and when he met me, his wife and children were at ...

03/22/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a 22-year-old daughter who still lives at home. "Ashley" has been dating the same guy for five years, but we can count on one hand the number of times he has come to our house. We go out of our way to make ...

03/21/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 21
Dear Annie: My brother's girlfriend recently became pregnant. The problem is my mother. When I was pregnant with my 2-year-old son, I had no contact with my family, partly because my mother dislikes my husband. When my husband and I separated for a ...

03/20/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 20
Dear Annie: My son was recently married in a small, private ceremony. For some unknown reason, my mother did not want to attend, but eventually, she and my father decided to show up. The entire time, my mother acted very rudely toward my son, ...

03/19/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 19
Dear Annie: My son and his wife have been married 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. But I am terribly concerned about their eating habits. This is doubly difficult, as my daughter-in-law is the boss in this family and thinks she knows ...

03/18/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 18
Dear Annie: I am a successful and happily married 28-year-old woman. I have a good life, for which I am grateful, except for one thing. When I was 15, a close family friend 15 years my senior was staying with my family. I considered "Shawn&...

03/17/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 17
Dear Annie: I am 28 years old and have lived with the same man for 10 years. We have two beautiful daughters, ages 8 and 4. Last May, "Rob" and I decided to take an extended vacation. We bought an RV and spent the summer traveling and ...

03/16/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 16
Dear Annie: I'm 18 years old and still live with my family. A few months ago, my uncle moved in with us. He comes home drunk all the time. I can smell the liquor on him, and I hate it. I make sure to be in my bedroom before he walks in the front door, ...

03/15/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 15
Dear Annie: Six years ago, my sister's ex-boyfriend found out I was divorced. He called and invited me for a drink. I accepted with some reluctance, as I didn't think my sister would approve, but I needed some lighthearted company after the dark days ...

03/14/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 14
Dear Annie: Several years ago, I had to spend a few hours with my mother-in-law. I had worked all night, and then helped my husband drive three hours to a business meeting. I went to Mom's house, where I waited for his return. While there, she ...

03/13/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 13
Dear Annie: My sister died seven years ago, and within six months, my brother-in-law was dating. "John" stays in touch with my 96-year-old mother and gives her news of the grandchildren, now in their 20s. John and I never had a good ...

03/12/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 12
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for nine years. It's a second marriage for both of us. The problem is my husband's 30-year-old daughter. "Courtney" and her sister live in another state, and we visit them and their ...

03/11/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 11
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Mitch" for seven years, and we have a 4-year-old son. Mitch provides well for us, and everyone at his job thinks he's the best. Unfortunately, we see a different side of him at home. Mitch is diabetic....

03/10/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 10
Dear Annie: I have been married to a beautiful woman for more than 10 years, and we have been together for nearly 20. In spite of our close relationship, I am troubled by the increasingly peculiar nature of our intimate lives. Always sexually ...

03/09/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 9
Dear Annie: I am 17, a senior in high school and have never had a girlfriend. It seems like no matter what I do, I never can find a girl to go out with. Any girl I've managed to date will only go out with me once, and after that, we are just friends.
03/08/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 8
Dear Annie: My neighbors, "The Smiths," are new members in the community. Recently, their 8-year-old son went to play at a classmate's home. The classmate, "Johnny," closed his bedroom door and then told Mrs. Smith's son to take ...

03/07/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 7
Dear Annie: I have been married for seven years and have two children from a previous relationship. Some time ago, my husband was diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. While we were dating, he showed no sign of mood swings or ...

03/06/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 6
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has a heart of gold and always tries to help out — even when it is not welcome. My husband is in the military, and I'm a stay-at-home mom. When he leaves on deployment, his mother takes charge of his bills and ...

03/05/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 5
Dear Annie: I am at the end of my rope. I have proved that I am a horrible parent and should never have had kids. I have screwed up my daughter so thoroughly that she will need years of therapy. I hate to argue, but the other day, my 17-year-...

03/04/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 4
Dear Annie: My husband has never had a close relationship with his mother. He spent most of his childhood years with his grandparents, who gave him a terrific life. His mom, although still fairly young, lives alone and has few friends. I often ...

03/03/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 3
Dear Annie: My wife of four years passed away rather quickly last year, and I was devastated. She was only 42. I am 49. Her 22-year-old daughter came to live with me, and we began consoling each other. She is the spitting image of her mother. ...

03/02/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 2
Dear Annie: My good friend "Allie" works full time and lives in low-income housing. Like many others, she lives day to day. Allie has befriended a couple that has fallen on hard times. From time to time, she allows them to live with ...

03/01/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, March 1
Dear Annie: I am 26, and my sister is 18 months older. We have never gotten along well, but recently, there has been a huge rift. My sister and her boyfriend own a nice house, and she drives a new car. I am recently divorced and am struggling ...

02/28/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 28
Dear Annie: I have been married for two years. The problem is my daughter. "Melanie" was diagnosed as bipolar when she was 12. She has wild mood swings, and we've had to call the police on her more than 20 times. She has been convicted of ...

02/27/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 27
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been happy together for 25 years. When her adult son lost his job, we let him move in with us so he could get back on his feet. Three years later, he is no better off than the day he arrived. "Joe" will ...

02/26/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 26
Dear Annie: I adore my husband of 20 years, and we have the best kids on earth. The problem? My parents. My older sister is divorced and has several small children. She is also an alcoholic and a horribly toxic person. In the past few years, &...

02/25/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 25
Dear Annie: My wife and I are both 54-year-old professionals. We grew up in the same small town, but didn't begin a romance until our 30th high-school reunion. We were in a long-distance relationship for four years and then married two years ago. Her ...

02/24/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 24
Dear Annie: When my mother went into an assisted-living home, she added my sister's name to some of her accounts so Sis could help pay her bills. When Mom died, my sister automatically got whatever was left in those accounts. Mom's will says the ...

02/23/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 23
Dear Annie: My son-in-law drinks too much. Over the years, I've seen "Ted" overindulge at weddings, and I notice he consumes a tremendous amount of beer. Lately, my worry has turned from concern to alarm. They live far away, but we ...

02/22/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 22
Dear Annie: I am 49 years old and have been a "flexitarian" for 10 years, with fish being my primary protein source. My question is this: When I go to other people's homes for dinner engagements, should they provide a fish entree (for me), ...

02/21/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 21
Dear Annie: I am in my late 40s with grandchildren of my own. The problem is my mother. She has lived with a pedophile for the past 42 years. This man abused my sister and me, and my mother did nothing to stop it. Later on, we forgave him because ...

02/20/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 20
Dear Annie: My former girlfriend and I dated for 14 months. She is 49, and I am 52. We loved each other, but were not "in love." While we had some differences in personalities and opinions, we still enjoyed a variety of activities together. ...

02/19/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 19
Dear Annie: My son is 19 and a freshman in college. His girlfriend is 17 and a junior in high school. They have been dating for almost two years, and their relationship has been very physical from the beginning. Due to diligent observation and minor ...

02/18/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 18
Dear Annie: My husband and I need some advice on how to approach a sticky situation concerning our daughter. In the past several years, "Tricia" has gained a tremendous amount of weight. We are genuinely concerned for her health, both ...

02/17/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 17
Dear Annie: I have been engaged to "Phil" for two years, but we've been dating for nine. I accidentally intercepted a text message from a woman that said, "Miss you." Needless to say, this sparked my curiosity. I kept an eye ...

02/16/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 16
Dear Annie: I caught my husband engaging in Internet porn activities. We had a huge fight, and he kicked me out of the house. Our 14-year-old daughter, "Lori," still lives with him because he gives her all the freedom she wants. Her ...

02/15/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 15
Dear Annie: I'm 17 years old and, in a few months, will be graduating and going away to college. I'm very excited about it. My only concern is my boyfriend. I love him, and we've been together a long time. "Nick" is a year older, has ...

02/14/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 14
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, and special good wishes to our veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And for those readers who have taken the time to send valentines and visit the vets, bless each and every one of you. <...

02/13/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 13
Dear Annie: “Still the Mom” was jealous that her daughter has found her birth parents. Adoptive parents get the short end of things when we see TV shows and read articles about this. The public gets teary over the joyful reunion, and the ...

02/12/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 12
Dear Annie: I am a happily married woman. I am also close to “Tom,” whom I have known for 15 years. My husband is friendly with Tom, as well. The problem is Tom's girlfriend. There has never been anything sexual about my ...

02/11/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 11
Dear Annie: I've been married for 29 years to a man I adore. We have had our ups and downs, but have weathered the storms because we both believe we are meant to be together. But we have a problem I don't know how to solve. “Joe” ...

02/10/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 10
Dear Annie: I am the only boy in my family. I have one older and two younger sisters. One of my sisters has a daughter (my niece), whom I will call “Demon Spawn” to protect the innocent. Demon Spawn has always lived up to her name. ...

02/09/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 9
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter has always argued with me about everything. I could say the sky is blue, and she would say, “No, it's azure.” When she was a child, I tried to ignore her debates and told her to just do as I say. But now ...

02/08/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 8
Dear Annie: My boyfriend, “Michael,” has been irritating me for the past month. He breaks his promises, goes back on his word, bosses me around like crazy and gets angry and aggressive about everything. He no longer seems fazed if we don't ...

02/07/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 7
Dear Annie: My teenage stepdaughter recently moved in with us. Due to her supposed learning disability, her father enrolled her in the local learning center. She went once and hasn't been back. She refuses to attend school, do chores or get a job. She ...

02/06/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 6
Dear Annie: My blood is still boiling from the letter from “Sex Therapist,” who said men look at porn because women don't take care of their sexual needs. What a bunch of horse manure. I work full time. After work, I pick up and ...

02/05/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 5
Dear Annie: My father has hurt our family with drug use, alcoholism and lies, and we haven't spoken in more than a year. Recently, he has been attempting to contact me. He's sent voicemails, letters and a few e-mails. We e-mailed a little bit ...

02/04/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 4
Dear Annie: I have a daughter from a previous marriage, and my husband and I have a son together. The problem is, my husband ignores my daughter. He says he loves her, but it doesn't show. He is an alcoholic who refuses to help around the house ...

02/03/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 3
Dear Annie: My husband's brother has a 10-year-old son. He's an only child and still sleeps with his parents. He has a perfectly nice bedroom, but they never got around to making him sleep by himself. My brother-in-law travels a great deal for work, ...

02/02/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 2
Dear Annie: My brother is smart, nice and a good person. The problem is, he married the worst possible human being. The verbal abuse started eight years ago, and she began hitting him within the last three. My sister-in-law has hit my brother ...

02/01/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, February 1
Dear Annie: I am happily married to an amazing lady who has been my best friend since the day we met 25 years ago. Our kids are all away at college, and we love our empty nest. We keep physically fit, are in great health, are financially stable and ...

01/31/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 31
Dear Annie: After 30 years of a turbulent marriage, my ex-wife and I had an amicable divorce. Before the ink was dry, she remarried. I later married a beautiful young woman. My daughter, who is 10 years older than my new wife, became quite upset over ...

01/30/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 30
Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old girl, and my best friend, “Natalie,” is my roommate. We have been best friends since childhood and have a strong bond. We went to the same high school, now attend the same college and even studied abroad ...

01/29/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 29
Dear Annie: My 40-year-old daughter has had behavioral and psychological issues her whole life. In recent years, she has behaved very irresponsibly — drinking, doing drugs, fighting with her family, becoming unemployed and spending too much ...

01/28/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 28
Dear Annie: My in-laws live in a condominium about 35 miles from us. We visit them once a month. My father-in-law does not move around very well and is incontinent. He seldom leaves the condo. My mother-in-law still walks, but only to the grocery ...

01/27/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 27
Dear Annie: I have four grown children. However, I am not entirely certain that my second daughter is my biological child. Around the time she was conceived, my wife had an affair with my brother-in-law. Before my wife passed away, she swore ...

01/26/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 26
Dear Annie: Both of my parents are heroin users. I am 18, attend college and moved out before high-school graduation due to their drug addictions. I frequently get phone calls from my mom when I'm at work or in class, asking for money for food, ...

01/25/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 25
Dear Annie: I have two 21-year-old granddaughters who live in different states. My son was never married to “Shannon's” mother, and there are a lot of hard feelings between them. My other granddaughter, “Christy,” recently ...

01/24/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 24
Dear Annie: Those who wear our nation's uniforms and their families bear the heaviest burdens on behalf of our nation. Both at home and abroad, our servicemen and women have sacrificed to protect this great nation from those who hope to extinguish the ...

01/23/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 23
Dear Annie: I have been with the man of my dreams for a little more than three years. We have a son together, and I am the happiest I can remember being. There is just one problem. "Karl" is still married. Karl lives with our son and ...

01/22/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 22
Dear Annie: My girlfriend recently told me, "I will never promise that I will always be faithful to you. I have seen too many people make that promise and not follow through." To say this devastated me is an understatement. We were ...

01/21/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 21
Dear Annie: I have been with "Sven" for two years, and we have been living together since August. He is good to me and my two kids, but I'm having a problem. For starters, Sven has stopped telling me he loves me. Last night, when I ...

01/20/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 20
Dear Annie: I have been married for 12 years to a man who can't seem to keep a job. No matter where he works, "Ted" always finds a reason to quit. We have three boys. I've told Ted we both need to set a good example for the kids, to ...

01/19/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 19
Dear Annie: My wife and I were high-school sweethearts. We have been together for 13 years and married for seven. I am 29 and she is 28. Like every couple, we have had our ups and downs, but nothing that couldn't be resolved, until this year. ...

01/18/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 18
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law is overly obsessed with bleach. She uses it to wash dishes, and within minutes before she bathes her two small children, she wipes down the bathtub with it. I have told her that the fumes are not good for anyone. ...

01/17/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 17
Dear Annie: Six months ago, my mother and I got into a heated argument over something rather trivial and we both said things we shouldn't have. After several weeks, I tried to make peace. I forgave her for what she said, but she refused to forgive me. ...

01/16/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 16
Dear Annie: I am a middle-school teacher in California and would like to thank you for your wonderful response to "Frustrated," who wrote about her son dealing with a "mean and degrading" teacher. You said to first talk to the ...

01/15/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 15
Dear Annie: I have known my husband for nine years, and we've been married for the past three. Unfortunately, it has not been a stellar relationship. My husband has a mental health problem that he dealt with by abusing drugs, which resulted in ...

01/14/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 14
Dear Annie: I am one of four sisters, all of us in our 50s. We are a close-knit family, although we no longer live in the same communities. My niece, "Tara," gave birth to a son while she was still in high school. A wonderful couple ...

01/13/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 13
Dear Annie: I am 56 and have a 45-year-old brother, "Bruce." Although I was close to him, he and my mother never got along, and when Bruce married, he ceased all communications with the family. He showed up for our parents' funerals, but Mom ...

01/12/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 12
Dear Annie: I am a divorced woman in my late 30s, with two young sons. My ex-husband is not a good father, but my boys understand that and accept that he will not be a huge part of their lives. I recently moved in with my significant other, and ...

01/11/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 11
Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful man who loves my kids and me very much. Since the first of our five children was born, I've stayed home to raise them. The problem is his family. My husband's brother has been in and out of jobs, jail and ...

01/10/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 10
Dear Annie: I began college in August, but my parents pulled me out after five weeks, saying they were convinced I would flunk out. Then they refused to talk to me — as if I actually had failed. Life with my family has become unbearable. ...

01/09/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 9
Dear Annie: I'm 42, and my mother, sister and adult daughter have all informed me repeatedly that I'm worthless, useless, unattractive and unlovable. I've examined my whole life to try to fix whatever it is I'm doing wrong, but I just can't seem to ...

01/08/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 8
Dear Annie: My 59-year-old husband of 15 years wants to leave the U.S. and move abroad for a few years because he is not getting along with his family. He insists I also pack up and move. My three children are adults, but still, I do not want ...

01/07/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 7
Dear Annie: Some time ago, relatives from out of town asked to visit us when they were here for a nearby event. We agreed, as we seldom get to see these people. To our surprise, they arrived with the dog they had recently rescued from the pound. It ...

01/06/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 6
Dear Annie: My mother is overly controlling with her grown children. She seems to think that when she gives an opinion, we have to agree. What's worse, she is so negative about everything. She starts fights with us and expects us to capitulate and say ...

01/05/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 5
Dear Annie: How do you deal with a married 40-year-old daughter with two children who is so jealous of her brothers that she causes family rifts? Right now, "Claire" isn't speaking to her father, her brothers or me. We don't understand it. ...

01/04/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 4
Dear Annie: My wife decided to offer our young teenage daughter a trip to Japan because a friend of ours moved there last summer. Our daughter would stay for a week with this friend. My wife agrees with me that the decision was impulsive, but we both ...

01/03/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 3
Dear Annie: My 14-year-old son, "Steven," worries me to no end. He has no drive or ambition. He tells me he wants to attend college and become a computer programmer, yet he won't put forth the effort to complete his ninth-grade assignments. ...

01/02/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 2
Dear Annie: For the five years I have been married to "Joe," I have had the dubious privilege of enduring frequent, spur-of-the-moment overnight visits from his best friend of 40 years. Joe says "Derek" comes two or three times a ...

01/01/2010 Annie's Mailbox®, January 1
Dear Readers: Happy New Year. We hope you managed to get through last night with a minimum of embarrassment or harm, and that you still remember what you did. We also hope 2010 will be a wonderful year for each and every one of you. May you be ...

12/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 31
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Tom" for five years. We had a shaky start, and now it is just horrible. Tom makes decisions for his own benefit, his job is out of town, he works night shifts, and when he gets home, he is a growling bear. ...

12/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 30
Dear Annie: My husband began getting a little too friendly with a female friend of ours. My husband seldom calls anyone, but he was finding reasons to pick up the phone for her. I told him I wanted the phone calls to stop, and he agreed. But he ...

12/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 29
Dear Annie: I remarried two years ago and am very happy with my new husband. I have several children from my first marriage, ranging in age from 17 to 27. I also have five young grandchildren. After our first year of marriage, my new husband ...

12/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 28
Dear Annie: My son's friend "Josh" confided to their group that he is gay. Josh's parents are pretty strict and often comment that they have to keep an eye on him because he is a teenager and "interested in girls." Since ...

12/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 27
Dear Annie: My father walked out on our family 24 years ago in order to be with another woman. I tried to have a relationship with him, and for a couple of years, we lived across the street from each other and things weren't too bad. Dad and ...

12/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 26
Dear Annie: I've known my husband for 16 years, and we have been married for the past seven. He is basically a good man, but he has an awful temper and is also an addict. I've been patient with him because of the terrible childhood he had (his ...

12/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 25
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas! Here's a little something sent in by a reader (author unknown) who thought it would provide some holiday cheer: 'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house, I searched for the tools to hand ...

12/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 24
Dear Annie: I started junior high in September. Everything was going fine, although I wish I could be more popular and stuff like that. This one guy had a crush on me and asked me out. We had only texted and never really talked in person. So I ...

12/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 23
Dear Annie: I live at home with my parents and three siblings. My sister "Hannah" has been dating "James" for four years, and he's been in jail for three of them (gun possession and drug possession with intent to distribute). <...

12/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 22
Dear Annie: We adopted our daughter when she was just a few weeks old. She is an adult now with children of her own. She recently found her birth family. I have so many conflicted feelings about this. I never thought we would know the names of ...

12/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 21
Dear Annie: My daughter and her children live in a small home with three dogs and three cats. She doesn't work, and her husband has been on disability leave for a year. It breaks my heart to see them living in squalor and poverty. My daughter ...

12/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 20
Dear Annie: My husband's daughter-in-law accused me of abusing her 6- year-old son while they were at our home during a Christmas dinner two years ago. Several months had gone by, and during a phone call from my stepson, we asked why they hadn'...

12/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 19
Dear Annie: Our 90-year-old mother's brain is turning to mush. She was one of the smartest, brightest people we knew, but after years of sitting in her home alone, she is getting duller by the day, and it is not due to dementia or Alzheimer's. ...

12/18/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: For two years and counting, I have been attracted to a married man. We became friends at work and would go out to lunch occasionally. I would flirt, and he would reciprocate. I know he was attracted to me. Recently, I was laid off ...

12/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 18
Dear Annie: For two years and counting, I have been attracted to a married man. We became friends at work and would go out to lunch occasionally. I would flirt, and he would reciprocate. I know he was attracted to me. Recently, I was laid off ...

12/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 17
Dear Annie: My husband, "Kevin," and I have been together 25 years. Our relationship is as wonderful today as on our first date. My mother-in-law, however, hates me. She says I wrecked her only son's life because I can't have children. This ...

12/16/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am a 49-year-old widow. I recently began dating the most wonderful gentleman. "Martin" and I fell in love in just eight weeks. Martin worked with a man who died four months ago. That widow has been having a rough time ...

12/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 16
Dear Annie: I am a 49-year-old widow. I recently began dating the most wonderful gentleman. "Martin" and I fell in love in just eight weeks. Martin worked with a man who died four months ago. That widow has been having a rough time ...

12/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 15
Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old female and a virgin, not because of any moral objections, but because I have had a hormone deficiency since I hit puberty. I know guys are interested in me. I have always turned them down because I never had any ...

12/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 14
Dear Annie: How can we help a 47-year-old female lawyer who is still living with her parents and cannot go anywhere without her mother? "Rhoda" supports her parents. She is a very fine lady and a good lawyer. She was considered for a ...

12/13/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I have been dating since we were high-school sophomores. Next year, we will be juniors in college, and we want to live together in a house with several other friends off campus. Her parents say OK. My parents say no. <...

12/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, December 13
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I have been dating since we were high-school sophomores. Next year, we will be juniors in college, and we want to live together in a house with several other friends off campus. Her parents say OK. My parents say no. <...

12/12/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 24-year-old nephew is an alcoholic and a drug addict. He is currently in his sixth rehab facility, which just happens to be in my hometown. I am a loving, nurturing person and want to help. Since he's been here, I've visited and ...

12/11/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My sister and I live on opposite coasts, and I visit her once a year at Christmas. For the past two years, she has used my visit as an opportunity for me to do work on her house. Last time, I painted her bedroom and shampooed her carpets.
12/10/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My fiance, "Tom," has a 17-year-old daughter, "Laura." She's had her driver's license for six months. During the three years Tom and I have been together, there have been a lot of behavior issues with Laura. She's ...

12/09/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My outgoing, popular and smart daughter, "Lizzy," graduated from high school last June. During the school year, there was an investigation into rumors of inappropriate conduct between a male teacher and my daughter. Lizzy assured ...

12/08/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Four years ago, my mother moved to Florida to be closer to my two sisters and their families. Now they are planning a party for her 90th birthday, and my sister has set the date for Christmas Eve. The relatives who still live here ...

12/07/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 60-year-old boyfriend has been accused of being a child molester. We were attending a birthday party, and "George" took a couple of pictures of a 14-year-old girl from her shoulders down. The girl was wearing a low-cut shirt ...

12/06/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: For more than two years, I have been dating "Gary," a guy who lost his wife to cancer when she was in her late 30s. Gary has warned me not to get too close, saying he will never marry again. Of course, marriage is what I ...

12/05/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Our problems started to surface in the last six months. My husband said I had a "bad side," so I went into counseling because I didn't like that part of my personality. ...

12/04/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 22-year-old son constantly lies. He lies about lying. No one believes anything he says anymore. Recently I went on vacation, and he decided to vandalize my home. The police were called, and now we have to go to court. He doesn't ...

12/03/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I get together once or twice a year with a group of girlfriends I've known since high school. We are at our wits' end with one I will call Miss Motor Mouth. We are in our 60s, with families. Miss Motor Mouth has never been married ...

12/02/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 23 years. I have four stepchildren, all in their 40s and 50s. After a big family celebration several months ago, I noticed one of these children, "Trudie," was no longer e-mailing or ...

12/01/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 14 years and have four children. My mother-in-law always pitted his two sisters against each other to try to make them jealous and garner more attention for herself. My husband wasn't part of that, ...

11/30/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am a 16-year-old girl who still wets the bed. I have tried everything from wearing an alarm to taking medication. I am now on a prescription that works by telling my kidneys to stop producing urine, although it doesn't work all ...

11/29/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am a single mom with a full-time job. I make decent money, and the health benefits are exceptional. There is no chance I could be laid off no matter how bad the economy gets. What is the problem? I hate my job. The work itself is ...

11/28/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I have been married more than 10 years. "Chet" is a great father to our kids, but not such a terrific husband. For the past five years, I have been emotionally neglected and put at the bottom of his priority list. When I beg him ...

11/27/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married 16 years and have two teenage kids. When we were first married, we were regularly intimate. Even after the kids were born, we were able to have romantic weekends several times a year. I am now 41, and ...

11/26/2009 Be Thankful (Author Unknown)
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult times. ...

11/25/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband's sister refuses to cancel her plans even if her children are sick — which happens all the time. She will drop the kids off at my mother-in-law's and, as she's leaving, say, "Oh, by the way, 'Suzy' has a cold."
11/24/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I was close to "Bob" in college. Four years ago, when he married "Sue," whom I vaguely knew, I was the only one of his friends to attend her bachelorette party. A few years after their wedding, I flew across the country ...

11/23/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am an addict in recovery. I moved out of state three years ago when I was seeking treatment and completed my program 15 months ago. I have successfully maintained employment for more than a year now. My three children are still ...

11/22/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Our next-door neighbors have a wood stove that is their primary heating system. My family is the victim of their invasive smoke. We have put plastic around our windows, but the smoke still enters our house through the vents, electrical ...

11/21/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am a happily married straight male and am having a problem with a co-worker. "Gil" is a self-proclaimed bisexual. Even though he is fully aware of my orientation, he constantly makes lewd comments to me. He also invites me to ...

11/20/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I was with "Barry" for two years. After the first eight months of an amazing relationship, things started going downhill. Out of the blue, I felt I couldn't trust him. He didn't do anything in particular. For no reason, I just ...

11/19/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My wife of 27 years hugs and kisses everyone she meets, no matter how often she sees them. I have spoken to her about this, stating that not everyone is comfortable being hugged and kissed all the time. My real problem is that we ...

11/18/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I have two children who attend public school in California. We were relatively happy with our children's education until our oldest started fifth grade. We had heard rumors for many years that one particular fifth-grade teacher was ...

11/17/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: How can a 62-year-old woman be so confused at this stage of life? My domestic partner and I have been together 12 years, and our relationship has recently become shaky. "Jack" is very outgoing. Men and women are attracted ...

11/16/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am so frustrated with my husband. We have four children under the age of 8. He actually encourages them to watch scary movies and play violent video games. He says it's OK because he's with them and can explain anything they don't ...

11/15/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old niece recently told me she craves the taste of blood and feels like a freak. She said her mom absolutely lost it when she told her. I know this must be a symptom of a medical problem and told her so. I also said she ...

11/14/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My son, "Terry," is 30 and newly divorced with two sons. My husband and I have been helping him since he had a hard time finding a job. He lived with us for three months. My husband (his stepfather) bought him a car and insurance ...

11/13/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my wife had an affair with my best friend, left me and married him. She now has total custody of our two kids. She lied to the court and to our friends and said I was an abusive husband. Everyone believed her, and in the ...

11/12/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My husband and I are both retired. A year ago, we moved in order to be within driving distance of our three married children. We mentioned to our minister that we were new to the area, and he suggested social groups that meet at the church....

11/11/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: Shortly after Thanksgiving last year, my husband was hospitalized at the San Francisco VA Medical Center. We live 250 miles from the hospital and spent the week with friends nearby. We visited my husband daily, and did the same a few ...

11/10/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: My parents had been married 25 years when my father died at age 45. With her world crashing down around her, Mom began drinking. Dad has been gone six years, and my mother has become a full-blown alcoholic. Mom is a mean and hateful ...

11/09/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am currently engaged to an exotic dancer, and we recently found out she is pregnant. Times are tough right now, and this is the problem: I was laid off but receive unemployment while I search for a new job. My fiancee recently told me ...

11/08/2009 ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I have been married to a wonderful man for less than a year. We are both in our early 40s, educated, with good jobs and have no children at home. The problem is, my mother-in-law is driving me crazy. She is a lovely person, but has ...

11/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 7
Dear Annie: My parents divorced 18 years ago, and Dad has had numerous partners and wives since. Three months ago, Dad found out he had stage-four colon cancer. Two weeks after his diagnosis, he married "Sue." Here's the problem: ...

11/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 6
Dear Annie: Last weekend, my daughter, my grandchildren and I attended an exhibition at a well-known museum in Chicago. While waiting to enter, I saw a boy around 8 years old trying to comfort his toddler sister, who was crying. The mother was not ...

11/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 5
Dear Annie: My husband is an amazing man. He is selfless and has uncompromising integrity. He is well-known and well-respected in our small community. I am proud to be his wife. I am 19 years my husband's junior, and this, along with his well-...

11/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 4
Dear Annie: I'm 13 years old and have a younger brother. My dad is addicted to gambling. To make matters worse, he doesn't work much, either. Not that it matters. Even when he worked hard, he lost all of the money gambling. My parents recently ...

11/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 3
Dear Annie: Seven years ago, my mother had a stroke. She recovered quite well physically, but has never been the same mentally. My aunts wanted to put her in a nursing home, but my sister and I decided to assume responsibility for her. The plan was ...

11/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 2
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship because he's at college, 2,000 miles away. We've been together for two years. At first, everything was fine, but he soon became distant and unavailable to talk. I figured he ...

11/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox, November 1
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently separated after 20 years of marriage. I love him, but not like a husband. However, we've always been there for each other when it really mattered and have decided divorce is the only way to save our friendship. We'...

10/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 31
Dear Annie: My husband's parents are wonderful people in their late 70s, but I am concerned that their kindness is being abused by my brother-in-law, "Dan," and his wife, "Jane." Mom and Dad have always been involved in ...

10/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 30
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for 20 years. After the kids were grown, we decided to downsize. We put our home on the market and moved to a different state. My husband's mother did not want us to move. She started ...

10/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 29
Dear Annie: An acquaintance recently lost his job, and we invited him and his wife to move into our home on a temporary basis. We all agreed they would live with us until one of them found another professional position. It's been only three ...

10/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 28
Dear Annie: I am a good person. I always try to do the right thing. But I did something stupid, and it could cost me my job and the respect I have earned. For 10 years, I have been the director of a preschool. Every member of the staff has to ...

10/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 27
Dear Annie: I have an elderly father with a bunch of serious medical problems. We've never had a close relationship. I suspect he could pass away soon, and I would like to have some meaningful dialogues before that happens. I also have a terrible ...

10/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 26
Dear Annie: I am very antisocial. I don't go to parties as often as most teens, I hardly ever invite friends over, and the few friends I do have no longer attend the same school. I don't belong to any clubs or do other extracurricular activities, ...

10/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 25
Dear Annie: I married "Dean" nine years ago. It was a second marriage for both of us. Soon after we wed, he said we would split all expenses 50-50. However, the house is in his name, and he will not put my name on the deed since I can't ...

10/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 24
Dear Annie: My parents are in their 80s. My father has been having strokes, and his right side is mostly paralyzed. He is usually in a wheelchair. Whenever I visit, Mom cries that Dad is having an affair with a woman who lives in the same ...

10/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 23
Dear Annie: I am one of 12 siblings. My younger brother, "Dan," age 42, met "Karen," one of my daughter's friends, at her college graduation ceremony. He later married her. Since then, the two of them have tried to redefine their ...

10/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 22
Dear Annie: My old roommate from college is beginning to cause a huge problem. "Sandy" was promiscuous in school, and there were many nights I crashed on a neighbor's couch due to being "sexiled." Five of us still get ...

10/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 21
Dear Annie: "Audrey" and I have been together for 21 years, married for 16. The past couple of years, however, have been stressful. While camping with friends, I walked into our RV to see Audrey half-naked with another man. She told ...

10/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 20
Dear Annie: I am a recovering alcoholic with six months' sobriety. Recently, I was hired at a new company. The job is everything I dreamed of, and my bosses and co-workers are great. The problem is, every Friday after work, they go to a bar to ...

10/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 19
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 23 years. I love him more than life itself, and he says the same. We have two boys, 19 and 20. Here is my problem. "Don" is a self-employed contractor, and last year, he did a job ...

10/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox, October 18
Dear Annie: My son's girlfriend is pregnant with my grandson. They've been together five years. The problem is, "Rona" would rather text than talk. She's 27, and I'm sure she talks to her parents and sisters, but when it comes to my daughter ...

10/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 17
Dear Annie: I love my boyfriend. He's a superb partner. He is, however, the laid-back type or, depending on how you look at it, just plain lazy. Since I am a bit high strung, I appreciate how easygoing he is, but when it comes to our finances, I am ...

10/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 16
Dear Annie: We need your help, and the help of your millions of readers, to safeguard kids. In every state, we are failing to protect children in desperate circumstances. The numbers are staggering. Official reports show that nearly five ...

10/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 15
Dear Annie: I'm a 14-year-old girl who is having relationship problems. My new boyfriend and I just hooked up over the weekend. "Carter" and I go to church together, and he has always been my best friend. I was too shy to ask him out myself, ...

10/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 14
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Kristina" for 14 years, and we have a beautiful 7-year-old daughter. My wife has numerous health problems, including arthritis and diabetes. I have been a husband, father and doctor to her. Over time, I ...

10/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 13
Dear Annie: My husband seems to be the "go to" guy in his family. He used to do carpentry work, and now his three siblings call on him for all their repair needs. He is asked to fix broken windows, install appliances and everything in ...

10/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 12
Dear Annie: I divorced 18 months ago after being separated for three years. During this entire time, my ex-husband has had a nasty girlfriend who is always in the middle of every situation. I don't care for this woman at all. My ex and I have a ...

10/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 11
Dear Annie: My best friend is leaving soon for a vacation in Europe. She has posted on Craigslist, hoping to meet a local person with whom she can enjoy seeing the sights, sharing meals and practicing the language. She's had several responses, but the ...

10/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 10
Dear Annie: My husband really is a wonderful man. People describe me as patient, easy-going and positive. I'm happy — except for my marriage. For years, I've been bothered by the same three issues: I crave affection, but my husband is ...

10/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 9
Dear Annie: I have a 9-year-old daughter who I love more than anything in this world. Her mother and I split up when she was 2. "Carrie" is an amazing girl, and we are very close. I try to spend as much time with her as possible. I know she ...

10/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 8
Dear Annie: I work for a family company and am grateful to have a job in this economy. But while we employees have had benefits drastically cut, the owners have bought new luxury homes and cars and just returned from an overseas vacation that included ...

10/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 7
Dear Annie: I have two adult sons, one married, one divorced. We always had a good relationship, but I hadn't heard from either of them in a while even though they live nearby. I finally phoned and asked what was going on, but they wouldn't tell me. ...

10/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 6
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for more than 20 years. This is my second marriage. "Tony" has been a wonderful stepfather to my sons. All three are grown and doing well. Two are very happily married. When the boys ...

10/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 5
Dear Annie: I have been married to the perfect woman for 13 years. If I had to order a wife, it would be her. We have wonderful, healthy kids, and I thought I had a great marriage. Last year, we became friends with "Stan and Betty" ...

10/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 4
Dear Annie: I've been with my girlfriend for more than 15 years and truly love her. "Tanya" is smart, sexy and great to be around, and is an excellent mother figure to my 5-year-old daughter. The problem? She is a complete slob when it comes ...

10/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 3
Dear Annie: I am a 50-year-old woman who has struggled with depression for nearly 30 years. I've almost destroyed my career because I lack the motivation to seek out new tasks. I have spent many years as a virtual prisoner in my home because I see no ...

10/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 2
Dear Annie: I am a 52-year-old registered nurse. I have been widowed for seven years and happily live alone. My parents, ages 80 and 71, live in the same city, and I visit them at least once a week to help with chores. Although they could afford to ...

10/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, October 1
Dear Annie: My relationship with my younger sister is on the tip of breaking. "Lana" is 15 and habitually goes through my things and steals from me. When confronted, she becomes defensive and lies. She's been doing this for years and shows ...

09/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 30
Dear Annie: I am a normal 14-year-old teenager and can honestly say I'm no angel. I have a question. Do adults remember what it was like to be a teenager? Whenever I make a mistake or get in trouble, first I get grounded for life, and then I'm ...

09/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 29
Dear Annie: I am the father of two sons, 7 and 11. At what point do you stop dressing or being naked in front of your children? I come from a minister's family, and my wife comes from a somewhat dysfunctional family. Let's just say they are at the ...

09/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 28
Dear Annie: After being a widow for four years, I recently became engaged to "Dennis," a wonderful man who lost his wife two years ago. They had been married 42 years. Recently, Dennis and I had a big argument over his profile still ...

09/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 27
Dear Annie: I am attracted to a co-worker. I work as a bus girl at the restaurant where he's employed as a bartender. "Tyler" is 23, and I just turned 18. We talk and joke around, and he sometimes gives me a hug before the end of my shift.
09/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 26
Dear Annie: My father-in-law died last year, and within two months of his passing, my mother-in-law began dating a man I have come to dislike. "Nick" (the boyfriend) drinks incessantly, is obnoxious, curses every chance he gets and is ...

09/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 25
Dear Annie: I have raised my grandson since he was an infant. He is 24 now and doing well. Our daughter (his mother) passed away when he was 12. He does not remember his father. All these years, we had no idea where his dad was. Our grandson ...

09/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 24
Dear Annie: A young co-worker came into the office last week with a horrible black eye. Her boyfriend had punched her in front of her young children and some of her friends. She spent the entire workday worrying about the safety of her children and ...

09/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 23
Dear Annie: I was wondering if you could help me with a problem I'm having with my parents. I'm 31 and freely admit I still live with them, as does my 26-year-old brother. My parents are both semi-retired, working part time. They earn decent salaries, ...

09/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I are both military. Recently, two of our oldest friends (also military) announced that they are splitting. "Emily" was cheating on "Roger" while she was deployed and now believes there is someone out ...

09/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 21
Dear Annie: I am 26 years old, and earlier this year I met the man of my dreams. "Stu" is wonderful and caring. However, I made a big mistake. Recently, I was drinking heavily and ended up messing around with Stu's best friend. I didn'...

09/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 20
Dear Annie: I'm 15 years old, and for my whole life, my mother has been emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusive to me. I'm constantly scared of when she's going to start screaming. Every time anyone tries to confront her, she gets ...

09/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 19
Dear Annie: My nephew was involved in a robbery when he was only 19 and paid for it with 10 years of his life. While he was incarcerated, he got his GED and took various classes to prepare himself for a possible job opportunity upon his release. He ...

09/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 18
Dear Annie: I have been living with "Alex" for two years. We have a 9-month-old daughter, "Maggie." I just found out that Alex told his employer that Maggie had died. He received $300, and the company was going to hold a fundraiser ...

09/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 17
Dear Annie: My husband, "Sam," grew up in a family that was physically abusive. In order to escape, he joined the military after high school. We live far away from his parents, but there are times when he wants to talk and visit with them, ...

09/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 16
Dear Annie: I am a 25-year-old wife and mother. I was raised by a single mom who worked hard to make sure we had everything we needed. I also had a large, loving family that was always around to help. My husband, on the other hand, was raised ...

09/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 15
Dear Annie: My 24-year-old daughter, "Dawn," still lives at home. The problem is my husband, her stepfather. "Jim" likes to control everything Dawn does. She's in the process of looking for an apartment, and Jim wants to decide ...

09/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 14
Dear Annie: My son and daughter-in-law are both in their 30s. They have college degrees and good jobs. However, every time they come to visit, I discover things are missing. I'm not imagining it. This happened even when they were dating. A few ...

09/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 13
Dear Annie: My husband and I have known each other for eight years, been married for five. Yesterday he came home from a doctor's appointment and I was shocked to learn he has hepatitis C. He says the doctor told him he got it by sharing a ...

09/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 12
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We've been friends with "Ted and Jane" for almost 20. We used to get together for dinner and drinks at each other's homes about once a month. Recently, however, Ted and Jane have ...

09/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 11
Dear Annie: A year ago, my son ended his marriage to a woman I liked very much. Since then, he has become engaged to "Julia." Julia has no social graces. She doesn't look at you when you speak to her and never says "please" ...

09/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 10
Dear Annie: My nephew "Ken" is 29 years old, a high-school graduate and still lives at home with his mother — along with his pit bull that his mother reluctantly takes care of. Ken periodically works as a carpenter and has racked up a ...

09/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 9
Dear Annie: I'm the mother of 11-year-old twins, "Jack" and "Jill." Jill is quite a tomboy. She's always been more interested in her brother's trucks than dolls, and I have given up trying to put a dress on her. Jack and ...

09/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 8
Dear Annie: My older sister, "Daisy," and I have always had a relationship full of conflict. She is hard-headed and stubborn. My mom and stepdad recently left me in charge of the house while they were out of town for a month. Daisy no ...

09/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 7
Dear Annie: My parents are going through a divorce. I have a lot of anger toward my dad because he packed up and left us while Mom and I were out of town. Also, it's pretty obvious he has a girlfriend. He won't answer any of my calls or take ...

09/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 6
Dear Annie: I am worried about a boy in my class. It is clear that besides me, "Jonathan" has no real friends. Just about every other kid in school has labeled him a weirdo. He sort of adopted me the first day of school, and now he won't let ...

09/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 5
Dear Annie: My 11-year-old niece, "Molly," just spent a week with my kids and me. My sister and brother-in-law home school her. Both of them hold master's degrees, but I was floored by Molly's poor academic skills. When the kids ...

09/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 4
Dear Annie: I met "John" six months ago and truly love him. I moved four hours away from my friends, family and kids to be with him. He says he loves me and appreciates that I gave up a lot for him. The problem is, he has a female ...

09/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 3
Dear Annie: Our oldest son married a beautiful woman from another culture, who then became pregnant with our only grandson, "Seth." We were warned that "Zelda" was a gold digger who would leave our son after having the baby and ...

09/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 2
Dear Annie: I've been seeing "Dave" for four years. Even in the midst of this recession, he has no trouble finding good jobs. The problem is, he gets depressed, drinks too much and gets fired, or decides the job is not for him and quits. He ...

09/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, September 1
Dear Annie: I met "William" at work three years ago, and it was obvious he had feelings for me. I felt no attraction and turned down his advances, but as soon as I left that job, he began calling me several times a day. At first I ...

08/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 31
Dear Annie: I recently remarried, and my husband and I are in the process of moving our families into a beautiful new home. I have an 8-year-old daughter, and "Brett" has two sons, 10 and 16, who live with him full time. We have spent ...

08/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 30
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my husband attended an out-of-town business convention. While he was away, I received a call from his cell phone. In the background, I could hear laughter and loud music, and the muffled voice of my husband saying, "My ...

08/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 29
Dear Annie: My fiance and I have lived together for 28 years. We would have married, but we had a slight legal problem. "Jed" was still married and for various reasons never got a divorce. Nine months ago, his wife suddenly passed away. We ...

08/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 28
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Jerry" for 38 years. I have endured much pain, verbal abuse and humiliation. He has had affairs, stolen from my parents when they were ill and continues to spend my hard-earned money on other women. All he ...

08/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 27
Dear Annie: My common-law wife of many years has left me for another man. I let my pursuit of the dollar rule my life and spent so much time working to support my family that I did not give them what they truly needed. I made many mistakes and the ...

08/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 26
Dear Annie: My parents are married but separated. My father isn't financially stable. For some reason, he can't seem to keep a job. Currently, he's unemployed and has no car. Annie, my father is a freeloader. All he does is lie around the house and do ...

08/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 25
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Sam" for 25 years, and we have three beautiful daughters. Sam works three hours away. When he comes home, I make sure to have supper on the table, laundry completed, house spotless, grass mowed and any ...

08/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 24
Dear Annie: Last week, I found provocative pictures on my husband's digital camera of his female co-worker in a hotel room, wearing skimpy lingerie and one of his ties. My husband was not in any of the pictures. This woman is half his age. He ...

08/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 23
Dear Annie: My wife is the only child of two "free spirit" parents. They didn't have time to raise her, so her aunt, who is now deceased, stepped in. My in-laws have never been close to us or our children. When we moved across the country to ...

08/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 22
Dear Annie: I have raised my stepdaughter, "Candace," for the past 10 years. Her mother passed away tragically when she was very young, and I have tried to be a friend ever since, standing up for her, bending over backward to be good to her.<...

08/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 21
Dear Annie: I've done something terrible and I can't sleep. My heart is broken. We contracted with a tree removal company to take out a large weeping willow. The workers arrived before 9 a.m., but they were frightened of our dog, "Rocko," so ...

08/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 20
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter has been "dating" a nice young man for three years. The problem is, he moved with his parents to another state two years ago. Initially, they flew out to see each other, but that has stopped because ...

08/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 19
Dear Annie: I have been with an amazing man for many years. "Todd" is funny and sweet, and my family adores him. However, I continue to question our relationship because, although he's very motivated, he lacks the follow through. Todd ...

08/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 18
Dear Annie: I am a college student and have been dating a nice guy for almost a year. Unfortunately, "Cody" is more into our relationship than I am. I have my reasons (Cody made some major mistakes that my heart has looked past, but my head ...

08/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 17
Dear Annie: I deeply care about my best friend, "James." He is the oldest of eight children, and they live in a very cramped, worn-out trailer home. James is the first in the family to go to college and works to support himself. He is kind-...

08/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 16
Dear Annie: Two months ago, my boyfriend, "Josh," confided that his father has been verbally abusive since he was little. He also remembers his mom having bruises, but not in recent years. However, in the last couple of weeks, his dad ...

08/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 15
Dear Annie: I'm 19 years old and haven't had a real conversation with my father in five years. My parents divorced when I was 3, and I saw my father every other weekend until I was 14 and realized he was an alcoholic. The only time he ever called was ...

08/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 14
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Jim" for over 20 years. We love each other deeply, and I would never dream of hurting him. I recently had a friendly lunch with "Pete," my oldest and dearest friend. Afterward, I realized I still ...

08/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 13
Dear Annie: My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer three years ago, and she recently passed away. She was a wonderful woman, and she and my father had a loving 31-year marriage. It hasn't even been a month since Mom died, and my dad has ...

08/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 12
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law lives far away. She visits twice a year and stays for a month. While she is here, we take our son out of his day care program so she can spend the maximum amount of time available with her grandchild. Here's the ...

08/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 11
Dear Annie: I have been married to my second husband for six years. While we were dating, he was romantic, thoughtful, caring, hardworking — everything I was looking for. I could count on him to be there for me and help with the stress of being ...

08/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 10
Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and seem to be getting pulled in different directions. I have been a good daughter, making my parents proud with great academics and strong morals. My family has always depended on me to be a role model for my younger ...

08/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 9
Dear Annie: My wife of 15 years is seriously addicted to fantasy role-playing games, often spending 12 hours or more online every day. I really can't begrudge her this form of entertainment. We are both retired, and she should be free to spend her ...

08/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 8
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. I know in my heart he is faithful, but he recently started working with a female who is younger and very flirtatious, and I'm worried. Many of his co-workers say this woman cheats on her ...

08/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 7
Dear Annie: My teenage son, 22-year-old daughter and I live with my elderly mother in order to help take care of her. My daughter, "Vanna," used to be a fun-loving person who enjoyed going out to clubs, meeting new people and helping those ...

08/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 6
Dear Annie: A month ago, my girlfriend told me she didn't trust me enough to be in a relationship. This is because of a mistake I made over a year ago. Shortly after we started dating, I cheated on her. I still feel horrible about it. She kept telling ...

08/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 5
Dear Annie: I recently married my boyfriend, "Joey." We have a 5-month-old baby. Joey still goes out drinking with his friends, and I don't know if he's cheating on me. I've asked him many times to come home and take responsibility for his ...

08/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 4
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since high school. We have been married 17 years and have two boys, one 20 and the other 14. One night, my wife admitted that when she was in high school, she had sex with a teacher. This teacher married ...

08/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 3
Dear Annie: Our son, "Luc," has been married for 22 years, but the last two have been under the most trying circumstances. Luc's marriage is a sham, and they are both at fault. He and my daughter-in-law are unhappy, but continue to live ...

08/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 2
Dear Annie: I graduated magna cum laude from college a year ago. I worked hard in school and believed it would pay off in the job market. However, I have found it difficult to find employment. The only place willing to hire me was the grocery store ...

08/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, August 1
Dear Annie: I can't believe the advice you gave "Not Interested Now/Never Was," who didn't want sex anymore after 37 years of marriage. To say she should submit because her husband is good to her is tantamount to saying a young girl should ...

07/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 31
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my father had a series of severe strokes at a relatively young age. He is now disabled and occasionally incontinent. At times he is quite lucid, but he needs continuous care. My parents have been married 40 years. Early on,...

07/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 30
Dear Annie: My brother's wife died two years ago while giving birth to her youngest daughter. She was a terrific woman and a great mother. She left behind two other daughters, ages 8 and 4. My brother, "Alex," is now engaged to "...

07/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 29
Dear Annie: Several years ago, my younger brother, "Ben," and his wife asked my husband and me to be the guardians of their new baby and any future children. They liked the way we were raising our own kids and felt comfortable having us ...

07/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 28
Dear Annie: My 14-year-old daughter, "Sara," thinks she's in love with a controlling boyfriend who is two years older. In the past six months, she's become a different child. She recently informed me that she and the boyfriend are having sex....

07/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 27
Dear Annie: I am the mother of an 18-month-old baby and have been happily married for 15 years. Since I am now a stay-at-home parent, I recently joined an online social networking system in order to reconnect with former co-workers. Many of my long-...

07/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 26
Dear Annie: My 21-year-old stepson, "Sam," is smart, strong, healthy, good-looking — and lazy. He dropped out of college after two years, and his life's ambition appears to be never to work another day in his life. He's had one job ...

07/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 25
Dear Annie: My husband, "Don," and I have been married for over 35 years and have five grown children. Don is a difficult person. When he is around, we all walk on eggshells. To protect the children, I have always been the peacemaker. Things ...

07/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 24
Dear Annie: Because of the struggling economy, my mom needed to take a full-time position. I now have the responsibility of taking care of my younger brother, who is almost 12 years old. That means that I cook our meals, wash the dishes and do ...

07/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 23
Dear Annie: My 25-year-old daughter, "Nola," lives in Alabama, as does her father, and I live in Florida. Nola is bipolar. She finally acknowledged that she needs medication, but has a hard time affording it because she has no insurance. ...

07/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 22
Dear Annie: Right now I am having an anxiety attack and a headache. All because my elderly boss started the week by screaming and belittling everyone in sight. The man can't hear, can't see and barely gets around, but he insists on running the ...

07/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 21
Dear Annie: I have a pretty, petite 24-year-old daughter who is quite immature for her age. She looks like she is 15. She still lives at home, occasionally helps around the house and attends the local community college. But she can't keep a job for ...

07/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 20
Dear Annie: I am an unbelievably jealous woman. I don't trust anyone around my husband, not even my sister. The root of this jealousy is the fact that several former boyfriends cheated on me, and sometimes it was with close friends and family members, ...

07/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 19
Dear Annie: I have two adult stepdaughters who love capturing unflattering photos of me in my bathing suit and then posting them on various photo-sharing websites. I'm not overweight, but in my late 50s, I no longer look stunning in a swimsuit. ...

07/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 18
Dear Annie: I have been living with "Lila" for less than a year. She owns her house, but can't afford the mortgage payments. Instead of trying to work out an arrangement with the mortgage company, she opted to simply not pay the mortgage. I ...

07/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 17
Dear Annie: I met "George" 12 years ago, and we began a relationship. I am now 78 and a widow. George is married and refuses to leave his wife. We see one another six days a week, and he tells me constantly that he loves me very much. ...

07/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 16
Dear Annie: I am a single mom of two children, ages 10 and 16. I have a good job, can make ends meet on my own, and consider myself very independent and self-reliant. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man. "Bill" also has a good job ...

07/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 15
Dear Annie: I am in my 60s, in good health, and have been married five years. This is my fourth marriage and I find myself miserable. My husband is good to me, and I know a lot of women would eagerly trade places. But I am ashamed to say I do not love ...

07/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 14
Dear Annie: My father was sick for several years before he died. Dad told me that he and my mother were leaving their entire estate to me, their only child. He even showed me their wills. I took many days off of work to help care for Dad. After ...

07/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 13
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Vic" for 22 years. Our marriage is solid. We have an 18-year-old daughter, "Kara," who is totally in love with her father. Vic is, in turn, greatly attached to her. He has always been a nurturing ...

07/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 12
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Susan" for three years. She has a 9-year-old boy from a past relationship. The father has a bad temper and a drug problem, and was verbally and physically abusive. I now see the 9-year-old with the same ...

07/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 11
Dear Annie: My wife recently went into a restaurant where our daughter had once worked. She casually mentioned our daughter's name, saying she used to be employed there a few years ago. A worker behind the counter walked over to my wife and, in a very ...

07/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 10
Dear Annie: I am a 60-year-old widow, dating a man I met on the Internet two years ago. We've had our ups and downs, but care deeply for each other. I spend most nights at his apartment. "Edmund" told me he was divorced twice. However, I ...

07/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 9
Dear Annie: A few weeks ago, I discovered that my husband had sent a mildly flirtatious e-mail to a female acquaintance. When I confronted him, he admitted he found her good-looking, but claimed he wasn't looking to start anything. He said he just ...

07/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 8
Dear Annie: I am a 28-year-old gay man. I have two jobs, keep my own house and pay my own bills. I recently started seeing someone who makes me feel wonderful, and for once in my life, I am happy. The problem is my mother. She has never met "Bill,...

07/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 7
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my husband and I lost our business. In an effort to keep it going, he did some illegal things and spent six months in prison. After he was released, we moved to a modest home in a modest neighborhood, and I went back to ...

07/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 6
Dear Annie: I am sick and tired of my mother expecting me to fix everything. When my siblings get in financial trouble, she expects me to bail them out because I have a better job thanks to my college degree — a degree I paid for with student ...

07/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 5
Dear Annie: A few months ago, my husband passed away from cancer. He was only 44 years old. We had no children and were together 19 years. He was a kind, funny, talented person, but he was also an alcoholic and suffered from depression. Ironically, ...

07/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 4
Dear Readers: Happy July 4th! Today is a good excuse to enjoy your family and friends, fire up the grill, play baseball, bask in the outdoors, visit a veterans hospital, volunteer at a soup kitchen, display the flag, listen to wonderful music and ...

07/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 3
Dear Annie: Two months ago, I was looking at my wife's cell phone because I needed a new one and wanted to see if hers was better. I was not looking for anything. Isn't that always the case? I ended up on her mobile Facebook site. I knew she ...

07/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 2
Dear Annie: How do I talk to my adult children about divorcing their mother? I've been a good father and tried hard to be a good husband, but I knew early on that the rushed decision to marry was a mistake. I considered divorce 17 years ago and went ...

07/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, July 1
Dear Annie: I am 49, the eldest of four siblings and have been suffering with multiple sclerosis for years. My family has little understanding of what living with MS is all about, even though they have seen me at my worst. I don't want their pity, but ...

06/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 30
Dear Annie: I have been married to my true love for 16 years. "Daniel" is a wonderful husband, a fantastic father to our three boys, a generous and successful businessman with many friends, and a great guy. My problem is his mother. She ...

06/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 29
Dear Annie: I have been married five years, and my husband has never wanted to work. I am the sole support for our family. I recently kicked him out and am considering divorce. He is mean to my daughter from a previous marriage and screams and cusses ...

06/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 28
Dear Annie: Two weeks ago, on the spur of the moment, I went to Las Vegas and married my boyfriend. I can't tell you how much I regret it. I'm not sure whether it's because I've only known him a month or because the wedding ring looks like gold dice.
06/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 27
Dear Annie: "Not Harold and Maude" wanted to hear from readers who are involved with younger men. My husband is 18 years younger, and we've been married 15 years. My family had a little heartburn over it until they realized our ...

06/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 26
Dear Annie: My wife and I met when we were in college. We are now 43. Ten years into the marriage, I became addicted to cocaine. We separated five years ago, but remain very close. I have been clean for a year and want to pursue our ...

06/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 25
Dear Annie: After a botched operation left her bedridden for months, my mother has to relearn to walk. My father, a loving but controlling person, didn't want to put her into a rehab facility where she would be pushed to get well. Instead, he placed ...

06/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 24
Dear Annie: I recently lost my job of 13 years. While checking out various employment listings, I came across a work-at-home position. I did a quick Google search and found that the company had several locations throughout the eastern portion of the ...

06/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 23
Dear Annie: I am 16 years old, and my friend "Kelly" is 17. Last week, Kelly went to a party where there was alcohol. She got a little drunk and then drove her brother home, along with one of his friends who stayed over. She was asleep when ...

06/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 22
Dear Annie: I need to know how to deal with my husband's loss of emotion. He is in his late 50s, and I am in my mid-40s. He used to hold my hand in the car and spontaneously grab me to dance when the stereo was on. He'd kiss me on the neck while I was ...

06/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 21
Dear Readers: Happy Father's Day to all the Dads and father figures in our reading audience. You are immeasurably important, and we hope your children will remember to acknowledge you on this special day. Here's a poem sent to us by a reader in ...

06/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 20
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my then 15-year-old son was paralyzed in a diving accident. I am his primary caregiver. Make no mistake, I am not complaining about caring for my child. I would do anything for him. The problem is, I can no longer go ...

06/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 19
Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and in a very committed relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together two years. When we had been dating only six months, I had an abortion because we just weren't ready for kids. But I'm going to be 20 soon and ...

06/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 18
Dear Annie: I had been seeing "Clark" for a year, and he told me everything a woman would want to hear. He made promises he never kept, and I continued to believe his lies. Eventually, he drained my savings. I finally wised up and ...

06/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 17
Dear Annie: My teenage daughters are good kids, get good grades and don't drink or smoke pot. The problem is they text constantly. The older one has been staying up into the wee hours texting two guy friends. She gets less than five hours' sleep. The ...

06/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 16
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl whose mom is her worst enemy. Mom and I haven't really connected over the past few years. We drive each other crazy, and both of us say hurtful things like, "I don't care about you" or "You are ruining ...

06/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 15
Dear Annie: I am blessed with three grown children, all with wonderful children of their own. This sounds ideal, but I can't talk to them. I'm either boring them with stuff they don't care about or voicing feelings they don't want to hear. A ...

06/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 14
Dear Annie: "Ben" and I are in our late 50s and recently married. We intended to sell our houses and buy one together, but due to the downturn in the economy, Ben's house is up for sale and we live in mine. The problem is, Ben has ...

06/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 13
Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our late 40s, married 17 years, and have a 14-year-old son. We are not rich, but we have a beautiful home, new cars and many luxuries. Apparently, my wife still felt she was missing something. I recently ...

06/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 12
Dear Annie: I am a 52-year-old single male, never married. Ten months ago, I met the love of my life. "Cindy" is everything to me. She was widowed two years ago and has two adult daughters, one still at home. The dilemma is that the girls ...

06/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 11
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Craig" for 38 years, and for the past 10, we haven't had much of a sexual relationship due to his erectile dysfunction and various other marital issues. I have reconnected by phone with a man I was in love ...

06/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 10
Dear Annie: A few months ago, my daughter got into an argument with her brother. During the course of this very heated disagreement, my daughter said she never liked his stepson because of something that happened 10 years ago. My son's wife overheard ...

06/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 9
Dear Annie: Is it OK for a husband to have sex with his unconscious wife? I am a very deep sleeper. I went to bed with my pajamas on but woke up naked and discovered my husband had had sex with me. He can't understand why I am unable to get over this. ...

06/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 8
Dear Annie: My husband, "Danny," and I have been married for 37 years. We raised two daughters, who are now married with children of their own. As far as my friends are concerned, Danny is a great husband, and they continually tell me how ...

06/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 7
Dear Annie: Since I was in my early teens, I have pretended to be sick on a lot of occasions when I really wasn't. I am now entering late adulthood and still doing it. I can't seem to stop. I know it is an awful way to get attention or whatever the ...

06/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 6
Dear Annie: I am 15 years old and in the 10th grade. I have two best friends. One of them, "Alyssa," is a gorgeous and nice girl with few flaws. She's the one the guys always fall for. But she randomly ignores me or seems really mad at me, ...

06/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 5
Dear Annie: My wife and I are both executives in our late 40s who lead busy lives. I love my wife very much. However, she comes home from work frazzled and is less and less interested in sex. We are intimate maybe once a month. I long ago gave up ...

06/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 4
Dear Annie: I've been in an off-and-on relationship with "Denise" for seven years. We were high-school sweethearts and attended the same college. A lot of the strain on our relationship can be attributed to her family not approving of our ...

06/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 3
Dear Annie: Recently, an e-mail correspondence between my mother and sister somehow ended up in my inbox. I can only assume it got there by mistake because it was full of criticism and hurtful comments about my family. The saddest part is that I had ...

06/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 2
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Tom," a successful farmer, for seven years. We both have children from previous marriages, three of whom work here, and my youngest son lives at home. I quit my job to help on the farm, and now I ...

06/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, June 1
Dear Annie: My husband, "Jonas," and I own a small antique store that we have successfully operated for five years. We have no kids and have always been very close. However, for the past two months our love life has been a little rocky. ...

05/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 31
Dear Annie: An old problem keeps popping up, and I would appreciate some advice. When I was in college, I was good friends with "Carrie," another fairly liberal thinker. When Carrie met my long-term boyfriend, she was rather intoxicated and ...

05/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 30
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Rocky" for a year. We are in our mid-40s, and it's a second marriage for both of us. We are so much in love, but Rocky is jealous and insecure. I know he had a painful childhood and has emotional scars ...

05/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 29
Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old female college student. I gained a lot of weight after my sophomore year, and when I came home one weekend, my mother looked at me and, instead of giving me a hug, said, "Your belly is getting big!" I was ...

05/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 28
Dear Annie: I have two friends I will call "Tom" and "Jack." All three of us have been friends since high school. Tom and Jack were like brothers long before I met them, but even though I was a girl, they accepted me into their ...

05/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 27
Dear Annie: I am a confused and stressed-out 28-year-old pregnant woman. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Although we have an awesome relationship, since my pregnancy, he hasn't told me he loves me or even insinuated that he does. <...

05/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 26
Dear Annie: I live in a close-knit neighborhood of eight young couples. Naturally, there is some gossip, so we feel personally involved in situations that may not be our business. How do you help someone whose wife says she is leaving (although ...

05/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 25
Dear Annie: I am in my early 20s and attending college. I recently found out that my mother had been having an off-and-on affair with a married man for years. Ever since, I have not been the same. I am angry, hurt, humiliated and confused. My ...

05/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 24
Dear Annie: A neighbor of mine drives the bus for the high school her 14-year-old daughter attends. This neighbor tells me the new thing the kids are doing is "sexting." It means sending nude pictures of themselves to friends over their cell ...

05/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 23
Dear Annie: My husband and I retired several years ago and built a house in the country. He told me that one day he might have to let his widowed mother live with us. I had no problem with that until she actually moved in. For the past three years, ...

05/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 22
Dear Annie: My adult daughter's behavior is causing a great deal of emotional pain in my family. "Carole" has a violent temper that makes everyone — even her sweet-tempered husband — cower in fear. About six months ago, our ...

05/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 21
Dear Annie: My husband is on all of these websites — Classmates, Facebook and Reunion — trying to reconnect with old friends. But it seems he's only connecting with women from his old high school. This strikes me as a form of cheating. He ...

05/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 20
Dear Annie: I'm 27 years old and have been dating the handsome love of my life off and on since high school. Our relationship has always been based on friendship. It was love at a distance, mainly because I am a Christian and had my boundaries. When ...

05/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 19
Dear Annie: I am 23 years old and a virgin. I have never seen a naked man in my life because I believe virginity should be kept until marriage. The other day I went with my sister to watch my nephew's baseball game. He plays on a field that is uphill, ...

05/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 18
Dear Annie: I have a 17-year-old son. Until three months ago, he was the best son a mother could ask for. He's captain of the varsity baseball and golf teams, band officer, top 10 in his class, you name it. He gave his father and me no problems until ...

05/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 17
Dear Annie: My daughter is in high school and splits her time between my house and my ex-wife's. She often attends parties and sleepovers, and I've hosted many myself. Recently my house has become unpopular. Why? Because I don't serve alcohol. My ...

05/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 16
Dear Annie: My in-laws always visit on weekends when things are really laid back around the house. My mother-in-law is great about pitching in and helping with the kids and the house. The trouble is, she never stops. When I cook, she murmurs ...

05/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 15
Dear Annie: I have been married for two years to a "mama's boy" and I hate it. Every time we have an argument, he calls his mother, asks her to come to our house to help and insists that I talk to her. At first, I told him I didn't ...

05/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 14
Dear Annie: I am a newly married woman and am writing about my husband, who refuses to see a doctor for a potentially life-threatening issue. In fact, he refuses to see any doctor at all. I am not aware that he has any specific fear of doctors, so ...

05/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 13
Dear Annie: I just finished my college degree. Getting the career I've always wanted is a hop, skip and jump away. I have amazing friends and a big family. But I feel so lost and alone. I was raped by a family member when I was 5, sexually assaulted ...

05/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 12
Dear Annie: The Army's recent report of an increase in the suicide rate among soldiers sheds light on an important public health issue. It also highlights the need to create greater awareness around the challenges affecting the men and women serving ...

05/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 11
Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old female and have been friends with "Danielle" for 12 years. In fact, she is the only friend I have. Recently, I expressed some personal frustrations to her about my in-laws' lifestyle. I said these things in ...

05/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 10
Dear Annie: Please print this for my mother on Mother's Day. I read it in Ann Landers' column many years ago and thought it was perfect. — Nolan in Florida Dear Nolan: With pleasure. Here it is: To a one-in-a-million Mom, to you, ...

05/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 9
Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy and an only child. I get good grades and my social life is somewhat fair. I have no drama except for one thing — my mom. Mom is 40 years old and has a full-time job. But she can't speak to me in a soft ...

05/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 8
Dear Annie: My married daughter has decided to estrange herself from her stepfather and me. We have not spoken since she rudely shrugged me off at her son's graduation party last June. I recently began counseling to help me deal with the situation. ...

05/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 7
Dear Annie: My mother has always been a strong presence in my life. Growing up, I couldn't do anything right. She took things away from me and redid them, or stood over me and directed. Three years ago, my husband suggested we move my parents ...

05/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 6
Dear Annie: Please advise your readers not to hold onto any letters that contain family information or intimate details of a relationship that should remain secret. I was cleaning out my mother-in-law's house after her death and came upon letters ...

05/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 5
Dear Annie: I am a teenager, but in a few years, I will be away at college. I am concerned, however, because Mom has a boyfriend with a major anger problem, and he throws tantrums and gets abusive. Mom has been in this relationship for a few ...

05/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 4
Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-old single man with a serious problem involving my 13-year-old nephew, "Hayden." Hayden's father died when he was 3, and I immediately stepped in as a surrogate parent. We share a close, affectionate relationship, ...

05/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 3
Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is make-up sex? My husband says he loves me and I believe he is faithful, but he never initiates anything in the bedroom, and we have sex only if I pitch a fit because I feel ...

05/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 2
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a good friend, "Steve," who is a manager at a company where my husband used to work. My husband is still pretty close to a lot of the people there. Steve has access to the property 24/7 and has been ...

05/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, May 1
Dear Annie: I have been married for 25 years and have a 17-year-old son. My husband, "Jesse," is having an Internet affair with someone he met on the casino boats. I have been secretly reading his messages to her for over a year. He says it'...

04/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 30
Dear Annie: My 29-year-old son and his wife have two young children. My oldest grandson and I were very close. I babysat, took him swimming, to the park and the library, taught him to ride a bike and accompanied him to Sunday school. Four years ...

04/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 29
Dear Annie: Five months ago, my girlfriend went to a job conference in Texas. When she came back, she used my computer and accidentally left her e-mail open. I found numerous pictures of her business trip, and several are of her sitting on the lap of ...

04/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 28
Dear Annie: I am 13 years old and the oldest of four children. Lately, things have gone downhill for me. My schoolwork load is horrible, and my parents put me down all the time. My 10-year-old sister is constantly coming into my room, breaking things ...

04/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 27
Dear Annie: My sister cheated on her husband and had an affair with a married man for several years. The man was separated from his wife at the time. My sister insisted the man loved her dearly and passionately, and I believed her since she seemed so ...

04/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 26
Dear Annie: I am experiencing firsthand how damaging certain social networking websites can be. My wife and I have been married for 18 years. Six months ago, I found out she was having inappropriate contact with a man through one of these websites. ...

04/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 25
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Hannah" for three months. It hasn't been easy because my parents don't approve of her, even as a friend, because she's 19 and I'm 15. Until now, we've been great together. We talked at least three times a ...

04/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 24
Dear Annie: I have been married for 17 years and am the father of two teenage boys. In the past few years, my wife and I seem to have drifted apart. We've had our issues before, but have always been able to work things out. Not now. Recently we ...

04/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 23
Dear Annie: Two months ago, I married "Aiden" after more than a year of dating. He's a loving husband and I am happy. The problem is, Aiden's financial life is a mess. He owes back taxes, has credit card debt and forgets to pay his bills....

04/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 22
Dear Annie: I am 28 years old and very much in love with my husband of 11 months. "Mitch" is kind and caring, and I have no doubt in my mind that he loves me. Our sex life is amazing. He is attentive to my needs, and every aspect of our ...

04/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 21
Dear Annie: My 41-year-old fiance, "Michael," recently started a new job that requires some overnight travel. Last week while out of town, a 21-year-old female co-worker asked Michael's help to put air in her tires. He got in her car and ...

04/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 20
Dear Annie: A few years ago, the company I work for laid off a number of employees. This had a devastating effect on morale, but those of us who remained picked up the slack. The situation hasn't improved, and 10-hour days are still the norm. I ...

04/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 19
Dear Annie: I'm a 40-year-old woman. Four years ago, I met "Tom" online in a game room and he swept me off my feet. I knew he was married but didn't care. He lived 100 miles away and we would meet whenever we could. The last time we ...

04/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 18
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two small children under the age of 5. He watches them on the weekend so I can get my errands done. On more than one occasion, I've come home to find him fast asleep on the sofa while the kids are watching TV ...

04/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 17
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 22 years and have two children. "Myles" works for a large company known for its long workweeks. He and a woman, "Lara," co-manage the organization. Myles has always liked Lara ...

04/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 16
Dear Annie: About four years ago, a preacher and his family moved next door to us, and we have had it up to here with them. The latest episode involved a sweet little boxer puppy about 6 months old. The preacher's son-in-law wanted a puppy for ...

04/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 15
Dear Annie: My daughter is engaged to my boss' son, who also works for the company. On a recent out-of-town business trip, I observed my future son-in-law taking a "lady of the evening" into his hotel room. He did not see me. Should I ...

04/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 14
Dear Annie: My brother is married to a woman I will call "Devon." She is an only child and accustomed to having her way. Our last surviving parent recently passed away, and Devon tried to manipulate the division of the estate. My ...

04/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 13
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl who has been having problems with another girl for about a year. She's basically stalking me over the computer. I've received multiple threatening messages from her on MySpace. She says, "Why don't you just go ...

04/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 12
Dear Annie: I am a 46-year-old male, never married, with no children. My sister, "Stacy," has three daughters and a 15-year-old son from her first marriage. She has since remarried, and none of the kids gets along well with Stacy's new ...

04/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 11
Dear Annie: Last fall, we sent our 18-year-old son off to college. He was excited to be living in the dorms, meeting new people and starting new classes. He had dreams and goals. After one month, he had some sort of mental breakdown and was ...

04/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 10
Dear Annie: My sister, "Shelly," has two kids — a 10-year-old boy from her previous marriage and a 2-year-old girl from her current one. I am absolutely disgusted by the way my nephew talks to "Dan," his stepfather. He ...

04/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 9
Dear Annie: My wife and I are very strict with our 12-year-old son, "Jonathan." He has normal adolescent issues, but he really is a great kid — well-mannered, hardworking, gets good grades, etc. We give him lots of freedom to make ...

04/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 8
Dear Annie: I have a wonderful boyfriend I'll call "Ray." We have a lot in common and are very happy together. Though we have not yet committed to anything permanent, we both want marriage and have discussed it. However, there is one ...

04/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 7
Dear Annie: My grandfather molested me when I was a child, and I have been in therapy much of my adult life as a result. My entire family has a disturbing history of sexual abuse and incest, passed along from father to son. My youngest sister ...

04/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 6
Dear Annie: I recently learned that during my entire marriage my husband has visited strip clubs, touched other women and had lap dances. He says he's sorry. "Andy" has never been the best husband or father, but I thought we had a ...

04/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 5
Dear Annie: My husband's job requires him to travel several days during the week. We have two teenage daughters still at home. When he first took the job, there was some adjusting, but the girls and I quickly settled into a routine. I work a 40-...

04/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 4
Dear Annie: My husband and his ex shared custody of their son, "Danny," for 11 years. Two years ago, when his ex and her new husband began experiencing financial problems, she started pressuring Danny to live with her full time. It was no ...

04/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 3
Dear Annie: I have been married 25 years. My health is not as good as it used to be and I am in chronic pain. I am finally on a good pain management program involving strong painkillers that help me function and keep my job, as well as keep being a ...

04/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 2
Dear Annie: I have been married for over 15 years and have two children. Our son has a severe disability and I stay home to care for him. Annie, I think my husband is a sociopath. I have been enabling his Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality by letting ...

04/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, April 1
Dear Annie: As a physical education teacher, I have had the opportunity to work with a lot of students in my nine years of teaching. In this age of video games, it seems harder and harder to motivate students to want to participate. The good ...

03/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 31
Dear Annie: My next-door neighbor, "Tillie," is in her 90s. She is able-bodied, but her mind is slowly slipping. We had a great relationship until she allowed her nephew, his wife, their son and the son's girlfriend to move in. Not ...

03/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 30
Dear Annie: My best friend, "Jayne," is also my former sister-in-law. She and my brother divorced several years ago. My brother has limited contact with their children, but I have remained close to all of them. A few years ago, Jayne ...

03/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 29
Dear Annie: My husband and I bought our first house just over a year ago and have had several roommates. Now two of them don't have jobs, nor do they pay rent. My husband's brother, "Daniel," and his girlfriend, "Kathy," ...

03/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 28
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 16 years and own a business together. I recently discovered that he has been having sexual fantasies regarding three of our employees. These are all married women who work in the office. A month ...

03/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 27
Dear Annie: I have been working at my present job for four years. It's a good company that truly values its employees. In the past year, however, there have been some changes in my department, and not for the good. There are certain employees ...

03/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 26
Dear Annie: My child is in the fifth grade. She is a well-behaved girl and an excellent student. I have always tried to teach her to be respectful and honest. The school has a rule that cell phones are to be kept in lockers until the end of the ...

03/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 25
Dear Annie: I haven't seen my in-laws since we moved across the country three years ago. They are coming in May for a two-week visit and staying in our home with us and our six children. When we lived closer, the grandparents insisted on taking ...

03/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 24
Dear Annie: I married "Eddie" after getting pregnant at 18. We have two children and have been together for 32 years. For the past 20, we have not slept in the same bed. It began when Eddie started falling asleep on the sofa watching TV. ...

03/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 23
Dear Annie: I am an 18-year-old girl and have a great relationship with my parents. The problem is, I like girls. (I know the correct term would be lesbian, but I somehow find that word offensive.) And I am scared to tell them. A few years ago, ...

03/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and for most of them I have been a stay-at-home mom. We are honest, supportive, hardworking people. Despite all our efforts, my handsome, intelligent, athletic 18-year-old son is on the path ...

03/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 21
Dear Annie: My 33-year-old wife and I have been married for four years and have a wonderful 3-year-old son. Yet, from day one, every time a difficulty arises, she proclaims she is getting a divorce. In fact, she normally holds me accountable for every ...

03/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 20
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old single woman and was in an exclusive relationship with "Matt" for six months. We always used protection whenever we were intimate. Last December, he suddenly stopped seeing me and wouldn't return my calls. <...

03/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 19
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 20 years. Unfortunately, I had to have a colostomy last year and now use a colostomy bag. Prior to my surgery, I was having trouble with regard to our sexual frequency. My menopause years were horrible,...

03/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 18
Dear Annie: My husband's brother and his wife recently moved back home after living away for several years. I'm trying to be nice, but they are really getting on my nerves. There was a family dinner a few weeks ago that was scheduled to start ...

03/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 17
Dear Annie: My situation is tough. I am a pregnant teenager, 16 to be exact. Aside from my family and a few friends, no one knows the whole truth, which is that I was raped. I no longer want to leave my house because I get harassed constantly ...

03/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 16
Dear Annie: I have been married for six years and have a 16-year-old stepdaughter. (She actually looks 18.) "Maureen" is quite emotionally immature. She won't try new things or socialize for fear of failure and the off chance that someone ...

03/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 15
Dear Annie: I am a 17-year-old senior in high school. My boyfriend and I had been together for two years, but I broke it off a few months ago because I wasn't happy. However, I didn't realize I wouldn't find anyone new. I am busy with ...

03/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 14
Dear Annie: When I was younger, my mother revealed to me that I have a half sister as a result of an affair my father had when I was a toddler. I know their marriage was in trouble back then, but it doesn't excuse his betrayal, not only of Mom, but of ...

03/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 13
Dear Annie: I enjoy reading your column, and now it is finally my turn to write. I am a 19-year-old female. My best friend is "James," who is gay. We've been friends for nearly four years and spend a lot of time together. Additionally, we ...

03/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 12
Dear Annie: I have discovered a fascination with some aspects of BDSM (bondage, dominance and submission), and eventually would like a chance to play out some of my fantasies. Is this normal? My childhood life was very sheltered, and my parents ...

03/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 11
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old son graduated high school two years ago. He was valedictorian, in the top 4 percent of his class, a gifted pianist, and was accepted into one of the best universities in the country. He threw it all away. His first year at ...

03/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 10
Dear Annie: My 28-year-old son who I love dearly is living with his pregnant girlfriend, "Salome," in my basement. He is due to earn his bachelor's degree in three months, and the child is due around the same time. Salome does not ...

03/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 9
Dear Annie: My parents treat our oldest son with extreme favoritism. I've asked them not to do this, and they have apologized in the past, but they soon ignore us and are back to the same old tricks. I became suspicious when our son, who is still ...

03/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 8
Dear Annie: My husband had surgery and was off of work for some time. As a result, we are behind on our mortgage, heat, personal loans, etc. We needed to borrow money, which has put us in an even bigger hole. We have a plan to get back on track, but ...

03/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 7
Dear Annie: My girlfriend, "Inez," has been a single mom for 14 years. After many months, she met a man online. "Sam" is a nice guy when he isn't drinking. He is in his late 40s and was just diagnosed with emphysema along with ...

03/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 6
Dear Annie: My son and his wife live in the apartment above mine. I wanted my 20-year-old grandson to be independent of his parents, so I let him move into my downstairs bedroom. I told him his girlfriend would not be permitted in his bedroom nor ...

03/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 5
Dear Annie: I just moved to a very nice community five months ago. The people are so friendly, warm and helpful. My house is located not far from the ocean on a very secluded cul-de-sac. I have a 12-month lease and pay rent monthly. It has come ...

03/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 4
Dear Annie: I am a 48-year-old woman who has struggled with alcoholism for almost 30 years. My drinking was the cause of my two divorces, and my child was made a ward of the state. I lost a promising career because I showed up to work drunk. I have ...

03/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 3
Dear Annie: My husband and I are newlyweds living with my mother-in-law and it's driving us crazy. We had to move in with her when our apartment flooded and I was five months pregnant. Since then, every time an opportunity to leave has come up, ...

03/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 2
Dear Annie: It's after 1:00 a.m. and I can't sleep for the second straight night. Two days ago, my husband of 15 years told me he's a cross-dresser. Apparently at one of his organization's meetings, he was advised to come out of the closet. We'...

03/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, March 1
Dear Annie: My youngest son, "Scott," recently turned 3, and I looked into preschool programs. Our local YMCA had a few openings and I signed him up. When I met with the woman who would be Scott's teacher, I told her my son has spina ...

02/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 28
Dear Annie: My 30-year-old daughter, "Susan," is living with her mother, my ex-wife, while finishing school and awaiting her wedding later this year. The two of them got along wonderfully before they began living together. My ex ...

02/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 27
Dear Annie: I'm 27 years old and live with my parents, who are both in their mid-50s. A few months ago, my dad was forced to quit his job. The problem is, I have proof that my father is cheating with an ex-co-worker. I've met this woman. I did ...

02/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 26
Dear Annie: I have been married six years and have two children. I am worried about my husband's relationship with our 5-year-old son. My husband is very stern and has an unwavering view of right and wrong. I disagree with many of his ideas about ...

02/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 25
Dear Annie: I love my wife of 30 years, but I've had it. For 10 years, I had a great job in which I was well respected and well paid. Under pressure at home to bring in more money, I took a promising position at a startup company. Six months later, I ...

02/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 24
Dear Annie: I am in a relationship with a caring man and hope to spend the rest of my life with him. "Dan" is friends with a married couple he has known for several years. We spend quite a lot of time with "Paul and Dora." ...

02/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 23
Dear Annie: My 10th-grader, "Katie," is switching to a different high school in two weeks. The other day, my son mentioned that his friend's sister spread a bad rumor about Katie at the new school. Of course, Katie is quite upset. She was ...

02/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 22
Dear Annie: I am 22, engaged, working on a master's degree in child psychology and in a very uncomfortable situation. Two years ago, my fiance's sister revealed to her family that "Grandpa Joe" had molested her as a child. After she ...

02/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 21
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I live in the upstairs apartment of a duplex. Our downstairs neighbor is in her late 50s and gets a disability check every month. When she gets mad, for whatever reason, she starts slamming doors, throwing things ...

02/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 20
Dear Annie: Twelve years ago my dad had an affair with "Linda," a woman who worked in his office. At the time, we lived in a small town where everyone heard about it. I was deeply humiliated by the experience. Dad left Mom and married Linda. ...

02/19/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 19
Dear Annie: I need some advice. My wife has anger issues. A few days ago, we moved our youngest son to a different bedroom and the two of them got into it. She wanted him to do something her way, and he wanted to do it his way. She got mad and said, &...

02/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 18
Dear Annie: I work in a hotel with a staff of about 20. Our general manager is an embarrassing liar. He stretches the truth and tells some outright whoppers. He also gets caught in lies by telling too many people different things. Everyone talks about ...

02/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 17
Dear Annie: I'm 20 years old. My boyfriend and I have a 6-month-old baby boy. I used to be very independent. When I met "Jake," he was 18, had never worked a day in his life and was a serious drug addict. I got him to stop doing drugs and he ...

02/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 16
Dear Annie: I'm a 40-year-old man who has moved back home with my mother to recover from a car accident. The recovery is nearly complete, but the economy is slowing my progress toward moving out of the house. Mom is very intrusive. When I first ...

02/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 15
Dear Annie: I am not writing this to sound anti-female. However, I am frustrated as far as meeting someone for a permanent relationship. I am in my 40s, tall and somewhat good-looking, with a full head of hair and a slender build. I am fairly ...

02/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 14
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, and special good wishes to our veterans in VA hospitals around the country. For those readers who have taken the time to send valentines and visit the vets, bless each and every one of you. ...

02/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 13
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my kids and I moved back home so I could take care of my mother. My sister and niece had been keeping an eye on her, but didn't want to do it anymore. Mom is in her late 70s and has arthritis in both legs. She often falls, ...

02/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 12
Dear Annie: I am a single mother of a 7-year-old son who has a lot of anger problems. When "Ryan" was 3, his dad and I split up. My ex just left in the middle of the night. It was a month before Ryan saw him again, and when he did, Dad was ...

02/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 11
Dear Annie: I would like your advice about my parents, who are in their 70s. Mom and Dad survive off a small amount of Social Security. Unfortunately, they are addicted to buying lottery tickets. I've seen stacks of $10 tickets, many of which are ...

02/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 10
Dear Annie: I have been married for six years to "Tom," a great guy in all respects except one. He is the biggest flirt I have ever seen. Recently someone at our church said she felt it was her duty to tell me my husband has a ...

02/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 9
Dear Annie: I was adopted at birth. I was a "daddy's girl," and although he always stood up to my Mom on issues of discipline, it was very clear that Mom and I were oil and water. As the family therapist put it, Dad was the glue that held us ...

02/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 8
Dear Annie: My friend "Tim" is in his late 40s. For the past four years, he's been in contact with a girl he met through an Internet website with pictures of teen models. Since then, this girl, now 21, has been spinning tales of woe, ...

02/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 7
Dear Annie: I was supposed to be married this month in a small private ceremony. However, my fiance, "John," admitted he had communicated very poorly with his parents. His relationship with them is nearly nonexistent, and they didn't want us ...

02/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 6
Dear Annie: I have never taken drugs and never will, but I recently learned that one of my best guy friends has been smoking weed. Annie, we are only 14. I've told him drugs are bad for him, but he keeps assuring me that he is not addicted and it's ...

02/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 5
Dear Annie: My husband, "Rex," and I have been married for two years. Three months ago, his job required him to work in a town several hours away and he decided to get an apartment there. I had a feeling something was going on between him ...

02/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 4
Dear Annie: I have been seeing "Rob" for over a year. We have loads of fun together and genuinely love each other. The problem is, Rob doesn't seem overly interested in moving in together, getting married or having kids, and he knows that's ...

02/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 3
Dear Annie: My husband has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. He is doing everything to fight it, including taking various medicines and having treatments, which have been somewhat effective. However, one unwanted side effect is that it's pretty ...

02/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 2
Dear Annie: My husband's ex, "Sophie," is driving us crazy. They divorced 17 years ago when their son, "Sam," was 3 years old. The ex is an alcoholic, very controlling and extremely overprotective of their son. Sam is a ...

02/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, February 1
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 25 years. It's a second marriage for both of us. A few years after we married, I found her to be a good liar. She is also willing to help the economy on a regular basis without concern for our financial ...

01/31/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 31
Dear Annie: Seven years ago, I left my marriage of 22 years to be with someone I still absolutely adore. However, I now realize that as much as we love each other, he will never love my children, two grandchildren or family. He could care less if he ...

01/30/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 30
Dear Annie: My son, who is now 18 and still living at home, was sexually abused by one of his friends when he was in eighth grade. He absolutely refused counseling at that time. I recently found pictures of kiddie porn (girls about 12 or 13 ...

01/29/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 29
Dear Annie: My fiance, "Ryan," talks to his ex-wife daily. He even set a romantic love song as the ring tone for her incoming calls. He deletes her text messages so I can't see them. I found out he still lets her charge merchandise on his ...

01/28/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 28
Dear Annie: I am a 31-year-old daughter of newly divorced parents. My father, 52, just bought a house. He is already telling my sister and me about his new 28-year-old female "friend," who is having trouble at home and will be moving in ...

01/27/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 27
Dear Annie: I am a 69-year-old retiree and have been married to the same man for 43 years. We have three wonderful sons and seven beautiful grandchildren. When our boys were young, "Charles" worked long hours. I always suspected he ...

01/26/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 26
Dear Annie: I am a 42-year-old woman and have never had a normal relationship with my mother. She says every time she looks at me I bring out the bad in her. I have been hit and called names. She made it clear that she never loved me. My ...

01/25/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 25
Dear Annie: My 22-year-old son, "Josh," was in a relationship with "Kim" for over a year. She seemed nice, attended church with us, and told us horror stories about her abusive ex-boyfriend, "Buster." Although we weren't ...

01/24/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 24
Dear Annie: I have been married for nine years and am starting to think my wife is having an affair. "Eve" works nights, and one night a week she comes home late. I have called her office on those nights and no one answers. Eve always ...

01/23/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 23
Dear Annie: I've been married over 15 years. My husband, "Bert," retired three years ago. Unhappy without a job, he finally found employment at a neighborhood chain store. It was then that my world turned into science fiction. Bert began ...

01/22/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 22
Dear Annie: I am a 40-year-old divorced woman with six children. I've become involved in a dream-come-true relationship with "Joe." After a year, he moved into my house. Joe has two children, and the fact that he accepted my six kids just ...

01/21/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 21
Dear Annie: Two weeks ago, we were informed that my wife's brother, "Bob," and his wife, "Marcia," were splitting after eight years. A few days after this surprise, it came to light that they had never really been married. ...

01/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 20
Dear Annie: My husband, "Joe," and I have been having minor problems recently, and I finally got him to open up about what is bothering him. Big mistake! He told me he wants a divorce. I was completely blindsided. I asked him why he ...

01/20/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 20
Dear Annie: My husband, "Joe," and I have been having minor problems recently, and I finally got him to open up about what is bothering him. Big mistake! He told me he wants a divorce. I was completely blindsided. I asked him why he would ...

01/18/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 18
Dear Annie: From wars and battles in far-off lands, to standing guard on the frontiers of freedom, veterans' experiences shaped their lives in profound ways. For many hospitalized veterans today, a kind word of acknowledgement for their service helps ...

01/17/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 17
Dear Annie: I manage a very small office. Last year, I became involved with my employer and got pregnant. Fortunately, we grew to love each other and our child, and we are now married. Despite our rocky start, we are quite happy. The problem is ...

01/16/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 16
Dear Annie: My husband and I are good friends with three other couples. The guys often go on golf trips — sometimes with their wives, sometimes without. During the last trip, my husband, "Derek," had a disagreement with "Tim."...

01/15/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 15
Dear Annie: My 9-year-old son, "Felix," is headed down the wrong path. This year in school, he has already stabbed two people with a pencil, clocked a boy and told some classmates he had a bomb. He is very defiant, talks back, never smiles, ...

01/14/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 14
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl whose family is struggling in today's economy. Not long ago, my mother seemed more and more agitated when she came home from work. Soon I preferred to go to sleep before she came home so I wouldn't have to hear her ...

01/13/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 13
Dear Annie: My father is getting up there in years. He can think and do for himself quite nicely. The problem is, if something breaks or Dad does not have the money to get what he needs, he will go without. Sometimes there is not enough food or hot ...

01/12/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 12
Dear Annie: My ex-husband was one of those who thought the grass was greener on the other side. After a long marriage, he had an affair. I never thought he could betray our family like that. Our two teenage children are still devastated. ...

01/11/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 11
Dear Annie: My soon-to-be 17-year-old son has been caught smoking pot several times in the past few years. He also recently became very close to a girl we don't care for. She smokes pot as well, and I have reason to believe he may be sexually active ...

01/10/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 10
Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful man. He is my high-school sweetheart, and we have been together for 15 years, married for seven. I believe he is faithful, but something has been troubling me a lot. Whenever he goes away for a weekend ...

01/09/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 9
Dear Annie: My friend "Josie" drives me crazy with her neediness and dependency. She apparently looks up to me as a mentor, and at first, this was very flattering. But her needs are embarrassing (wanting hugs, reassurance that I am "...

01/08/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 8
Dear Annie: I am 31 years old and divorced with two kids. My mom has always been supportive. She helped me out immensely over the years, and I am very appreciative. I have paid her back whenever possible. The problem is, the last time my kids ...

01/07/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 7
Dear Annie: I am a college senior set to marry in the spring after graduation. I have an absolutely wonderful fiance who I love unconditionally. Even though he lives three hours away, we talk on the phone daily and see each other as often as possible.<...

01/06/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 6
Dear Annie: My husband and I married six years ago. The year before, my parents faced financial ruin and the loss of their home. I took it upon myself to cover their legal costs (about $12,000) and managed to save their house from seizure. In ...

01/05/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 5
Dear Annie: I have been married for three years to a wonderful man. He is gentle, thoughtful and works very hard. Let me clarify that: He will stay up until 2 or 3 a.m., come to bed and be up at 7 a.m. for work. Last Friday, he stayed up until 6 a.m. ...

01/04/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 4
Dear Annie: For two years, I attended a good all-girls Catholic high school. Because of my poor grades, I was expelled and am now enrolled in a public school. I really don't like it and long to be back with my friends. I have asked my mother ...

01/03/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 3
Dear Annie: I am disgusted. My fiance, "Kirk," and I have a problem with his mother and siblings. I got along fine with them until we became engaged, and all of a sudden it was like someone flipped a switch. His mother began e-mailing and ...

01/02/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 2
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Clem" for two years. I have a full-time job and a part-time job, plus I cook, clean, do laundry, wash dishes and take out the trash. Many nights I only get four or five hours of sleep. Clem works part ...

01/01/2009 Annie's Mailbox®, January 1
Dear Readers: Happy New Year. We hope you don't need to recuperate too much from your celebrations last night and are enjoying the first day of 2009. This is always a good time to clear the slate and start fresh, mend fences, re-establish ...

12/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 31
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for two years. I recently found out he has been using his parents' credit card for years. When I saw their card a year ago, I asked about it and was told it was only for emergencies. But, Annie, in the ...

12/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 30
Dear Annie: I am a female college student living with my parents until I finish school. I love my family, but there are a few problems, most involving my older brother, "David." When we were children, we were fond of making each other'...

12/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 29
Dear Annie: I am a recovering alcoholic and have worked in addiction recovery for the 22 years I have been sober. Two years ago, I married a wonderful man. I am 60 years old and it is my first marriage. We are quite happy. Several months ago, ...

12/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 28
Dear Annie: My 27-year-old son recently moved in with a woman he met online. "Garth" has brought several of his online romances home to meet his parents, but this woman is like no one before. She has an eating disorder, takes migraine ...

12/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 27
Dear Annie: I am a 34-year-old woman and met "Marc" a year ago. Marc is 45 and divorced with three kids. We hit it off from the start and have been going strong for 10 months. Marc is a terrific guy who treats me well and is a wonderful ...

12/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 26
Dear Annie: My son and daughter each have two young girls. My daughter is very rich, but my son is poor. He is divorced and has sole custody of his girls with no mother in the picture. I am a widow, and many times I've helped my son by buying ...

12/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 25
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. How glorious this world would be if we could live each and every day according to Edgar Guest's sentiments in the following piece: "At Christmas" by Edgar Guest   A man ...

12/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 24
Dear Annie: My boyfriend, "Dennis," and I were friends for seven years before we became a couple. A few nights ago, during a normal conversation, he suddenly said he was really annoyed with my questions. He said he couldn't believe I needed ...

12/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 23
Dear Annie: I have known "Gary" for three years and we are now engaged. I love him with all my heart and soul. However, I am being pushed just a little too far, not by Gary, but by his parents. He cannot say no to them. Gary's father ...

12/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 22
Dear Annie: A year ago, I visited my daughter, "Cindy," her husband, her two sons from her first marriage and their new baby daughter. Things were fine except for the way her husband treats those two boys. Abusive is putting it mildly. And ...

12/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 21
Dear Annie: Today I mourn the loss of a dear friend. She was vibrant, energetic and full of life, but on a crisp autumn afternoon, she committed suicide. She was only 35 and left behind two beautiful little girls. My friend spent her life ...

12/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 20
Dear Annie: Six weeks ago, at my urging, my 95-year-old mother moved from Florida to be closer to me. Mom is in good health but lives alone, and I was concerned she could fall or leave the stove on. I bought her a first-class airline ticket and paid ...

12/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 19
Dear Annie: Our 23-year-old daughter, "Shawna," recently decided to get married in May. She is living at home while attending graduate school. She has at least one more year to go. For years, we've been telling Shawna that when she ...

12/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 18
Dear Annie: I am a mother of three girls. My 8-year-old daughter, "Grace," has a terrible problem. She lies about everything and blames everything she does on her younger sister. We have tried several different ways to stop this ...

12/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 17
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 20 years and have two great kids. When we first married, life was fun. We did things together, held hands, cuddled in bed, talked and laughed a lot. Now, other than going out to eat, we don't do much ...

12/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 16
Dear Annie: I'm a sophomore in college and live far away from my hometown, so I rarely see my friends or family. I wouldn't mind so much except that I'm in a long-distance relationship with "Rob," whom I have known since I was very young....

12/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 15
Dear Annie: I have been the bookkeeper for a small company for six months. The previous bookkeeper was embezzling money, and I now have to deal with a lot of micromanaging due to the office manager's trust issues. I do my job well and have proved ...

12/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 14
Dear Annie: For the last five years, I've dated several girls. Three of them, during the course of our individual relationships, turned up pregnant. I was a man about it and stepped up all three times. I took care of the mothers, paid all of the ...

12/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 13
Dear Annie: I'm having problems with my mother. For her, the worst is always to come: financial crises, prowlers in the neighborhood, war, death, famine. Yet if she calls and you aren't all sunshiny, she berates you. Mom has little contact with family ...

12/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 12
Dear Annie: Yesterday, my wife and I were called to our son's school to talk to the crisis prevention officer. We were told our 16-year-old son had attempted suicide. You can imagine our shock. Where were the signs, the clues? We have a high-...

12/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 11
Dear Annie: During the 30 years I have been married to "Wayne," he has cheated on me several times. He was always remorseful and I tried to forgive him. He stares at young women to the point where it embarrasses me. He doesn't feel he should ...

12/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 10
Dear Annie: I am a 43-year-old woman. Seven years ago, I met a lovely, caring man and we are currently living together. My quite conservative family has never met him, but they disapprove. When I first met "Frank," I told my parents I ...

12/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 9
Dear Annie: I am a sophomore in college and living the college life to the fullest. I go to a very rigorous school, and my studies, my job and sorority life take up most of my time. Lately, I have noticed that all my friends seem to be getting ...

12/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 8
Dear Annie: I am not a small woman. I weigh close to 200 pounds, and at 5 feet 4 inches, I am solidly built. My family is full of stocky individuals, so I don't know why I'm afraid to tell my parents about a guy I am dating while away at university.
12/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 7
Dear Annie: Albert Schweitzer once said, "Sometimes our light goes out, but it is blown again into flame by an encounter with another human being." The darkness that sets in when a child has died is all too well-known by members of The ...

12/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 6
Dear Annie: I am 48 years old and my brother is a year older. I have always helped my parents with everything. When I was 13 and my grandparents became ill, I did all the housecleaning, yard work and food shopping for them. Now I am always the one who ...

12/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 5
Dear Annie: I've been married 34 years. My husband is a soccer fan, as in fanatic. When our children were growing up, he would either play or coach five days a week. On Sundays he would get to the field at around 8 a.m. and leave after 5 p.m. ...

12/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 4
Dear Annie: I am a 40ish divorced woman. Several months ago I met "Daniel" and fell head over heels. One night, I caught him with someone else. I knew she was at his house, so I went over and introduced myself. I had slept with him for the ...

12/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 3
Dear Annie: The holidays are fast approaching and I need your advice. Six years ago, our youngest son was living out of state. He met a young woman, married her, and they now have two children. We met her briefly before the wedding, and she has been ...

12/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 2
Dear Annie: My wife and I are both 67 and recently retired. During my career I became quite friendly with "Mary," a co-worker. We developed crushes on each other and things escalated. What began with innocent lunches became daily flirtations ...

12/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, December 1
Dear Annie: I have been in a Bunco group for several years now. We all get along great, and I really look forward to our monthly adult time together. The problem is that every time it's "Nancy's" turn to host, she lets her 8-year-old ...

11/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 30
Dear Annie: I'm not sure how to handle a situation with my husband. Our cell phones look identical. The other night, as I went to run some errands, I grabbed his by mistake. When a text message came in from his supervisor, I read it because I thought ...

11/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 29
Dear Annie: I am a 19-year-old girl with wonderful parents. The problem is my 15-year-old sister, "Siena." She does drugs, disobeys, lies, sneaks out of the house and is close to flunking out of school. I hate to see all the stress ...

11/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 28
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my 14-year-old grandson has been taking money from my billfold. I called his mother about it. She confronted him and he admitted it. However, so far I haven't received an apology from him. My daughter is a ...

11/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 27
Dear Readers: Today is Thanksgiving. We hope you are lucky enough to be spending the holiday with loving family and friends. Here's one of our favorite Thanksgiving pieces, author unknown: Thanksgiving Prayer:   We ...

11/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 26
Dear Annie: Good friends of ours visit frequently, often staying in our home three or four days. We welcome their visits, but recently the wife has begun wearing low-cut blouses revealing lots of cleavage. I am very uncomfortable with this, especially ...

11/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 25
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Mattie," is 23 and has a 1-year-old daughter. She moved in with us when she found out she was pregnant and is still here. She has since lost her job and does nothing. She gets unemployment and some child support ...

11/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 24
Dear Annie: My brother, "William," was recently arrested for taking inappropriate pictures of my 8-year-old niece. I wasn't surprised. Two years ago, my daughter said Uncle William had taken pictures of her, too. At the time, we weren't sure ...

11/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 23
Dear Annie: When my husband retired from the military, he was offered a great job in another state. The pay is terrific and there is a wonderful pension plan. The problem is this city. It is unfriendly, crime-ridden and filled with alcoholics ...

11/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 22
Dear Annie: I am a 47-year-old male, own my own business and work hard. My dad is 77, widowed and semi-mobile. He recently moved out of the busy city to live near me in the suburbs. I encouraged this so we could keep an eye on him. The problem ...

11/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 21
Dear Annie: What do you do when it is not your teenager's friend who is the bad influence but the friend's mother? "Betty" tells my daughter, "Chloe," that if she wants to go out with someone we disapprove of to tell us she is ...

11/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 20
Dear Annie: I am a freshman in college and have been with my boyfriend, a senior in high school, for two years. Before I graduated, we were inseparable. Now that I'm two hours away, it's taking a huge toll on me. I started out liking my college,...

11/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 19
Dear Annie: My sister and her husband have some habits that really turn me off when I visit. They leave dirty pots and pans on the stove for weeks. They allow used dishes, cups and utensils to pile up in the sink until it is overflowing. They have a ...

11/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 18
Dear Annie: I've just begun a new graduate program with a very small class. My classmates like to meet for drinks after or go out during the week. They always ask me to come along, and I always say no. I really like all of them and enjoy their company,...

11/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 17
Dear Annie: I'm 14 and have a good friend I'll call "Emily." Emily recently told me she is having trouble with her boyfriend, and she is scratching herself. Her boyfriend is controlling. He'll call her when she's at the mall and ask, &...

11/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 16
Dear Annie: A year ago, I fell hard for a very good friend of my husband. I love my husband, but I think it is simply out of habit rather than anything real. "Tony" is single and I believe he cares for me more than he is willing to ...

11/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 15
Dear Annie: My sister and I are very close. We had our weddings a month apart and are guardians for each other's children in the event of death. In the past, we've often celebrated our anniversaries together. A year ago, my husband and I were ...

11/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 14
Dear Annie: My boyfriend's ex-wife called and said their 19-month-old son had bitten another child at daycare. This isn't so unusual, but what bothers me is that the daycare provider put dish soap on his tongue. Wouldn't this be considered some form ...

11/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 13
Dear Annie: I am 60 years old and have been divorced for a year. A month ago, I started a relationship with "Ted," a 72-year-old divorced man who is also seeing two other women. He says there are many lonely women in this world and, if I don'...

11/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 12
Dear Annie: My 34-year-old nephew brought his computer to a shop to be fixed. On the hard drive, the repairman found three videos and 15 pictures of child pornography. My nephew was arrested and is facing jail time. He has asked numerous people to ...

11/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 11
Dear Annie: My husband, "Mike," and I have been married two years. Shortly after we married, his retired parents moved about five hours away. They visit once a month (for doctors appointments, etc.) and stay at least five days. They always ...

11/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 10
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Alicia," is married and pregnant. The problem is, her husband is very abusive and I fear for her life. She is young and he is her first love, and she will not leave him even though she could be in danger. Alicia ...

11/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 9
Dear Annie: I work for a wonderful company as an "administrative assistant extraordinaire." I love what I do and do it well, and I adore the owners. A major headache for me is "Maxine," the woman who covers for me when I'm ...

11/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 8
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Kerry" for two years. I spend all my energy cleaning up after him. When I ask him to help out more, he'll comply by doing the dishes once. His negative attitude drains me of any desire to be intimate, so he ...

11/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 7
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my husband of 20 years fell in love with another woman. Nothing physical happened between them, but it was definitely an emotional affair. Eventually, she found another job, and my husband and I went into counseling. <...

11/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 6
Dear Annie: A year ago, I was invited to invest in the company where I worked and become a part-owner. My husband and I took out a second mortgage and refinanced everything to buy in. It was great at first, but now everything is going downhill. ...

11/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 5
Dear Annie: I am a widower and recently got engaged to "Dyann." We are planning on getting married soon, but a few things have me puzzled. My wife-to-be told me she had been married and divorced. She had a child living with her who I ...

11/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 4
Dear Annie: My son and daughter-in-law are no longer on speaking terms with my husband and me. A year ago, they wanted us to sign something for them and said if we didn't sign, they would no longer let us see our grandchildren. My husband refused and ...

11/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 3
Dear Annie: Due to financial setbacks, my sister and her two children have been living with my husband and me for over a year. The problem is that her 6-year-old son is a mama's boy. "Alan" refuses to listen to anyone. He throws tantrums ...

11/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 2
Dear Annie: I have worked with "Gloria" for several years. I've always enjoyed looking at photographs of her two kids, but lately I've become uncomfortable with these snapshots. Gloria's daughter just turned 12, and all the pictures ...

11/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, November 1
Dear Annie: For the past 20 years, my family has spent Thanksgiving with my father, but last year Dad and I had a big blowup. We both said a lot of hurtful things. My mother is not around to help us reconcile. The only attempt my father has made to ...

10/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 31
Dear Annie: I feel like the worst parent in the world right now, and I can't talk to anyone about this. My 14-year-old son had his friend "Jake" over yesterday. When I opened the door to his bedroom, it was apparent that Jake was ...

10/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 30
Dear Annie: For 10 years, I've bitten my lip while my mother-in-law says things that are emotionally abusive and critical. She tells me she'll never accept me, I need to lose weight, I'll be a horrible mother when I have kids, etc. Dealing with her is ...

10/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 29
Dear Annie: I have been married for 10 years and have one son. He's now at an age when he is starting to notice how much my husband's sister hates me. I have no idea why. What do I say when he asks, "Why does Aunt Jane look at you with a mean ...

10/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 28
Dear Annie: Thirty years ago, I married an abusive man and had two children. Four years later, pregnant and miserable, I ran away and left the children with their paternal aunt to raise. Then I met "Joe." I lied on the marriage license (with ...

10/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 27
Dear Annie: "Daniel," the guy I've been seeing for two years, is a married man. I didn't know it until we'd been seeing each other for eight months. We've been living together ever since. I love him with all my heart, but I'm getting sick ...

10/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 26
Dear Annie: My father was a vile, cruel man who for 12 years molested, threatened, humiliated and beat my sisters and me. We never told my mother about the sexual abuse. I once brought up the subject indirectly, and she said she'd first kill our ...

10/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 25
Dear Annie: My mother divorced when I was 6 years old and remarried when I was 12. My sister and I never had a relationship with our biological father, thus our stepfather was the only father in our lives. When my mother had two more children, "...

10/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 24
Dear Annie: Yesterday, my doctor said I could no longer be her patient because I was on Medicare and the reimbursements were too low. She told me not to bother trying to find another doctor because they were all doing the same thing. I am now ...

10/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 23
Dear Annie: My eldest son, "Ben," is 44 years old and still a huge concern for my husband and me. Ben recently broke up with his fourth wife after only one year of marriage. His relationship with his three former wives lasted about ...

10/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 22
Dear Annie: My friend "Beth" divorced her husband three years ago. The divorce was amicable. They had no children together, although Beth has a child from a previous marriage. Shortly after the divorce, I learned from a very reliable source ...

10/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 21
Dear Annie: I've been married for 17 years and have a 16-year-old son. My husband leaves for work at 5 a.m. and doesn't get home until after 7 p.m. He eats in the family room and watches TV until he nods off. He rouses himself for bed around 10, and ...

10/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 20
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Sue," has a pit bull. She's had this dog since it was a puppy. When Sue came to stay with us for a while, she brought the dog. Long story short, the dog bit my 6-year-old son and he had to have a couple of stitches. ...

10/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 19
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Daisy," has discovered the world of blogging. While I enjoy seeing photos and reading news about my brother, his wife and their children, Daisy has recently been posting unkind remarks about my parents. ...

10/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 18
Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old college student who works full time. My biggest problem isn't that I have to work so hard. It's that it seems I'm the only one who needs to. Many of my classmates receive grants and financial aid that cover tuition, ...

10/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 17
Dear Annie: I'm a 17-year-old boy. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a month and are extremely happy, but we have one problem. Her friends and my brother are all trying to pressure us to have sex, even though we made the decision to wait. <...

10/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 16
Dear Annie: I've been married 10 years and have two beautiful children and one meddling mother-in-law. "Jan" sometimes displays bizarre behavior that makes me worry about my children's safety. When our son was 5 weeks old, Jan begged ...

10/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 15
Dear Annie: Five years ago, I had a mortgage of $15,000 left on my home. My daughter, "Jacey," wanted to buy a house, but her husband's credit was bad and she couldn't get a bank loan, so she asked me to take out a second mortgage and give ...

10/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 14
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two wonderful daughters, ages 5 and 6. We have always wanted to adopt a child and have decided it's time. We are well into the process of adopting through our local foster care system, and our girls are thrilled to be ...

10/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 13
Dear Annie: My son, "Quentin," has always had a problem telling the truth. It started in kindergarten and became worse over time. He's a grown man now and will lie about anything from what he was doing an hour ago to whether he lost his job.<...

10/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 12
Dear Annie: My sister, "Julie," has been married four times and none of her marriages lasted long. She is now single again and living in an apartment for seniors. Julie has three sons, all of whom married controlling women who hate ...

10/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 11
Dear Annie: My friend has a 7-year-old daughter, "Lindsay," who is completely out of control. It's almost like she has no conscience. Lindsay needs to be the center of attention all of the time and always has to have her own way. She's quite ...

10/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 10
Dear Annie: I go to college far from home, so the little time I spend with my family is very precious to me. However, each time I come back there seems to be a larger and larger space between my parents, who have been married nearly 30 years. When I'm ...

10/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 9
Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl living a wonderful life. Last year, I started attending a new school and, between the huge amounts of homework and the rudeness of my classmates, it was a terrible experience. But it got better over time, especially ...

10/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 8
Dear Annie: I have two children with my husband, and he has a son from his first marriage. My mother-in-law treats my stepson, "Luke," so much better than the other kids. She has Luke's pictures all over her house, but none of our children. ...

10/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 7
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Josh," a wonderful man, for just over a month. We were instant friends and started off our romance extremely slowly. We have a lot in common. He lives two hours away and sees me on weekends. This past ...

10/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 6
Dear Annie: My wife, "Nellie," and I are both professionals in our late 20s with no children. Twice a month, Nellie has a girls night out with three of her friends. Occasionally, they will go to a club or a movie, but most of the time they ...

10/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 5
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Edgar," a 37-year-old man, for about four months. Everything is great, but I have one question. Edgar likes to groom me. This means he looks over my skin, face and body and tries to remove any blemishes....

10/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 4
Dear Annie: We live in an upper-middle-class neighborhood adjacent to a community park. Once a year, there is a "community day" at the park with a parade, rides for the children, ethnic food and fireworks. Since we live so close, we always ...

10/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 3
Dear Annie: For at least five years, my mother-in-law has been receiving nasty harassing telephone calls from my sister-in-law, "Cruella." These calls usually pertain to Cruella's distorted belief that Mom doesn't accept her as a worthy ...

10/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 2
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He is wonderful, except he still pays the cell phone bill for his former girlfriend, "Valerie." Val's mother and father are also on the plan and can easily afford their own ...

10/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, October 1
Dear Annie: I live overseas. A few months ago, my niece, "Linda," came to visit for the second time. She is 17 years old. I discovered the hard way that Linda is being raised by overprotective parents who give her everything she wants....

09/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 30
Dear Annie: My late husband and I started a business together. When he died, I asked my two sons, "John" and "Philip," to take over. Philip became money hungry and sued his brother and me. He is no longer part of the business, and ...

09/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 29
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for three years, and we both teach at the same high school. Last semester, a new female teacher took quite a liking to my husband, who is 20 years her senior. They began meeting a few times a week for ...

09/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 28
Dear Annie: I married "Chris," a wonderful man, last year. I have grown children from my previous marriage and so does Chris. He was divorced nearly 10 years before I met him. Chris' daughter, "Emily," informed him early on ...

09/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 27
Dear Annie: I have been married to a wonderful man for over 10 years. We have two young children. He is a great dad and good husband. In the last two years, sex has become an issue. I've suggested date nights and other little things to keep ...

09/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 26
Dear Annie: We have great friends who will be staying with us next month. The problem is, they want to bring their little dog, "Darling." The dog is old, cantankerous, longhaired and given a bath only three times a year. She is incontinent ...

09/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 25
Dear Annie: Our grandson died a year ago at the age of 15. His death was the result of playing the extremely dangerous "choking game." Thousands of kids between the ages of 9 and 16 are playing this game. There are other names for it, such ...

09/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 24
Dear Annie: Our 80-year-old mother has become addicted to gambling. My father would be rolling in his grave if he knew she'd gone through all his hard-earned retirement savings. Mom has a great monthly pension plan, but the money is being used ...

09/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 23
Dear Annie: For the past 20 years, we have vacationed with another family. Now that all our kids are in college, we decided to take a couples-only trip this winter. We all agreed to go to a beach resort. Our friends read about nude resorts on ...

09/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 22
Dear Annie: I have been married for 16 years and have three young children. My husband works 12-hour rotating shifts and is gone from the house at least 15 hours a day. My problem is, on his days off, my husband volunteers to referee local ...

09/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 21
Dear Annie: At 81, I thought I had my life pretty well under control, but now I have a real problem. One of my high-school acquaintances achieved considerable success as an actor. You would probably recognize his name. Over the years, we have ...

09/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 20
Dear Annie: My parents are in their late 70s. I have two siblings, and there is one 32-year-old grandchild, "Debbie." Since she was a baby, Debbie has been my mother's darling. When Debbie was married, my parents paid her rent, which ...

09/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 19
Dear Annie: I am a 28-year-old single female. I just got a promotion and moved closer to my job. I am doing great and even got a raise. I am pretty happy with my life, but I still have this empty feeling. I have been with my employer for eight years, ...

09/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 18
Dear Annie: For 18 years, I had a great relationship with my mother-in-law, but last year she did something totally out of bounds. During my daughter's last year of high school, she talked about getting dreadlocks. I didn't want her to graduate ...

09/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 17
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl, and my friend "Kendall" has stolen a ring from me. I've known Kendall for a couple of years, and recently we've become best friends. I invited her over to my house and showed her the ring, and she really ...

09/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 16
Dear Annie: My 28-year-old divorced daughter will be getting married soon. Occasionally, my husband and I baby-sit our 6-year-old granddaughter. During our weekly visits, our granddaughter sometimes tells us things that are a little disturbing. The ...

09/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 15
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been happily married for more than 25 years. We both work, but I run my own business out of our home. Several times a week I like to cross-dress. I'm talking clothes, wig, makeup, the works. I find the feel of women's ...

09/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 14
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for 14 years and we have a 10-year-old daughter. "Jim" recently joined a local gym and goes there four nights a week. He's made several friends, and after their workout, they go ...

09/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 13
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Bob" for 10 years. This is a second marriage for both of us. Bob has no children of his own and has been a fantastic stepfather to my grown kids. Bob has one sister, "Elsa," who is 16 years older ...

09/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 12
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my sister invited us to her home, where she also had other guests who were rude to us, and whose teenage son hit my 6-year-old boy numerous times. When I confronted the teen's father, the man repeatedly poked me in the ...

09/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 11
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Shawn" for a little over a year. We are very much in love and talking about marriage. Shawn has an excellent career. I have been unemployed for the last couple of months, and he has not let me forget it. Every ...

09/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 10
Dear Annie: I am 51, have been married for 17 years and have three kids. A year ago, my wife and I ran into "Sue," an old friend of mine. I had not spoken to her for at least 15 years. We talked briefly and it was somewhat awkward. She was ...

09/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 9
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Dan" for a year. My mother-in-law, "Mabel," has never accepted me and let me know it at our wedding. She showed up in a black dress complete with mourning veil. Dan told me that was just her way ...

09/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 8
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently had our first child. We take turns taking care of the baby so we can each get some rest. When "Jimmy" was 3 weeks old, he had colic and cried nonstop for several days. My husband got mad, said he ...

09/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 7
Dear Annie: I used to be very close to my in-laws and often told people if I could have placed a "special order" for in-laws, they would have fit the bill. My father-in-law died 10 years ago. For a long time, we played golf together ...

09/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 6
Dear Annie: My mother passed away unexpectedly four months ago. My 71-year-old father has had a hard go of things, needing to learn how to cook, clean, wash clothes and pay bills. Until recently, my husband and I had been having Dad over once a week ...

09/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 5
Dear Annie: Please help me understand my 15-year-old child. We've always had a great mother-son relationship, and my husband and I did everything possible to give him a good education, spend time with him, read to him, play with him and love him to no ...

09/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 4
Dear Annie: I am 30 years old and have been in an off-and-on relationship for the past seven years. My boyfriend is in the Army and scheduled to go to Iraq soon. We've talked about marriage and kids, and we both want that someday. The problem ...

09/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 3
Dear Annie: I am writing to encourage your readers to take care of their cardiovascular health. September is Vascular Disease Awareness Month, and there is no better time to remember to take care of our heart and arteries. In 1987, I woke up in ...

09/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 2
Dear Annie: My wife of 15 years and I are at an impasse. A year ago, her 30-year-old daughter, "Carol," moved in with us and brought her dogs along. We are both on fixed incomes, but the added expense and chores don't seem to bother my wife.<...

09/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, September 1
Dear Annie: My sister, "Rita," lives with my widowed mother. Mom is 73 and in a wheelchair. She has a hard time getting out the front door on her own, so she never goes out without Rita. She won't take the handicapped bus because she thinks ...

08/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 31
Dear Annie: My daughter is married to a wonderful young man and they have a new baby girl. Unfortunately, her in-laws live in the filthiest house you can imagine. They have never cleaned or thrown anything away. They don't even own a vacuum. Not only ...

08/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 30
Dear Annie: I've been married eight years, and the entire time there have been problems between my mother and my husband. I'm used to my mother's rude, disrespectful ways, but my husband is not. To avoid constant criticism and bickering, we ...

08/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 29
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a single male friend who built a beautiful home four years ago. He'd have us over for a barbecue at his new place once or twice a year. Lately, though, it appears he has not cleaned the house since he first moved in.
08/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 28
Dear Annie: Recently, my mother-in-law called my husband's cell phone while he was at work. The phone went to his voicemail, which has my voice asking the caller to leave a message. The next day, she called my husband crying and accusing me of hanging ...

08/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 27
Dear Annie: I just started my sophomore year in college and plan on going through sorority recruitment. I've thought about the pros and cons and think it would be a good idea for me to join a sorority. The problem is, last year, when I brought ...

08/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 26
Dear Annie: Three months ago, my husband and I accompanied my 71-year-old mother to our home in California. She was released to my care because the authorities in Pennsylvania felt she could no longer manage on her own. She has a history of mental ...

08/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 25
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married nearly 50 years. For the last 20, there has been no sex, which is her wish. We do not fuss or fight, and I am sure our friends think everything is fine with us. I have tried several times to talk to ...

08/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 24
Dear Annie: I am concerned about my dear friend, "Laura." She has always been a drinker, but recently her drinking has increased to an alarming level. When Laura is sober, she is a vivacious, outgoing, fun-loving, beautiful person. ...

08/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 23
Dear Annie: I suspect our 16-year-old daughter has been shoplifting. I don't have any concrete evidence to support this — it's just a gut feeling — but I have seen some expensive items in her room that we didn't buy for her, such as a gold ...

08/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 22
Dear Annie: My wife has a wonderful, loving relationship with our married daughter, "Lena," who lives some distance away. They talk every day. This is very important to her, as our sons have not been as loving and considerate as one would ...

08/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 21
Dear Annie: After 18 years of a roller-coaster marriage, I find myself divorced. At the time, I thought it was what I wanted. My husband was verbally and emotionally abusive. He would also destroy my personal property and refuse to attend family ...

08/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 20
Dear Annie: "DPN" asked why men have affairs. When a man drifts, it's all emotion and hormones. We fear getting old. When we come home to wives who are exhausted from work, raising children and doing chores, and who don't have enough energy (...

08/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 19
Dear Annie: I am 19 years old. A family member sexually abused me until the age of 17. I reported it, but when I needed my parents the most, they were not there for me. They were upset about my accusation and made me recant. I just finished my ...

08/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 18
Dear Annie: I had always dreamed of planning my daughter's wedding. I didn't want to upset her budding relationship with her future mother-in-law, but then the two of them planned it all — even shopping for her wedding gown. How do I tell her ...

08/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 17
Dear Annie: We are desperate for help. Two years ago, our son's wife asked him for a divorce. At first, no reason was given except that she no longer loved him. Shortly after they separated, we found out she had been having an affair with his best ...

08/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 16
Dear Annie: I was absolutely appalled by the letter from "Not an Enabler," the pharmacist's wife who said, "If an adult is hungry, homeless or uninsured in this country, they have made a conscious decision to remain so." There are ...

08/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 15
Dear Annie: I'm a proud father of two handsome boys, ages 14 and 11. Their mother and I are divorced. I recently found out through DNA testing that my 14-year-old is not my biological son. This has devastated my family. When I called my ex-wife about ...

08/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 14
Dear Annie: My co-workers and I are experiencing a very awkward situation. I work for a large company. My department consists of a dozen employees and one female supervisor (I am her assistant). About eight months ago, a supervisor for another ...

08/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 13
Dear Annie: I have the sinking feeling that my parents, who have been married for 20 years, don't love each other anymore. Mom and Dad are always insulting each other. They never give compliments or even say I love you, except on special occasions. ...

08/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 12
Dear Annie: My wife and I have two toddler children. When my son was a year old, my wife began to hit him as a form of discipline. I strongly objected and this led to many fights between us. This wasn't the only problem. My wife is verbally and ...

08/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 11
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old girl with a big problem. A few weeks ago, I did something I regret very much. After learning that my three best friends had once again excluded me from some inside joke, I got on MySpace and remarked to a friend at ...

08/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 10
Dear Annie: I have four daughters under the age of 10. We live on a quiet suburban cul-de-sac, which we value as a safe place to raise our family. Last year, a new family moved in and they have slightly older kids. We've become friends with the entire ...

08/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 9
Dear Annie: My mother is 84 and lives in California. She's mentally competent but suffers from a variety of illnesses and is on medication for depression and high blood pressure. She's also been taking sleeping pills since my father's death seven ...

08/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 8
Dear Annie: My son recently turned 40. We were told that he and his wife were too busy to have any kind of birthday celebration. My husband and I, along with his grandparents and brother's family, didn't want the occasion to pass without ...

08/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 7
Dear Annie: I have been married more than 30 years. I've worked hard to keep myself attractive for my husband, but he has told me repeatedly I am not what he wants sexually, even though he expects me to be available to him at all times. There ...

08/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 6
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Max" for 22 years. There were some happy times in the beginning after our children (now 20 and 24) were born, but not many since. Max is very controlling and treats his family as objects. Our ...

08/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 5
Dear Annie: My mother recently married a nice man. Unfortunately, my new stepbrother isn't so nice. I'm 18 and "Chuck" is 16. While my mother was dating my stepfather, Chuck and I got along pretty well. Once they married, however, he ...

08/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 4
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for seven years. We hit a rough patch during the last two, and it led to my having an emotional affair with a co-worker (no sex involved). My husband found out the day before I took my maternity leave. He ...

08/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 3
Dear Annie: My adult son, "Nick," has been hospitalized more than a dozen times and treated in emergency rooms nearly 100 times over the past 18 years. He has shot himself, stabbed himself in the liver (both "accidental") and has ...

08/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 2
Dear Annie: My dad is in the hospital for the fourth time in a year. Yesterday, a specialist finally admitted that Dad's chief problem has likely been inappropriate drugs prescribed by his family physician. Ten years ago, Dad was in good health ...

08/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, August 1
Dear Annie: I am a 22-year-old college-educated woman preparing to marry my high-school sweetheart. My parents divorced when I was 11 years old. My father had been emotionally and physically abusive toward my mother. My younger sister and I stayed ...

07/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 31
Dear Annie: My husband is an only child, as are both his parents. They have no interests, no hobbies, no friends, no family and no social life. They are stuffed shirts and tightwads. They also are gossips, which means people who know them don't care ...

07/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 30
Dear Annie: I am at my wits' end with a co-worker. Six of us work together as top aides to the head of our organization. For the past nine years, we have all sat in our office for lunch. A new director joined our organization this past year and ...

07/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 29
Dear Annie: My husband and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. We have three beautiful daughters and a grandchild on the way. Since the beginning of my marriage, I have worked two full-time jobs and additional part-time jobs when ...

07/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 28
Dear Annie: I am a 45-year-old man who met the woman of my dreams. We have been married for three years and I love her with all my being. The problem is her 16-year-old daughter, "Bunny." She is mean, evil and does not respect her mother or ...

07/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 27
Dear Annie: I live with my boyfriend, "Mike," in a very small apartment. Last month, his mother and 14-year-old sister moved in. They had nowhere else to go. Mike's sister sleeps on our couch and his mother sleeps on the living room ...

07/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 26
Dear Annie: I recently discovered that my stepmother has been using cocaine and meth. She is in her 40s and has two young children. I always thought she was a little nuts, but I never suspected she was using drugs. I am just baffled by this. I ...

07/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 25
Dear Annie: My husband, "John," and I have been married for 15 years. We have no children. For a number of years, we lived like roommates with no physical relationship. A couple of years ago, John admitted he was in love with another ...

07/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 24
Dear Annie: I am a 14-year-old girl in ninth grade, and I am really worried that I'm going to die. I don't mean I think I'm going to die immediately. But someday. Honestly, it scares me to death and has even made me cry a few times. These feelings are ...

07/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 23
Dear Annie: My frustration with my husband's lack of income has become so intense it's threatening our relationship. We've been married 15 years and have two kids. He's been self-employed since he was laid off five years ago. The first three years, ...

07/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 22
Dear Annie: For the past 20 years, it's been my husband's dream to bring his sister and her three children to the United States from a Third World country. After spending our life's savings and countless hours of paperwork, they are here. My ...

07/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 21
Dear Annie: My 19-year-old daughter, "Jessye," just finished her freshman year at college. Two weeks before, she called to say she had run out of food money, so I sent her $100. I later found out she had flown to Florida before final exams. ...

07/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 20
Dear Annie: My teenage son hangs around with a nice group of friends. One of the young ladies, "Berta," seems interested in him. She is a little on the quiet side but seems pleasant and would be pretty if she would only brush her teeth. She ...

07/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 19
Dear Annie: I appreciate the honesty of "Tired of Paying," the 50-something single man who said women should pay their share on a first date. He said he was looking for a woman who is well-read, can carry on a stimulating conversation and ...

07/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 18
Dear Annie: My wife and I married 15 years ago. She has one son, "Evan." Three months after our wedding, Evan's wife divorced him. She'd been supporting him for 12 years while he drank and cheated on her. This is when he started mooching off ...

07/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 17
Dear Annie: My father-in-law has lung cancer, and for over six months I took him to all his doctor appointments and treatments. Then he called me, saying he no longer needed my help, that he had someone else to do the driving and run the errands. I ...

07/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 16
Dear Annie: My mother suffers from Alzheimer's and has not really been with us mentally for the last 15 years. She is in a home and my father visits regularly. Dad is in his mid-70s. About 10 years ago, he started seeing a woman several years my ...

07/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 15
Dear Annie: I'm a high-school student. Recently, my uncle "Joe" and I have been hanging out a lot. He gives me rides to school and picks me up from after-school activities. He also takes me to summer programs. He's a lifesaver because my ...

07/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 14
Dear Annie: My husband is in his early 50s and self-employed. We are lucky that business is good, but it means he works 24/7. At most, he might take one or two days off a month. He works from home, so I can accept his long hours, but his mood swings ...

07/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 13
Dear Annie: My wife, "Michelle," has been having an affair and I have filed for divorce. Our children do not know about the infidelity yet, but I'm sure it will come out. Right now, Michelle is on a trip with "him." The kids ask ...

07/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 12
Dear Annie: I am dating the most wonderful man in the world. "Oscar" does everything for me. He is kind and sweet. But his family is a problem. We could be in the middle of supper, but if his mother needs him to run to the store (she ...

07/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 11
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Jack" for 35 years. In the beginning, it was OK and I thought that was good enough. Jack's parents struggled to support their family, whereas my parents were very well off. Jack has often told ...

07/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 10
Dear Annie: My 30-year-old stepson, "Dan," has had problems with drugs and alcohol for years. Last year, he went through a rehab program, but shortly after got back into drugs, had a horrible fight with his wife and said he was going to kill ...

07/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 9
Dear Annie: My husband of over 25 years has a large number of friends and acquaintances listed in his e-mail address book with whom he exchanges jokes, news, pictures and, at times, porn. This sometimes includes very explicit videos. He shares ...

07/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 8
Dear Annie: I've been married to a great woman for over 16 years. We were both in our 40s when we met. We didn't have sex before the wedding, although she told me she likes it very much. However, 18 months after we married, our sex life went downhill.<...

07/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 7
Dear Annie: Two months ago, out of the blue, my 42-year-old wife of 25 years said, "I love you for the three kids you've given me and the years we've had, but I'm not in love with you anymore. I think we should separate. All I want is half the ...

07/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 6
Dear Annie: Is financially cutting off your spouse and refusing to put her on your medical insurance a form of abuse? Three years ago, I found out my husband was embezzling funds from our joint accounts by purchasing items for work, getting ...

07/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 5
Dear Annie: At the age of 19, I was a normal girl who had just started college as a dance major with dreams of opening nights and curtain calls. But a few months into my college career, kidney failure ground my world to a halt. Sick and exhausted, I ...

07/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 4
Dear Readers: Today is July 4th and the 232nd anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence. The following was written in 1955 (readers can update the statistics if they choose). We hope you enjoy it: I Am The ...

07/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 3
Dear Annie: When I was in elementary school in the 1980s, there was a contest in which students were to write and illustrate books. I thought I did a good job, but on the day of the judging, another girl won. I was not a sore loser. My problem was ...

07/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 2
Dear Annie: I am seeing a man who went through a traumatic divorce a couple of years ago. "Barry's" wife left him to marry someone else, and soon after, she left her new husband. She's now living with relatives close by. My problem is,...

07/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, July 1
Dear Annie: A few months ago, our 31-year-old son married a 27-year-old woman with two young children. They have known each other for two years. Our daughter-in-law had both children out of wedlock, each by a different father. At first, we were very ...

06/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 30
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Lara," just finished her junior year in college. Since my divorce from her father 10 years ago, she has been steadily gaining weight. The summer before college, Lara dropped some pounds and was determined not ...

06/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 29
Dear Annie: "Joni" and I were very good friends in grade school and stayed in touch through college. We are now in our late 30s, live about five hours away from each other and communicate a few times a year via e-mail. We never speak on the ...

06/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 28
Dear Annie: My younger son, "Jake," has struggled with school from Day One and was placed in special education classes. After graduation, he stayed with us while attending a local college and now has a decent job. However, while under our ...

06/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 27
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-30s and have a best friend the same age. I have known "Kyle" and his wife for a number of years, and we are involved in many activities together. I also have a younger sister, "Janice," age 23. ...

06/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 26
Dear Annie: I'm a 29-year-old guy and have never dated — and I mean never. I went on two dinner meetings that did not really qualify as dates and they never progressed further. I knew immediately that the other person wasn't for me. We both ...

06/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 25
Dear Annie: My 28-year-old niece, "Jane," has suffered from low self-esteem and depression since she was 14. She is currently seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication for attention deficit disorder. She is "wired" on this drug. ...

06/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 24
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 30s and have three kids. I am very sociable, but my husband is not. When we were dating, we went to other couples' homes for cards, pool or darts. His friends were all retirement age, but they still were ...

06/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 23
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together four years. During this time, I have been followed by detectives, watched by her friends and had some of my employees paid by my wife to "keep an eye" on me. I have been investigated by her ...

06/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 22
Dear Annie: I am 24 years old and in considerable debt due to my mother. I didn't want to press charges, so I'm struggling to pay it off. Mom won't even talk about it. I am planning to be married next year, and my fiance is helping me financially. ...

06/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 21
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Nancy" for 18 years. Two years ago, we became involved in youth programs in our community as we have three children. This gave us opportunities to meet new people. During this time, I noticed Nancy ...

06/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 20
Dear Annie: My sister, "Vera," is 53 and recently met a man 13 years younger. They have known each other six months and he has already proposed. Vera is a divorcee with no children who owns her own home and is doing well financially. ...

06/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 19
Dear Annie: "Lynne" and I have been dating for over two years, and her parents and I get along very well, but a continuing situation with her mother has me perplexed and angry. Lynne, 17, has been working part time for the last three ...

06/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 18
Dear Annie: I am going out with a great guy. He has a good job and a nice car, gets along with my family, everything. He is only a year older than I am. The problem is, he is an alcoholic. "Todd" drinks almost every night when he gets ...

06/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 17
Dear Annie: My husband and his father call each other nonstop and talk about absolutely nothing. My husband tells his dad what kind of money we make, what we're doing, if we're going somewhere, what we are fixing to eat, what we are going to watch on ...

06/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 16
Dear Annie: I am 20 years old and engaged to the girl of my dreams. "Liza" is beautiful, smart and very loving. We have no problems in our relationship. Before she dated me, Liza dated one of my best friends. In fact, I once witnessed ...

06/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 15
Dear Readers: We'd like to wish all the fathers and father figures in our reading audience a happy and wonderful Father's Day. This message recently came to our mailbox and we thought it deserved some column space. We hope you do, too: Dear ...

06/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 14
Dear Annie: I've been married for 40 years to a man who has cheated on me repeatedly. Over the years, he has given me genital warts, herpes and two other STDs. He has even been with a woman 20 years older. It says a lot for me, doesn't it? I ...

06/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 13
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been friends with "Archie and Betty" for 20 years. Betty is my true tell-everything, do-everything, knows-everything best friend, and our husbands are also "best buds." As in many friendships, one ...

06/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 12
Dear Annie: I met my husband two years ago. My mother doesn't care for him, and I have no idea why. She told me there was no way he could love me and that I didn't love him. After she came to my apartment and yelled at him, I cut off contact. I ...

06/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 11
Dear Annie: I am happily married to the love of my life and we have three beautiful daughters. There's only one problem — the oldest isn't his. My husband and I met when my daughter was 5 months old. Her biological father and I were together for ...

06/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 10
Dear Annie: My mother is scheduled to visit me in a few months. Mom always feels the need to rearrange my closets and cabinets and scrub my floors. After her last visit, she told my ex-husband that my house is "disgusting." She regularly ...

06/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 9
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old son, "Denny," has always been a handful. He's much larger than most kids his age, and people expect him to behave older than he is. We live in a small community. Once a rumor starts, it gains fire rapidly. I ...

06/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 8
Dear Annie: My 55-year-old brother, "Cary," has been in and out of jail for the last couple of years. He has had problems with drugs and alcohol, and can't keep a job, so he has trouble paying child support. My mother, who passed away ...

06/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 7
Dear Annie: We recently moved back to the West Coast to be close to our son and his family. We are available whenever they need sitters for our grandchildren but keep a comfortable distance so as not to be intrusive in-laws. We have our own lives and ...

06/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 6
Dear Annie: My co-worker "Shelley" is constantly making belittling comments about me. Since she transferred to my department, she has said I look terrible in pink, my hair color is greenish and my body lotion is not to her liking. She even ...

06/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 5
Dear Annie: My husband and I have three children. Our eldest, "Bret," decided to finish his last year of college closer to home and will graduate in December. The problem is, I am unhappy with him living with us and want him to find ...

06/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 4
Dear Annie: I was married for 30 years before my husband passed away five years ago of colon cancer. During his 18 months of treatment, he was hospitalized four times for surgeries and infections, and each was followed by weeks of recuperation at home....

06/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 3
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Beth" for 18 months. We have our ups and downs, but it's a solid marriage. Beth is close friends with "Chuck," a man she dated back in high school. He's a good guy whom I trust and respect, ...

06/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 2
Dear Annie: While going for snacks at a professional baseball game, I walked past a college-age couple arguing loudly on the stairs. The man punched the girl in the face. Not sure what to do, I yelled, "Stop! Stop!" The man pulled the woman ...

06/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, June 1
Dear Annie: I have been bulimic for over four years and it is making me miserable. I hate myself every time I give in to it. I am constantly tired and every day is a struggle. I think I may be depressed. I've considered suicide, though I don't have a ...

05/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 31
Dear Annie: "Libby," a very dear friend of mine, works part time, lives on a limited income in subsidized housing and receives food stamps. Every month, she gives large amounts of money or food stamps to her grown children, who live in very ...

05/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 30
Dear Annie: My husband and I vacation every year with several other couples. We rent a house and split the costs. We always have a great time together. The problem is, one of the couples has an adult child who lives near our vacation home and ...

05/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 29
Dear Annie: Our 34-year-old daughter, "Simone," a single mother of two, has an excellent, high-paying job and spends 70-80 hours each week at work. In the meantime, her children are with me, my wife or their other grandparents. Simone ...

05/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 28
Dear Annie: My husband has a stressful job. To combat the stress, he and a co-worker play with airsoft guns after business hours. Sometimes, my husband does target shooting with the guns in the basement. I get very nervous listening to the ...

05/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 27
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a second home at the beach, and there is a guesthouse on the property. We often let our friends "The Smiths" use the guesthouse, and they frequently bring their friends. One friend, "John," is an ...

05/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 26
Dear Readers: Today is Memorial Day. In honor of all those who have served in the armed forces, we are printing this famous poem from World War I, written in 1915 by Lt. Col. John McCrae, M.D. McCrae, a Canadian, served as a surgeon in the Great War. ...

05/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 25
Dear Annie: I am a 90-year-old widower with a problem I cannot understand. I just know I don't deserve this kind of treatment. My granddaughter and her husband led me to believe they wanted me to live with them. To do so, I would have to sell ...

05/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 24
Dear Annie: I was close to both my parents growing up, but not so close to my siblings. My father died a year ago. Although we were all involved in caring for him, I was the one who helped him plan his funeral. When he died, I placed in his hands a ...

05/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 23
Dear Annie: Since I was very young, I have had an obsession with my health. As time goes on, it's gotten worse. I am in constant fear of having some kind of terminal illness and often can barely cope. I am only in my late 20s and am afraid I'm ...

05/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently turned 60 and celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. We both work full time. Lately, a lovely young woman whom my husband considers "just a friend" has been visiting him at his place of business ...

05/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 21
Dear Annie: I am a highly educated single woman in my 30s who has made many serious mistakes. I have had overlapping affairs and relationships with my co-workers, some of them married. I have come to understand that I did this because I enjoyed ...

05/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 20
Dear Annie: My wife and I have two wonderful children in their early 30s. They live in other cities, but occasionally visit us with their respective companions. We have no problem with our son's girlfriend or our daughter's boyfriend spending the ...

05/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 19
Dear Annie: I am a single female in my 60s who feels very different from anyone else. I have never had any sexual desires — not for men, not for women, not for anyone. Is this what the term "asexual" means? The idea of engaging ...

05/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 18
Dear Annie: I will be 40 this year and really want to celebrate this milestone in my life. In the past, my husband has told me he needs plenty of notice to plan something special for my birthday, but we've never done much. I don't require a lot to be ...

05/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 17
Dear Annie: I am a widow. I met a good man back in 2003 and we hit it off really well. I moved in with him at the end of the year. I am 54 and "Lou" is 50. He has always been a bachelor, with no kids. He's met my two grown children and my ...

05/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 16
Dear Annie: My 42-year-old daughter has never had the mother-daughter relationship with me that I was fortunate enough to have with my late mother. The latest incident happened 10 days ago when "Susan" called me at 8 a.m. and I had ...

05/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 15
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Siena" for five months and I care deeply about her, but she has an ex-husband, "Kevin," and they are close. He has a key to her house and comes and goes when he wants. Siena cannot have a ...

05/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 14
Dear Annie: I had this vague feeling something was wrong with my marriage so I decided to look at my husband's cell phone call log. Imagine my surprise to discover a text message from a woman. Her number showed up in three months' worth of phone bills....

05/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 13
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. We love each other madly. We worked in the same office for 15 years and retired at the same time, so we see each other constantly and almost exclusively as, by choice, we have few friends. <...

05/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 12
Dear Annie: I have been married to a great guy for over a year. We have a fantastic marriage, with one problem. Three months after we wed, our sex life slowed to a trickle. Before we married, we were having sex four or five times a week. Now it's less ...

05/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 11
Dear Readers: Happy Mother's Day to all the wonderful moms in the world. Please remember them today -- and every day. Each year, we receive dozens of poems from readers who ask us to print them on Mother's Day. Here are a few for your enjoyment: <...

05/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 10
Dear Annie: Except for a five-month period when I was married, I've lived with my father my entire life. My great-grandma lived with Dad, even while he was married. This means my father has never lived alone. My boyfriend and I plan to get a ...

05/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 9
Dear Annie: I met my present husband, "Tom," a few months after my divorce, and he's everything I ever dreamed of in a husband. Right now, we live 60 miles apart because of our jobs. Tom will retire next year and wants to live where I am, ...

05/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 8
Dear Annie: I am deeply involved with a wonderful man. I was charmed by the fact that "Arnie" remained undressed until it was time to leave the house. I soon joined him and enjoyed eating breakfast in the buff. Arnie is Dutch and was ...

05/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 7
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law is a danger to herself and others. "Dotty" has been repeatedly arrested for drunk and/or disorderly behavior. She physically hurts her 6-year-old son, and verbally abuses and physically beats on her husband. He ...

05/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 6
Dear Annie: I am 62 and have been married for three years to "Ken," who is 68. We're both retired. When I met him, Ken was very kind. There were flowers and gifts for no reason at all. We took trips and enjoyed life. Once we married, ...

05/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 5
Dear Annie: How would you profile a 33-year-old man who will not let his 31-year-old wife wear a bra? At night, on weekends and almost any other time I am not at work, my husband insists I go braless. At 31, and being fairly well-endowed, I am ...

05/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 4
Dear Annie: I have known my dear friend "Alice" for 40 years. She remarried two years ago and lives in another state. Her husband has always given me an awful feeling. He is very disrespectful, refuses to hold down a job and doesn't ...

05/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 3
Dear Annie: My parents are not in good health. They live off their Social Security checks and take care of my 42-year-old disabled sister. My 38-year-old brother, "George," has a wife and children of his own, but still gets money from my ...

05/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 2
Dear Annie: My husband has a female friend who makes me uncomfortable. Even though he says they are only friends, I don't like it. I have tried to accept the friendship because they are co-workers, but I just can't. We have always had a good ...

05/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, May 1
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has been living with us for 16 years. She hasn't said one word to my wife in six months. She hasn't spoken to me for well over 10 years. There is no cooperation from her whatsoever. Meanwhile, our living situation ...

04/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 30
Dear Annie: My sister, "Ruth," is 10 years younger than me. She thinks I am the spoiled one and I am convinced she is. Ruth lives in another state and has not visited my home in years. She telephoned about coming for Christmas, and my ...

04/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 29
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Meg," moved to Florida to attend college and graduate school. She is now engaged to a nice young man and will marry in June. My daughter has always been very flat chested, like me. On my last visit, however, ...

04/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 28
Dear Annie: I recently discovered that my husband is addicted to painkillers. He buys them illegally from people (he calls them "friends") on the street. I have noticed a marked change in his personality since he's been taking the ...

04/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 27
Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old male. Four months ago, my girlfriend and I broke up after three years together. "Felicity" wanted the split. I still love her. We had our share of problems and I have some trust issues. I also was very ...

04/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 26
Dear Annie: Several years ago, my husband quit drinking. He did not discuss his decision with me or anyone else. He does not attend AA meetings. "Bob" has become an attentive partner and a man I love and respect deeply, but he also ...

04/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 25
Dear Annie: My husband is very close to his sister, "Cynthia." I also like her very much, as does our 16-year-old daughter. Since Cynthia lives in another state, we see her only a few times a year and she usually stays in our home. We ...

04/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 24
Dear Annie: I recently found out that when my daughter was 7 years old, she was raped at least three times by her 13-year-old cousin. She had been holding this in and finally had an emotional meltdown. The timing of these incidents happened when her ...

04/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 23
Dear Annie: "Britany" is in a special ed program at my school. She is really nice and I try to include her in conversations with my friends. At the end of the year, there is a separate prom for the students in special ed. Britany asked if I ...

04/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our 40s. We have been married for 15 years and had a marriage most people would envy. We have no children. My husband recently admitted to an indiscretion with a woman he has known for four years. This is not ...

04/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 21
Dear Annie: My sister won dancing lessons for two. Her husband couldn't go because of his work schedule, so she asked me. I agreed and asked my husband if he'd like to take the classes along with us, but he wasn't interested. Sis and I really ...

04/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 20
Dear Annie: I am a 40-year-old single woman who happens to have broad shoulders. In my 30s, people occasionally joked that I looked like a guy, and over the years, it's gotten progressively worse. Although I do my best to be feminine (hair, makeup, ...

04/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 19
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my mother came to live with us. Our children are grown and I was looking forward to being alone with my husband, but Mom refused to go to a senior facility. Since I hadn't lived with her for over 40 years, she seemed like ...

04/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 18
Dear Annie: My boyfriend, "Sam," and I have been together for over two years. My family has been talking to me lately about breaking up with him. I don't think Sam is abusive, but my family feels he is. He is very controlling and I ...

04/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 17
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-50s and have known since childhood that I am gay, but have always lived as a straight man. I met my wife in graduate school. I liked her as a friend and, after many years, gave in and married her. I was lonely and couldn't ...

04/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 16
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for three years. It's a second marriage for both of us. The other day, I was working on a photo wall collage and ran across some pictures I'm sure I was not supposed to see. They are snaps of my husband's ...

04/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 15
Dear Annie: Did you know that young people strive to make a positive difference in the world? In fact, millions of young people volunteer every year, and the number continues to grow. Please let your readers know about the 20th Annual Global Youth ...

04/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 14
Dear Annie: I have been married for 12 years and have three wonderful kids. I recently discovered that my husband has been a sperm donor for more than nine months. I confronted him after I saw the check for $6,000, and after two days of pushing ...

04/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 13
Dear Annie: For the last 18 months, my sister's two young daughters have been living with my mother. My sister has a history of alcohol and drug abuse, and though she cleaned up and was a good parent for many years, she fell apart during her divorce ...

04/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 12
Dear Annie: My wife is overly attached to her parents. Just before bed and the first thing in the morning, she calls to check in with her folks. They also call her multiple times each day. These are the same parents who prevented her from attending ...

04/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 11
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband, "Don," had an affair with a family friend. I discovered them kissing in the kitchen. I also found out Don's family knew about the affair. My sister-in-law actually provided a place for them to ...

04/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 10
Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband present extremely well in public. In fact, they are foster parents to infants. But behind closed doors, things are very ugly. The foster babies are well cared for and my daughter requires the extra income ...

04/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 9
Dear Annie: A friend of mine has a major milestone birthday coming up this summer. A group of his teammates from a sports league wants to surprise him by renting a house in a resort town 800 miles away. They plan to split the birthday guy's share of ...

04/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 8
Dear Annie: Every 29 seconds, another student drops out of the U.S. public school system. Before this year ends, more than 1 million children will have dropped out — passing on their best chance for a productive adulthood. Strengthening ...

04/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 7
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 21 years. We have two sons, "Sam," age 13, and "Brett," age 9. My wife and Brett get along fine, but she and Sam clash frequently, despite my attempts to keep the peace. As a ...

04/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 6
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for two years and are anxiously awaiting the birth of our first child — a boy. My side of the family is very close. My husband's side is a different story. My mother-in-law and I have not ...

04/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 5
Dear Annie: My husband's parents come to town every so often, and we want to spend time with them, but my husband needs to give his boss notice to take a day off. My in-laws never give us information about their schedule, no matter how many times I ...

04/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 4
Dear Annie: My husband, "Sal," and I will be spending a romantic weekend away next month without the children. Yesterday, a package arrived for me. Sal had bought me an outfit for the occasion — a short black leather skirt, fishnet ...

04/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 3
Dear Annie: I've been seeing two women for several months. Neither relationship is that serious, and I enjoy the time I spend with them equally. However, I've reached the point where I have to choose between them. I'm looking to settle down and ...

04/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 2
Dear Annie: At 23, I'm finally finding peace and happiness in my life, taking time to enjoy friends and family, while still working really hard as a grad student. And for the first time in eight years, thanks to a combination of self-reflection, ...

04/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, April 1
Dear Annie: After a recent visit from my 25-year-old unmarried son, "Josh," I found undeniable evidence that he has been involved in several homosexual encounters. Although I can't say I am happy to learn of this, it doesn't change my ...

03/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 31
Dear Annie: I was married to "James" for seven years before our separation in November. I have since filed for divorce. James was always loving and supportive. We both wanted children from the beginning, but it took three years to get ...

03/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 30
Dear Annie: I recently learned from my wife that my in-laws have been accusing me of theft for over a year. My mother-in-law has told everyone I stole her wedding ring, and my father-in-law says I took his bottles of Kahlua. This is ...

03/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 29
Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-old divorced mother with two sons, and I've been dating "Tim" for five years. Tim is 40, never married and still lives at home with his parents and a 47-year-old brother. Tim and I were engaged (I popped the ...

03/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 28
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law, "Cheri," is gorgeous, intelligent, witty and charming. She is also spoiled, vindictive, manipulative and hurtful. Did I mention she lies? (My son jokes that she "exaggerates.") Three years ago,...

03/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 27
Dear Annie: I just discovered that my 14-year-old daughter, "Melissa," has a MySpace account where she is posing as a 21-year-old. She posted pictures of some other female and said they were of herself. A military man, 27 years old, ...

03/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 26
Dear Annie: It's been almost a year since my husband and I separated. We were married for 12 years, and for most of them, we lived like roommates. Our only real fights were triggered because I kept telling him I wanted a more intimate relationship....

03/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 25
Dear Annie: My father passed away suddenly of complications following surgery. We are all very upset, but my mother is suffering most of all. She and Dad did everything together. They were best friends and never wavered in their love for each other ...

03/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 24
Dear Annie: My son-in-law is everything a mother could pray for. He and my daughter have been married four years and have a beautiful 9-month-old child. I was babysitting in their home last week and went to check my e-mail on their computer (as ...

03/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 23
Dear Annie: My 21-year-old daughter, "Celia," has always been a compulsive nail biter. The past few years, her compulsive tendencies have gotten worse. She is a beautiful girl, but she constantly picks at her face. She wears bangs to hide ...

03/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 22
Dear Annie: I've been married a long time, and my husband has always been difficult, sullen and verbally abusive. Some years ago, I made him see a doctor, who diagnosed a chemical imbalance and prescribed medication. When he was taking his meds,...

03/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 21
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been going out since I was 14. We are now both 17 and still virgins. "Jack" thinks it's time we take our relationship a little further, if you know what I mean. I love Jack a lot, but to tell you ...

03/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 20
Dear Annie: I'm planning to marry a wonderful gentleman in a few months. We are both in our 50s and extremely happy. We have been involved in a long-distance relationship for nearly two years. I have met most of "Cal's" family and ...

03/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 19
Dear Annie: Every week, a group of my neighbors and friends meets for dinner. "Veronica," a friend of our neighbor's for many years, is morbidly obese. For the past few months, she has had an overwhelming and offensive odor of stale urine. ...

03/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 18
Dear Annie: When my daughter, "Caryn," was 18, she ran off with a fellow and eloped. We had no contact for six months. A year later, she gave birth to a son. Within two weeks, she was divorced and living with us. We helped raise "...

03/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 17
Dear Annie: I need your advice. Last year, I asked my son-in-law to help with some work on my house and yard. One day, I came home from the office, kicked off my heels and lay down on the couch. My son-in-law came in from working outside to get a ...

03/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 16
Dear Annie: I am a freshman in high school and have many close friends to whom I am very loyal. Recently, though, I discovered that a few of them drink and/or smoke pot. I want to say something to them, but I'm afraid of what they will think of ...

03/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 15
Dear Annie: My 80-year-old aunt is taking the antidepressant Xanax. I am concerned because she also has a nightly cocktail. She assures me that her doctor approves of this. I have done some research, and everything I've read states it is not ...

03/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 14
Dear Annie: I am the father of five children, four of whom are adults. My two oldest sons, "Jason" and "Jared," are married, but their wives hate each other and refuse to attend family functions where the other may be present. <...

03/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 13
Dear Annie: "Rupert" and I have been married nearly two years. I guess you could say the marriage was unplanned because we married when I became unexpectedly pregnant. I thought Rupert would be happy that I was having his child, since he'd ...

03/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 12
Dear Annie: My doctor recently told me I need to get rid of the stress in my life or I'm likely to have a stroke. My blood pressure is through the roof. At the age of 59, I've decided getting rid of stress means I need a divorce, but I don't want to ...

03/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 11
Dear Annie: Last year, my boyfriend was caught soliciting a 16-year-old girl over the Internet. "John" was drunk and high on cocaine at the time. He was an addict and I was aware of it. I chose to stay with him anyway. John has to ...

03/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 10
Dear Annie: I'm an 18-year-old girl who is smart, funny, cute and kind. The problem? I've never had a boyfriend or a date until now. I'm the oldest child in my family, so I'm kind of new to the whole thing. I met "Jacob" and we hit it ...

03/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 9
Dear Annie: I'm a 30-year-old woman who recently lost 40 pounds. I had tried diet after diet, but as soon as I dropped a few pounds, I'd gain them back. Then I decided to make a serious lifestyle change and cut some things out of my diet for good, and ...

03/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 8
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my father-in-law, on his deathbed, made my husband promise to let Dad's 67-year-old wife live with us because she was scared to stay by herself. It has been two years of HELL. "Doris" does nothing but eat ...

03/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 7
Dear Annie: What do you think of an adult man — over 40 — playing hide-and-seek with small children? I have repeatedly told this man to stop, but he continues. He is a member of the family, so there is a lot of contact. Last week at ...

03/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 6
Dear Annie: My husband's boss is a married woman half his age. (She's 25.) At the last Christmas party, she spent two hours with her hand on my husband's thigh. I said nothing because I didn't want to cause a scene. She also danced very provocatively ...

03/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 5
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband for four years, married for two. In all this time, there are still some things I am not comfortable with. "Norm" is a very quiet man who doesn't say much. He has a brother who lives really close,...

03/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 4
Dear Annie: Several months ago, I came home from work to find that my mother had taken her things and moved out of our house. She served my father with divorce papers and told my sister and me that we should never contact her again because we were ...

03/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 3
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. When we first started dating, "Mary" unexpectedly became pregnant and we now have a beautiful child who is our life's joy. I would like to ask Mary to become my wife. ...

03/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 2
Dear Annie: About 18 months ago, I discovered my wife of 22 years was having multiple affairs. When I found out about the first one, she told me several lies in an effort to cover it up and minimize the severity of the situation. When I became ...

03/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, March 1
Dear Annie: Ten years ago, when my oldest grandson turned 16 and started driving, I cut out a column about a 17-year-old boy telling of his death in a car accident. I gave that column to our grandson, who taped it to the door of his closet where he read ...

02/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 29
Dear Annie: My husband, who is very sensitive to certain noises, does not allow any of us to watch TV programs that contain laughter. If we ride in the car together, he won't let us eat anything that creates noise he doesn't like. Today, he ...

02/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 28
Dear Annie: Last May, I found out my husband, "Aldo," was addicted to child pornography. He was never very interested in sex, but I had no idea this was the reason. I have four children from a previous marriage and, as the result of ...

02/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 27
Dear Annie: I've been married for 20 years to a wonderful, kind man whose family is a real piece of work. "Bob" apparently has been a disappointment to his parents his entire life. He had a speech impediment as a child, and his father, who ...

02/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 26
Dear Annie: I am a college student, and I live with my boyfriend, who just lost his job. He's actively looking for a new one, but hasn't had any luck yet. As much as I enjoy my newfound "grown-up" life, I find it very hard to survive ...

02/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 25
Dear Annie: I recently married "Clark" and discovered, after the wedding, that he has a terrible gambling problem. In the past few months, Clark has spent more than $18,000 gambling, and although he's won a little, he hasn't made back ...

02/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 24
Dear Annie: I am a newlywed of three months. From the day I met my husband, he pulled out all the stops, impressing me with little surprises, candlelit lovemaking sessions and compliments galore, and kept me laughing until my ribs ached. He was ...

02/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 23
Dear Annie: My brothers, ages 21 and 28, take advantage of my parents in every way possible, and I'm close to snapping. My 21-year-old brother lives at home for free. He works full time and is completely capable of living on his own, but why ...

02/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 22
Dear Annie: I am 26, have two small children and am involved with a terrific man who is 20 years older. I have been with "Chet" for two years and we recently moved in together. Chet treats me wonderfully and says he loves me, but he just ...

02/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 21
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with "Bryce" for almost eight years. When we met, we were both in unhappy marriages. Bryce helped me financially and emotionally with my divorce, and also pulled me through the death of a beloved ...

02/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 20
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Jill," has some serious problems. We often disagree about things, and even if it's her fault, she finds a way to blame it on someone else, usually me. She lies a lot and persuades everyone she is completely ...

02/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 19
Dear Annie: I work in a small restaurant. One of our regular customers (I'll call him "John") has a mental disability. He's very nice and I know he means well, but he really makes me uncomfortable. John comes into the restaurant and ...

02/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 18
Dear Annie: My fiance and I have been engaged for four years. I will graduate college in a year. I have not been working during this time, but I do pay my personal bills. "Joe" has a doctorate and supports my daughter and me. Joe has ...

02/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 17
Dear Annie: When my son was 14, he was friends with "Tim," a boy who drank and did drugs at a young age, and who once stole his father's car and took my son joyriding around the neighborhood. Tim's parents pretty much stuck their heads in ...

02/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 16
Dear Annie: Due to financial difficulties, my husband, children and I moved into my mother's house a year ago. Mom owns the place, but when we moved in, she decided to live full time in the condo she also owns. We pay the bills to keep the house ...

02/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 15
Dear Annie: I've been married for 19 years to "Mitch," a wonderful man. We have a beautiful 16-year-old daughter, "Jessie," an honors student who is involved in extracurricular activities, holds down a part-time job and is just a ...

02/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 14
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, especially our veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And a special thanks to those readers who have taken the time to visit the vets and send valentines. Bless you. Dear Annie: My mom ...

02/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 13
Dear Annie: My husband is a sweet man who says he loves me. But ever since he took a management position, his already bad temper is totally out of control. He must be civil to his co-workers, so he takes out his frustrations on our daughter and me ...

02/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 12
Dear Annie: My husband and I are at the end of our rope. Our 38-year-old son is a habitual liar. He constantly tells anyone who will listen that he is an engineer. He did go to vocational school, but never got an engineering degree and is currently ...

02/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 11
Dear Annie: I'm a 43-year-old single female, intelligent, well-educated and attractive, and have many friends and interests. I am content being single. Two years ago, I started working for a new company. Almost immediately, I sensed the ...

02/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 10
Dear Annie: My husband and I are expecting a baby soon. One of his sisters has asked if she and her husband could be the godparents. She is not who I would have picked because of her difficult attitude, but my husband says we should agree because she ...

02/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 9
Dear Annie: I am a very active 65-year-old widower and have found a 60-year-old lady with whom I want to spend my life. There is one problem. "Shirley" has a male friend (no sex involved) whom she sees for dinner once in a while, and who has ...

02/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 8
Dear Annie: I am a senior in high school and have been lucky enough to find myself in a relationship with a loving, caring and amazing young man. I do not do drugs and plan to stay clean for the rest of my life. Unfortunately, "Kevin" ...

02/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 7
Dear Annie: My in-laws divorced two years ago and my mother-in-law moved into an apartment. At the time, my mother-in-law was very hurt when her daughter, "Aida," (my husband's sister) decided to stay with her father in their old house. <...

02/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 6
Dear Annie: I am a male in my early 40s. My mother died a few years ago, and my grandmother shortly after, so life has been difficult lately. Here is my problem: I'm gay and still in the closet to friends and family. At my age, single and never ...

02/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 5
Dear Annie: My beautiful wife, aided and abetted by playing computer games for several hours each day, leads a virtually sedentary and reclusive life outside of her full-time job. She has regained a vast amount of the weight she lost a few years ago ...

02/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 4
Dear Annie: We are moving soon and our new home is less than two miles from my sister, "Celia." Celia is newly divorced after 49 years of marriage. The problem? She has a gentleman friend and the two of them are all over each other all the ...

02/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 3
Dear Annie: Our only child, a son, is married with two children. Their last visit with us was very difficult. Our daughter-in-law, "Ursula," felt it was her right to stay in our home and not eat any meals with us or join in any family ...

02/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 2
Dear Annie: When I married my first wife, "Lynn," I was a trucker and often on the road for a month at a time. I thought it was worth it for my family's financial well-being. Then Lynn told me she didn't love me anymore and wanted a divorce. ...

02/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, February 1
Dear Annie: I am a 16-year-old girl. When I was about 7, I began experiencing visual and auditory hallucinations. I never told anyone, but now they're getting worse. I have them a few times a week and can't concentrate in school. I am depressed ...

01/31/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 31
Dear Annie: I am engaged to a wonderful man whom I have known since high school. "Chad" and I began dating three years ago and became engaged last April. We are supposed to marry in May and I am having second thoughts. I don't know ...

01/30/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 30
Dear Annie: A year ago, I had an affair that lasted nearly 12 months. I confessed the whole thing to my husband, answered all his questions and endured the subsequent hurt, anger and doubt. I have done everything I can to prove that I am trustworthy, ...

01/29/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 29
Dear Annie: "Dennis" has been my boyfriend for over 10 years. We have lived together and apart, and the reason for the apart has been a conflict over marriage. I am 55 years old, he is 57, and we are both divorced. Over the years, I have ...

01/28/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 28
Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old boy and have been best friends with "Alex" since we were 5. Last year, Alex told me he thought he might be gay. He said he really liked this other boy we know and made me swear never to tell anyone. But a month ...

01/27/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 27
Dear Annie: My husband and his sister were adopted from a foreign country when they were both young teenagers. His adoptive father was a wise and caring man, but his adoptive mother and their biological daughter were never accepting. When Dad ...

01/26/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 26
Dear Annie: I am due to give birth to my first child any day and am seriously thinking about asking my husband to move out after I do. "Tom" is lazy, underemployed and self-involved. We've had occasional fights about his lack of ...

01/25/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 25
Dear Annie: My in-laws have a small business out of their home, where I work for them. Because I am there every week, I notice a lot. For instance, I knew my father-in-law drank every day and then drove his car on errands. I made it clear that my son ...

01/24/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 24
Dear Annie: My husband and I are separated and he moved in with his girlfriend six weeks ago. A few weeks ago, I had to call the girlfriend's husband in order to pass along some information. "Harris" and I met for dinner and haven't ...

01/23/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 23
Dear Annie: Four months ago, my college buddy "Phil" had a bachelor party at a gentlemen's club. We had a great time and I hit it off with one of the dancers, "Sara." I visited her at the club several more times and eventually ...

01/22/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 22
Dear Annie: My husband's college roommate is an internist who lives in our community. "Dr. Fred" is not our family physician, but I admit we have, on occasion, asked for his assistance in emergency situations. Maybe we've taken some medical ...

01/21/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 21
Dear Annie: I am 15 years old and recently ended a seven-month relationship with "David." I broke up with him partly because I was very unhappy (I never cried so much in my life) and also because I was falling for "Howard." ...

01/20/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 20
Dear Annie: Over 5.4 million veterans received care in Veterans Affairs health facilities in 2007. This year VA will treat more than 774,000 veterans hospitalized in our facilities across the nation. VA's outpatient clinics, nearly 900 of them, will ...

01/19/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 19
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Felicia," is extremely bright, beautiful and has a wonderful heart. However, I am concerned about her choice in boyfriends. Felicia tends to take on the characteristics of whomever she is dating. She was ...

01/18/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 18
Dear Annie: My parents have been married nearly 50 years. About six years ago, I suspected my mother of having an affair. I confronted her with my facts and she assured me of her innocence. Last year, my brother approached me with the same ...

01/17/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 17
Dear Annie: I am a divorced father of a 13-year-old daughter. Though her mom and I share joint custody, I have her most of the time because my ex doesn't want her around. The visitation clause in the divorce is very liberal and my ex is taking ...

01/16/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 16
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old niece is growing up too fast. "Margit" has been sexually active for at least two years and her mother says, "Everybody does it at that age." I've tried to give Margit friendly advice, suggesting she focus ...

01/15/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 15
Dear Annie: When I first met my wife, her sister, "Vicki," was married with three children. Vicki then cheated on her husband and they divorced. Reluctantly, we let her new beau into our lives. Now, two kids into this marriage, Vicki was ...

01/14/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 14
Dear Annie: I am 15 and almost positive that my best friend, "Amanda," is anorexic. I know for a fact that she was anorexic two years ago, but she told me she had treatment and is cured. I rarely see Amanda eat lunch at school, and if ...

01/13/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 13
Dear Annie: Last year, we bought a home with my parents. At the time, they were living in a shack, raising my sister's three children. They couldn't get financed on their own, but together we could afford a nice place. Six months ago, my ...

01/12/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 12
Dear Annie: My father is a registered sex offender. My wife and I have a 2-year-old girl. We used to let my father and stepmother take our daughter to church regularly without us, but after a local pediatrician suspected sexual abuse when she had what ...

01/11/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 11
Dear Annie: I have been with my husband, "Cliff," for 10 years. Before the birth of our daughter, things were wonderful. Cliff was romantic and attentive. To my horror, things drastically changed after the baby was born. He ignored me and ...

01/10/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 10
Dear Annie: My mother passed away a few months ago, so I began inviting my lonely stepfather for dinner and told him to drop by and visit any time. He often came over four times in a day. One day, he told me he's had feelings for me for nearly ...

01/09/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 9
Dear Annie: I am almost 15 and I think I have a problem. I get angry easily. I've tried talking to different people about it, like my friends and the school counselor, but I always get the same response — it's probably just PMS. This gets me so ...

01/08/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 8
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with "Hunter" for six years. For the first three, he was married to someone else. He'd had affairs throughout his entire marriage, but he left his wife and daughter, gave up everything and moved in ...

01/07/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 7
Dear Annie: When my wife and I married 20 years ago, I agreed to buy a house in the town where she worked, even though it was an hour away from my job. She promised that when she retired, we would move closer to my job, but now that it's happened, she ...

01/06/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 6
Dear Annie: I recently saw my doctor for an annual physical and talked to him about something that had been bothering me. My 14-year-old daughter, "Sara," told me that she and her friend "Donna" had smoked pot for the first time. ...

01/05/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 5
Dear Annie: I love my husband dearly. We have one child, who was not planned. My husband seems to enjoy being a father, but when I told him I want another child, he freaked out. He said he doesn't like "responsibility" and doesn't want any ...

01/04/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 4
Dear Annie: I began seeing my husband when his daughter, "Ellis," was 15 years old. Ellis has been a constant challenge, in trouble on a regular basis, befriending the wrong people, abusing alcohol and drugs and just plain refusing to get a ...

01/03/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 3
Dear Annie: After 29 years in a rocky marriage, my husband had an affair with an employee that led to their living together for seven months. When he came home, he felt there was no need to discuss anything, saying it was out of his system, water ...

01/02/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 2
Dear Annie: I'm 30 years old, and for the past two years, I've been seeing a wonderful man who's 48. "Taylor" is recently divorced and has two grown children. We get along great and seem to be a perfect match. We are very much in love and ...

01/01/2008 Annie's Mailbox®, January 1
Dear Readers: Happy New Year. We hope you woke up this morning safe and sound, and not filled with worry or regret about something you may have done last night. For those of you who think today would be a good time to make some resolutions, here is ...

12/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 31
Dear Annie: My teenage sister, "Jana," is in an abusive relationship, and my family does not know how to help her get out. Since she began dating "Pete," Jana has withdrawn from her friends and is constantly angry. She ...

12/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 30
Dear Annie: My wife and I recently celebrated our 43rd wedding anniversary. It was not a happy occasion for me. My wife was an alcoholic for years. She left our children and me on three different occasions, and I took her back each time because ...

12/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 29
Dear Annie: Like "Craving Intimacy in Indiana," I am married to a man who shows no interest in sex. It's been years since we were intimate, and before that, sex was infrequent. We have been married for 35 years. After I threatened divorce, ...

12/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 28
Dear Annie: I have been happily married for many years and have always had a great relationship with my widowed mother-in-law. Recently, my mother-in-law has had a few outbursts about seemingly minor things, almost like Jekyll & Hyde, very ...

12/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 27
Dear Annie: I am in the sixth grade, and other kids make fun of me. Last week, I didn't go to school because I had a headache. I'm sure it's stress and it's making me afraid and affecting my schoolwork. It started in the first grade. I don't ...

12/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 26
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. He's had several health problems during this time, but has always managed his pain. Last year, he went to a pain management clinic and they prescribed narcotics. He takes them every ...

12/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 25
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. Here's a lovely poem sent to us by one of our readers: Christmas Gift Suggestions by Oren Arnold   To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your ...

12/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 24
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my ex-husband and his girlfriend run a porn website and an online sex store. Our daughters are 16 and 18. The older one is away at college and the younger one is a daddy's girl. I have custody of the ...

12/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 23
Dear Annie: I am a woman in love with a gay man. I told "Geoff" how I feel, hoping it would alleviate the feelings, and for a while, it did. But the feelings are coming back and I can't seem to control them. Geoff and I go on "...

12/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 22
Dear Annie: My sister is the caregiver for my mother, who lives in Florida. I live in Illinois and call Mom every day. Mom kept falling down, and my sister, who has difficulty lifting, would have to call the police to help pick her up, so she finally ...

12/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 21
Dear Annie: My divorce will be final in two weeks. For the past 18 months, my two sons and I have been on our own. Actually, I've been on my own for the past 10 years because my ex-husband is an alcoholic. I haven't dated anyone since I told him he ...

12/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 20
Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old mother and I'm depressed all the time. I can't sleep, I can't eat and I'm mad at myself for taking it out on everyone I know. I thought it was because of being around my 7-month-old daughter so much, so I went back to ...

12/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 19
Dear Annie: After 10 years of trying to make my marriage work, I finally could not take the verbal and mental abuse any longer. When a friend overheard one of my husband's tirades, she offered me a place to stay, a job, a car and an airline ticket. I ...

12/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 18
Dear Annie: This past year was one of the hardest years of my life. I finally came out to my parents about being a lesbian and admitted that the friend I spend all my time with is my girlfriend. This month will mark 10 months that "Susan&...

12/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 17
Dear Annie: I'm 25, and my boyfriend, "Jason," and I got pregnant despite using birth control. Jason was very happy about it, but when I was three months along, his family convinced him he is not ready to have a baby and he asked me to have ...

12/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 16
Dear Annie: I am the mother of a very well-behaved 16-year-old son. "Jeff" gets mostly A's in school and is on the swim team, tennis team, math team and robotics team. I know his friends and their families. He doesn't do drugs and he's not ...

12/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 15
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my sister, "Carol," said some awful things to me and our brother, "Stewart." She wounded us deeply and fractured our relationship. My parents worked diligently to get us to reconcile. After more than a ...

12/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 14
Dear Annie: My parents were married 50 years when Mom died of cancer two years ago. After that, Dad, who rarely drank, started going to bars on a regular basis. He seemed to fall in love with every woman he picked up. He actually proposed to several ...

12/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 13
Dear Annie: Four days ago, my husband and I waited 12 hours for the birth of our son's first baby. As soon as we were allowed to see our new grandchild, we rushed into the hospital room, thrilled beyond belief. Our joy was short-lived because soon ...

12/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 12
Dear Annie: I am a 27-year-old man and was recently engaged to "Shawna," a beautiful 27-year-old woman. We've been together for five years and have worked hard to make sure we are financially stable. The problem is our sex life. It is ...

12/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 11
Dear Annie: I am 62. Ten years ago, I was diagnosed as bipolar. My father and late sister also were bipolar. I have made every effort to keep my illness a secret from my extended family as well as my in-laws. I know from the way they treated my sister ...

12/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 10
Dear Annie: I've been married for almost two decades to a good husband. During most of those years, I was obese. I was a stay-at-home mom to our children, depressed and bored, and I ate a lot. The more I ate, the more I wanted to sit at home and hide ...

12/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 9
Dear Annie: For the past three years, I have been grieving for my stepfather, with whom I was very close. He died in a car accident the night of my elementary school concert. I am tired of not having a father to lean on. I am a 13-year-old girl ...

12/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 8
Dear Annie: My 65-year-old sister, "Linda," and her 68-year-old husband, "Peter," recently bought a home in our state. I love my sister and was looking forward to having her close again, but now I'm not sure. Two weeks ago, ...

12/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 7
Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband recently separated. My daughter said simply that she wanted to "find herself," which seemed totally out of character. My husband and I were hard on her, telling her she should make more of an effort to ...

12/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 6
Dear Annie: For the past year, our son and his wife of three years have chosen not to be part of our family. We all made mistakes, but anything we do now is interpreted as evil. He refuses to talk things over. He blocks all calls and e-mails and sends ...

12/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 5
Dear Annie: I'm a 25-year-old single woman whose best friend for the past 10 years has been a guy. "Tony" and I have a lot in common and enjoy hanging out and playing video games together. (I am a bit of a tomboy.) Whenever Tony gets a ...

12/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 4
Dear Annie: I was talking to a co-worker the other day, and he was telling me in a joking manner that where I come from, people eat reindeer. I responded to him, while smiling, saying, "You guys eat dogs!" (He is Korean.) He got ...

12/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 3
Dear Annie: My handsome son is causing me great heartache. "Payton" is a 17-year-old senior, a good student and terrific athlete, and he's been having sex with a 22-year-old divorcee and will not listen to reason. This woman lives in ...

12/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 2
Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful man whose family despises me because of a fight I had with his twin sister. His twin, "Kari," is a hateful person who attacked me and my daughter (a defenseless 6-year-old). I am now an outcast because ...

12/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, December 1
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 20 years. When I was 26, I was hospitalized due to mental illness. After two more hospitalizations and the birth of our third child, I was finally diagnosed as bipolar/Attention Deficit Disorder. I ...

11/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 30
Dear Annie: I live in Southern California and have two kids. The oldest is 12. She has a brown belt in karate and two of her friends (they're brothers) also have brown belts. The 15-year-old brother has a habit of talking to me every time I ...

11/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 29
Dear Annie: I divorced my husband seven years ago and moved into a townhouse with my children. By chance, I met a wonderful, caring, attentive man and we decided to move in together. After two years, things changed. "Ward" refuses to ...

11/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 28
Dear Annie: Recently, while visiting out-of-town relatives, I was reunited with a second cousin whom I had not seen in 28 years. We are both in our early 40s and single. We hit it off instantly, a total personality click, and spent quite a bit of time ...

11/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 27
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Jesse" for six years. We recently moved in together. Within the last year he has started playing poker, both online and with his friends. Sometimes the games at our place last until 6 a.m. The online gambling ...

11/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 26
Dear Annie: In the past year, I have gotten engaged, moved away, bought a new home, received my own business from my future in-laws and set a wedding date. All of these amazing things and I am miserable. I've moved thousands of miles from my ...

11/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 25
Dear Annie: I have two wonderful kids, "Zoe," who is 5, and "Austin," who is 3. Tonight Austin came to my wife and me and said, "Momma, Zoe cut my hair." We looked at him and his bangs were missing a big patch right in ...

11/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 24
Dear Annie: I am now in my mid-30s and find that I simply don't like my sister. We are two years apart. When we were growing up, we fought like many siblings do, but when she went off to college, we buried the hatchet. Now that we are older and ...

11/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 23
Dear Annie: In 1994, my first real relationship ended when "Lisa" and I parted ways. For reasons that are still valid, I broke it off. It was emotional and very tough on her. After that, I met the woman who became my wife, and we've been ...

11/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 22
Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving to one and all. This is a time to share with family and friends. But we also hope you have remembered those who are alone today and would love to be part of your family for the day. If you aren't able to accommodate ...

11/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 21
Dear Annie: My husband comes from a family with a history of manic depression, mood disorders, suicides, addictions, etc. He self-medicates by overeating, gambling, watching too much TV and wanting a lot of sex. It is exceptionally bad in the winter, ...

11/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 20
Dear Annie: I have an aunt, "Bess," who works as a loan officer. My grandmother mentioned recently that Bess had looked up another family member's financial history. She said Bess discovered that this family member had recently taken out a $...

11/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 19
Dear Annie: My husband has a cousin, "Tim," who is married to "Sally." My in-laws frequently gossip about them, and whatever is wrong, they always say it's Sally's fault. Apparently, something happened between Sally and my ...

11/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 18
Dear Annie: I recently came across an e-mail from my 15-year-old daughter to her 22-year-old cousin that was rather revealing. (OK, I was snooping.) My daughter, "Carlie," was attending a sleepover at a senior girl's house, and it ...

11/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 17
Dear Annie: This is in response to "The First Wife," whose husband left her for his new girlfriend. She asked how the divorce will affect Dad's relationship with their children. My parents divorced when I was 9. I resent my father and ...

11/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 16
Dear Annie: I work in a large high school. Our dress code is fairly relaxed, but we are expected to show good taste — nothing skimpy, no short skirts, no underwear showing, etc. This unwritten code is followed by most of the employees, ...

11/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 15
Dear Annie: Recently, our daughter and her boyfriend set up housekeeping. Both are in their early 20s. Yes, I understand they are free to make their own decisions at this point in their lives. On the other hand, I feel obligated to express my strong ...

11/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 14
Dear Annie: I have been dating a wonderful man for about four years. "Sam" treats me with respect and is very caring, but he never pays his bills on time. He has a great job, but several times in the past I have had to bail him out. He will ...

11/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 13
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 15 years, and he has worked at the same company for the last five. In all that time, I have never been to his office during working hours. On occasion, I've been in the area and have called to see if ...

11/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 12
Dear Annie: My husband is very successful, but intense. He always has to be right, always has to have the answers, and expounds and explains everything over and over. He elaborates on every issue and always has to know the reason something is the way ...

11/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 11
Dear Annie: I have been dating my boyfriend, "Harry," for almost six years, and we have been living together for the last two. Harry is 49, somewhat controlling and loves to be catered to. The problem is, he goes on the Internet and ...

11/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 10
Dear Annie: I worked with a small group of people for many years. We were like family and I truly enjoyed my time there. All of us did things together, went to dinner, movies, took trips and celebrated special occasions at one another's homes. Then, ...

11/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 9
Dear Annie: "Clint" and I have been married for 25 years and have two teenage children. We have been together since I was 14. He is a very supportive husband and father, and we all love him dearly. Clint has always been the life of ...

11/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 8
Dear Annie: My heart is breaking. I am a 40-year-old married mother of three, and I have lost the spark in my marriage. The real problem is that I am in love with a co-worker — a female co-worker. I have never had a lesbian relationship, but I ...

11/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 7
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married over a year. We were both separated from our spouses when we met, and when we began dating, I didn't expect or want anything serious. But soon we were in love and things moved very quickly. Now I feel I ...

11/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 6
Dear Annie: My "Uncle Mike" is 82. He has prostate problems and is legally blind and currently recovering from a mild stroke. He takes medication and has physical therapy every week. Uncle Mike never married, but he has three sisters and ...

11/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 5
Dear Annie: I am 16 years old, and my mother just saw fit to tell me that the man I thought was my father is actually my stepfather. Now, to understand my dilemma, you also have to realize that my real dad never did anything nasty to my mom. She's ...

11/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 4
Dear Annie: Years ago, I asked my cousin and her husband to be my son's godparents. I was a single mother and wanted two people who would be there to help guide him. Needless to say, I made a poor decision. Neither of them has any type of relationship ...

11/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 3
Dear Annie: My mother has made me executor of her estate and given me power of attorney over her medical care. My parents divorced when we were young, and my brother and I didn't have contact with my mother for several years. She now lives far away ...

11/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 2
Dear Annie: I'm an attractive, smart and talented 42-year-old woman who has been married for 18 years to my first love, "Zane." I'm extremely fit and am told that I look 10 years younger. I am aware that many men are attracted to me, but I ...

11/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, November 1
Dear Annie: As a teacher of 35 years, I feel invigorated. Recently, I've helped pilot a program that reminded me why I got into teaching in the first place — to develop not just good students, but also great young people. Can you help me ...

10/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 31
Dear Annie: I am a very successful married father of a wonderful 3-year-old girl. I have a great wife, adorable daughter, good job — everything is going well. I frequently pick up my daughter at day care and have started talking a lot to &...

10/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 30
Dear Annie: My 20-year-old daughter goes to college full time and holds down a full-time job. The problem is, "Nia" has terrible hygiene habits. Her room is always trashed with dirty clothes and papers. She has old food and half-full drinks ...

10/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 29
Dear Annie: Our 70-year-old parents are manipulative and emotionally abusive. They rotate which of their three kids is on their "blacklist" and freeze that person out. My parents have no contact with my brother, except to send gifts to their ...

10/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 28
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law recently told me that my 3-year-old daughter, "Deni," is not invited to her house for sleepovers because she "doesn't listen and is bad." I also have a 5-year-old daughter, a nephew and two nieces who ...

10/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 27
Dear Annie: My parents will celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary next year. Unfortunately, my Dad recently decided to confide in my wonderful husband about his sexual affairs. He told my husband not to tell me, but there was no way he could keep ...

10/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 26
Dear Annie: My husband wants to take nude pictures of me. I've told him I don't like it, but he'll occasionally try to snap a shot when I am stepping out of the shower. He gets angry when I insist he delete it. He says he should be able to have nude ...

10/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 25
Dear Annie: I am a married man and the father of two wonderful children. I have a past of drug dependency, but have been clean and sober for more than a decade. However, in the last few years, my stress level has gone through the roof. My doctor gave ...

10/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 24
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and we have a blended family. For a long time, I have suggested we make out legal wills to provide for each other. He always has a reason not to do it. I even bought will kits for both of us ...

10/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 23
Dear Annie: What is a woman to do when her husband is still in love with his first girlfriend? I am a married woman with four children. My husband, "Shane," continues to hold a torch for "Mary." The thing is, Mary never really ...

10/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 22
Dear Annie: I recently saw my 88-year-old disabled mom in the hospital, and she told me my husband is no longer allowed to visit her. I was surprised, since he'd always seemed like such a great son-in-law. It turns out my 55-year-old husband has been ...

10/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 21
Dear Annie: I am a 35-year-old female who desperately needs advice. My husband is 54 years old, and we have been together 14 years and married for eight. I was young when I met him, and he was a great support for a single mother with a small child. We ...

10/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 20
Dear Annie: I have agoraphobia, and before I knew what I suffered from, I thought I was going crazy. Even harder is getting my husband to understand the problem, since he can't see anything physically wrong with me. This phobia affects everyone ...

10/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 19
Dear Annie: I am a 14-year-old girl. Lately, I've been feeling somewhat lost as to what I want to do with my life. I mean, I live a mundane existence, while my friends e-mail me telling me they've gotten their nose pierced, or are going to Las Vegas, ...

10/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 18
Dear Annie: I've been married two years, and we are moving into our first home next month. Since our wedding, we have not bought a single piece of furniture. Everything we own is either something I already had, something handed down, or my ...

10/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 17
Dear Annie: I am a happily married man, with a beautiful and loving spouse. The problem is, I find myself extremely attracted to a co-worker. Although "Connie" and I work in different departments, we often work together on various projects, ...

10/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 16
Dear Annie: I am a young married woman. My husband, let's call him "Pete," is very possessive and jealous. He also has an anger problem. Anytime I go to the store, he wants to know exactly what store I am going to, who I'm going with, when I ...

10/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 15
Dear Annie: I am 62 years old and have been dating a 53-year-old woman for a couple of years. We have had disagreements, and from my point of view, they will keep me from ever marrying her. Every one of "Diane's" friends makes alcohol ...

10/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 14
Dear Annie: I am an upstanding, hardworking, outgoing 30-year-old gay man. I am out to my friends and co-workers in the large city where I live. The trouble is, I'm from a farming town of 40 people. I am fairly close to my family, but they do not know ...

10/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 13
Dear Annie: My widowed mother-in-law has five grown children. One, "Pat," is 42 and still single, and has lived the life of Riley because of great looks and the ability to cultivate friends with money who almost wholly support her. ...

10/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 12
Dear Annie: I am 50 years old, single (after 21 years of marriage) and enjoying my freedom. The problem is, when I meet a man and explain that I really just want to be friends, they agree. But after a time, when I won't sleep with them, they don't ...

10/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 11
Dear Annie: I am a 62-year-old male who has lately noticed something, and I'm wondering if it's the start of a disease of some kind. I've become aware that I often walk down the street holding conversations with imaginary people or those from ...

10/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 10
Dear Annie: My wife, "Alice," and I are moving to Kentucky. Alice has invited "Dottie," a close female friend, to come along for company and share the driving. When I asked what the hotel arrangements would be, Alice said we could ...

10/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 9
Dear Annie: I recently broke up with my boyfriend, "Justin," after almost two years. I ended it because I realized I'm too young (early 20s) for such a serious relationship. I know I need more time to experience life on my own, pursue ...

10/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 8
Dear Annie: My youngest daughter, "Eve," is 15 and recently started her sophomore year in high school. Lately, she has not been herself. She used to be a vibrant, social girl who would often spend days hanging out with friends. She smiled ...

10/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 7
Dear Annie: I am a 32-year-old woman and have recently become engaged to "Micah," my partner of 10 years, whom I adore. However, before Micah asked me to marry him, he purchased a weekend house to "surprise" me. He has put his ...

10/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 6
Dear Annie: Three years ago, my husband, "Albert," had a heart attack after losing a job he'd held since he was 17. He tried consulting for a while, but after his bypass operation, he had a complete personality change and seemed unable to ...

10/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 5
Dear Annie: I cannot get along with my mother-in-law. I have always been respectful to her, even though she has kept in touch with my husband's ex-girlfriend and enjoys bringing up news about her in front of me. Recently, Mom was behaving more ...

10/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 4
Dear Annie: I've been in a long-distance relationship for a few months. I love being with "Duke," but when he's back in his hometown, my mind goes crazy. I think about the worst possible situation and worry myself sick. I have this trust ...

10/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 3
Dear Annie: I am a 65-year-old widow. My husband passed away last year, and I am still grieving. The problem is my 45-year-old son from a previous marriage. "Gordon" never married and is planning to move in with me. He is an abusive ...

10/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 2
Dear Annie: I'm a 40-something man with two grown children. I've been married for 24 years but have had other relationships outside of my marriage. I'm not proud of that. My wife is a loving woman and a good wife. But in our 24 years together, there ...

10/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, October 1
Dear Annie: How do you tell your brother that his daughter is turning into a nightmare? "Cindy" is an adorable 9-year-old and runs the house. I don't see my brother as much as I'd like because they live three hours away, but when I do,...

09/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 30
Dear Annie: Jerry and I were co-workers for several years while we were both married to others. I divorced my husband, and Jerry's been separated for three years. At some point, we decided to start dating and have had an on-and-off relationship ever ...

09/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 29
Dear Annie: I just discovered my husband has a son by an old flame who was "the love of his life." The baby was born shortly after we married 36 years ago. My husband wants me to stop living in the past (he has had at least three ...

09/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 28
Dear Annie: I have a wonderful job and love coming to work every day. My concern is my manager. "Sally" is a great gal, and we get along wonderfully, but she abuses the company horribly. We are part of a larger company, and our ...

09/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 27
Dear Annie: My fiance and I are trying to decide where to live after we get married. When we were engaged, "Gil" moved into my apartment. I lived in a nice town five hours away from my family and nine hours from his. I had a good job, and ...

09/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 26
Dear Annie: Last year, "Karen" and I became very good friends during a summer theatre production. We had much in common and remained close the entire year. This summer, we both received speaking parts, and though they are equal roles, ...

09/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 25
Dear Annie: I am the only one of my siblings who is out of the house and married with children. I live relatively close to my parents. The problem is, I feel as if they no longer consider me their daughter. They don't visit or invite us to come over, ...

09/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 24
Dear Annie: I have known "Celia" for five years and love her like a sister. A few months ago, I found out that Celia's husband is having an affair with a former employee. I know he meets this woman at various out-of-the-way places and that ...

09/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 23
Dear Annie: When I retired, I wanted to move closer to my only grandchildren. However, my daughter said I couldn't live in "her town" unless I divorced my second husband. After thinking about my difficult marriage, I decided to get the ...

09/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 22
Dear Annie: I am 63 years old, and my mother is 88. I am her only child. At the beginning of last year, Mom moved into a nursing home in her town, which is 800 miles away. Last year, I made frequent trips to see her, to get her settled and to check on ...

09/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 21
Dear Annie: I was married to "George" for 10 years, and we had three kids. The marriage ended eight years ago, and George has since remarried. We share custody of the kids, who are now pre-teens, but they physically reside with me. ...

09/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 20
Dear Annie: Recently our daughter moved to our town. She is divorced and has two children. We provided for them for six months and never asked for any money. We wanted her to have her own place, so we bought an older home with the agreement that she ...

09/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 19
Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship for about eight years and recently discovered my boyfriend is selling illegal drugs. I have three kids and have tried to leave before, but always end up coming back. We own a house together, and I don't ...

09/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 18
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my husband was in an accident. He was seriously hurt and since then has become addicted to prescription painkillers. When the refills run out, he gets so sick he can't get out of bed. He sleeps all day and can't work until ...

09/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 17
Dear Annie: My boss, a 25-ish man, has the foulest mouth I've ever heard. I'm the only female in a small office that includes five other men. I expect to hear some swearing in an environment where we deal with construction workers, but his mouth is ...

09/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 16
Dear Annie: Seven months ago, I found out that my husband of 24 years has been having an affair with a woman in his office. He thought I would never find out. He informed me that he didn't love me enough during the last 21 years of our marriage and ...

09/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 15
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Bill's Busy Wife," whose husband has retired. I'm a member of the Rotary Club. Our latest projects included raising funds for our local health care initiatives and high school's new track as well as ...

09/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 14
Dear Annie: I am a 20-something female living in a tiny Midwestern town, working as a receptionist at a place that has a constant stream of people coming in. I say "Hi, how are you?" to everyone and enjoy talking to the customers. ...

09/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 13
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together almost four years and have a very strong bond with my side of the family. But my husband drinks quite frequently, and when he does, he becomes loud and obnoxious and could care less about the world ...

09/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 12
Dear Annie: I am dating "Scott," a wonderful man. We are both divorced and have children from our previous marriages. Scott's two adolescent children live with him. My only child is on her own. Scott and I want to marry, and his two children ...

09/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 11
Dear Annie: I am an only child, and my parents are deceased. The only relatives left on my mother's side are an uncle and cousin by marriage, both over 80, who live out of state. My father's family is also gone except for one 80-year-old cousin with ...

09/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 10
Dear Annie: My 88-year-old mother is living with my son and his wife. Mom's mind is good and she is very healthy, although she has used a walker since her partial hip replacement last year. The problem is, Mom has to have everyone's attention ...

09/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 9
Dear Annie: My brother, "Rex," lives out of state. Two years ago, we invited him and his daughter, a pre-teen, to stay with us for a week. During their visit, we noticed that Rex drank all day and tried to disguise it by putting the booze in ...

09/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 8
Dear Annie: I am bothered by the fact that I don't have a relationship with my younger brother and sister. Our dad died when we were young, and Mom passed away four years ago. My brother is mentally ill and divorced, and has an 18-year-old son ...

09/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 7
Dear Annie: My sister, "Jenny," and her husband have been married 10 years and have two children. For nine of those years, Jenny has been miserable. The two of them fight constantly, and normal conversations turn into disagreements. They are ...

09/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 6
Dear Annie: I'm burnt out in a go-nowhere job and desperately want to quit. I've got a great husband who earns more than enough to support the two of us, but he feels I should still contribute to the household income, of which I currently earn less ...

09/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 5
Dear Annie: My daughter is a single mom, and I know she's tired when she comes home from work. According to my 12-year-old grandson, she eats in front of the TV and spends very little quality time with him. She doesn't allow him to walk home from ...

09/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 4
Dear Annie: My parents, who are in their 80s, decided to sell my nephew a piece of property for much less than its value. They chose to bypass their children and other grandchildren. The "chosen grandchild" then harvested resources from the ...

09/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 3
Dear Annie: I've been married over 25 years and have three terrific children. Three years ago, my wife found out she has cancer. She went through all the treatments, and although the doctors say her original cancer is gone, she still needs to come in ...

09/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 2
Dear Annie: Once a month, my husband and I get together for dinner with another couple. We take turns buying. The other three always order after-dinner drinks or espresso, but I prefer dessert. I rarely eat sweets and really look forward to the ...

09/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, September 1
Dear Annie: I have a boss who has been with our organization for nearly a year. He likes to send out e-mails saying, "There will be a meeting at 3:00 next Friday. Details will follow." But the details never follow. These meetings are usually ...

08/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 31
Dear Annie: I am a student at a prestigious college and consider myself to be responsible, mature and self-assured. I have been dating "Ricky" for two years. He is smart, considerate and funny. I think I could spend many more years ...

08/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 30
Dear Annie: I am a 26-year-old man, and my life is a mess. Two years ago, I had a great job and a beautiful fiancee. I was completely crazy about "Cassie," who was then a junior in college. When she told me she wanted to live on campus ...

08/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 29
Dear Annie: I'm a 38-year-old woman and was widowed a year ago. I have two children, ages 8 and 5. I was happily married to the most wonderful man, but my husband died from complications following surgery. He was 44 and a terrific father and a loving ...

08/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 28
Dear Annie: I'm a married woman with three kids, and I teach a class for adults. Recently, I've been feeling uncomfortable with one of the male students in my class. He flirts with me and lately has become more and more brazen. He behaves like a high ...

08/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 27
Dear Annie: I am a 25-year-old woman, still living at home while I complete my master's degree. Mom likes to go through my things. She went through my dresser and rearranged all my clothing. Granted, it looks very neat, but things are missing. ...

08/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 26
Dear Annie: We have two wonderful grown daughters who get along marvelously now. (There was some squabbling when they were growing up.) We don't want this recent situation to spoil it. "Susanne" and "Elizabeth" love to go ...

08/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 25
Dear Annie: My mother, who is elderly and cannot drive, employs a taxi driver named "George" on a regular basis. George is in his 30s and married with children. He has befriended my mom, calls her on her cell phone to chat when she's out of ...

08/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 24
Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl, entering a new school in the fall. I've heard that some girls in my new school are going to beat me up because I'm friends with someone they hate. I am frightened because I don't know my way around. They are ...

08/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 23
Dear Annie: I am a divorced 45-year-old woman with a 12-year-old son. "Philip" gets straight A's and is involved in sports and music, but I don't want Philip to grow up to be a "mama's boy." I've noticed he's very sensitive (which ...

08/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 22
Dear Annie: I am 36 years old, and my wife, "Lori," is 32. We have two pre-teen children. I love my family and would do anything for them. About a month ago, Lori and I started to have some issues. The phone bill came, and Lori hid ...

08/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 21
Dear Annie: I have been in an up-and-down relationship for 10 years with "Joe." He is loving and affectionate, and very attentive. The problem is, Joe was addicted to drugs and alcohol, and although we made it through that difficult time, it ...

08/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 20
Dear Annie: I am an almost-13-year-old boy who lives in an average-sized suburban home. My mom is a kindergarten teacher. There is only one problem — my dad. He quit his job in search of another about six years ago. He found more work, but then ...

08/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 19
Dear Annie: I've been "kid-sitting" my three grandchildren this summer. I work all day, and they go to a day camp, which they love. The oldest, at 13, is really sweet. However, the 11-year-old boy and 8-year-old girl constantly fight, ...

08/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 18
Dear Annie: Several years ago, I was fired from my management position for embezzling money from the company. I had a drug addiction that I was hiding and stupidly took money to fund my addiction. I was fired and prosecuted. I have since gone ...

08/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 17
Dear Annie: I am planning to go away to school in the fall. I'll only be an hour from home and will visit every available weekend. I'll be living with my grandparents, who are 10 minutes from the campus. However, these things don't seem to appease my ...

08/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 16
Dear Annie: I have been married 32 years to the same wonderful man whom I love very much. We have kids and grandkids and are moderately well off. A few months ago, I walked into our home office, and my husband was reading an e-mail. As soon as ...

08/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 15
Dear Annie: I have been married for eight years and have three children under 7. Over the years, my husband's behavior has become increasingly bizarre and alarming. When we first married, everything seemed fine. Slowly, he became more and more ...

08/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 14
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 40 years. Along the way, we raised three children and survived family crises, financial difficulties and medical trauma. The problem? My wife is, and always has been, a serial cheater. Less than a ...

08/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 13
Dear Annie: My husband has a sister who is obsessed with him. "Fawn" is in her 30s. She sends him e-mails every day, with "Love" on the subject line, droning on and on about how much she misses him and wishes he still lived at home ...

08/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 12
Dear Annie: After my divorce, I started dating again. I did not want a serious relationship, just a good time. A friend introduced me to "Jack," who, she said, was a fun guy. We had a great time, and I gave him my cell number. Jack is nice ...

08/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 11
Dear Annie: I have been married to my wife for 23 years, and we have two children. Nine months ago, I found an e-mail my wife had sent to "Dave," along with a picture in which she was partially nude. When I confronted her, she admitted the ...

08/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 10
Dear Annie: I have been married to "Shawn" for nine years. I truly love him, but we have a problem. Shawn has a good job, and I also work, but most of my paycheck is used for family bills. Shawn, meanwhile, will pocket $350 and spend ...

08/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 9
Dear Annie: I haven't been able to speak to my parents for many years because my daughter was abused by my father. My father had molested me when I was young. I told my mother, but she didn't believe me and said I was just making it up to hurt her. It ...

08/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 8
Dear Annie: Recently, I let my ex-husband's mother, "Gladys," watch my daughter for the weekend. She hasn't been allowed to do this for quite some time due to problems we had with her and her other grandchildren. While here, Gladys ...

08/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 7
Dear Annie: I have been dating a very sweet and loving man for three years. "Sam" has grown daughters who are not particularly happy that I am in their father's life. The rest of his family treats me wonderfully, and I just love them. They ...

08/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 6
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my husband forced me and our children to relocate to a new city so he could take a promotion. I begged him not to move us hundreds of miles away from family and friends. He made no effort to find a new position in the city ...

08/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 5
Dear Annie: Our younger son, "Chris," finished his sophomore year of high school with a B average. That's not bad, but his lack of motivation to work for the higher grades he usually gets was uncharacteristic. The worst thing is that ...

08/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 4
Dear Annie: I spent the last two years pining away for an old love, and he finally came back into my life six months ago. Things started out great, but then we started talking about the future. For some reason, "Jordan" always wants ...

08/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 3
Dear Annie: My wife and I recently divorced after 10 years of marriage, because she had an affair with her manager. Our three children now live primarily with me and see their mother every other weekend. My ex has a new boyfriend who sleeps ...

08/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 2
Dear Annie: I had the misfortune to be born to the two most selfish people known to mankind. I am their only child. When Dad divorced Mom, he divorced me. He's spent the rest of his life being a wonderful husband to his new wife (who doesn't ...

08/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, August 1
Dear Annie: What happens when it's the husband who has no interest in sex? I am 38. "Marty" is 45. Both of us are attractive and in shape, and we've been married for five years. It has been almost two years without any intimacy, and prior to ...

07/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 31
Dear Annie: "Beth" and I have been very good friends for 30 years. We grew up together. However, there is something going on that may destroy our friendship. When we were children, Beth's father molested her. As horrible as it was, ...

07/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 30
Dear Annie: I have been friends with "Sherry" for seven years. We worked together but stayed in touch when we left that job, as we are in similar fields. Sherry is very well-connected and has helped me, but she often tells office ...

07/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 29
Dear Annie: I have been married for five years. My husband, "Bart," is in his 70s, and I am in my 60s. We love each other very much. Bart is physically ill and does not get out of the house much. The problem is, every night he goes on the ...

07/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 28
Dear Annie: My 32-year-old brother, "Jason," has been using crack cocaine for several years. He has two children from different women — a 14-year-old boy who lives with his mother, and a 7-year-old girl. Jason and his daughter ...

07/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 27
Dear Annie: I am a 30-year-old woman who lives an hour away from her parents. My parents are still married, even though they have been unhappy for many years. My mother is great, and we are very close. My father was always a verbal bully and mentally ...

07/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 26
Dear Annie: I'm a single mother of a wonderful 12-year-old boy. He gets A's in school, plays sports and reads voraciously. I am divorced from my son's father, who lives nearby, and we share custody. My ex thinks our son is unmotivated because ...

07/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 25
Dear Annie: My husband has a brother, "Cory," who is lazy, foul-mouthed, has been arrested several times on illegal weapons charges and is involved with a white supremacist group. At one point, Cory threatened to rape and kill me, and ...

07/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 24
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. Things are pretty good. We have two beautiful children, good jobs and a supportive family. We rarely fight except about one thing — sex. Before we married, we were all over each ...

07/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 23
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two grandsons, ages 8 and 6. These boys are precious to us. Our problem is my daughter-in-law. Every so often, she decides to punish us by taking the boys away. The first time was because she felt my husband ...

07/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 22
Dear Annie: "Joyce" is 65, and I am 67. We have been in a relationship for 13 years. Last week, Joyce asked me to dinner, for what I assumed was a belated birthday celebration, and told me she is getting married and moving 1,000 miles away.
07/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 21
Dear Annie: Four years ago, my father died of a massive coronary right in front of my mother. Since then, Mom has been slipping both mentally and physically. Mom lives on her own, smokes a pack and a half of cigarettes per day and drinks away ...

07/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 20
Dear Annie: I have been happily married to the woman of my dreams for two years. My question concerns my ex, "Julie." We dated on and off for quite some time, and she was a huge part of my life for eight years prior to meeting my wife. When ...

07/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 19
Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old girl whose mother has left her behind for a new boyfriend. Mom met "Hayden" about six weeks ago, and ever since, she spends all her days off with him, at his house, which is an hour away. Sometimes she'll come ...

07/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 18
Dear Annie: I have been dating "Erina" for seven months. She is addicted to heroin and crack cocaine. At first, she kept it from me and lied about where she was going or what she was doing. Now it's reached the point where she will ask me ...

07/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 17
Dear Annie: My dad is 87 years old, and Mom is 79. One of my brothers, "Dylan," has not been home in almost 12 years. He and his wife have no children, and we are his wife's only family. You'd think she'd be close, but no. At one point, she ...

07/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 16
Dear Annie: I'm a 59-year-old woman. My husband had a terrible childhood with a mentally abusive mother. She is so nasty that his other siblings have no contact with her, but my husband still treats her extremely well. She lives far away, but we have ...

07/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 15
Dear Annie: During my battle with breast cancer last year, my employer went out of business. The company my fiance works for hired me for a part-time job. After working there for several months, the owners told me they needed a full-time person. They ...

07/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 14
Dear Annie: I was a live-in caregiver for my elderly parents for more than 10 years. I did their cooking, cleaning, laundry, lawn work, shopping and chauffeuring. I spent many sleepless nights by their bedsides and had no life of my own. My sacrifice ...

07/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 13
Dear Annie: I have worked for "Tim" for nearly 20 years. During all that time, he has been happily married to "Patty," and they have raised three sons. I've met Patty on many occasions and found her to be pleasant, witty, friendly ...

07/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 12
Dear Annie: I moved away from home when I was 19 because I couldn't live with my mother anymore. She was controlling, had double standards for my brother and me, and was just a very unhappy person. As a kid, I always felt I was walking on eggshells ...

07/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 11
Dear Annie: My husband's cousin, "Monica," is a very dear friend, but lately I've left family gatherings with knots in my stomach. Monica has an 18-month-old daughter and insists that all the other children, including my 4-year-old ...

07/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 10
Dear Annie: A few months ago, I found out my husband, who is a long-haul truck driver, has been maintaining a relationship with a woman in another town. I discovered the affair through cell phone records and confronted my husband. He said he ...

07/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 9
Dear Annie: I have been married to a wonderful guy for six years, and I love him very much. The problem is, "Dean" has two children. My daughter died a tragic death last year, and since then, I have not wanted to be around kids or take care ...

07/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 8
Dear Annie: My in-laws filed for divorce over three years ago. It has been the most immature, drawn out, draining process any of us could have imagined. My father-in-law was caught cheating, and he married his mistress within days of the divorce being ...

07/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 7
Dear Annie: My sister and brother-in-law revealed some information to me this weekend. It is disturbing, and I don't like the way they are handling it. It seems my 8-year-old niece, "Amy," was playing with a boy and girl next door. ...

07/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 6
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my father-in-law suffered a stroke and then a heart attack. Dad has always been on the vulgar side, but now it's become extreme. In his spare time, Dad makes up "books" with pictures of women he cuts out of the ...

07/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 5
Dear Annie: My parents have been divorced for nearly a decade, and both have remarried. The problem is, even after all this time, my mother is still mad at my father and can't stand to be around him. My brother is getting married soon, and my ...

07/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 4
Dear Readers: Happy Fourth of July. Here's one of our favorite quotes from Erma Bombeck: "You have to love a nation that celebrates its independence every July 4, not with a parade of guns, tanks, and soldiers who file by the White House in a ...

07/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 3
Dear Annie: I attend summer school with "Jon," who has a mild intellectual disability. Jon is a very nice boy, and everyone likes him, including me. But I have one problem. We've become such good friends, he now has the idea that I love him. ...

07/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 2
Dear Annie: I'm a single mom in my early 40s, very fit, with no children currently living at home. I recently joined a running club in my community. In this club, I met a terrific guy. "Dane" is in his late 40s, in excellent physical ...

07/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, July 1
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-20s and have a wonderful, loving boyfriend. "Jeremy" is my best friend, and I see us getting married in the future. The problem? We've been together for a year, and Jeremy still has not met my family. I have ...

06/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 30
Dear Annie: Recently, my mother told my wife that she and her husband will be unable to attend my 4-year-old daughter's birthday. The reason given is that my wife's mother showered my daughter with so many gifts last year that it made my mother's ...

06/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 29
Dear Annie: My brother, "Bob," is a very controlling, overprotective father. He has three teenage children. He has to know what they are doing at all times, even when they are in the house. When his kids were younger, they were not allowed ...

06/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 28
Dear Annie: My 8-year-old son was recently being bullied by a neighbor's daughter. We were good friends with these neighbors, so we talked to them. They were in denial about the bullying and refused to discuss it. Eventually, it became so bad that it ...

06/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 27
Dear Annie: Lately, my mother has been all over the place, mood-wise. For starters, she has accused me of stealing from her and hitting her (neither is true). When a family member became seriously ill, Mom accused her of faking it. One of my in-laws ...

06/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 26
Dear Annie: I'm in love with an engaged man, but unfortunately, he isn't engaged to me. He knows how I feel and has told me he has similar feelings. We know we aren't doing the smartest thing, but we both believe a little bit is better than nothing at ...

06/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 25
Dear Annie: My worst nightmare came true a few weeks ago. I found out my husband of 14 years has been having an affair. Over the years, I suspected "Tony" was seeing "Connie," the mother of my son's friend, but he always told me he ...

06/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 24
Dear Annie: My husband, "Arnold," and I have been married nearly 10 years. We have a good, solid relationship and four wonderful young children. I am a stay-at-home mom, while Arnold runs his own company, which is quite successful. ...

06/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 23
Dear Annie: I'm a 29-year-old female and have been married to "Steve" for seven years. I feel extremely close to his family, and we discuss all problems openly. Steve's mom divorced after 22 years of marriage and recently moved in ...

06/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 22
Dear Annie: I'm 53 years old and married, but the person with whom I have a loving and close relationship is 78 years old and also married — to someone else. We love each other and have a unique bond despite our age difference. "...

06/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 21
Dear Annie: I am an 18-year-old boy who just graduated high school and will be attending a great university in the fall. I expected the freedom of finding a summer job on my own, but I thought wrong. My father told me he still expects me to work at ...

06/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 20
Dear Annie: I am the mother of a 9-year-old girl, "Tandy." She has been friends with a group of girls almost since birth, but this year (third grade) has been terrible. Tandy attends private school as well as church with these girls. ...

06/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 19
Dear Annie: Five years ago, I became friends with one of the teachers at my daughter's school. "Sara" and I hit it off instantly, and my husband and I often met her and her husband for dinner. At the time, Sara was in the middle of ...

06/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 18
Dear Annie: "Susan" and I have been married for three years, and while we love each other, the end may be near. Susan was cheated on in a previous relationship, but has made no effort to get past it, and she is entirely convinced I have been ...

06/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 17
Dear Readers: Happy Father's Day to all the dads, stepdads, granddads, adoptive fathers, foster fathers and father figures in our reading audience. Having a caring father in one's life is not only one of life's great joys, but also crucially important ...

06/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 16
Dear Annie: I am 45 and dating "Ben," 53. Ben is a great guy, kind and generous, but I have a problem with his sentimentality. Don't get me wrong. It's not a bad thing to be sentimental, but Ben is a little over the top. Ben still ...

06/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 15
Dear Annie: My husband of eight years has a 20-year-old daughter by another marriage. "Joy" goes to school and works part time. The problem is, he is obsessed with having her around. Every time she's here, we have to do some activity that ...

06/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 14
Dear Annie: My 30-year-old son is very good at stock car racing. We like to support all of our kids in everything they do. Racing, however, causes a problem in our family. That is because of the obscenities that seem to be a large part of the language ...

06/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 13
Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Sally," whom I met through her boyfriend, "Harry." The three of us are part of a group of professionally connected people. Sally lives with Harry, although he often spends months at a time overseas....

06/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 12
Dear Annie: I have a husband and three kids, two of whom are old enough to help around the house. The problem is, they don't until I start screaming, then they help only to shut me up. I'm tired of re-cleaning the same things 20 times a day ...

06/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 11
Dear Annie: I've been married over 30 years to "Ted." He makes a very good salary, we own our house, and there is money in the bank. I've never been unfaithful, but I'm not sure I can say the same for my better half. Five years ago, I ...

06/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 10
Dear Annie: I have been married for 12 years and have always gotten along with my mother-in-law until last week, when I changed phone companies. There were some crossed wires, and I overheard my mother-in-law saying nasty things about me to my sister-...

06/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 9
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Wise Too Late in Bossier, La.," who said women aren't interested in sex. You were right to say that he doesn't speak for all men or understand all women. But in all fairness, there is much truth in what he ...

06/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 8
Dear Annie: Three years ago, I married the woman of my dreams. However, her children have been anything but. We each had a home, so we moved into her house and rented mine. That worked fine for a while, then the renters moved and her son needed ...

06/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 7
Dear Annie: "Angie" and I dated for four years, and had frank discussions about children. I knew she wanted a large family, and she knew I was almost as apprehensive as I was eager. We married last summer, and everything seemed great — ...

06/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 6
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law is an extremely controlling person, especially when it comes to my easygoing husband, her only child. She will cry and throw fits when she doesn't see him or he doesn't call her for a few days. She dominates every ...

06/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 5
Dear Annie: I am 66 and have been married to a wonderful man for a little over a year. I was a widow for 10 years, and "Bill" was divorced a long time ago. We have a great relationship with one exception: I am jealous of his widowed sister.
06/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 4
Dear Annie: My 10-year-old daughter, "Paulina," is complaining about a class mother bullying her. Paulina said this woman elbowed her once when no one was around, and another time, while dishing out hot lunches, she gave my daughter less ...

06/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 3
Dear Annie: I have nine siblings ranging in age from 42 to 59. We have our ups and downs and I've usually been able to remain neutral in most of the skirmishes. My mom always called me the peacemaker. Two years ago, my younger sister, "...

06/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 2
Dear Annie: I recently discovered that my 9-year-old son, "Liam," is stealing. He has been caught taking very expensive items from his grandparents' house and also from school. He has stolen from his friends' homes as well. When I ...

06/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, June 1
Dear Annie: I recently went out of town, and my husband of 36 years stayed home to work. When I returned, I found that most of the house had been cleaned and the entire contents of the top of my dresser had been dumped into a cardboard box. He ...

05/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 31
Dear Annie: A year ago, I found out I was pregnant. When I shared the great news with my husband, "Archie," he screamed, "How can you do this? Are you trying to trap me?" I was hurt, but knew he'd been under a lot of stress, so I ...

05/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 30
Dear Annie: If I move across the country permanently, am I obligated to inform my family of my change of address? They have not contacted me in nearly a decade. I am a single female in my late 50s, never married, no children. I was adopted at ...

05/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 29
Dear Annie: Our daughter, "Madison," will be 24 soon. She is a very bright girl and an extremely talented artist. When she attended junior college here at home, we paid for her tuition, books and related expenses. She held part-time jobs and ...

05/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 28
Dear Annie: I am very worried about my nephew, "Charlie." The boy is only in second grade, and already the school has twice recommended psychiatric counseling for him. Charlie is emotionally immature, as evidenced by his strange behavior at ...

05/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 27
Dear Annie: When I met my husband, "Pete," he already had two big dogs. I've never been fond of the dogs, but I accepted their presence because they are important to Pete. Last week, the female dog nipped our toddler son on the chin. ...

05/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 26
Dear Annie: A year ago, I had a party for my husband and invited his family and friends, including his 22-year-old niece, "Jan." At the end of the evening, I discovered money missing from my purse. Jan's parents immediately confronted her, ...

05/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 25
Dear Annie: I'm a 51-year-old male and answered a personal ad posted by "Ginny," an older woman. I am attracted to older women for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is that they don't want more kids or have young children at home.<...

05/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 24
Dear Annie: My sister, "Linda," died two months ago, after years of struggling with cancer. We were very close, and I'm still grieving. Linda was married nearly 20 years, but I never felt I knew her husband, "James." During her ...

05/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 23
Dear Annie: I rent one of my bedrooms to "Kirby." He pays his rent on time every week without fail. He drinks a little too much, but it doesn't seem to interfere with his job or his rent payments. The problem is, Kirby brings his ...

05/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 22
Dear Annie: I am 17 years old and going to be a senior in high school in the fall. Pretty soon, I will be making some very important decisions about my future and choosing where I want to go to college. I get nearly straight A's and could probably get ...

05/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 21
Dear Annie: I have been in a six-month relationship with "Allen." He is the one I would like to spend the rest of my life with. Allen moved in a few months ago, and he gets along great with my teenage daughter. The problem? I believe ...

05/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 20
Dear Annie: My friend, "Zoe," and I are both 16. We met this past year. On one of our first nights hanging out together outside of school, Zoe confessed that she had been severely sexually abused by her father from the time she was 4 until ...

05/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 19
Dear Annie: For the past year, my family has been experiencing what I believe to be an unusual problem. We've noticed that our middle-aged father has been making annoying noises when he exhales. The noises are quite loud and impossible to ignore, and ...

05/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 18
Dear Annie: Our 23-year-old son has lots of emotional problems and has been diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder. For five years, he saw a psychiatrist for a chemical imbalance. He became frustrated and refused to continue his therapy. Within ...

05/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 17
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Two years ago, we found out that my husband's stepfather (I will call him "Don") sexually abused my daughter when she was 7 years old. (She is 17 now.) We contacted ...

05/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 16
Dear Annie: I'm not very proud of myself, and I need help. I have not been blessed with a soul mate, but I haven't totally given up hope. My best friend, "Isabel," however, has been married for over 20 years to a great guy. Isabel is very ...

05/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 15
Dear Annie: I work for an organization that takes on worthy, but controversial, issues. Over the years, we have been at odds (sometimes legally) with the state. Here's the problem. There is a professional gentleman who works for the state and ...

05/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 14
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Callie," is in eighth grade and always has done well academically. She usually gets As and Bs, with a few Cs every now and then. We don't mind her getting a C, as long as we know she tried her best. The problem is, ...

05/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 13
Dear Annie: I remember reading a piece a long time ago that said something about women who didn't win "mother of the year." I'd love to see it again. Can you please find it and reprint it? — Seattle Reader Dear Seattle: Here it ...

05/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 12
Dear Annie: I live with the laziest, luckiest 63-year-old male. We've known each other for 20 years, and have lived together for the last 10 (not married). "Ralph" hangs around the house six days a week, and all he does is sit, lie down and ...

05/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 11
Dear Annie: I am a single mom of a 14-year-old girl. Since "Cindy" was in fifth grade, things have been rough. We moved to another town so I could have a better-paying job, but Cindy didn't do well in school, so we moved back. She did ...

05/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 10
Dear Annie: I'm a 60-year-old woman, married 22 years. My husband, "John," quit his job in order to work at home and monitor our 17-year-old son, who has refused to go to school and has been in court and on probation several times. John is ...

05/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 9
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for four years and together for six. Each of us has a young child from a previous relationship, and we have a toddler daughter together. At first, his 9-year-old son, "Dean," stayed with ...

05/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 8
Dear Annie: My problem is my son's wife. I have visited them several times in their home, and when I return, items are always missing from my handbag and my luggage. The first time I noticed this, I was actually still in their house. I was ...

05/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 7
Dear Annie: I work with a man who is a great asset to our department. However, he has a mobility impairment that is getting worse. He is now unable to walk down a hallway without holding on to the wall. He can't walk even short distances without ...

05/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox®, May 6
Dear Annie: We have three adult sons, one of whom is married with two young daughters. We had very little bonding with their first child. Our daughter-in-law's mother took over, even though she had three other grandchildren. We gave in other ways, ...

05/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox, May 5
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Lara," is a 37-year-old single mom and unemployed. She had a difficult childhood, and as her mother, I feel partly to blame. Over the years, my husband and I have paid for several types of therapy for her, and we ...

05/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox, May 4
Dear Annie: I am an intelligent, educated, attractive woman, in good physical shape, and I like to cook and keep house. My daughter always tells me, "You're hot, Mom. Anybody would be happy with you." I left a 30-year marriage because ...

05/03/2007 Pledge of Allegiance
The late Red Skelton said it best. — R.H. Dear R.H.: After receiving hundreds of copies of this, we decided our readers might want to see it. In 1969, Red Skelton talked about his school days in Indiana, and how one of his teachers, Mr. ...

05/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox, May 2
Dear Annie: My sister, "Charlene," has an 8-year-old daughter whom I love very much. I have two children of my own and try to include my niece in family events and vacations, as well as allow her to visit as many weekends as she'd like. I do ...

05/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox, May 1
Dear Annie: My wife's parents are both alcoholics, and I have a real problem with them, especially when my mother-in-law comes over to drink. I have put my foot down, so it doesn't happen often, but when it does, my mother-in-law will walk in with an ...

04/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 30
Dear Annie: My "Aunt Valerie" has a 40-year-old son who e-mailed invitations to his destination wedding at a fancy hotel. My parents drove 12 hours (one way), while another aunt and uncle endured a 32-hour drive (one way), paying $250 per ...

04/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 29
Dear Annie: Five years ago, my mother-in-law moved in with us after my father-in-law died. Mom was capable and strong then, but over the last few years, she has lost her short-term memory and can no longer do much for herself. She's become very ...

04/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 28
Dear Annie: I am a 30-year-old woman and have been living with "Michael" for seven months. We have been dating nearly two years. Our relationship is pretty good, except for one thing. Michael has an anger management problem. He never ...

04/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 27
Dear Annie: We live next door to my husband's brother, "Kevin." Kevin feels free to borrow anything of ours, and nothing is off limits. He never asks permission and rarely brings things back unless we demand it. He comes into our home and ...

04/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 26
Dear Annie: I am a single mother of two girls, ages 4 and 2. Their father isn't in the picture much. I love my kids, but sometimes I think I never should have had children. A while ago, I put my 4-year-old into group counseling because she was ...

04/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 25
Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old girl who is considered smart, fun, confident and pretty. I have never had problems with guys losing interest in me or avoiding me before, but my boyfriend, "Alec," has been ignoring me on and off for the past ...

04/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 24
Dear Annie: My wife, "Penny," thinks it is great fun to spank the behind of whomever happens to be bending over in front of her (usually guys). She spanks them as hard as she can. If she happens to hurt her hand on a wallet, she doesn't miss ...

04/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 23
Dear Annie: I've been happily married for more than 10 years and have a toddler. I always knew that my husband occasionally watched pornographic videos on the Internet, and it never really bothered me. Now I think maybe I was wrong. I ...

04/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 22
Dear Annie: My son and daughter-in-law are parents of a darling 3-year-old girl, "Fiona." My problem is watching them give her everything she wants, and her consequential behavior. They rarely say "no," and when Fiona causes a ...

04/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 21
Dear Annie: My best friend, "Tiffany," is in an emotional rut. She is seeing a married man and is devastated by the fact that she is the Other Woman. She knew he was married when she started seeing him, but she didn't expect it to affect her ...

04/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 20
Dear Annie: Several weeks ago, my husband and I found out we are pregnant with our third baby (kind of an "oops" baby). His first comment was, "I guess it's time for you to get your tubes tied." I was so stunned that I agreed, but ...

04/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 19
Dear Annie: I'm writing because, as a Marine wife, I know the toll deployment and war can take on a family. When we were married 30 years ago, my husband and I were both in active duty. I soon separated from the Navy to raise our family of four ...

04/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 18
Dear Annie: My husband of nine years has a brother, "Daniel," whom I have never been comfortable with, but have tolerated. My husband's sister will not allow Daniel in her home, and another brother will not even speak to him. Daniel ...

04/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 17
Dear Annie: My "Aunt Judy" has been vicious to her in-laws (my grandparents) and my family for years. She's easily offended, and I can't help but think she's holding on to some old, hidden grudge. Judy's daughter has cancer, and Judy ...

04/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 16
Dear Annie: My 21-year-old daughter has been dating "Charlie" for three years. My daughter attends college, works and has many plans for her future. She is a beautiful, fun-loving, intelligent girl — until it comes to Charlie. Charlie ...

04/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 15
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married 20 years. She has been obese most of her life, and the consequences have caught up with her in the form of hypertension, diabetes, sleep apnea, etc. She has difficulty moving around, and as a result, she ...

04/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 14
Dear Annie: My 90-year-old grandmother moved into my parents' house a year ago, because Grandma was showing signs of dementia and kept forgetting to take her medications. My sister lives three hours away, and I am slightly closer. We each visit about ...

04/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 13
Dear Annie: I am struggling with some major issues with my wife. We both have older children from previous marriages. We also have two young boys together. My 40-something wife dresses very provocatively. Her daily attire is short shorts and ...

04/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 12
Dear Annie: After not seeing his 9-year-old daughter for almost a year, my ex-husband announced he was flying in for a long weekend visit. We have been divorced for a while, and he moved across the country with his new wife and child. He lives several ...

04/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 11
Dear Annie: I have a beautiful 10-year-old daughter, "Lisa." The problem is, she is teased by other children. She is tall and very slim for her age, but they call her "fat." I didn't think Lisa would take it to heart, but my ...

04/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 10
Dear Annie: A few days ago, I received an anonymous letter from a woman who stated she was having an affair with my husband. She wanted me to know, because she felt if I knew he didn't love me anymore, I would leave him. She further stated not to ask ...

04/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 9
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for three years, but haven't been living together for a few months. We don't want a divorce. We just reached a point where we fought too much and needed some space. We have two kids. The problem is my ...

04/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 8
Dear Annie: My sister, "Mary," is dating a man no one in the family can stand. The day she brought "Bubba" home to meet us, he came in ranting and raving and using the "n" word. Needless to say, I wasn't impressed. When I ...

04/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 7
Dear Annie: A year ago, my husband and I ran into a financial roadblock when he lost his job and I went back to college. We had to move in with "Ryan's" parents. Two months later, we found out we were expecting. The day we told his mother, ...

04/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 6
Dear Annie: I have an older brother who is 38. "Elton" has suffered from depression for a long time. In earlier years, he got help, but now he refuses and is convinced everyone is out to get him. My problem is, he uses the family ...

04/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 5
Dear Annie: "Steve" and I have been happily married for 15 years. We both love children and dreamed of someday having a large family. However, after several years of trying to conceive, we sought medical help and were told Steve has a sperm ...

04/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 4
Dear Annie: I am a seventh-grade boy, and I have a very big problem with another boy in my grade. "George" is extremely annoying. He pesters me all the time. He never lets me concentrate in class, he follows me everywhere, even into the ...

04/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 3
Dear Annie: I'm a second-semester college student who is having a horrible time transitioning back to school. Since classes started up again, I've called home every night, sobbing and miserable. I had a wonderful first semester and can't figure ...

04/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 2
Dear Annie: My husband is a groomsman for one of his very close friends. The bachelor party is supposed to be a three-day event in another state and will include at least one visit to a strip club. I don't approve of the strip club part, ...

04/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox, April 1
Dear Annie: Did you know that young people want to serve their communities? In fact, millions of young people volunteer every year, and the number continues to grow. Please let your readers know about the 19th Annual National & Global Youth ...

03/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 31
Dear Annie: My mom is a complete control freak. For a school project, I was supposed to research a type of bird, make a life-sized model and write a paper. I had three weeks to finish, and it sounded like fun. The day I started, Mom tried to take over....

03/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 30
Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Tara," has basically cut off all ties with our family, because she has somehow convinced herself that my brother and I committed unforgivable acts toward her when she was a child. I never did the things ...

03/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 29
Dear Annie: Yesterday, my husband's nephew sent him an invitation to view the online blog that he and his wife write. On the site, the wife had posted a photo of herself wearing scanty clothing. I am furious, but I don't think it's jealousy I'm ...

03/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 28
Dear Annie: I'm an attractive, smart, 26-year-old female with a great job and a rich social life, friends-wise. The problem? Lately, it seems I'm destined to be alone. It's not that I don't meet guys. It's that I keep attracting the wrong types. And if I ...

03/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 27
Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl and a good student. I love my life except for one thing. I still suck my fingers. When I was a baby, I never used a pacifier. I used my fingers. I have tried everything to quit. I did manage to give it up for ...

03/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 26
Dear Annie: I am in my 60s and have been married to "Lorraine" for 42 years. In Year Four of our marriage, Lorraine admitted to an affair. She said I wasn't exciting enough, and she was right. I was more interested in being successful ...

03/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 25
Dear Annie: My 59-year-old mother has been dating "Kirby" for four years. The problem is, Mom doesn't have good judgment when it comes to picking men. Both of her ex-husbands were abusive. Kirby is loud, arrogant, embarrassing, puts ...

03/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 24
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "California Dreamer," a woman of merely 59, who writes about how OLD she is now that she can't see shampoo bottles or tolerate scratchy labels in her clothes, etc. I am 63, and I don't have all this trouble....

03/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 23
Dear Annie: Let me start off by saying that I adore your column and read it every day. I trust your advice. I think my best friend since kindergarten may be anorexic. This is only a small suspicion, but I have some proof to back it up. "...

03/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 22
Dear Annie: Last night, my partner and I had a deep conversation and discovered we have a problem. We've been together nearly a year, and although we haven't talked about marriage, she wants me to guarantee a long-term commitment to her. I can't do ...

03/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 21
Dear Annie: Recently, my husband and I decided to build a home. When we went to the bank about a loan, I discovered (via my credit report) that my mother had bought a computer and paid some utility bills using my Social Security number and her name. ...

03/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 20
Dear Annie: After 40 years of marriage, my sister's husband kicked her out with nothing but the clothes on her back. "Peggy" is an alcoholic and a heavy smoker who doesn't care what she looks or smells like. She lost her driving privileges ...

03/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 19
Dear Annie: I've been married for six years and have two wonderful young children. My husband, 36, is a good man and a great, playful father. He has a wonderful job that has enabled me to quit mine and stay home with my children. The problem is ...

03/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 18
Dear Annie: I'm in eighth grade and recently became friends with several girls. Last year, they were in their own circle, and I was in mine, but this year, we became really close. Yesterday, though, these same girls started shunning me and "Abbie,...

03/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 17
Dear Annie: My significant other of 20-plus years retired eight months ago. I thought this would finally give us time together, but I could not have been more wrong. "Steve" is only in his mid-50s and had worked 30 years at a brutal, ...

03/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 16
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 18 months, and his 9-year-old stepson, "Jason," stays with us every other week. The boy is so clingy, jealous and insecure that he is always at my husband's side. Every five minutes, he ...

03/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 15
Dear Annie: A year ago, my husband and I discovered that he is unable to father children, so we have decided to use a sperm donor. If I should get pregnant, we agreed to tell the child how he/she was conceived. However, my husband is somewhat ...

03/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 14
Dear Annie: We are close friends with "Allen and Michelle," who live just down the street from us. We share a lot of personal information with each other and enjoy hanging out. The problems began after Michelle introduced us to "...

03/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 13
Dear Annie: I've been married to "Ed" for six years. We are not young. Ed is an only child and, according to his parents, can do no wrong. We live a few blocks from his mom and dad, and I am not allowed in their home, nor am I ever ...

03/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 12
Dear Annie: I have a 50-year-old single friend who visits us three or four times a year. "Sally" is a wonderful person and a good houseguest, except for one thing. The woman will not wash her hands. She takes a very quick shower in the ...

03/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 11
Dear Annie: For a year, my brother has lived with a girl I think is underage. "Eydie" looks like she's 14, and she has a 2-year-old who also lives with them. My brother was vague about how they met — not sure whether it was at a video ...

03/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I've been with "Jerry" for eight years. We have created a loving family that includes our four kids — two from my first marriage and two from his. The problem is Jerry's ex-wife, "Geraldine." Geraldine has ...

03/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: Should a little boy have an American Girl doll? My 5-year-old son talks about nothing else since his older sister got one for Christmas. His 6th birthday is coming up, and he says all he wants is that doll. He loves to play with the Barbie ...

03/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: During 33 years of marriage, my husband seldom, if ever, removed his wedding ring. However, during the past four months, I've noticed it's off a lot more than it's on. I've discovered it in his jewelry box, the glove compartment of his car ...

03/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: After Hurricane Katrina, my sister and her 13-year-old son moved into my home. I notice that when my sister takes a shower, her son goes into the bathroom and talks to her. I am horrified by this and feel it is wrong. I know nothing sexual ...

03/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am married and have two beautiful children. Recently, I was cleaning out my bedroom closet and found some photos printed off the Internet. One was of a female in trashy lingerie, and the other was of a woman in a sexual position with her ...

03/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-50s and have a very low libido. I'm not a candidate for hormone replacement therapy due to a family history of breast cancer. I thought men's libidos waned as they aged, but not so with my 63-year-old husband. His ...

03/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a 27-year-old mother, and I have a nephew, by marriage, who is 24. We'll call him "Brandon." He is a wonderful person with two small children. The problem is, Brandon lives 40 minutes away, and every time he visits, ...

03/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 3
Dear Annie: My husband, "Alfred," has been gambling for the last 10 years, and his habit is getting progressively worse. I have caught him numerous times, and each time he promises to quit, but then lapses. We have both gone for counseling, ...

03/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 2
Dear Annie: I usually don't answer my husband's cell phone, but I picked it up while he was working in the garage. A woman said, "Hey, hon, how are ya?" I asked if she wanted to speak to my husband, and she slammed down the phone. I then ...

03/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox, March 1
Dear Annie: I've been dating "Bonnie" for six months, and it's been great. We really are ideal for each other. We are in love, and it all seems too good to be true. The problem is that I'm the first person Bonnie has dated since she ...

02/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 28
Dear Annie: I have a 29-year-old son, "Eddie," who recently moved back home after separating from his girlfriend. For the most part, everything has been fine. But recently, Eddie was away for a weekend. My two grandsons (from another son), ...

02/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 27
Dear Annie: I am a 47-year-old divorced woman. About six months ago, I put an ad in the personals and "Travis" answered. We had a lot in common and really hit it off. I fell head over heels for him. We would see each other almost every night ...

02/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 26
Dear Annie: I am attracted to a friend and am unsure if I should tell him, or how. I always find myself thinking about "Ian" and having sexual fantasies about him. I know that sounds crazy, but I can't help it. To me, he is the perfect man ...

02/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 25
Dear Annie: There are quite a few children on our block, ranging in age from 5 to 11. The kids are always outside playing. The problem is one little girl I'll call "Betsy." Betsy is pushy and always invites herself into the group. Most of ...

02/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 24
Dear Annie: My wife's mother is institutionalized with advanced Alzheimer's. The facility where she lives is very expensive and provides 24-hour skilled nursing care, therapy and a full slate of activities for residents. My father-in-law, who is ...

02/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 23
Dear Annie: I am in my early 20s and married to a great guy, and we have a beautiful son. The problem is my parents. They need to control every aspect of my life when it comes to my child. I understand it's their first grandchild, but they overreact.
02/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 22
Dear Annie: Last summer, our small business of 26 years suffered a devastating flood. My wife, who had just completed chemotherapy, waded through waist-deep water in an effort to save our most valuable records and computers. We lost 13 trucks, and our ...

02/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 21
Dear Annie: I have been involved in a romantic relationship with a co-worker for more than a year. "Lucy" is married with two teenage children. Her husband cheated on her a few years back, so they separated for two years. She dated then, but ...

02/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 20
Dear Annie: My youngest child is 13 and the only one left at home. We live in the country, and our only neighbor has a daughter, "Beth," the same age. The girls ride the bus together and hang out after school and on weekends. Beth is ...

02/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 19
Dear Annie: I am in my late 40s and have been married 28 years. Shortly after our first child was born, my husband informed me that he did not find me physically attractive. I wasn't voluptuous enough. I have always been petite and still wear a size 4....

02/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 18
Dear Annie: Last year, my wife decided she couldn't be a pastor's wife anymore and left. She hooked up with another guy fairly quickly, and they now go to a different church and pass themselves off as this great Christian blended family. She keeps ...

02/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 17
Dear Annie: I've been married for 10 years and have two young children. This past summer, at a party where there was heavy drinking, I caught my wife kissing a married man who I thought was a friend. We got into a big fight over this. I ...

02/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 16
Dear Annie: I have been a single mom for 15 years. Early on, I married a wonderful man who died shortly after from cancer. We were together only four years. I was devastated and never imagined I'd find love again, but last year, I met "John."...

02/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 15
Dear Annie: For religious reasons, my husband and I waited until we were married to have sex. I'm now convinced my husband is gay and used our marriage as a facade and to have children. He has admitted to sexual dreams about men and has always been ...

02/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 14
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day and a special greeting to our veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our gratitude to those readers who have taken the time to visit the vets and send valentines. It means so much to them. Dear ...

02/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 13
Dear Annie: I have worked at my job for seven years. Recently a co-worker pulled me aside to inform me that another co-worker, "Jane," made references about me being a drug addict and then said my husband was an addict, too. This progressed ...

02/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 12
Dear Annie: I need an outside opinion. I was in the process of repairing the windows on my garage, only to discover that they do not make this type of window anymore. My neighbors of 15 years, who I'd thought were our friends, recently replaced their ...

02/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox, February 11
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my beautiful wife left me for my cousin. We had been married 31 years. I have sought help, but I constantly think of her. I barely have the desire to go to work. I miss her eyes, her smile, her touch, her walk. My ...

02/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have never seen you address adult children abandoning their parents. Our son, "Jay," with no warning, confronted my husband and me about resentments that had been building for years. We had simply attributed his sudden ...

02/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a 21-year-old college student. I focus mostly on school, which I enjoy. I have close friends I can talk to about anything. I'm also lucky to have a large, loving family. I enjoy watching sports, going to movies, shopping, going to the ...

02/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am 34, and my wife is 24. We've been married for two years, and I am the happiest man alive. She is everything you could ask for in a wife and lover, except for one thing. My wife is a nudist. We have a rather private backyard and ...

02/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: Last year, my son and I moved into my boyfriend's home. I pay half the utilities and spend almost $400 a month on groceries for all of us, including "Tom's" 12-year-old daughter. I also paid for half of his new washer, dryer and ...

02/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: A year ago, I moved with my wife and four small children to a community of some 700 residents. Recently, I learned that a local boy has a shoe fetish. He stole a girl's shoes from her house and was caught gratifying himself over them. I ...

02/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: All my life, I've suffered from palmar hyperhidrosis, or excessive sweating of the hands. My condition is quite severe, and it has affected all areas of my life. As a child, I had to endure nasty comments from other children, and nicknames ...

02/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My wife is one of four sisters, all of whom were molested by their father between the ages of 7 and 17. She and her sister "Sally" were the two youngest, and they were the ones who ended up with the most abuse. This has ...

02/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married five years and have two toddlers. I am a working mother, and with that comes much guilt for being away from my children during the day. My husband and I try to spend as much non-working time with our ...

02/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am 65-year-old semi-retired female and have met a 68-year-old retired male, "Richard." My question is, after three months, spending many evenings with him and being physically intimate, I feel he does not treat me the way he ...

02/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have two sons — "Roger," who is married with three young children, and "Max," who has a baby. Max isn't married to the mother yet, but they live together and will be getting married soon. I consider her his wife....

01/31/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am at my wits' end with my 28-year-old daughter, "Melissa." She is successful, has her own home, drives a nice car, is highly educated, is fairly attractive, works out, runs in road races and is not a wallflower who sits at ...

01/30/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I'm having an internal battle over loyalties. I'm a recently divorced man. My friend, "Jim," also is divorced. A few days ago, I ran into Jim's ex-wife, "Tammy," at the store. We talked for a minute and exchanged ...

01/29/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My problem is, I need therapy. Let me explain. My husband has worked at his company for 10 years and there's never been a problem, but his employer recently hired a woman with a questionable reputation. Last month, I found out my ...

01/28/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I run a Sunday school program for 22 children. There are two young children in our care, "Billy," age 4, and "Andy," age 2. Their mother died a year ago, while giving birth to their baby sister. Their father recently ...

01/27/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome in 1989 and was unable to work for over two years. I gradually recovered to the point where I could work part time, along with running a small Internet-based business from home. My health is ...

01/26/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I was lucky enough to find my true love at 16. I am now 19, and my boyfriend, "Warren," and I have been together for over three years. We have a wonderful, healthy relationship. He is my best friend and the most honest, ...

01/25/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I'm in my early 50s, having emigrated from London almost 11 years ago. I have six siblings, all of whom have settled down and remain comfortably married for over three decades. Since arriving here, I have yet to receive a telephone ...

01/24/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a single mother of two who is happy in her life, but I have one problem — my dad's girlfriend, "Sherry." Last year on Father's Day, my sisters and I wanted to take Dad to lunch. However, Dad insisted we call ...

01/23/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a faithful reader and love your matter-of-fact approach, which is why I am writing. I am a 40-year-old single mom. I work part time and am nearly finished with my college education. I am in love with "Michael." We ...

01/22/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Although we've had our share of ups and downs, we have always been committed to making our marriage work. Last year, my husband had an affair with a subordinate at his office. ...

01/21/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My "Aunt Suzy," who is only in her 50s, takes quite a bit of medicine. Sometimes she sleeps for days at a time. Sometimes she has a headache and stays up for days at a time. She never actually feels good. I discovered by ...

01/20/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My nephew and his wife are friends with a couple my husband and I do not care to be around. This couple used to be friends with us, too, until we had a falling out. I don't feel comfortable in their presence, and my nephew promised he would ...

01/19/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: For most of her life, my 11-year-old daughter has been best friends with "Tammy," age 9. Tammy is the daughter of good friends. In recent weeks, every time my daughter has called her, Tammy has some reason to hang up the phone, ...

01/18/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a 12-year-old girl with a big problem. I am African-American and proud of it, but at school I get called foul names. I've asked teachers to talk to the students, but they just say they will get to it soon.  I'm getting scared to ...

01/17/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I'm 19 and attending college. I room with five other girls, and the father of one of them, "Debbie," owns the house we live in. The problem? Debbie believes that since it is her father's house, she gets to make all the rules. We all agree ...

01/16/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I'm going to try to make this short, but with all the spare time I have, it could get tricky. I am a 39-year-old domestic goddess (it sounds better than homemaker). I am engaged to a great guy who works 12 hours a day, seven days a week. ...

01/15/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My 22-year-old son's best friend, "Jeremy," has evidently taken a liking to my wife. He approached her once with an offer to be intimate. At that time, we both laughed it off. Then he decided to send her a text message in the wee ...

01/14/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: Many anniversaries and observances will occur this year that are important to our veterans: Memorial Day and Veterans Day are the best-known ones. Another occasion I look forward to each year is the Valentines for Vets program during National ...

01/13/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: "Unlucky in Kentucky" lamented the lack of sex in his marriage, and the best you could do was tell him to take his wife's needs into account? You should have added, "because you are a man and yours don't count." Believe ...

01/12/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have a 16-year-old daughter, "Joni," who moved back into my home 18 months ago. She had been living with my sister for a while. Joni has always been stubborn, but overall, she's always been a good kid. We talk a lot. Since school ...

01/11/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have been in a serious relationship with "Clark" for over two years. He's the man of my dreams, and I love him more than words can say. We are open, honest and loyal to each other, and we get along great. We get through hard times ...

01/10/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have been dating a gentleman for the past two years. He is very effeminate, and people often ask me if he is gay. In fact, I knew from the start that he had had homosexual experiences in the past and basically lived a gay lifestyle for ...

01/09/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I am a 40-something woman who has been divorced (and alone) for more than 10 years. Last year I met "Gary," and he has made me happier than I have been in years. He moved in six months ago. The problem is my sisters, "Pam ...

01/08/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: On the surface, life is good. My husband's business is thriving, and we have two beautiful children. But inside, I am miserable. Our marriage is dying. My husband is unable to compromise. Whenever we come to a major life decision, he gets ...

01/07/2007 Annie's Mailbox
  Dear Annie: I have a serious trust issue with my fiance of two years. I feel I have to go behind his back and read all of his e-mails and MySpace messages. I never had a reason to do this, but once I started, I discovered he's been ...

01/06/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: When my grandchildren were at my house recently, we watched "Spongebob Squarepants" on Nickelodeon. The show was fine, but I am really concerned and disgusted over two short filler cartoons which ran during the program. One was ...

01/05/2007 Annie's Mailbox
  Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old female, and I'm addicted to porn. Not so much the porn in pictures, but porn in stories. I know I shouldn't be reading this kind of stuff, but I can't seem to stop. Sure, for a month or two I can go without,...

01/04/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I have a son who is nearly 26. "Jack" has a good job and lives in his own apartment about 100 miles away, but he has no social life and has never had a girlfriend. Jack insists on coming home every other weekend to see his mother....

01/03/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: I've been divorced just over a year, ending a 30-year marriage. The divorce was fairly civil. What I'm struggling with is the lack of support from two of my closest friends. The three of us girls worked together in an office more than 20 ...

01/02/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: A number of years ago, my wife and I divorced after a long marriage. About a year later, I began dating "Marta," a good friend of hers. It was important to us that their friendship not be harmed, and we may have been too successful. ...

01/01/2007 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Readers: Today is the beginning of a new year and the idea that we can start fresh and make this year better than the last. We wish you good health and happiness, and offer one of our favorite essays. We think it is appropriate: ...

12/31/2006 Annie's Mailbox
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have a roommate, "Joe," a jobless veteran. Joe lies in bed all day, getting up once or twice to use the restroom and maybe eat or drink something. The problem is, Joe doesn't bathe. In the three months he has ...

12/30/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 30
Dear Annie: I have been married for 13 years. I have beautiful kids and a wife I love intensely. The problem is, she acts like I'm not even alive. I hug her and tell her I love her on a regular basis. She will kiss me if nobody else is remotely close. ...

12/29/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 29
Dear Annie: I am 15 years old. When I was in eighth grade, I started dating a sophomore in high school. I thought it was the coolest thing to do. I mean, words cannot express. My parents knew I talked to upperclassmen, but they didn't know we were dating....

12/28/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 28
Dear Annie: I used to work at the World Trade Center. My favorite times were during the Christmas season. The entire plaza would come alive with festivities and goodwill. The year before 9/11, my office was loaded with gifts being hidden until Christmas ...

12/27/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 27
Dear Annie: During the past year, the mother and stepfather of some friends moved into a home that is just a couple of houses away from us. My husband and I have known these two for some years. In the past, we've chosen to avoid our friends' parents ...

12/26/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 26
Dear Annie: I reside in a small, semi-rural town, and most everyone knows their neighbors. Recently, our quiet neighborhood had a very disturbing incident. One of our neighbors, "Louise," hired a cleaning company, and after they left, Louise ...

12/25/2006 Annie's Mailbox, December 25
Dear Annie: Thank you for suggesting that duri