Jane Likes Him Jealous Dear Annie: I am 74, and "Jane" is 56. We met online, where I said early on that I was not interested in dating because of the age disparity. I simply told her that I liked the expression on her face in the posted photos. She is beautiful. But …Read more. "Men Are Not Designed for Monogamy"? Dear Annie: I have been married for 40 years to a man who had a few affairs in the past that I recently found out about. We are both seeing counselors, privately and together. At this point in time, I am tired of dealing with this, and our marriage …Read more. Failing Kidneys, Failing Passion Dear Annie: I've been with my boyfriend for five years. We have a handsome 6-year-old boy. A year after I had my son, my boyfriend was diagnosed with kidney failure. At first, he was doing well, but then he had a rough patch and lost hope. During …Read more. Protecting Mom Is Top Priority Dear Annie: I am one of four adult children. Our father died a couple of years ago. Three of us have our own homes. One sister, "Diane," has been married twice and has lived with numerous men and was kicked out when each relationship ended. She has …Read more.more articles
Dear Annie: I know that anorexia is not uncommon in teenage girls, but I never thought I would see the signs in my best friend. "Emmy" always complains about the way she looks and is constantly focused on her weight. She makes sure everyone else eats, but I rarely see her put a bite in her mouth. She denies that she has a problem, but all her clothes are baggy, and you can see her bones sticking out.
Everyone, even people who just met her, ask me if she is anorexic. Emmy is six inches taller than I am and weighs less — and my doctor says I am underweight. Last month alone, she dropped 20 pounds.
How can I help her? I want to talk to her mom, but I don't know how to bring it up. — Not that Skinny
Dear Not: Emmy is lucky to have you as a friend. Too many teenagers with eating disorders are left alone until the problem becomes life threatening. It's also possible that something else is going on with Emmy, but the sooner this is addressed, the sooner she can be helped.
First talk to Emmy and urge her to discuss this with her parents. If nothing changes, you can speak to her mom, saying, "I'm worried about Emmy. She doesn't seem to be eating normally, and she's lost a lot of weight." You also can alert your own parents, and when school resumes, talk to the school nurse or counselor and urge Emmy to do so, as well. And please contact the National Association of Anorexia and Associated Disorders (anad.org) for more information.
Dear Annie: My boyfriend of five years recently had a heart attack and died immediately. I am so distraught. He was my life and my best friend. He lived in a different town, and I didn't want to uproot my children, so we never moved in together. This was a source of a great many arguments.
The problem is, I cheated on him with a friend of ours.
I know I messed up. I never wanted to hurt him. I keep thinking that he now knows everything, and I can't take it. Do you think that in the afterlife you find out things like this? — Lost My Love
Dear Lost: If you believe in an afterlife where loved ones watch over us, then you surely believe it is a place of forgiveness. Please consider grief counseling. It will help you come to terms with your loss and get past your guilt so you can move forward. Your doctor or local hospice organization can refer you.
Dear Annie: This is for "Illinois Neighbor," who complained that a nosy neighbor keeps reporting her husband to the police because he parks his trailer so that one tire often rests on the dirt. This violates a city ordinance. She said they can't afford to enlarge the driveway.
I'm not sure how much a truckload of gravel costs in Illinois, but in my area, I bought a small load (half a yard) for $15. They should put a two-foot-wide strip of gravel beside the driveway, so the vehicle wheels rest on it. That gravel would then be considered part of the driveway. It's not a job that requires an impossibly strong man, either. I'm a female in my 70s, and I did it. — Old NW Rocker
Dear Rocker: Our thanks to all the readers who recommended adding gravel or rocks to the area adjacent to the driveway so that the wheel doesn't rest on the dirt. If this solves the legal problem, it should also solve the neighbor problem.
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