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Annie's Mailbox, November 7
Dear Annie: My parents divorced 18 years ago, and Dad has had numerous partners and wives since. Three months ago, Dad found out he had stage-four colon cancer. Two weeks after his diagnosis, he married "Sue."
Here's the problem: Before he …Read more.
Annie's Mailbox, November 6
Dear Annie: Last weekend, my daughter, my grandchildren and I attended an exhibition at a well-known museum in Chicago. While waiting to enter, I saw a boy around 8 years old trying to comfort his toddler sister, who was crying. The mother was not …Read more.
Annie's Mailbox, November 5
Dear Annie: My husband is an amazing man. He is selfless and has uncompromising integrity. He is well-known and well-respected in our small community. I am proud to be his wife.
I am 19 years my husband's junior, and this, along with his well-…Read more.
Annie's Mailbox, November 4
Dear Annie: I'm 13 years old and have a younger brother. My dad is addicted to gambling. To make matters worse, he doesn't work much, either. Not that it matters. Even when he worked hard, he lost all of the money gambling.
My parents recently got a …Read more.
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Annie's Mailbox®, June 10Dear Annie: A few months ago, my daughter got into an argument with her brother. During the course of this very heated disagreement, my daughter said she never liked his stepson because of something that happened 10 years ago. My son's wife overheard the remark and was very hurt. When she came into the family, her son was very young and we all accepted him. I asked my daughter to apologize for making such a damaging comment. She replied that she didn't understand what the big deal was and they should get over it. I cannot get through to her what an awful thing she said and how much it hurt them. Because of this, none of them are speaking to each other. This means we can't get the family together. It is literally making me sick. When I ask her to apologize, my daughter accuses me of taking sides. I told both of them they need to resolve this before it begins to fester. Is the situation hopeless? — Crying Mom Dear Mom: Not hopeless, but it will take some effort from both of your kids to fix it. Your daughter must apologize, and your son must forgive. And you are right — the longer they wait, the harder it will be. Talk to your daughter first. She may be reluctant to admit fault, so explain that whether right or wrong, it is important to say you are sorry when you hurt someone, especially a person you care about. She doesn't have to apologize for her opinion of his stepson (and she should keep future opinions to herself), but she absolutely needs to tell her brother that she didn't mean to cause pain to him or his wife and she is sorry. Period. If she agrees, speak to your son and urge him to accept his sister's apology so they can rebuild their relationship. It will not be easy and it may take some time, but this is a good start. Dear Annie: My husband is 64 and I'm 59. We are independent and active and only have a few minor health issues. The problem is our daughter feels it is wrong for us to move away because it will be too hard for her to care for us when we get too old to care for ourselves. We think that time is fairly far in the future, and even so, our new community includes a hospital and there are two other medical facilities nearby. I think our daughter feels guilty because someone told her they couldn't believe she would let us move so far away. What can we say to help her deal with this better? — Confused Dear Confused: Your daughter isn't thinking about hospital care. She's worried about the day you can no longer drive to the grocery store or clean your house, and she has a point. However, you are still young enough to enjoy many more years of independence, and there's no reason you can't do it where you prefer. Assure her that if it becomes too difficult to remain self-sufficient, you will consider moving closer to her. In the meantime, please visit as often as you can. Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Still Single in California," the 35-year-old woman who wants to pre-arrange her burial and memorial plans. Please tell your readers about the Funeral Consumers Alliance, a nonprofit organization dedicated to protecting a consumer's right to choose a meaningful, dignified, affordable funeral. Readers can gain a wealth of advice, find a friendly ear and save a ton of money by joining one of the affiliates in their state. We are in 43 states and Canada. The website is www.funerals.org. — Bayside, Calif. Dear Bayside: Thanks for the information. Readers should know that there is a fee to join, although donations are tax deductible. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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