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Equal Parts Heart Over Equal Parts Money
Dear Annie: My husband and I work comparable hours, but I earn less than half of what he does and have little discretionary income. I come home to my "second shift," which includes cooking, cleaning and picking up after this man, who …Read more.
Valentine's Day Sex Therapy
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Too Much Power in an Ex
Dear Annie: "Ron" and I have been living together for more than a year. I love him and believe he loves me. We are both in our 60s and retired.
Ron is good to me in all but one way: He can't seem to cut off contact with his old girlfriend. …Read more.
Wannabe Doc Has No Time for Mom and Dad
Dear Annie: Our 22-year-old son is in college. He lives at home, and we pay all his expenses, which is fine with us. He was never particularly interested in school until his last year of high school. Now he's doing really well.
The problem is, he …Read more.
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Annie's Mailbox®, May 21Dear Annie: My husband is on all of these websites — Classmates, Facebook and Reunion — trying to reconnect with old friends. But it seems he's only connecting with women from his old high school. This strikes me as a form of cheating. He has a cell phone, and I am sure he gives the girls that number. He pays the bill so I never see it. He insists he's doing nothing wrong, but why is he only contacting women? He also lies about where he goes, so I suspect he's meeting up with someone or, at the very least, having cybersex. He is in his late 40s and we have four kids. It breaks my heart that I don't turn him on anymore. He has no interest in being intimate with me. Every time I try to get close to him, he says he's too tired. I lost 40 pounds, and he never once told me how good I look — and I look very good. I'd be willing to wait for the midlife crisis to be over if I knew he'd come around. He says he loves me, but I think he's pacifying me until he can find someone better. My trust in him is gone, and it is breaking my heart. Should I put on my walking shoes or hang around hoping he will grow up? — Brokenhearted Dear Broken: Some men grow up, some don't, and there's no way to tell in advance. If your husband has stopped being intimate with you and is constantly chatting online with female friends, he is undermining the marriage whether he is cheating or not. Tell him your relationship is at risk and you want him to come with you for counseling. As always, if he won't go, go without him and get a handle on this. Dear Annie: A few years ago, I lent money to a friend who had fallen on hard times. He moved out of state to find work, but called to say he had not forgotten his debt and would pay me as soon as he got back on his feet. A lot of time has passed and he has not sent any money.
Dear Poorer: It takes time to re-establish oneself, and the reports you are hearing may represent your friend's success in pulling himself out of the muck, but not enough to spare the money to repay you. However, he should certainly be making some effort in that direction. If someone asks you point-blank about loaning him money, you can say he is a poor risk. But instead of besmirching his reputation, contact him. Say your mutual friends have reported that he is doing well and you think that's wonderful. Then remind him of the loan and ask what kind of repayment schedule would work for him. Dear Annie: I work in a dental office, and my co-workers and I have a better solution for "Gagging Patient," whose orthodontist has bad breath. Instead of talking to the dentist directly, the parents should speak to a discreet staff member who can let the orthodontist know of his offensive breath without divulging the names of those originating the complaint. This way, they don't have to deal with the awkwardness that might arise on every subsequent visit the girl has. — S.B. Dear S.B.: Your solution is better than ours. Many thanks. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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