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Dear Annie: My husband's sister refuses to cancel her plans even if her children are sick — which happens all the time. She will drop the kids off at my mother-in-law's and, as she's leaving, say, "Oh, by the way, 'Suzy' has a cold.…
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Dear Annie: I was close to "Bob" in college. Four years ago, when he married "Sue," whom I vaguely knew, I was the only one of his friends to attend her bachelorette party. A few years after their wedding, I flew across the …Read more.
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Dear Annie: I am an addict in recovery. I moved out of state three years ago when I was seeking treatment and completed my program 15 months ago. I have successfully maintained employment for more than a year now.
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Annie's Mailbox®, May 7Dear Annie: My mother has always been a strong presence in my life. Growing up, I couldn't do anything right. She took things away from me and redid them, or stood over me and directed. Three years ago, my husband suggested we move my parents in with us because their neighborhood had become drug and gang infested and we feared for their safety. Dad has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's, which have greatly slowed his movements, but he is still able to feed, bathe and dress himself. However, living with my mom is a nightmare. She pokes her head into our bedroom many times a day and stands over me in the kitchen, often getting between me and whatever I'm doing. I have tried talking to her about it, but it doesn't help. We recently bought a house in another city. I would love to get my parents set up in their own place now, but Mom has repeatedly said she can't take care of my father by herself. I feel so trapped and guilty. What do I do? — Wilting in the South Dear Wilting: There are ways to help your mother care for Dad without sacrificing your happiness and independence. Look into assisted-living facilities close enough for you to visit often. Check out home health care options, including the Visiting Nurse Association (vnaa.org) at 900 19th St., NW, Suite 200, Washington, D.C. 20006. Call the Eldercare Locator (eldercare.gov) at 1-800-677-1116 and ask for help. Mom may not like it, but you have to take care of your mental health. Dear Annie: I would be grateful if you pass along to your readers some helpful hints when leaving a voice mail message, especially on a cell phone. I'm a Realtor and receive several such messages every day. Many people leave long, rambling messages and then say their phone number so quickly I can't get it the first time. I then have to go back and listen to the whole message again. Because a lot of the cell phone calls are transferred through my office, there is no original call log number to check and make this easier. Please tell your readers when leaving a voice mail message to keep it short, say your phone number slowly and then repeat the number. Dear Realtor: This goes for any voice mail, whether cell phone or landline answering machine. Sometimes the connection is scratchy, and no matter how many times you play back the message, the number is barely audible. Repeating it slowly would help. Please, readers, keep this in mind. It could explain why some of your phone messages haven't been returned. Dear Annie: Thank you for the support you've shown in regard to organ, tissue and eye donation. I would like to correct some outdated information in the message from "Dr. Lori in Michigan," who said the donor's wishes may be overridden by the family. The laws on organ donor cards and donor registries vary from state to state, but in many states, a person's documented donation wish now takes priority over the family's preference. It works similarly to a legal will — if your wish to become an organ and tissue donor is legally documented, your family cannot change it. However, it is still important to share your wishes with your family so they are not surprised. Their cooperation and support make the process go much more smoothly. To find out how to sign up as an organ and tissue donor in your state, please visit Donate Life America (www.donatelife.net) and click on "Commit to Donation." Readers in Canada should contact their local organ recovery organization to learn how to sign up in their province. On behalf of the more than 100,000 Americans awaiting a lifesaving organ transplant, thank you. — Jennifer Tislerics, Gift of Life Michigan Dear Jennifer Tislerics: We appreciate the clarification. Any readers interested in making a lifesaving donation should check your website. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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