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Annie's Mailbox®, May 3Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is make-up sex? My husband says he loves me and I believe he is faithful, but he never initiates anything in the bedroom, and we have sex only if I pitch a fit because I feel neglected. I don't do this often, so we've had sex only twice in the past 15 months. We are both healthy 42-year-olds. We have a 3-year-old child who requires a lot of attention, but even so, I can't understand how he doesn't desire intimacy. He is an awesome husband, who cooks, cleans, bathes our child, and doesn't go out with the guys or do things I disapprove of. He just doesn't seem to want me. I am attractive and still get looks from other men. A month ago, I came very close to an affair. I was not in love with the guy, but it sure was nice for a man to let me know he thinks I'm pretty. I told my husband about the encounter and guess what? We had sex. See what I mean? My husband is a good guy and I love him, so should I just get someone on the side to satisfy me physically? — Sex-less Lady Dear Sex-less: We'll be frank with you. Here are the likeliest possibilities: Your husband's testosterone levels are very low, he is having an affair, he is asexual or he is gay. Please ask him to see his doctor for a complete checkup and specifically ask for his testosterone to be checked. We hope that's all there is to it. Dear Annie: My unmarried 30-year-old daughter has a drinking and behavioral problem that has escalated over the past year. "Terrie" gets drunk at family gatherings, insults people and starts arguments that often end with her throwing things and shoving people. A lot of her anger seems to be directed at me. We have encouraged Terrie to get alcohol counseling or attend A.A. She tried it once and quit. I believe she is bipolar, but mental health counselors will not treat her until she quits drinking. After her last outburst, I sent her a text message and said we could no longer have a relationship unless she gets help. Should I keep the lines of communication open, or will my ultimatum help her reach bottom so she can start climbing back up? I tried Al-Anon, but the members only offer support and friendship to each other, which is nice, but it doesn't change my daughter. She is an intelligent, beautiful woman who has thrown her life away and it breaks my heart. — Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: Al-Anon is not intended to change the alcoholic's behavior, only your response to it. Choosing not to stay in touch would be for your mental health, not hers. No one can "fix" Terrie until she admits she has a problem, and she doesn't seem ready. Many who are bipolar self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and there are treatment programs that address both disorders. If Terrie wants help, she should contact a university medical center department of psychiatry for a referral. And you should contact NAMI (nami.org) about their Family to Family program. Dear Annie: This is for "Frustrated in Elgin, Ore.," whose husband has rheumatoid arthritis. My husband has severe onset rheumatoid arthritis. The first thing you have to do is get a thicker skin. Who cares what others think? Next, see a specialist — a rheumatologist. There also are new medications that can work wonders. Ask the rheumatologist about them. We've gone from my husband being in a wheelchair, barely able to lift a coffee cup, to having a decent quality of life. We still have bad days, but nothing compared to what we were living with before. Good luck and best wishes. — Been There in Florida Dear Florida: We appreciate all the suggestions that have come in from our readers. Bless you all for caring. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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